“What are you thinking about?”

It’s impossible to date a girl for any significant length of time and not hear this plaintive inquiry from her. In fact, if she likes you, you will sometimes hear it on a first date. A reader offers a quick escape:

Answer with “thoughts are sacred” and change the subject so it doesn’t seem like you’re trying to be profound. I stole that from a Fellini film. Have used it on a few different types of girls and it works like a charm. I enjoy the blog man.

Not bad. Another good reply (if she’s got enough brains to catch the wit): “My burdensome masculinity.” Or: “A ham sandwich.”

Any move to evade the question, or to answer it in a way she could never have predicted, is the correct move. The key is to understand that in matters of romance, women don’t want to be taken seriously. They want you to, with a wink and a smirk, patronize them like the be-boobed and be-hipped children they are. The worst possible answer to these seemingly innocuous female questions (which, in reality, are actually subtle shit tests) is the candid answer. For example… BAD: “I was just thinking about how much I like you.” You, with your feeble beta brain, thinks she wants to hear that, (because why would she ask?) but she doesn’t. What she wants to hear, or rather what her vagina wants to hear, is “A ham sandwich.”

Now of course there will be times when the sincere response is the right one. A long term girlfriend asks because she is A) worried you’re withdrawing from her, or B) genuinely interested in what’s on your mind. In those cases, you may, but only occasionally!, stroke her inquisitive feelers til she’s purring like a kitten.

I can hear the chorus of betaaches now. “When should we be sincere and when should we be cocky?”

Don’t sweat the small stuff. A good rule of thumb is the 3:1 cocky-to-sincere ratio. A sincere reply should be bookended by at least three cocky ripostes. This can play out over a few minutes of an energetic first meet or over a few languid days, depending on your level of intimacy with the girl. This gives her hamster juuuuuuuust enough pellets to keep him shitting regularly. Too many pellets and the overworked bugger gets the runs, his rationalizations spinning out of control into a turgid drama fest. Too few pellets and he gets constipated, backed up with negative emotion. A regular hamster is a happy hamster. And a horny hamster.





Comments


  1. What am I thinking about?

    Is anal a good answer?

    [Heartiste: Edgy. Could blow up in your face. Deadpan, and said to the right girl, could work miracles. I like it.]

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  2. Second!

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  3. I usually reply with this:

    Her: What are you thinking about?
    Me: My other girlfriend.
    Her: Jerk!

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  4. on August 7, 2011 at 8:24 pm Finger's Breath

    Another answer I’ve found successful is, “Nothing.”

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  5. Who cares what he’s thinking?

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  6. “Tits”.

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  7. (Smirk) “You’d rather not know.”

    Then change the subject.

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  8. “Stuff”
    and
    “Your friend’s ass.”

    If you’re feeling charitable,

    “Your ass.”

    Or some nonsense answer that conveys both mild disdain and playfulness:

    “Apples.”

    “Apples?”

    “And other fruit.”

    if you want to initiate some insecurity, this is a great chance to throw in something to start her brain wiggling.

    “Breast surgery.”

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  9. on August 7, 2011 at 8:43 pm Learning Game

    ‘How are you?’ and ‘What have you been up to?’ are also questions an interested girl will ask on a fairly regular basis.

    Betas will answer both questions logically…. and, in some instances, that’s okay… but what would you recommend as a cocky funny response to each question?

    Advice from genuine alphas would be much appreciated.

    Thanks.

    Awesome website, by the way.

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    • @Learning…mix it up…

      How are you?

      Great, busy…then DHV story.

      “What have you been up to?”

      Negotiating peace in the Middle East, thinking of ways to solve this debt crisis….oh and I bought a new cell phone.

      Her: laughing

      You: Nothing funny about negotiating peace in the Middle East….

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  10. “If I told you I’d be putting your life in danger.”

    Or, ignore the question completely and do a reframe. In the case of performing a reframe, however, take your time. Pause after she asks the question, put on a cocky-grin, and talk about another topic wholly unrelated.

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  11. “What are you thinking about?”

    Starting a PUA blog.
    (With maybe a lil’ bit of politics thrown in just for kicks. You know, something original.)

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  12. “How are you?”

    “Fine or good.” Don’t complain unless you have a really good reason to.

    “What have you been up to?”

    “Not much” and then tell her one thing you did that day. Keep it brief.

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    • on August 7, 2011 at 8:57 pm Learning Game

      Thanks, but that’s not going to help spark attraction like a cocky funny response would… still, being evasive is better than answering with logic.

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      • True, but you don’t always have to dazzle us with your wit. Sometimes we can just have a conversation.

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      • Heartiste can maybe come up with something funny, but for most guys this would be fine, especially if you’re a little nervous talking to her to begin with.

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      • We’re not here to learn how to converse with our elderly wives, we’re hear to know how to charm hotties. Kind of like this guy, who obviously says the right things:

        http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2023589/Is-Britains-feckless-father-Jamie-Cumming-father-15th-child-13th-lover.html

        Comments from the women about him include “He said he was available by claiming to live in a caravan [RV]” and “he was a real charmer.”

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      • Considering most men don’t get nervous when talking to their wives, I would think it was obvious I wasn’t giving advice for that.

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      • on August 10, 2011 at 6:20 pm old guy, lower case

        A great role model.

        I like betas, someone has to support my kids.

        Nice of the English government to do all the heavy lifting for him.

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      • on August 7, 2011 at 10:08 pm dontlistentogirl

        Don’t listen to girls about advise w/ girls. Not ever.

        Bullshit and c/f, always. I would even bother w/ 3:1. Never answer questions. Never let her plan anything. If you want to sprinkle in sincereity… do it on your terms… when she’s least expecting it, or when you’re feeling it the most, give an honest compliment. The rest of the time, throw her off balance.

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      • on August 7, 2011 at 10:37 pm Learning Game

        Amen to that advice… are there any specific, cocky funny one-liners anyone can suggest in response to ‘how are you?’ and ‘what have you been up to?’?

        I’m fairly new to this, but eager to learn.

        Thanks.

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  13. “My dick.”

    Even though when I’ve been asked this I felt like punching her in the face as it’s so neurotic and female.

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  14. Love it. All these game bits analyzed and dissected. Ratios and words and hamster poopings. Like an aquarium-view window what happens in girls heads. In this sort of scenario, I mostly don’t bother with words.

    “What are you thinking?”

    ” … ”

    It’s not MY subject, so the odds that I’ll comment, unless she asked me something opinion-worthy, are zero-ish. Unless I’m in a serious long term relationship, girl-talk constitutes a poor use of natural resources.

    And since it feeds my burgeoning egomania, here is my heartfelt, insightful, and critical review of the “player” movie, Crazy Stupid Love: http://two.cedonulli.com/2011/08/crazy-stupid-love-movie/

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    • It’s not MY subject, so the odds that I’ll comment, unless she asked me something opinion-worthy, are zero-ish.

      Ya, that’s my instinct too.

      Cocky funny could work, but I’m too lazy and disinterested to bother. I’m funny when I’m interested, and cocky when I’m in the mood to give attention.

      If the girl is trying to grab my attention and I’m not in the middle of giving her attention, I’m likely to just ignore her.

      “What are you thinking about?”

      Answer 1: brief glance up, then back to my laptop.

      Answer 2: face remains expressionless, looking at whatever I was looking at, and I say nothing.

