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I’ve been married to my husband for 7 years now. I’m a 29F and he’s a 32M. For a few months to a year now, I’ve been saying no to sex a lot. I’ve just not been in the mood but his libido has been at the same sky high levels that they’ve been since we were college kids.
Could be a medical problem, could be married life.
Some days when I’m in bed tired he starts touching me, trying to get me primed for sex. Most times I’m not in the mood, but some times I cave in to his begging. I felt as his wife it was my duty. But I never enjoyed any of those sex sessions.
Sex being a chore? Haven't heard that one before.
So I made my feelings known to him. At first he seemed really down but he said he respected my decision. He stopped asking me for sex after that. Even when he asked, after I said no he would just roll over and go to bed.
What a good, respectful beta.
After a month or two, he suddenly came him with a sex doll. It was a really expensive one, with huge tits and a round ass with very human-like skin. When I confronted him about it he said he had sexual needs and since I couldn’t satisfy them he had to find a way to satisfy himself without cheating.
Even after constant rejection, he still hasn't cheated or left her ass. Unbelievable.
I told him to get a fleshlite but he told me he couldn’t get off on those and felt like shit after using them. He said cuddling was a huge part of his sexual experiment but I have trouble feeling like that’s the only reason.
Can't imagine why...
When he said that I felt like I couldn’t say anything.
Because she knows she's in the wrong, she just doesn't want to admit it.
It made me feel really insecure, and I suddenly feel really awful. I can’t tell him to get rid of it because it’ll make me look really selfish.
I also can’t complain about how expensive t was because we’re pretty well off.
She knows she's running out of options/excuses.
I noticed one night that I was in the mood but he told me he was tired.
Turnabout is fair play.
He had had a few rounds with the sex doll before I got home and was pooped out. I don’t know what to do at this point, but I knew I feel awful.
About a problem she caused in the first place.
Of course, the YTA comments are towards the bottom and have few upvotes, the post is locked as well (WIBTA if I asked my husband to get rid of his sex doll?). Here are some gems:
YTA You are sooo much the asshole.
You won't sleep with your husband for a year (the poor guy even had to beg for it the few times you caved), so instead of divorcing you or going out and fucking a real woman, he buys a sex doll, then he turns you down ONCE... and now you're literally jealous of an inanimate object... and trying to force him to get rid of it (and stop getting SOME kind of sexual release in his prime years).
Again... YOU ARE LITERALLY JEALOUS OF AN INANIMATE OBJECT 😂
You can't have your cake and eat it too. You can of course dictate when he gets to have sex with you but if he found a way to get off without your help so that he doesn't have to bother you why does that also bother you? That's not fair to him
And of course, my favourite:
I noticed one night that I was in the mood but he told me he was tired. He had had a few rounds with the sex doll before I got home and was pooped out. I don’t know what to do at this point, but I knew I feel awful.
And it's reply:
Honestly! Imagine feeling that way for a year. not only that, but when they do have sex, she's acting like she's doing him a favour by sleeping with him...
As someone before said, can't have your cake and eat it. If you don't want to sleep with him, let him get his rocks off another way.
Imagine if the roles were reversed and the husband was mad/jealous his wife got a dildo/vibrator. He'd be seen as a possessive asshole.
OP, YTA, and I recommend you go to relationship_advice and DeadBedrooms to try and fix this, or better yet, a therapist, counsellor.