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Building PowerHow to become the best at what you do (self.TheRedPill)

submitted by SergiuIlescu

Want to Become the Best at What You Do? Read this.

  • This is an article that I took from Medium, but I feel it adheres a lot to the TRP concepts and overall to the younger and more driven readers. I hope you enjoy and learn from it
 
It doesn’t matter how good your strategy is, if you’re not skilled at what you do, that strategy won’t take you very far.
 
As Jason Fried and DHH have said:
 
“Many amateur golfers think they need expensive clubs. But it’s the swing that matters, not the club. Give Tiger Woods a set of cheap clubs and he’ll still destroy you.”  
When you’re confident about what you do and clear about where you’re going, the right strategy will make itself known. Hence, when your “why” is strong, you’ll figure out “how.”
 
The how comes from the why. Not the other way around.
 
If you’re looking for how to be successful, you’re going about it all wrong. You’re doing it for the wrong reasons. And you’ll continuously be left searching for the next patch of land to find gold.
 
What will be left?
 
An open field of half-dug holes, three feet from gold.
 
If you know what you want and why you’re doing it, you’re not worried about the “gold.” Your security is internal. You aren’t worried about the outcomes because you already know they are coming.
 
For you it’s never actually been about the rewards. It’s only and always been about seeing how far you can go. About achieving the impossible. About never stopping.
 
Take everything external away and you’re still going to continue with the same intensity you always have. Give you everything — fame, money, whatever else — and it wont derail you.
 

Here’s how to become the best at what you do:

 

1. Work On Yourself, Not On Your Job

“Work hard at your job and you can make a living. Work hard on yourself and you can make a fortune.” — Jim Rohn
 
Your work is a reflection of you. If you’re not getting the results you’re looking for, stop looking for better strategies. Instead, look inside.
 
Are you currently the person who would attract the level of success you seek? Your outer conditions are a reflection of your inner reality. As James Allen has said, Your circumstances reveal you to yourself. Where you are right now: that’s you.
 
If you want something different: improve you.
 
Most people focus on their craft or their “job.” That’s all well and good. However, you’ll get far more bang-for-your-buck by focusing on yourself. 20% of your energy should be devoted to your work. 80% of your energy should be devoted to rest and self-improvement. This is what fuels your work and makes it better than anyone else’s. Self-improvement is more than books and true rest is renewal. While others are trying to improve their job, you’re continuously improving yourself, expanding your vision, skills, and abilities. This is akin to Stephen R. Covey’s 7th principle: Sharpen your saw. Most people are trying to chop down their tree — their “job” — with a dull saw.  
“Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.” — Abraham Lincoln
 
Within a short period of time, you’ll have developed true mastery. Everyone else is trying to hone their “craft.” Don’t work on your job. Work on yourself.
 
When you do, your work will far exceed what other people are painstakingly producing. Your work will be cleaner, clearer, and more powerful because you’ll be more evolved as a person. Most people you’re “competing” against are an inner mess.
 

2. Consistently Put Yourself Into Situations Others Can Only Dream Of

“Necessity is the mother of invention.” — English Proverb
 
Your results aren’t a reflection of your talent. Lots of people have talent. Few people, however, are required to rise to a difficult challenge.
 
Most people never put themselves in demanding situations — situations that humble and scare you. You need to put yourself into positions that create immense pressure. The kind of pressure that will either make or break you. This is how you purge out your weakness and small-mindedness. It won’t be pretty. But it will change you. And eventually, you’ll rise up. New. Changed. Better.
 
You need to be taking on challenges that require you to become so much more than you currently are. You need to put your back against the wall so you have no other choice but to produce. This is how you evolve.
 
How do you put yourself into these situations? You initiate. You don’t wait for life to come to you. You don’t wait for the “next” opportunity.
 
You improve your current situation or “job” by providing actual value. You pitch ideas. You ask questions. You try and fail. You take on roles that require greater responsibility.
 
“Leadership” is available to everyone. You just need to assume a leadership role. You can do that right now, in whatever situation you’re in. You do this enough, and continuously pitch yourself and your ideas, you’ll create opportunities. You then maximize those opportunities and more will come.
 
Opportunities are like ideas. The more you use them, rather than let them simmer, the more will come. Most people sit on their ideas far too long and they become stale. Similarly, most people sit on their opportunities too long and they stop coming.
 

3. Don’t Copy Other People. Make Them Copy You.

“From this point, your strategy is to make everyone else get on your level, you’re not going down to theirs. You’re not competing with anyone else, ever again. They’re going to have to compete with you.” — Tim Grover
 
If you’re still mimicking the work of other people, good luck. If you’re trying to replicate the work and results of other people, what does that say about your own inner compass? What does that say about your motivations? Are you just trying to find what’s working? Are you looking for the “how”? Do you actually know where you’re going? If you’re following someone else’s tracks, where do you think those tracks will lead you? To your own destination or to theirs? And even if you’d be happy with their destination, do you really think you could do it better than them? It’s their path. They’re driven by something deep and internal. You can’t get ahead if you’re always a few steps behind. If you’re always reacting rather than creating.
 