      Or, very rarely: “You’re talkative, aren’t you! I know what it means when you are talkative!” Then get up, whip out my dick and slap her in the face with it. Or push her over onto the bed and wrestle her a bit.

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  15. “Gay shit” would be funny as hell. Say that and then improvise.

    But don’t say that if she might ever think you’re actually gay. Unless you are actually gay.

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  16. Where are all the feminist commenters? Jeez, I’ve gotten used to the comments being about nothing but women’s issues for so long, it’s strange to see them missing. Only 20 comments so far, I’m sure they’ll be along to add noise soon.

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  17. hehe!! Instead of asking him “what are you thinking about?” I asked shyly and slowly, ” Are you thinking abouuuut???…..( I stick my tongue out just a little between my lips..hehe!! and make suggestive and seductive eyes…woooo lol!!) I got him before he got me!! haha!! : )))

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  18. ‘That [made up] tragedy in [country].’

    Fun game: see how long you can keep this up. Bonus points awarded for callbacks to it later.

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  19. “Fucking up this chick called Neecy who is ruining one of my fave blogs…”

    OR

    “Threesomes…”

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  20. my husband once explained to me that he always answered “nothing” when i used to ask him the dreaded question because he knew i wanted to hear “how much i love you” or something like that but he was really thinking about spiderman, or fighter jets or something, basically, he didn’t want to tell me he wasn’t thinking about ME–this would usually be after sex.

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  21. The best responses to that question is, imho, is to get your favorite finger right -in deep – under her G spot – and put it to work – as soon as possible. If you are in a public place like a bar you may have to drag her off into a darker corner. Just don’t wait. Time is of the essence.
    It is a high form of language. It eloquently says: “Asking silly questions might right way bring you sexual pleasure but not one word of lame conversation.”
    Operant Conditioning, I think its called.

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    • Ya, this is my instinct too.

      Femme speak “What are you thinking”
      Translation into manlish “Give me attention”

      If you are going to give a girl attention, you do it on your terms. You don’t do it as a dancing monkey.

      Cockey funny is too often being a dancing monkey.

      Just don’t answer. Or if you do, answer with your body.

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  22. on August 7, 2011 at 10:10 pm Betondo Fuchatuch

    @gorbachev

    I’d be cautious about offering commodities as an answer here, brother. If you say apples just to kill the question (and if she really digs you) she’ll show up at a future encounter with her smiling face and a bag of polished apples (I brought these for you…). Happens a lot.

    Girls that dig you will pound you with that question early in the relationship when you’re dining out or there’s a pause in one-on-one evening conversation. If we’re dining, I might deadpan quote something by Thoreau, Defoe or some other classic deep-thinking dead guy – and when she blinks, change the subject with a question. It’s a cheap injection of mystery, but it pays dividends.

    If we’re alone together, I’ll either wave it off or make a light sarcastic remark, then change the subject to something I think is important and worth discussion.

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  23. on August 7, 2011 at 10:15 pm dontlistentogirl

    This is the first lesson in game I ever learned. Ever girl asks this… even when I was a kid I wouldnt answer this question… I would say: “every girl asks that” and just stare back at her.

    I think “gay shit,” or “threesomes” are better answers.

    So classic. Takes me back to hs.

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  24. There is always the possibility of second-guessing yourself with this stuff….

    I send a trial text to a girl I”m gaming….

    “hey, thinking about [some thing I constantly tease her about] I can’t tell…

    Her: [XXXXX] is not my favorite. you know that. [This is a shit test looking to see if you’re going to be beta/serious]

    Me: admit it. you love it. [change subject/set up activity]

    While girls will sometimes admit they find this annoying, deep down inside they find it intriguing that you don’t take them more seriously.

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  25. “Bacon”

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  26. Unicorns

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  27. This gives her hamster juuuuuuuust enough pellets to keep him shitting regularly. Too many pellets and the overworked bugger gets the runs, his rationalizations spinning out of control into a turgid drama fest. Too few pellets and he gets constipated, backed up with negative emotion. A regular hamster is a happy hamster. And a horny hamster.

    You should have your own column.

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  28. What if.. *HE* asks you what you’re thinking? hmmmm what should us girls say? Should we say what we really are thinking Orrrr feed his hamster enough to keep his bowels nuetral and regulated?

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    • If he asks you what you’re thinking, he’s gay. So it’s a gerbil, not a hamster. Also, your boyfriend is gay.

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    • And you really, really don’t want to know what it’s doing in his bowels.

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    • WHY would we ask a female what she’s thinking? Who cares?

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    • Game works because women have a hamster somewhere inside their brain (Studies back this up). Men have no such thing (you can say we have a dick in our brain, but that’s not funny, not as funny as the hamster).
      Therefore, girls who try to game men are not sexy. Keep it real.

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      • Yeah you boys can keep the “gaming”. Too much busy work for me. i like to keep it simple stupid. Feel me?

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      • No, no one feels you, and please stay on topic or leave. you ruined perfect post again. Just as a typical female turning everything upside down.

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      • Don’t overreact. I kinda like you, even if i see why so many guys hate you.
        I gave you a sensible advice. Girls who play games are not attractive. Women are emotional creatures, that’s why they need to be gamed. Men are more rational, show him that he can trust you, that you have the potential to be a good mother… and that’s it, game over.

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      • Overreaact? i was being serious G! Just an FYI, I don’t play games personally at any place in my life. I simply read a guy and if I get a sense he is not the one for me, then I move on. All this waiting to text back, waiting to call him back, lying about what i was really doing to make it seem I have a life, etc., is just too much work and thinking. People need to let go and let love sometimes.

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      • “People need to let go and let love sometimes.”
        Translation:
        “Cool, hot, alpha guys need to reciprocate whenever I’m in the mood, and the other 99% of you are for manipulating when I’m bored.”

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      • LOL that’s one heck of a translation T. I don’t play games PERIOD – plus I’d be quite shitty at it. I don’t even think i have the brain matter to manipulate. LOL And I am a horrible liar. So i try to keep it leveled and simple for everyone.

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      • Any woman who comments in this blog is playing games and vying for attention.

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      • I disagree T.

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      • That’s “Mr. T” to you, lol

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      • *In My Janet Jackson singing voice*

        No my first name aint T,
        that’s MR.
        T
        if ya nasty!

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    • on August 8, 2011 at 5:44 pm Zone Defense

      That will never happen. He doesn’t care. Even if he likes you, he doesn’t care what you are thinking.

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  29. Real conversation, half an hour ago:

    fdsa: I can read your mind.
    GF: No you can’t. Guess what number I’m thinking of.
    fdsa: Tits.
    GF: TITS IS NOT A NUMBER!
    fdsa: You just don’t understand math.
    GF: Yes I do. Anyway I thought you were an ass man.
    fdsa: I wasn’t the one thinking of tits. You were.
    GF: TITS IS NOT A NUMBER!
    fdsa: Then why were you thinking about tits?
    GF: GAWWWD…

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  30. True first date story. Things were going fairly well and during a lull :

    Me: So tell me something about yourself
    Him: I don’t do anal

    It was actually a very funny moment and we saw each other for a few months.

    *yes I know it’s different than than the question, but heck someone said anal and it reminded me. 🙂

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  31. Food
    Nothing
    Anal
    A hot chick on the bus
    Your younger sister
    Your Mom
    You
    (in order of priority, babes)

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  32. ” I’m thinking a blow job would feel really good right now”

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  33. Man stuff

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  34. Monkeys.

