I'm glad that I finally stopped lurking and started to contribute to TRP. There have been very insightful comments and analyses in this discussion. Just shows us once again how vital TRP is to help us examine the pitfalls and obstacles a man faces in today's society, how to avoid and conquer them, all whilst becoming the best possible version of ourselves.
I have added the third and (so it seems) final update to this hamster saga below. Feel free to check it out.
I just saw that I got a "PM" from a user that has registered his account roughly 9 hours ago, telling me some new "intel" about this post and claiming he's 99,9% sure it's his GF that started these posts. He said
I cant post at the moment due to my novelty account but Id be glad to share some more insight into this and answer eventual questions.
I'm not sure what to make of this but if anyone wants me to pursue this further or refer him to them, just tell me and I'll bite.
Here's the original post (archive.is/first) and here’s second (archive.is/second ) and here's the third and final one (archive.is/third)
tl;dr Wealthy alpha has a LTR that feels neglected (financially & emotionally) because her boyfriend lives life on his own terms and demonstrates impeccable frame during her shit tests. She complains about his “lone wolf attitude” on the hamster sub and the shitshow begins
he started to tell me that I should know upfront, since many couples in our age bracket don’t discuss these topics, that he does NOT want to have any children EVER, does NOT want to get married EVER and he plans to stay independent with separate flats/bank accounts etc.
So this girl meets a fairly wealthy guy and starts a relationship with him. The guy doesn’t fuck around and tells her what she has to expect and how this relationship will work out. He sets the terms early on – for the girl it is take or leave. Of course we all know she can’t resist and agrees.
Marc does not care what other people think of him, he does not follow gossip or celeb culture or trends in general. He kind of lives in his own world. He has no problem doing things on his own (dinner, sports, going to the theater or museum etc.) and he thoroughly enjoys his solitude.
He’s also the embodiment of a true alpha as she described his attitude here
As you might imagine from this, Marc isn’t the “average” guy and he’s unlike anyone I’ve ever met in my life.
Of course you haven’t, honey. It’s rare that one encounters a true alpha and he was giving you the tingles so hard that you probably couldn’t think straight.
But alas, nobody is perfect, so let’s start to find the things we can nag and complain about.
He has almost no friends, only “acquaintances” as he calls them. When I asked him why he just replied that it’s better to have one or two real friends that would take a bullet for you than a dozen of fake ones.
I thought that was weird as I have many friends and enjoy my time with them and I think that having friends is a vital part of a fulfilling life
Yes, we all know women need a large circle of „friends“ to gossip and for external validation. Suddenly it's „weird“ when someone likes to have quality over quantity when it comes to relationships. We all know she’s embarrassed in front of her social circle that her BF might comes off as a weirdo or loser.
Well, it turns out my boyfriend is pretty wealthy. I’m not sure what his exact net worth is but it’s certainly in the millions
Well, isn’t that convenient?
When we went to dinner for the first time together, he told me, after splitting the bill equally, that he’s willing to give me his time but not his money.
Oops, not what you expected? This guy knows the game and is protecting his own assets from the start; smart move.
I immediately found this a bit strange and thought to myself that I’m certainly not a gold digger and can support myself
Stong, independent (black) women incoming
And here’s where my problems start. He spends all this ridiculous money on his furniture, flat, clothing and adventure trips but apparently I’m not even worth a dinner?!
How dare he spend his hard earned cash on himself?!
Don’t get me wrong I’m not a gold digger and while I’m financially not well off, at least I can support myself. Sure I do get presents every Christmas, Birthday, Valentine’s Day from Marc but I feel like I’m not really worth that much to him considering how he spends his money.
Yes what a tight and greedy guy. It should be mandatory law to buy women things they don’t appreciate.
I cannot help to feel like I’m not that important to him considering how he constantly makes decisions without me (vacations, trips), and even refused to pick up the tab when we were dating?
He always knew my biggest dream was to travel to Asia but since I absolutely cannot afford it at the moment it remains a dream. Turns out he got his sister a 1 month trip to Japan for her 18th birthday. Flight, hotels and everything else covered
Treating his own family and blood to a vacation with all expenses covered, but not his girlfriend makes him an asshole that neglects her feels. Because working towards your own goals is apparently not en-vogue anymore.
As expected the hamsters all side with the poor and neglected girlfriend, reinforcing her beliefs, telling her how her boyfriend is immature, unable to commit to a „serious“ relationship and how ist unnatural not to live together, to marry and have children. Some even go as far as calling him a lunatic, psycho-and sociopath for not putting her first, and above everyone and everything else in his life.
The fact that he was always being upfront with his idea of a relationship and his girlfriend willingly spread her legs for 2 years is completely neglected.
She takes some oft he „advice“ from this sub and confronts (read: bitches about) her boyfriend about these bogus issues of hers.
I got emotional and nearly cried, telling him I need a break and he acts so immature sometimes and doesn’t consider my feelings at all.
As expected this doesn’t end well.
Then Marc told me that he is not the type of guy to wait for anyone to make his mind up about him and that the relationship is best ended on the spot.
Her boyfriend keeps his frame because why wouldn’t he? He’s independent (financially & spiritually) and clearly has internalized abundance mentality.
In the end she feels like a big fuck-up and of course deep down she knows what a mistake she made and that she will likely never find a guy like him again.
What we can learn from this is to never let go of your frame, be your own man, live life on your own terms and fuck what the hivemind thinks about you. As you can see in the comments, if you go against the grain of „traditional expectations“ you will be labelled as psychotic, crazy, immature and dismissed as sad individual with deep psychological issues.