If you don’t know who you are, you’ll always try to be someone else. And thus, you’ll never be the best. Your work will always be a cheap imitation. It will lack the feeling that produced the work or the idea.
 

4. Stay In Love With The Process

“The more you sweat in peace, the less you bleed in war.” — Norman Schwarzkopf
 
The process — or the work itself — is all there is. Results come and go. And it’s never been about the results. Success is inevitable. Success comes easy because it’s the last thing on your mind. You already know it’s going to happen.
 
The work itself — and becoming better and better at it — is what drives you. It almost doesn’t matter what you’re doing. It’s why you’re doing it that matters.
 
The “what” can and does take many forms. Don’t over-attach to one role. Whether you’re a leader, writer, athlete, parent, “employee” — the what doesn’t matter. Why you do it and subsequently how you do it is what matters. Hence, how you do anything is how you do everything.
 
When you are in love with the process, you seek feedback, mentoring, and coaching — even when you’re at the top of your game.
 
You surround yourself with people who aren’t afraid to tell you the truth. You avoid people who suck-up and only tell you what they think you want to hear. Those aren’t friends. They have an agenda.
 
Self-transcendence comes from collaborating with others who are driven by a greater and grander vision. When the whole becomes fundamentally different than the sum of its parts. When the work is the reward.
 
Going beyond anything you’ve ever imagined. Complete openness to the possibilities. Unless you’re continuously improving and working with better people, you’ll never realize this. When you hone yourself, your work, and you produce — opportunities will come. They won’t help but come. Because you’re a magnet, pulling them in.
 

5. Never Forget Why You’re Doing This

“So many times it happens too fast You trade your passion for glory Don’t lose your grip on the dreams of the past You must fight just to keep them alive” — Survivor, Eye of the Tiger
 
It blows me away how often I see people throw their value-systems out the door in hopes for quick success. When I see this happen, I already know these people won’t succeed long-term.   They clearly don’t have a “why” — or they forgot it. They don’t have an inner compass. Consequently, they don’t really know where they’re headed. It’s a destructive path.
 
The moment you start compromising, you won’t stop compromising. As innovation expert, Clayton Christensen, has said:
 
Many of us have convinced ourselves that we are able to break our own personal rules “just this once.” In our minds, we can justify these small choices. None of those things, when they first happen, feels like a life-changing decision. The marginal costs are almost always low. But each of those decisions can roll up into a much bigger picture, turning you into the kind of person you never wanted to be.  
This, unfortunately, is more common than not. It’s so common, in fact, that it’s almost expected. Hence, few people become the best at what they do. They end up becoming something far less.
 

Conclusion

Becoming the best is about never being satisfied with what you’ve done. It’s about continually improving who you are. It’s knowing success will come because you know who you are and what you stand for.
 
It’s about initiating — continually creating situations that force you to become more than you currently are. Purging yourself of all your imperfections. Evolving.
This is your journey. Take it.
 
You can find the article here.

[–]PlayerXz 48 points49 points  (5 children)

Good article. I particularly resonate with point 4, you should be in love with the process. The people that just want the success won't get there. I once somewhere read "Once you let go of what you want most it will be yours." and that is exactly how it is. If you find yourself in a discipline where you realize you just want the rewards and do not enjoy the process, switch it up.

[–]1CoupDeGrace22 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Man oh man, number 4 is the alpha and omega of lifting and fitness altogether. Gotta love & live for the grind, not the abs it gives you.

I've been fucking around with fitness from 15 and only started getting serious at 19 but even then never had a REALLY noteworthy physique.

Couple more years of drifting with my approach here and there and lots of RP material ingested, I just went at it like a psycho on a mission and never missed my macros or my workouts even on the days I was working overtime lumping boxes. From april to mid summer I was finally ripped, not too much muscle retained from reckless dieting but enough to look good shirtless.

Many months of a complacent relationship after and I let myself go and I'm back at square one, I'd forgotten that what kept me going was that "High" I got after every heavy session and the accomplishment of pumping out more sets and more reps after every week growing stronger, the challenge, not really the results, thanks OP, back to the grind.

[–]Endorsed ContributorMetalgear222 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reminds of the movie Peaceful Warrior where a college gymnast learns this lesson the hard way; That the journey is where it's at, not the destination. As human's we are not satisfied once we reach the destination anyway. We are inspired/meant to push our boundaries.