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  35. “What are you thinking about?”

    “You… making me a ham sandwich.”

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  36. – Shhh. I’m trying to think….

    – Ninjas

    – Oprah

    – What happened to the last girl that asked me that question…

    Her: What are thinking about?
    Me: Oh, you haven’t heard?
    Her: What?!
    Me: Nothing…

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  37. what about saying “that’s a good question” and then not acknowledging it again. i’m still new to this whole game thing so I’d like to know if my heads in the right place.

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    • Nah. You can’t afford that one unless you are in absolute unquestioned control already. It takes the question seriously. It’s evasive and defensive. If you’re going to treat the question seriously, you’re better off just answering it (but usually, don’t do that at all). “That’s a good question” means “yeah, let’s discuss this”. Bad idea.

      Especially if she’s been shit-testing you a lot, she’s looking for a weak spot, and you just handed her one.

      Go for a complete re-frame. Don’t spar with her on her terms. She’s trying to deflect you into a boring conversation that you hate, which gives her power. You need to cheerfully plow right through that shit. Roll over it. Treat it like she’s a favored child asking funny stupid questions. Blow up the script. Invent a new conversation that surprises her and make her have that one instead. It doesn’t have to make any sense. But make sure it’s fun.

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    • It’s a generic conversation opener. She’s bored and hopes you can provide some excitement. If you respond literally, you’re boring and she’ll resent you for it. She doesn’t want you to follow her lead; the lead she gave you was the dumbest, most boring conversation starter ever invented. The last thing she wants is a Serious Conversation. Borrrr-inggg!

      She wants you to take her along on an adventure. A little, conversational, girl-scaled adventure.

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  38. Most inane female questions are equivalent to a pet yellow lab bounding up to you, looking at you, then lying at your feet — i.e. “I need attention/validation master.”

    Maybe you throw the bitch a Milk Bone, maybe you don’t.

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  39. Here’s the answer that has had some success for me

    “ripping your cloths off and ravaging that body of yours”

    or some variation there of

    so far its 2 for 2

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  40. Its the context of the question that matters

    Post Coitus: What are you thinking?

    –shes thinking of something, so i might feed her hamster a pellet

    Random aftenoon hangout, I’m not really paying attention to her cause im busy reading heartiste.wordpress.com : What are you thinking?

    –shes searching for attention, so i might feed myself a ham sandwhich

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  41. Nothing is the best answer for me.

    It’s quick, simple, and leaves people pondering. When persisted answering ‘You don’t want to know’ or smirking/smiling, opening your mouth like you’ll tell her then shaking your head (that was the best tip I gave my guys for the thinking question).

    However most guys will come up with sexual innuendo (anal, t*ts), comments to instill insecurity in her, or comments that relay disinterest in her (you’re friend/sister’s a**, threesomes) after all guys do love being cocky.

    I do like the three to one ration it usually works with other relationship matters for both genders like: how often you compliment the guy/girl (1 for every 3 he gives her), how often you do something sexual just for him/her (1 for every 3 he oesfor her), how often you perform oral (1 bj for every 3 orals he gives her).

    Though for initiating sex a 10 to 1 ratio works out well for most my girlfriends fo every 10 he initiates they initate once.

    And how often to mention another person’s attractiveness works best in reverse for my girls (3 comments about other guys for each 1 time he makes a comment) & (3 comments about his performance/size for each 1 insecurity/disinterest comment).

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    • I pity the guys that do put up with your suggested behavior…

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    • U,

      I understand what you’re getting at. but at some point tit for tat isn’t worth it. If a girl is bothered by her b/f or guy making those comments, isn’t it much better for her to find someone else as opposed to playing tit for tat – its a little immature? How is that a relationship if people are constantly trying to “one up” each other. Tell your g/f’s they are better moving on then playing that game. Just a thought.

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      • @Nupi

        You pity them?

        The guys I give advice to aren’t lookers and have cycled through modelesque girls. I pity the girls because I know they will just be throwaways.

        Only 1 guy has used my advice to build a relationship.

        Three more are in relationships but they’re cheating on the girls so I don’t count them.

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      • In a way i pity them too. The guys who are accepting your 10:1 initiations should next them instead.

        These games play insecure men and women especially, because it’s their modus operandi.

        The only game a man should play is inner one, with himself.

        Men who play games with another being are just weak.

        And i actually like this “what are you thinking about” question.
        It’s the easy way to bring her into your frame/reality. So any answer from that particular department is valid.

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      • I find it funny how guys only pity the guys who are getting gamed.

        I pity the girls my guys game. Though I do enjoy the laugh I get when I test the girl by warning her his behavior is pure manipulation and she calls me a bitter manhater or that I must have had bad experiences. Ah the naivety.

        I pity the guys my girls game. Not for initiations though either way he still gets sex and he’s a guy if he wasn’t getting played he’d be playing her. I feel sorry for the guys because they’ll be drained finacially, spiritually, mentally, and emotionally.

        No I won’t stop my advice giving to either gender what they do with it is their problem not mine.

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      • Playing games isn’t weak.

        This blog is in support that it’s useful and necessary to get what you want.

        I don’t support or play games because they’re immature. I don’t call someone weak for laying them or gettin advice on how to play them.

        I enjoy blogs like these. It’s quite funny because I was giving out oua and game advice before it was being marketed and sold.

        Though my advice is a bit more manipulative and I find most game advice for guys online is just plain boring common sense of attraction. Like building an emotional connection, ignoring beauty, and bonding.

        No offense to the blog owner. I fully support all gaming blogs they make for interesting observations.

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      • Playing games is weak, does Alpha male play games? No.
        Who play games? Women=weaker gender, Beta males=weaker males

        To get what you want you shouldn’t use manipulation, lies etc..
        So you are typical female in support of typical female modus operandi, which is ok.

        And because of that, some males who don’t know better must play games, your games! 🙂

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    • Yep, you could ruin a civilization with these kind of tactics.
      Stop projecting, the only reason game exists is because women don’t know what they want. Men know exactly what they want in a woman, the first thing is that we hate to be gamed.
      You can use your games to boost your ego and to feel less insecure, but you won’t generate any attraction or emotional bonding. You will just ruin the relationship.

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      • If men knew exactly what they wanted they’d go after it instead of slutting around.

        Both genders know what they want but both onl have only idea of what they need. Girls get sidetrack by emotions & guys get sidetrack by sex. Guys aren’t going after the woman they want and seeking commitment and a future in high school, college, or a few years after graduating.

        So a guy can use game to boost his ego and to feel less insecure of her leaving him for an alpha/being the one in control through manipulation but expect the one he’s manipulating to create attraction & emotionally bond with him.

        Yeah that’s rational.

        My advice for my girls is just guy advice. Seems like guys don’t like their own behavior but justify it saying women don’t know what they want.

        As for my girls they’ve never been played, are always in control, and get what they want. Just like my guys who follow my advice.I do agree that game could ruin a civilization if both groups play it.

        Maybe there should be a raffle each decade of which gender gets to game.

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      • Some/many guys want a variety of preferably hot girls, so I don’t how sleeping (slutting around doesn’t make hell a lot of sense for guys to start with) around would defy their objective.

