A guide to Building Mystery
This community is a gem of knowledge that I have been drawing off of for over three years now I felt it was finally time to give back and start posting some of what I learned along the way.
Most people are like an open book, constantly babbling about: hobbies, their job, who they hangout with, what they do on the weekends, information they gleaned from a YouTube video, thirty second long snapchat stories. They are always brimming with advice that no one asked for.
After asking a few leading questions this individual will divulge enough of his life story that you can paint a picture of him as a boring, basic, common man. Once this individual is figured out and categorized by your brain there is nothing left to learn about him and your brain is bored by him. Your brain now imagines him spending his time on the weekend playing xbox and jerking off.
Your brain likes to fill in the gaps where it has no information, it has fun doing this. Given little information (and thoughtfully dropped breadcrumbs) our brains will generally paint a much grander and greater picture of what actually happened. When we have the full story our brain suddenly gets bored and gives up trying to figure it out.
When you first meet a girl your “mystery scale” is at an all time high. You know you’re a basic fucking dude but she doesn’t. You look her in the eye and say “hey”, she likes what she sees and immediately she begins imagining you doing cool things: Going to foreign locations ,making money ,living dangerously on edge, fucking other woman etc.
Then you proceed to slaughter her fantasy by telling her every little fucking detail of your life
“I work at X”
“I hangout with X”
“I Do X on the weekends”
“I Traveled to X last year to do X”
With every bit of information you divulge your mystery scale takes a blow. Her smile begins to waver as her brain is now painting a picture of you as the average guy you really are.
With a flick of a switch she suddenly has you all figured out. Her brains image of you is now grounded in reality. An hour ago you were inscrutable but now she realizes she met someone just like you last week. She just moves on to the next guy she imagines has it cooking (he probably doesn’t, no guy can live up to a female created fantasy)
A fantasy can be killed in one conversation if you really know the R
ight Wrong things to say.
Never let someone “figure you out”
Thought experiment: Think about how a Janitor spends his weekend vs. how James Bond spends his weekend
Imagine the things each of them are doing
You probably imagine the janitor doing nothing fun, probably paying bills in his small home.
You probably imagine bond racing some cool as fuck car, shooting guns in a suit, and taking the girl home.
Imagine the power you would have if you could instill in her a mental image the likes of James Bond. She would always believe you were up to something totally cool and the fuel for this image is simply the tidbits of information you throw her.
So now that we understand the concept of mystery and attraction how can you leverage it to you’re advantage
1.Shut the fuck up and listen
Most blue pill guys are going to meet a woman and begin qualifying themselves to her. Just imagine for a minute that you flip the table and get her to begin qualifying herself to you.
You remain at peak mystery and now she is giving you valuable information that you can leverage later on in the evening.
How do you do this? Begin asking her leading questions.
“What do you do”
“What do you like”
“How do you spend your time”
let her ramble on about herself while you kick back and observe the situation at hand
Bonus points if you don’t even ask her questions and she just begins telling you want you want to know for free. More bonus points if she begins qualifying herself!
She will begin divulging her mystery while you keep yours intact.
2.Indirect and vague
In General the questions you ask will be flipped back on you (This is how conversations work) so expect to answer your own question; if she is not self obsessed and can’t stop talking about herself that is.
The key to answering a question and not killing the mystery it is to remain indirect and vague with you’re answers.
Her: “what are we going to do tonight”
RP You: “Show up at eight and find out”
BP You: “ we are going to be going to X, and then maybe to X, and then back to my apartment”
Her: “how often do you go here”
RP You: “occasionally”
BP You: “I come here every Friday and Saturday, Im friends with all the staff and they know me very well”
Her: “How do you know all these people”
RP You: “I get around”
BP You: “I did school announcements in high school and people we’re used to hearing my name over the intercom every day”
tell her much less then necessary, leave her with unanswered questions so she can fill in the answers
Discretely drop details about your life that create more questions then answers.
Her: “you want to hangout tonight”
RP You: “can’t I’m in the city”
Her brain: Why is he in the city? What could he possibly be doing without me?? I wonder who he is with, he is probably with other hot girls.
Ever see a guy with a Rolex or a status symbol he has like a Porsche or Ferrari?
We like these items because it starts our brain on a rationalization obstacle coarse to try to figure out: what he does, who he is, and what is he doing here.
Status symbols open up a box of unanswered questions that’s why girls flock to the guy with the Porsche (to figure him out) not the guy with Subaru.
Drop tidbits of information that produce many questions and then withhold the answers, this is peak mystery!
Don’t talk about how many hours you studied for the grade.
how many hours you “grind” in the gym to look this way.
Don’t talk about how much effort went into your PowerPoint presentation.
No one fucking cares how much effort you put in, they only care about the results.
You know that you worked hard, but to other people make it appear as if it was effortless. When it appears that everything is effortless to you, people will begin attributing you positive quality’s and an air of mystery and heightened skill.
Everyone will think “Why is he so good at that if he never practices, he must be a natural ”
Her: “wow, how often do you go to the gym??:)”
RP You: “occasionally”
BP You: “every day I do 15 minutes of HIIT cardio, followed up by two hours of grueling 5x5 strong lifts. And I haven’t even gotten to my diet yet”
Reminder, the girl doesn’t fucking care
5.Don’t Give unsolicited advice
If someone doesn’t ask you for help or an opinion, don’t give it.
Generally people don’t give a fuck what you think and they will only resent you for knowing more on the subject then themselves.
You’re plate start talking to you about climate change and how bad it is for the earth but can’t properly explain the greenhouse effect?
Laugh to yourself, but let her think she knows all the answers. It would do you no good teaching her about the fucking green house effect on a ride to the bar.
Peace brothers, Truth sayer out
TLDR; don’t kill her fantasy