[–]AlexanderTheModerate 1 points1 points [recovered]

"Once you let go of what you want most it will be yours."

Can you think of any hints as to where I may find that quote and who it was by? I like having a couple relevant salient stoicism quotes on my phone's lock screen, and that quote is new to me and relevant to where I am in life.

[–]badaod 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just write “...” playerXz on your phone screen.

that’ll do

[–][deleted] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Just make sure whatever you're getting good at has some kind of market value. Supply & Demand.

[–]0signal0 23 points24 points  (2 children)

This is a good article. My two cents:
-There is no such thing as "the best man who can do X activity". In every discipline there are a few men who're at a very high level in what they do. How do you define who's the best from that group? It can become subjective. At least that's how it is amongst us musicians.
-This article will resonate with only a very few men out there. A lot of men aren't interested in becoming very good at what they do. And this is fine, not (only) because it decreases the amount of competition, but because you can't force people to challenge themselves and develop.

[–]SergiuIlescu[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Sound points, but it can motivate you to be better, and work smarter

[–]2 Senior Endorsed Contributorvengefully_yours 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same in the automotive world. Some stand out, some follow along, most never get in.

Who is the best? That varies and changes all the time. In my world it's what you know and can do, very technical, far more involved than slap parts together and throw parts and money at it. Attention to the smallest detail so the details blend together coherently into a work of art. Experience is highly valued and takes decades to master. It's an obvious parallel to music and other art forms.

You have the drones who replace parts and change oil, then you have the techs who understand how it works and why, then the builders who not only know how and why, but can improve on the systems, adjust the knobs on the compromise inherent in every machine to suit it's purpose effectively and efficiently. Then you have those with a mind numbing grasp of the entire process who can blend it together from seemingly incongruous parts and create the sublime.

Most hang the poster on the wall or have their background of a car they'd never image they could buy, and never consider building it instead. They don't dive in, get dirty, take a risk and create. I see them all the time, looking atmy car from their minivan or crapbox their wife made them buy, wishing they could have my car. Instead of wishing and letting others tell me no, I got dirty and built it.

[–]TheRedSwordsman 7 points8 points  (0 children)

When you do, your work will far exceed what other people are painstakingly producing. Your work will be cleaner, clearer, and more powerful because you’ll be more evolved as a person. Most people you’re “competing” against are an inner mess.

A-fucking-men.

I used to think that "my life will start getting better as soon as the salaries start rolling in" in the same manner I used to think that "my life will start getting better as soon as I find a sexual partner".

Nothing external will fix your shit but you. Nothing. Getting money in your hands while you have a messy mindset will have you blow them up to literal trash - no feelings about calculating your savings or long-term goals. My first few salaries where blown to... PC upgrades so I can milk more framerates from my rig as I'm watching anime tits and butts bouncing around, and some trash level merchandise from a youtuber.

That's how being an inner mess feels like and that's how much "more money" and "a hot girl" can fix your shit. They can't.

“Necessity is the mother of growth.”

Fixed. Anyone who disagrees with it, try remembering what made you get into red pill. That's right, without a feeling of necessity to fix your old ways of handling things with women, career etc. you wouldn't be there reading posts, including this comment. This is why it's imperative to throw yourself in situations where it's necessary to grow or lose, to reproduce the feeling of urgency.

From this point, your strategy is to make everyone else get on your level, you’re not going down to theirs. You’re not competing with anyone else, ever again. They’re going to have to compete with you.

Sounds like an extension of "show, don't tell".

[–]westsan 6 points7 points  (2 children)

In Japan, doing all of that makes you the antichrist.

One caution, is by putting yourself in these fantastic situations and pushing the high road, you tend to stand out and there are many that will seek to crush you. You have to earn some respect with power and authority I guess. I probably need help in that delivery. But when that falls apart it can be quite depressing.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In Japan, doing all of that makes you the antichrist

Can you elaborate on that? Why?

[–]Trumper926 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This sub is just fucking gold. God, I needed this 20 years ago.

Any teenagers here; you're being given the keys to the kingdom.

[–]ThrowFader 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great article. In my latest post I stressed having a strong conviction about what you do. You're absolutely right. If the "why" is there, you will figure out how.

Guys have a strong goal, and stick to it

[–]sh0ckley 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So brilliant.

As a dude over 40 who has made a ton of mistakes, I can look back and see those holes in the ground 3 feet from gold.

After finding RP thought, it is so clear to me why I failed thus far: it wasn't because I didn't have talent -it was because I was weak and shitty person.

I've used a lot of time to improve my self over the last year and a half and I'm still pursuing the same goals because I never lost the why but my attitude now has changed. Internally.

Have I received all that external validation now? No. I don't give a fuck. That's no longer how I define success.