        Women do not know what they want (hint: game works because it supplies what women truly want, instead of what they claim to want). If women are trying to use what they finally are waking up to wanting themselves on men they will set themselves up for failure.

        Genders are not equal. What works to manipulate women to feel attraction does the exact opposite with men.

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      • “My advice for my girls is just guy advice. ”

        I’m sorry but this irks me to no end. Good luck to those girls. that is the problem today with women. We wanna be like men and prove we can do what they do. its utter ridiculousness. be a woman and stop playing games. If a man is playing games with you, move the eff on to the next who won’t. Its beyond stupid, waste of time and energy and immature and silly for women to try to constantly compete with men in the relationship arena for the dumbest shit.

        “i’m gonna sleep with 20 men b/c men can do it and not be called a slut”. “I’m gonna play games with men b/c they do it and I’m gonna show them”. Its just stupid IMO and keeps a woman from being with a good man b/c she is wasting tme and energy on one who is playing games with her..Games are for children…

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      • I support this way of thinking.

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      • “If men knew exactly what they wanted they’d go after it instead of slutting around.”

        Sometimes, that’s exactly what we want. Although “slut” doesn’t apply to men. It has been discussed here over and over. “If a key opens lots of locks, then it’s a master key. But if a lock is opened by lots of keys, then it’s a shitty lock”.
        You can cry at night about double standards, it won’t change human nature:

        https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2007/04/13/double-standards/

        “So a guy can use game to boost his ego and to feel less insecure of her leaving him for an alpha”

        Game is used primarily to get laid. A successful practitioner turns slowly into an alpha. At that, game is just a bunch of reflexes. Yes, it is designed to play on women’s insecurities and their specific hamsterish psyche. You cannot steal the whole concept and pretend that it works equally on men.

        “As for my girls they’ve never been played, are always in control”

        I suspect that “your girls” are playing beta herbs, who are happy enough to get laid.

        “Just like my guys who follow my advice”

        Betas.

        “Maybe there should be a raffle each decade of which gender gets to game”

        Wishful thinking.

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      • I can make nonsensical analogies too: If a pencil is sharpened by a lot of sharpeners, it’s used up and thrown away. If a sharpener sharpens a lot of pencils, it’s fantastic.

        At least with my analog the pencil is worthless because it’s not as good to write with and that’s the end of it.

        With the key/lock analog all that shows is that men expect more from women, think it’s okay to not uphold standards they value they easily could uphold themselves, and expect a woman to settle for less than she give since they are master keys.

        A better analog for both genders is a key and lock that fit each other.

        But one upping is the realm of men and girls play the game.

        A slut is a slut sorry higher sex drive (which on this site was a debuked myth) and wanting variety doesn’t excuse you from the label. Your actions are still the same. Being a guy only excuses you from the consequence of that label.

        I’m not talking about changing double standards. I’m talking about labels a slut is a slut based on actions. Changing double standards would be wanting guys to face the consequences.

        I already know most guys who rather hit a woman than be a slut since guys are qyuick to claim the don’t hit a woman double standard is idiotic but cling to the slut standard.

        Cry at night? Funny. I could care less about the slut standards men will do what they want, women will do what they want. I’m concerned about me.

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      • If you are concerned about “you” then why on earth would you encourage other women by giving them guy advice? I know you’re trying to ignore me but i am still going to argue your points that don’t make sense for women b/c I think they are damaging and masculine in nature and a reason why women today are suffering in the relationship arena.. And frankly, I am tired of it.

        At the end of the day the onus is on WOMEN to usher no good men out of their lives and to demand respect from the men in their lives. The key thing you are missing here is WOMEN HAVE THE POWER TO REMOVE BAD MEN FROM THEIR JURISDICTION AND SPACE. THAT is the power women have but choose not to use it! Instead, women want to do what the boys are doing to show them. If a man is a slut, why do you feel the need to take on that behavior to just prove a point? Do you want women to be rallied behind for being sexually loose too? There are consequences for sexually loose behavior no matter the gender. Isn’t that enough satisfaction for a woman? So why feel the need as a woman to take on the most negative characteristics of a man just so you can “show em?

        Men act accordingly to how women are receptive to them. If for some reason men today didn’t feel game worked to get sex or whatever from women, they wouldn’t do it. I don’t agree with it, but obviously this is working on certain women. If women don’t want to be gamed then women need to WOMAN UP and start recognizing that they will have to make choices – either be with a good guy and stick with him or date and screw losers who will play games with you. If women demanded higher standards from men, men would act accordingly, b/c they want to get women. When women lower the bar for men to get sex, what do you think will happen? As long as women are “playing the game” we’re not getting anywhere. We’re actually encouraging more game playing.

        I suggest women who think like you look at the biological natures of both men and women. I would never say its right for ANYONE to be slutty (male or female) but the fact is there are greater consequences for women who try this kind of behavior than it is for men. It is what it is. There are so many damaged women today who throw away their true power b/c they are listening to self motivated feminists telling them only half of the story. Double standards exist everywhere in life! They’re shitty but it is what it is sometimes. Doesn’t mean playing up to them and trying to level yourself on that particular standard is going to get you anywhere.

        Keep giving those poor uninformed women your slippery slope to nowhere message. You won’t be the first.

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      • “You cannot steal the whole concept and pretend that it works equally on men.”

        Oh yes you can. I have a long list of damaged, broken, unstabled, in debt guys from all races and status that my girls have gamed to attest to that.

        Game is psychological manipulation. That works on most people.

        Game exploits insecurities. Most people have those.

        If guys are so immune to being played why the rants about gold diggers. If guy’s have no insecuritites there surely wouldn’t be so much beta uproar, wishful hopes of being bigger, and a ton more.

        The gendere are different but they’re people you just have to tailor it.

        “I suspect that “your girls” are playing beta herbs, who are happy enough to get laid.”
        Nope they’re playing guys in my social circle- rich, attractive, high social status. My girls & my guys aren’t my friends. My friends don’t need dating advice. My guys & my girls are people I know who I give some advice to and for the girls ones I give much needed diet/exercise advice and makeovers to.

        I love spreading gaming advice just to see who’ll take it. It’s quite sad how most guys/girls want to play games.

        “Betas.”
        Yep. If they were alphas they would be my friends not my guys. However these betas a few even lower than beta are getting alpha pickings.

        My advice to guys is basic pua, game stuff, and is a more manipulative version of this site. When you’re a girl who has friends like mine you can really tell guys how to control a woman.

        “Wishful thinking.”
        Yep which is why I dole out my guy advice and girl advice.

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  42. I never realized that so much work and tactic have to be used with such a simple question.

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  43. on August 8, 2011 at 11:32 am David Rockefeller

    the 3:1 ratio of cocky to sincere is good.

    giving a proper cocky-sounding delivery of the line matters more than the words themselves.

    Jack Nicholson could say “I’m just thinking about how much I love you” in a way that guarantees she’ll never shit-test him again.

    And answering a “ham sandwich” can sound so literally true it suggests asperger’s.

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  44. on August 8, 2011 at 11:38 am Betondo Fuchatuch

    For those of you that wonder why women infiltrate this forum (and others like it), take a look at this illuminating video. Minus the profit component, this dude said it better than I could:

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    • For sure. Men need men’s clubs. If they are outlawed, we will carve out private spaces informally. The internet makes everything easier.

