on a post in AdviceAnimals:
I work with a divorce lawyer who also handles real estate transactions. I'm selling a house for a couple getting a divorce and the lawyer laid a few stories on me. This one seems to fit here nicely...
Guy gets married. Rough times since she's in college and he can't find decent work without ever having graduated high school. He joins the army just to have steady income and pay for her schooling. He gets out a couple years later and becomes a fireman. Then becomes a building and fire inspector for the city. Makes good money. Pays off all their debt over the next several years. Wife tries to start a few businesses (none of which relate to her degree) and fails. Hubby supports her and pays for all her screw ups. He gets cancer but still goes to work. He ends up having an accident and he's bedridden. Wife moves out after a couple months saying she can't care for him and contacts this lawyer. She doesn't call the lawyer to get a divorce, she calls the lawyer to find out what to do in order to keep his benefits when he dies.
Doctors are saying he's got less than a few months. Lawyer thinks she's a scumbag but advises her. A few months later, she claims she moved back into the house. It's a mess, the husband has gotten all gross from guild buildup from medications and he stinks. Doctors say he's still in bad shape, but give him maybe a year. She wants someone to support her. Calls the lawyer and asks if she can take all his benefits if she divorced him. Lawyer says she'll get a portion. She moves out. She gets a boyfriend to support her and decides to wait till hubby does off. Totally ignores him. A year later, she calls the lawyer saying the cancer is gone and the husband is back to work, but now she wants a divorce because he's fat and lost his hair and he's just a disgusting slob. Lawyer says they can move forward, but she's not going to be able to just have his paycheck deposited in her account.
She seems to think she can take everything from him because he got sick and couldn't support her for a few years. The guy has another accident at work (fell off a roof on a 3 story building) and he may not survive. The same day of the accident, she calls the lawyer to excitedly request a hold on the divorce because "he might just die and save us all the trouble." That's the last call the lawyer gets, sends a bill, gets paid, she figures the husband died.
Fast forward SEVEN YEARS. Lawyer gets a call from the wife wanting a divorce. The fireman lived!! Not only did he live, he got back into shape, became the county inspector, wrote a book about surviving his fall (and many other stories about the bravery and risks firemen take), went in some talk shows to promote the book, and he's basically looking like a stud and making tons and tons of money.
She's freaking out saying she's going to take him for everything he's worth because he's got a woman living in their marital home and he's a cheating bastard. (Remember, she's had a boyfriend since his accident.) Lawyer starts working on it and the wife is excited to finally get paid and "move on with her life."
They try mediation and she's pushing for EVERYTHING. So, they try some kind of arbitration with only the husband, wife, attorneys, and a judge. Wife refuses to accept anything the judge suggests. Later tells the lawyer she declined even the most reasonable requests because the judge was a male and she was convinced he was siding with the husband because "good old boys club." (WTF?). Apparently, the husband wants to get married again and was being extremely generous just to make it all come to an end so he could get married and get on with his new life. They schedule to go to court. She's excited because there's a female judge. Husband's lawyer pulls out documents from 7-8-9 years ago. In addition to her own attorney, she was talking to the husband's attorney about getting his benefits and "waiting for him to die" and having this boyfriend.
Judge just rips this woman a new one. Wife was asking for maintenance/alimony. Wife was asking for profits from the book and benefits from his job. Judge looked over how much she'd sucked from him in college costs, failed business ventures, and other things he'd paid for while she ignored him for seven years.
Judge grants her $30,000 per year in maintenance for ten years! Judge then grants him $36,000 per year for ten years to help him recuperate his expenses since she was OBVIOUSLY only with him for money and support. Judge WISELY whittles it down so that he never has to pay her anything but she has to pay him $500 per month for the next ten years which I guess negated his obligation in case he paid and she didn't.
In the end, she wound up paying him and from what the lawyer said, the judge verbally destroyed her in court for being a complete piece of garbage. She said the judge told her that she'd be spending time in jail if she missed payments or did anything to hurt his standing in the community. Lawyer said she is currently suing the wife because she never paid the $12,000 legal bill either. HOWEVER, she routinely sees the husbands lawyer and apparently the wife is paying the ex husband every month; however she's filed multiple suits to get the payments reduced and lost every time.
TL;DR After husband has cancer and a life threatening accident, gold digging wife moves out and then tells husband's attorney she's "waiting for him to die" so she can collect his benefits. She's destroyed in court.
Edit: added paragraph breaks, apologies in advance for wall of text, posting from mobile