My focus is on Process, not Results; Mission not only Goals. Yes results and goals matter but they're not my focus, otherwise I would lose the hope to keep going.

My new attitude gives me the strength and courage to never stop and keep going, even when I feel as though I am going through hell, because I've already been to hell: my former hopelessness without a reason why to drive me forward, which happened by focusing only on the results and goals of others and failing to improve myself regardless of my talent level.

Onward and upward gents.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great post. Self development posts are always motivating.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great post and article. It reminds me that if you don't improve yourself then you might very well find yourself in a place where your skill has brought you but your character can't keep you.

Nosce te ipsum.

[–]party_dragon 1 point2 points  (2 children)

If you’re looking for how to be successful, you’re going about it all wrong. You’re doing it for the wrong reasons.

I wonder if this is true, or just some feel-good bullshit.

Is there anyone here who's made it mainly by "chasing success" (i.e. doing what's profitable and scalable, not necessarily what they believed in or were internally motivated to do)? I'd love to hear your comments.

[–]TheRedSwordsman 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The way I interpreted the quote made me think that he's talking about something similar with comparing an internal motivation to get good at something versus doing it just because you like money.

Take programming for example. Without a strong internal motivation that pushes you to grow your skills you'll just end up doing point number 2 and do just enough for the money before calling it a day. The guy with love for programming out of pure enjoyment will drive himself to learn new technologies more than the "9 to 5" salary guy.

At least that's how I interpreted it.

As for whether you can just chase success: Entrepreneurs do that, they invest in many things and only nurture the ones that bear fruit. Don't confuse the strategic approach of one of the stages of entrepreneurship with the motivations that makes them tick.

[–]1dongpal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i know some multimillionnare who said that when he went for success, it was slow, mundane and didnt reach the goal he wanted. after changing the reason into "i want to help people" sort of goal, it increased greatly.

[–]Krebota 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Well, the road to my success is education, which doesn't go faster than the preset speed. I'm learning everything others have done, but at a raising level, and next year I can go to university. Am I now taking a wrong approach according to the article?

[–]alexclarkbarry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Education can always go faster than the pace of school! Schooling is the minimum, read books by great rich people. Art of the Deal, Think and Grow Rich, and anything written by Warren Buffet are great places to enrich your knowledge beyond what is taught in school!

[–]trpthrowaway2003 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, the road to my success is education, which doesn't go faster than the preset speed.

What are you going to school for?

I'm learning everything others have done, but at a raising level, and next year I can go to university.

Sounds like you are in High School

Am I now taking a wrong approach according to the article?

No, but you should develop and utilize some critical thinking, and find a way to apply the advice.

In High School? Then knock out some college credits to put yourself ahead.

In College? Be focused and driven, pass every test because you know the shit, not because you crammed it.

[–]bossplayaintraining 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How can you use only 20% of your mental energy on a job and the other 80% on self-improvement? Seems impossible to me b/c everyone I’ve ever seen uses all their mental energy on a job, with none left over for self-improvement. I fall into this pattern too as a student, using 95% of my mental energy just to get through my coursework every week & manage my time without too much procrastination (I’m majoring in finance btw)

[–]throwawaypuatrp 0 points1 point  (1 child)

What happens if your "why" is to get girls? Being completely honest with myself I workout to look good to attract girls, I run my own business cause I like nice shit (which im sure has deeper roots of impressing others). Everything I do can all be somehow related to improve and raise my SMV... to get girls. Anyone else feel this way?

[–]SergiuIlescu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on the perspective, you could also think that someone who studies really hard is working on impressing others with his hard-work, or in reality he just loves what he does and is really driven, thus hard-working. Or even, he wants to give him and his own a better type of life, thats why he works hard, in order of securing something better in the future.

Your why depends vastly on you and your perspective, and almost no one is going to have the same why.

[–]Shakydrummer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Solid article. No day wasted!

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Growth mindset. Who I am today is someone I dreamed of being 10 years ago, but it's not someone I am content ending up being.

[–]kimohno 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sorry but this is a very weird collection of random quotes. Here is what I got from it: "Improve yourself". Groundbreaking

[–]senordustball 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only have an issue with number 3: 3. Don’t Copy Other People. Make Them Copy You.

This view can make you fall into a pit of stubbornness and arrogance. Many people who consider themselves "Smart" will fall in it, to their detriment.

As an alternative to this point I offer this quote from Thomas Carlyle: “Every man is my superior in that I may learn from him.”

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just stupid advices that we hear everyday

[–]Franout -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Amazing article, thanks for sharing it! It really opened my mind but I have one question. How does one find the "why" of the thing he is doing? And how do you find what do you want to do? I am 17 and I am in a pretty defining age in my life and this is driving me nuts. Especially regarding the career I want to follow and the degree I want to take.