      On the other hand, while we need it more and use it more effectively, truth is not just for men. There are not many truthful outlets with regard to the interaction of the sexes. We all get truth where we can, men and women. “They want leadership. They’re so thirsty for it they’ll crawl through the desert toward a mirage, and when they discover there’s no water, they’ll drink the sand.” (Forgive the reference, out of context it’s a good quote.)

      The feminist women hostile to truth who post here do not last long. The ones who persist are, by their very persistence, proven to be attracted to the truth, and they learn quickly to adapt to the culture.

      They’re not “ruining” anything the way female egalitarians (like the chick who went to the Supreme Court to get admitted to the Citadel back in the 90s, or those whores who wanted to crash the Masters) typically ruin our clubs: they join it just to make a point, and once admitted, have no use for the place.

      The women who regularly post here may have first commented with those intentions, but their continuing presence demonstrates they are more on-board with the program than not. And if they are on-board, their perspective is valuable. Again, not in the SWPL multi-culti bullshit token way — “Let’s get a woman’s opinion on all this before we go ahead and certify it as truth.” No, feminine softness breaks up the hard male echo-chamber and serves as a reminder what we’re fighting for. Like the Bunny waitresses at the old, now outlawed Playboy Clubs. They serve us here without enjoying the same privileges. That works.

      In a better world there will be established dominions of male prerogative again. But we are far from that world, and we will have to win a war to get back to it. In the meantime, some true believing sisters can fight guerrilla style at our side. There are more of them than feminism permits us to realize.

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  45. The other parallel shit-test to this one is:

    “What do you want?” A girl I was gaming asked me that while I was dancing with her. She was in a short skirt, smelling my cologne, I was suited up James Bond style.

    She started adjusting her skirt which was starting to hike up from the movement.

    Me: Need some help?

    Her: Big smile…major IOI, giggling nervously….”What do you want to do?”

    Me: Pausing, smiling, milking the sexual tension…”I wanna dance….”

    for the rest of the night each time I passed her, more eyes, smiles, winks.

    I was with another woman at the time so a take away was out of the question.

    Weird…since then she’s been a bit…cool to me.

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  46. 9 times out of 10 women are asking hoping you’ll say you’re thinking about her. We think about our men all the time when we’re interested and we want confirmation it’s the same for you. Men and women get confused and assume the things that prove interest are the same for both genders. They’re not.

    When you respond cockily or with a smart ass comment it leaves us more confused. Game’s point is to keep us guessing and it works. If men were truly like we are and over think and react sensitively the we’d ditch them fast. Which is why this blog exists. Men have been given cool-aid and told we want all that romantic stuff to fall from their mouths and told they have to behave, well like betas, in order to win us. We all know from reading her that doesn’t work to hold a woman’s interest for long.

    But be cautious men, when you blow her off and act like a dick rather than cock sure and funny she’ll also lose interest. It’s a fine line. And some of you walk too close.

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    • “What are you thinking?” is one of those girl-isms that irritate me the most, the way a buzzing fly irritates in a restaurant, and I bet most other men feel the same.

      So be cautious girls, when you annoy the shit out of him with intrusive ambush questions like the validation junkie you are, he’s going to start thinking more about that less maintenance-intensive hot chick that he was probably already thinking about when you asked your question.

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      • Exactly why I advise my game girls not to ever think of being serious since as a guy he’s only as faithful as his options, will always be thinking of his exit, and at any moment will downgrade you if you don’t act the way he wants.

        That and he’ll just be some annoying dolt who’ll irritate you to tears with his boyisms (need to be in control, your orgasm/your responsibility but still expect a bj & you to do things that please only him sexually, lack of emotional connection/communication but still expect you to communicate his way by initating sex, lack of bonding, him pestering for sex, him pestering for sex during period because your orgasm/your responsibility so wank off doesn’t work).

        Plus you won’t be able to break up with him for it because in guy world if he’s not abusive and you’re unhappy you’re just looking for alpha guys.

        I don’t think either gender should be cautious they should just find partners willing to put up with their amount of boyisms & girlisms.

        Until then girls & boys just be yourself with girls not taking boys seriously.

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    • I once (pre-game) had a long-term girlfriend who I swear asked that once every hour. Do I remember her most now for her cuteness at the time, her intellect, what we had in common, our shared memories? No, I mostly remember the “What are you thinking?s” and how I knew at the time I couldn’t spend much more of my time life with someone with such an obnoxiously insecure tic. Use sparingly, ladies.

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      • Good point. I don’t think we’re aware of how irritating the question is. I don’t think we recognize it’s a validation question, we look at it more as “is he thinking about me like I’m thinking about him.” I can see why it gets misconstrued though. And yes sometimes we just want our man to say gushy things to make us feel valuable. Men want to know they’re valuable in a woman’s eyes, women want to feel the same way. We just have to know how and when and stop shit testing. I never even knew I did that until I came here. I did and I really work hard at not doing it now. My current relationship is pretty good because I know know how that stuff is viewed by men. Tru stry.

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      • Really? You were that unaware of what came out of your mouth? I’m not being offensive I’m just curious.

        How do you not see “is he thinking about me like I’m thinking about him.” as anything but a validation question?

        If thae the question is to gauge his interest asking “what are you thinking about” doesn’t help much you’re better suited saying “I think about you a lot. I blah blah/what you think of him. Do you think about me often and what do you think about?”

        Though frankly questions like that are pointless as people lie and people play games as evident by the what guys should say to “what you are thinking about” and how there should only be 1 sincere answer for 3 cocky ones.

        Congratulations on a healthy relationship!

        Congratulations on learning about ho men view things hopefully the views won’t make you think less of men.

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      • I like human beings in general, although some are simply unlikable, in both genders.

        I think women should do as you suggest, but their ego is caught up in it. If they tell him they’re thinking of him, then if he isn’t they’re bruised. Women want men to say it first, however the question “what are you thinking about” amounts to the same thing, they just don’t see it that way.

        I knew what came out of my mouth (duh), I just didn’t know how it was perceived by men, there’s a big difference there.

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      • Bruised egos? Not that important to me.

        My question was not asking if he was thinking of her right then & now but structured to ask how often he did and what did he think about.

        To me that answers “is he thinking about me as much as I think about him” because itif his mount doesn’t compare to mine I need to bail out & the context of his thoughts tells me how serious he is and if I need to bail out.

        To me thinking of me when I ask “what are you thinking about” doesn’t give me anything substantial. You could have just thought about me once or right that instant because I asked you a question. Getting a bruised ego because a guy isn’t thinking of you when you ask seems a bit sensitive.

        Oh okay I get the duh. I’m just often curious as to how most don’t look at how others perceive things.

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      • Anonymous was me in case it wasn’t obvious.

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    • @aoefe…. yes…and many women are just flakes. If they get the slightest bit of attention, they disappear.

      They reappear when you deny it. Rinse and repeat.

      The other point of this is that when women get upset, it’s usually temporary.

      Managing those mood swings requires game.

      But it gets tiring if they’re constantly asking “what are you thinking?” “Do you love me?” no amount of “yes” and “you” is ever enough.

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      • @walawala

        I see what you’re saying. I used to ask my ex-ltr, “do you still love me?” and ” do you miss me?”. What stupid questions and all to feed my ego and reassure me, it only comes across as needy. My current guy would think I was silly if I asked those of him. I wouldn’t even try as a science experiment because I’d look like a dummy if I tried to explain what I was doing. haha,

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  47. @Neecy

    What gave you the impression I was ignoring you?

