Comment Of The Week

Mark C sez:

The essence of uncaring assholery is simple. “And?”

“I have a boyfriend” “And?”
I want to see that chick-flick.” “And?”
“You don’t love me” “And?”
“you don’t care about my needs” “And?”
“I wish you would shave your mustache so I can see your face” “And”
“You would look so much better if you dressed like _______” “And?”

In my experience, that one simple word, accompanied by a smirk and a raised eyebrow, is the single most powerful word in the English language. Even more effective than “I dont care” because it encapsulates “I dont care” within it, along with a whole host of other phrases.

This is a good singular example of the tactical essence of uncaring assholery. “And?” is ambiguous. “And?” is ambivalent. “And?” is mischievous. “And?” is all the things women love in men.

If you are new to the game of uncaring assholery, and struggle to say the right words at the right time, have ready in your back pocket the simple expedient of “And?”, for use when your state control is challenged by a curious woman. It is practically failsafe.

Beware overuse, though this warning applies to just about any game tactic. Try to resist the temptation to lean too heavily on an effective rapport technique, because when you witness the results you’ll be greatly tempted, indeed. But remember, chicks dig unpredictability, too.





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  1. There are endless variations, such as
    ” I have a boyfriend!”

    “That does not worry me at all”

    Thor

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  2. It’s complicated.

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  3. Bring the movies.

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  4. Thats a good one!

    It can open so many doors:

    “And, what do I get in return………………
    “And, if I do that what will you do for me……….

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  5. “And?” has been my go-to since I was a teenager. Once you’ve conditioned your dames — which requires a certain facial expression when you say it — you can even skip with the verbal and just shoot them the facial expression and they’ll fall into place.

    It’s part of allowing a woman’s mouth to run out of things to say, and also allows you to reframe almost any situation once she’s run out of whatever defenses she’s spewing at the moment (Anti-Slut Defense, Shit Testing, etc).

    The only problem with “And?” for some guys is that they give up when a woman says “And what?” In my experience, a woman who queries that has already lost interest — reflect and see if you’re suffering one-itis with this one.

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  6. Thats cute, I have a goldfish, that’s cute as well. Though, i don’t actually have a goldfish.

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  7. on December 27, 2011 at 2:25 pm Great Books For Men GreatBooksForMen GBFM (TM) GB4M (TM) GR8BOOKS4MEN (TM)

    lzozozlzozozzlol

    “I have a boyfriend” “Well if der’s gonna be another guy i mightaswell be him lzozlzlzozo”
    I want to see that chick-flick.” “give my dick a flick and we see yo chcik flick fo su”
    “You don’t love me” “you just love my goggy style lzozlzl”

    “you don’t care about my needs” “you can’t always gets what you want, but if you try sometieme you just might find you gets what you needsz as my lotsass cockas goes sploogie loogie sploogie lzozozlzz”
    “I wish you would shave your mustache so I can see your face” “i wish u could shave your buttsache so i could see your arsehole but do not woorry not to put my lotsadss cokasks in as i dodn’t no buttehx lzozozlzo”
    “You would look so much better if you dressed like _______” “you would look much ebetetr if you didn’t dress zlzoolzozozlzl”

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  8. Oh.wow. That emasculated man video. directionless, incompetent indeed. And, what has the host done to address his male privilege. Or does he just pretend tomuhuhuhm…ok…good luck with that.

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  9. Sure works for that kid in the Coke Zero commercial.

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  10. Chinese Foooooood game,

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  11. “And?” Pure gold.

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  12. Just grunt. It’s the universal interspecific expression of acknowledgement with 0 interest to act upon it.

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  13. A go-to phrase of mine is, “Anything else?” Similar to “And?” and priceless when a guy insults you or challenges you in some way. When he pauses, smile, say “Good” and turn around.

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  14. Also incredibly useful: So?

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  15. on December 27, 2011 at 6:25 pm The Chrome Microphone

    A few months back someone mentioned that his alpha friend used “I believe it” a lot

    Works in the same contexts and is a bit less dickish if you’re not so inclined

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  16. you can mix it up
    And?
    So?
    Your point?
    or silently with a slight shrug and a single quick shake of the head

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  17. none of which are as good as “I don’t care” since they are leave open the possibility of a response. “I don’t care” ends the topic.

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  18. Ew, you’re an asshole! “And?”

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  19. Context is everything here.

    And?…said with even the slightest hint of sarcasm, bitterness, hurt and you’re beta.

    And?….with the smirk or smile…creates tension that she fills in.

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  20. How sad it is that you little boys need to play these games to get women.

    [heartiste: when was the last time you applied makeup?]

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  21. I would say its an honor just to be nominated, if I were a beta.

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  22. On occasion being handed something is also a way for a girl to mark her territory… but even though it’s not most of the time, I still like to get handed shit… cuz I’m devilish.

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  23. This happens rarely to me but in these situations I like to draw the moment out for as long as possible. It’s a situation where I can distinguish myself. I do the following:

    *Bint holds drink out* (Note: this is not a GF bint. Just a club bint.)

    “Here. Can you hold this for a sec?”

    I make laser like eye contact with her and say nothing. It’s important that you only move your eyes. This reaction is meant to be a non-reaction. Keep your body relaxed but just narrow your eyes a bit and lock them in.

    There’s a few things that happen now: After a while she’ll either get frustrated and put the drink down somewhere or keep holding it, or she will thrust it forward or say something challenging. At this point I say this:

    “Ah?”

    It sounds simple but it’s not. There’s a facial expression involved here. It’s sort of like “I didn’t hear you, can you repeat that?” Or: “How fucking dare you you woman. Do you not know you are talking to a man?” A mixture of the two. “Ah?” There’s an unspoken “Excuse me?” that comes afterwards.

    This is good because I’m not annoyed. I’m just a little bit shocked that the woman would think that this is something she can do. Also, in her mind, she can tell herself something like “Oh he didn’t hear me” to counteract any negative femfuck reflux she might get.

    “Ah?”

    I say it loudly and thrust my jaw out a bit. “Ah?”

    Turn the corners of your mouth down a bit throughout.

    This may not make sense to anyone but me but this is how my face sort of looks when I say this. Obviously not as exaggerated (or, indeed, comical):

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  24. Just to vary it. let her talk, wait till she’s done, and say,

    “Anyway. . .”

    This works in a similar way. You say this like you are getting back to what you were doing before a pointless interruption. Even if you weren’t doing anything at all, it was more important than anything she just did.

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  25. How’s, “that’s cool.”, in a very “who gives a fuck” kinda tone. I use that all the time and i find that it gets women pissed/drives them up the wall more than anything else

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  26. on December 28, 2011 at 9:21 pm Born Again Alpha

    I like the Spinal Tap response. Sexist?
    What’s wrong with sexy?
    Watch the movie to get the intonation right.

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  27. My favourite:

    “Right.”

    With just a hint of sarcastic superiority, walking the fine line between “I might really agree with you” and “I acknowledge that you said something” and “It’s too below me to respond”

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