    As for why I give my advice I’m curious as to what guys/girls will take it.

    “If a man is a slut, why do you feel the need to take on that behavior to just prove a point? Do you want women to be rallied behind for being sexually loose too? ”
    When did I say I support or take on that behavior. o.O

    When did I say women should be sexually loose too? o.O

    I just said a slut is a slut. The actions are the same so to me the labels are. The standard is just the consequence and men rarely face consequences for bad behavior or lesser character of any kind unless it’s illegal.

    1. “There are consequences for sexually loose behavior no matter the gender. Isn’t that enough satisfaction for a woman? So why feel the need as a woman to take on the most negative characteristics of a man just so you can “show em?”
    When did I say women should take on the behavior? o.O
    I’ve been talking about labels. To me a slut is based on actions that’s it. Where have you been getting the rest of this?
    As for satisfication: the only consequnce guys face is an STD that’s it. It’s not the same and quite honestly just a consequence of unprotected sex not being sexually loose.

    2. “Men act accordingly to how women are receptive to them.”
    Not really. Men like people do act in according to what will get them what they want.

    3. ” If for some reason men today didn’t feel game worked to get sex or whatever from women, they wouldn’t do it. ”
    Game works because it’s common sense based on psychological manipulation.
    Guys do game because it works since it’s manipulation. That’s it.
    That’s like me justifying girl gaming by saying if it didn’t work to get what they wanted girls wouldn’t do it.

    4. “I don’t agree with it, but obviously this is working on certain women.”
    Game could work on all women if it was pure psychological manipulation instead of being weighed down by common sense.

    5. “If women don’t want to be gaismed then women need to WOMAN UP and start recognizing that they will have to make choices – either be with a good guy and stick with him or date and screw losers who will play games with you. If women demanded higher standards from men, men would act accordingly, b/c they want to get women. When women lower the bar for men to get sex, what do you think will happen? As long as women are “playing the game” we’re not getting anywhere. We’re actually encouraging more game playing. ”

    A woman making demands = b*tch.

    Men would only act accordingly if all women did this. Guys act based on their options. All women behaving one way in a country wouldn’t matter there’s traveling.

    Ever heard of American Women Suck? Guys don’t act according to behavior. They act according to what will get them what they want. A woman’s behavior only matter if it makes it easier or harder.

    There’s no encouraging if women play games. Guys will always play games. Most people prefer control & men willakways find a way to justify it- I’m a man I need to be in control, I need to be alpha, she’s emotional, she doesn’t know what she wants.
    It’s odd how you think of men as children who need to be taught to behave and dumb sexmachines who only act to get sex. If they’re just mindless playtoys as your statements suggest why so upset with girls manipulatung them?

    6. I suggest women who think like you look at the biological natures of both men and women. I would never say its right for ANYONE to be slutty (male or female) but the fact is there are greater consequences for women who try this kind of behavior than it is for men. It is what it is. There are so many damaged women today who throw away their true power b/c they are listening to self motivated feminists telling them only half of the story. Double standards exist everywhere in life! They’re shitty but it is what it is sometimes. Doesn’t mean playing up to them and trying to level yourself on that particular standard is going to get you anywhere.

    Keep giving those poor uninformed women your slippery slope to nowhere message. You won’t be the first.

    I’m not disputing the consequences. It’s a guy’s world and always will be. I’m just stating a slut is a slut. I’m not talking about consequences.
    The lack of consequences does make it okay for men to be sluts so much so that people find it humorous if I labeled a guy based on what his actions say.
    No one’s disputing double standards. I’m merely stating you are what you act like. To me the standards are the consequences. I’m not disputing consequences I could care less.

    Yes double standards are shitty too bad women have most of them while guys are now breaking free of the few ones they had.

    True power? It’s a guy’s world.

    The only true power is either independence, companionship with members of your gender, finding that rare non gaming (unmasculine ?) guy, or manipulating to get control.

    You can try demanding and see how many guysyou’ll have to get through. I advise that too for girls who decline my gaming offer. They’re still looking.

    As for my girls poor? They get what they want?

    Misinformed? On what that guys think game is necessary and guys belueve women don’t know what they want?

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  48. @Nick
    I just love how it’s all women by default who play games but only certain men and even when they play games it’s because they don’t know better and it’s the woman’s fault. : )

    Of course men or the majority are never fault it’s only certain men and even then it’s somehow a woman’s fault.

    I guess you kissed the clue that most guys play games to get what they want because being themselves wasn’t working. I mean apparently it’s just too much effort to wait or look for someone that wants you.

    While the girls who were getting played or getting hit on by players or hitting on players approached me for game advice as I offer advice I’m rarely approached for it.

    “So you are typical female in support of typical female modus operandi, which is ok.”

    Just like it’s okay the most guy gamers are the typical male in support of playing games and excuse their behavior since men rarely want to face consequences and of course inherently have better character. 🙂

    Game playing is a people thing done for control and to get what you want. It’s not inherent in womemn and not used by men who don’t know better.

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    • I don’t understand what you’re talking about. I’m not even a native and i try hard to deliver a somehow decent english, since we’re on a blog where the author and most of his commenters are eloquent and articulate.
      To be intelligent, you first have to be intelligible. I don’t believe that people are taking advice from you. In other words, you can’t pretend to achieve anything on this blog. You can watch and learn or GTFO.

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    • Yes it is.
      If you didn’t develop enough skills you have to manipulate and fake, right?

      And that’s what you tech “your gals”, not how to be better, but how to fake it.
      And that’s why we see decline in humanity.
      And that’s why this blog teaches what it teaches, not how to destroy a woman , but how to neutralize their silly games. IMO, that is…

      btw, i like your blog..pure zen 🙂

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      • This blog doesn’t promote neutralizing games. It promotes that game is necessary for the entire gender.

        Same thing I promote.

        Most game advice towards men isn’t about neutralizing women’s games it about this “If you didn’t develop enough skills you have to manipulate and fake, right?” The guys haven’t developed enough skills to be attractive or attract what they want so they manipulate & fake.

        But of course it’s only okay if guys are psychologically manipulative and controlling.

        I never said this blog taught how to destroy a woman. I said it taught game which is psychological manipulation to control another to get what you want. Something I don’t support but have no problem with both genders learning.

        If you’re suggesting that my girl game destroys a man than you’re saying guy game destroys a woman since my advice to girls is basically advice guys dole out like on this blog.

        Funny how you ignore that I teach guys too. Guess guys aren’t being better just faking it.

        You are right immature behavior like game in men & women is the reason for the decline in humanity. But of course to most guys males are blameless and it’s all a woman’s fault in the end.

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      • Teaching girls “a guys game” is exactly wrong as teaching guys to be “nice”, and that’s something that the men unfortunately have been taught for decades .

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    • on August 8, 2011 at 2:37 pm Apple Dapple

      What do you mean, “wait or look for someone that wants you“?

      Define “you”, please. Is all your behavior genetic? Fixed at birth? If you were raised to fart at the table, must you fart forever at every table you sit at? Just to be “you”? No.

      Behavior is learned. Some of it may annoy people. Some of it may disgust people. Some of it may repel the opposite sex.

      If so, change it. You’ll be happier.

      If weak, boring, submissive behavior makes a man’s girlfriend hate him and treat him like shit, he should stop doing it. She’ll be happier, and she’ll make him happier. She’ll like him better, and he’ll like himself better. You don’t shitcan the adequate woman you’ve got and go looking for a woman who likes doormats, because there aren’t any. If every relationship you’ve been in was fucked, YOU are fucked. You are the common factor. Fix YOU. You’re the only one you have any control over anyhow.

      This is not manipulation, and it’s not playing games. Maybe weak behavior “comes naturally” to a lot of men (after all, it’s the way most modern American men were raised to act with women), but after they get some practice and a whole lot of positive reinforcement on their improved behavior, the new stuff will come naturally instead.

      How do I know? Guess. Just guess.

      Don’t blow this out of proportion, either. Never mind the bravado. Maybe 1% of these men are are ever going to be lotharios, breaking hearts left and right and heartlessly manipulating women. 80% are just going to improve their relationships with the women in their lives (The rest can’t learn and they’re fucked. Life’s tough all over.)

      Maybe some men will overdo it a bit. So what? I should care? The vast majority of the men I know go through life on eggshells because they fear their wives’ arbitrary and inexplicable anger and unappeasable, ever-changing demands. It’s normal for women to act that way when they have the power in the relationship. When they have it, they abuse it. It’s relatively rare for men to abuse it (hell, 50% would be RELATIVELY rare compared to 99%, and it’s lower than that). So I really don’t give a shit if a few men take it too far. It’s by far the lesser evil, from an olympian perspective. And from my own personal perspective, I see women usually side with each other, so I don’t feel bad about automatically siding with men in all but the worst cases.

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  49. I’m not sure when I gave the impression I was ignoring you.

    1. “If a man is a slut, why do you feel the need to take on that behavior to just prove a point? Do you want women to be rallied behind for being sexually loose too? ”

    When did I say I support or take on that behavior. o.O

    When did I say women should be sexually loose too? o.O

    How did you get tha I feel this need when stated nothing of the sort?

    I just said a slut is a slut. The actions are the same so to me the labels are. The standard is just the consequence and men rarely face consequences for bad behavior or lesser character of any kind unless it’s illegal.

    Nowhere did ay girls be sluts.

    2. “There are consequences for sexually loose behavior no matter the gender. Isn’t that enough satisfaction for a woman? So why feel the need as a woman to take on the most negative characteristics of a man just so you can “show em?”

    When did I say women should take on the behavior? o.O

    I’ve been talking about labels. To me a slut is based on actions that’s it. Where have you been getting the rest of this?

    As for satisfication: the only consequnce guys face is an STD that’s it. It’s not the same and quite honestly just a consequence of unprotected sex not being sexually loose.

    Thre’s no true satisfication for women when dealng with men unless you find a rare one or you game them.

    3. “Men act accordingly to how women are receptive to them.”

    Not really. Men like people do act in according to what will get them what they want.

    If a guy ants a hot girl it doesn’t matter how the other girls act just the one he wants. If that hot girl doesn’t want him he’ll either game her or be what she wants. Guess which one guys choose.

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    • your methodology of thought ..if you can call it that ..more like narcissistic attention seeking nonsense is why most US women are miserable ..and the culture is gone to shit..

      you can call the foolish behavior and absurd 14 year old girl emotional thinking ..thinking ..but it’s not quite up to par in intellectual quality

      ..write longer blocks of text ..in caps..then we’ll know you are really smart..and were not kidding

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    • “I just said a slut is a slut. The actions are the same so to me the labels are.”
      But it’s not exactly the same, is it?.. A guy has to have skill to be a male slut. It doesn’t take much skill to be a female slut. It’s like the difference between riding a snowboard and walking… Of course, just because something is easy, doesn’t mean you’re bad for doing it, so I don’t see why “slut” is such a negative word.

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      • Slut is a negative word because it implies low value both of the person being called that and the activity through which they earn it. Sex with someone who actually cares about you is better than sex with someone who doesn’t even for men.

        Even if they don’t give a crap about you, for some reason they want you to care about them.

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      • Most popular request by men of high end escorts? The Girlfriend Experience. True story, I saw it on a documentary.

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      • Paying someone 500$ to be bitched at? Those people sure got some weird preferences.

        If anything, you pay the escorts NOT to have the gf experience (not that I personally feel that sex is worth paying 500$ – or even 50$, even though rationally speaking that would probably be the sane conclusion if you looked at economics alone).

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      • GFE being a popular request is an urban legend. Men love hookers because of their honesty.

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      • @Nupi – “Paying someone 500$ to be bitched at?”

        Honey I said gf, not wife. 😉 Girlfriend experience means intimacy, feeling like you matter to her.

        @Neil – “Men love hookers because of their honesty.”

        You’re kidding right? They don’t really cum you know. They are ‘acting’ like are all into servicing you in whatever way you desire.
        It’s a J O B. I get that’s it’s less complicated than a relationship however.

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      • No, I’m not kidding. Do you really think men go to hookers because they are seeking affection? They want to get in, hit it and then leave. Women want this, too. (Not the hit-it part, the pay I mean). That is pure honesty.

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      • But I am glad you know nothing of prostitution. You are a good girl from Etobicoke.

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      • Wrong side of the country for me Neil. We are much more conservative this way.

        GFE’s are purchased by high end users, not street pick ups. They aren’t dropping $500, they pay in the thousands. They like the whole experience, dinner, small talk and then action. Men like connection as much as women, and some men can pay for it without having to worry about real relationship intimacy. These women are 8+, intelligent and don’t look the part.

        My point was intended to be for high-end escorts who offer a variety of experiences (fetish interests, kink etc) the GFE is the number one choice.

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      • Come on, you’re from Toronto, sugar plum.

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      • Nope, small town Nova Scotia girl transplanted to the West. Visited Toronto twice though.

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      • I’m not sure I get it. Being a slut is bad because a slut doesn’t actually care about the guy she’s having sex with? So the sex feels incomplete for the guy?

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      • …because a slut doesn’t actually care about the guy…

        No, it’s guys <= plural. Cock carousel. It has nothing to do with guys felling complete or otherwise. She's a cum & dump material by the nature of her actions. Slut.

        Capiche?

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  50. Think of it as a shit test. As such the standard rules apply:

    Agree & amplify (to absurdity), aka cocky funny
    Change the subject
    Ignore her

    I like CF the most, which also serves as a nice change in subject/distraction.

    Her: “What are you thinking about?”
    Me: “My awesomeness.” :smirk:
    Her: :rolls eyes and playful response:

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  51. Think of it as a shit test. As such the standard rules apply:

    Agree & amplify (to absurdity), aka cocky funny
    Change the subject
    Ignore her

    I like CF the most, which also serves as a nice change in subject/distraction.

    Her: “What are you thinking about?”
    Me: “My awesomeness.” :smirk:
    Her: :rolls eyes and playful response:

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    • I like that response! That would make me laugh and make me realize I was being a dork for asking the question.

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    • I don’t know. Any guy who runs around declaring how awesome he is appears, to me, more insecure. It reminds me of my little brother, who constantly says (while playing World of Warcraft) “I am so awesome. SO AWESOME. I just pwned you.”

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      • The smirk is what sells it. It’s hard to put into words the subtext it conveys. I guess it shows you’re not taking yourself too seriously mixed with gently tooling her through non-supplication.

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      • Women love power. That’s something that works on every gal.

        If a gal asks me a STUPID question that is unanswerable, and I don’t feel like playing, I’ll call one of my employees in front of her on speakerphone and say “Ted, Dada here. This gal wants to know what I’m thinking about right now, can you tell her?”

        After he’s done, I hang up (without saying thanks or goodbye) and then say “What are you thinking about?”

        That works pretty well and gets them to STFU and just swoon for a solid 15 minutes.

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      • Of course, if you’re “Ted”, this is a bad place to be.

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      • Unless Ted is alpha. Then it’s just fun.

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    • on August 8, 2011 at 2:42 pm Apple Dapple

      Excellent

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  52. 4. “obviously this is working on certain women.”
    Game could work on all women if it was pure psychological manipulation instead of being weighed down by common sense.

    But women with self esteem issues are differently the easiest targets.

    5. “If women don’t want to be gaismed then women need to WOMAN UP and start recognizing that they will have to make choices – either be with a good guy and stick with him or date and screw losers who will play games with you. If women demanded higher standards from men, men would act accordingly, b/c they want to get women. When women lower the bar for men to get sex, what do you think will happen? As long as women are “playing the game” we’re not getting anywhere. We’re actually encouraging more game playing. ”

    A woman making demands = b*tch.

    Men would only act accordingly if all women did this. Guys act based on their options. All women behaving one way in a country wouldn’t matter there’s traveling. If only a few do so they’d have to be the most sought after so most guys would change to get a chance with them as guys value youth/beauty.

    Ever heard of American Women Suck? Women acting a certain way doesn’t change guy’s behavior. Guys act acording to what will get them what they ant. A woman’s behavior only matters if she makes it asier or harder.

    There’s no encouraging if women play games. Guys will always play games. Most people prefer control & men willakways find a way to justify it- I’m a man I need to be in control, I need to be alpha, she’s emotional, she doesn’t know what she wants.

    It’s odd how you think of men as children who need to be taught to behave and dumb sexmachines who only act to get sex. If they’re just mindless playtoys as your statements suggest why so upset with girls manipulatung them?

    I’m in support of womaning up & manning up. Seems like you only support womaning up. Do you not expect men to hold themselves to high standards?

    As for women not getting anywhere it’s a guy world to get anywhere dting/relationship wise you either get the rare guy or control the typicakl ones.

    6. I suggest women who think like you look at the biological natures of both men and women. I would never say its right for ANYONE to be slutty (male or female) but the fact is there are greater consequences for women who try this kind of behavior than it is for men. It is what it is. There are so many damaged women today who throw away their true power b/c they are listening to self motivated feminists telling them only half of the story. Double standards exist everywhere in life! They’re shitty but it is what it is sometimes. Doesn’t mean playing up to them and trying to level yourself on that particular standard is going to get you anywhere.
    Keep giving those poor uninformed women your slippery slope to nowhere message. You won’t be the first.

    I’m not disputing the consequences. It’s a guy’s world and always will be. I’m just stating to me a slut is a slut. I’m not talking about consequences.

    The lack of consequences does make it okay for men to be sluts so much so that people find it humorous if I labeled a guy based on what his actions say.

    No one’s disputing double standards. I’m merely stating you are what you act like. To me the standards are the consequences. I’m not disputing consequences I could care less.

    Yes double standards are shitty too bad women have most of them while guys are now breaking free of the few ones they had.

    True power? It’s a guy’s world.

    The only true power is either independence, companionship with members of your gender, finding that rare non gaming (unmasculine ?) guy, or manipulating a guy to get control.

    You can try demanding and see how many guysyou’ll have to get through. I advise that too for girls who decline my gaming offer. They’re still looking.

    My girls:

    Poor? They get what they want and are in control.

    Misinformed? So guys don’t learn game to get what they want? So guys don’t think women don’t know what they ant? Sowhat are they misinformed about?

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  53. her: ” What are you thinking about ?”

    meaning: A desire to get emotionally closer to you. Perhaps feeling distance.

    him: No reply is necessary, a smile, a hug, a kiss, a touch to confirm that emotional proximity is still present is enough.

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  54. Since most women are skilled at reading nonverbal expressions and most men are inept at hiding theirs, the what are you thinking about question is usually asked after she observes you doing some serious mental gymnastics. So, you either look like you’re about to kill someone, cry, or swallow some emotions. So, good advice because in that state most guys would either blurt out the truth or say something stupid like “nothing…”

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  55. I usually answer candidly, but my thoughts are so random that the candid answer sounds either aloof or cocky. Common answers are “A chick with 3 tits” or “How I can make money by running a midget rodeo”

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  56. Heartiste.

    Why is none of the male commenters on a PUA site, doing anything to pick up any of the women here ? There is only animosity. Where is that Mr X, whose comments elicits coy responses from the women ? Of what use is a battlefield strategy, that can’t even conquer the home front ???

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    • Hows your internet game? Lead the charge!

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      • “charge” ?! That’s for Jezebel.com !!! And I see you managed to come back. How did you manage that ??? Here we are taught NOT to charge.

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    • Excellent question, esp. seeing as there are some tasty and rather intelligent pieces here. There’s even a married matron whose subtle dominating ways can make me a little horny.

      I think Firepower keeps up his end as far as licking the alphabet on the internet clit.

      I’m loving this female takeover — it’s f’ing sexy in some inexplicable, sweet-smelling way.

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    • Oh, I’m rather pleased to see aoefe back after what seemed like a lengthy sabbatical.

      Problem is that she’s now somewhat educated in the crimson arts, so she’s crippled her hamster. She’d be a much tougher conquest.

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      • Oh I still have a hamster, I’m just more aware of it. I have to work at not letting her spin out of control. I’m tougher to conquest only because I am at long last in a relationship. (trumpets sound) I do have to credit some of it’s success with learning to tame the crazy little rodent. Thanks for the kind words Grunt. 🙂

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    • Marellus wrote: Why is none of the male commenters on a PUA site, doing anything to pick up any of the women here ? There is only animosity. Where is that Mr X, whose comments elicits coy responses from the women ? Of what use is a battlefield strategy, that can’t even conquer the home front ???

      Anyone who uses a half-formed bleeding-edge medium of communication for “pick up” is a fool by definition. There are no courtesies or customs nor a widely recognized social etiquette in these forums. It’s the Wild West online. Whoever tries to rope faceless, pseudonymous “women” in the comment threads of blog posts has zero understanding of game. Game is based on subverbal communication, things withheld, establishing presence, spoken words, atmosphere, mystery, and command. None of this is achievable at levels of more than 10 or 20% at best in a medium of pure words.

      That said, n/a is right. Women attracted to the truth (even the truth that diminishes them, such as what’s in currency here) are attractive at their essence, regardless of their disembodied form. We cannot be certain of the more important qualities of the women who post here — their bodies, their youth, their health — but we are given tantalizing hints at what could be. We are permitted to imagine that their submission to game might come in an attractive package, so long as we can’t see them.

      I chatted like many people back when chat-rooms first became popular and made all kinds of connections with all kinds of people all over the world. And after you experience a disembodied intimacy — then you meet the body? It is completely backwards, and creepy in a way that words cannot express. We are meant to meet people by first seeing them, and then slowly fitting their personality into their familiar physical presence. If you become familiar with the disembodied person first, and then suddenly attempt to stretch the body around it, something slips through the cracks.

      In fits and starts, the internet culture is getting better at redressing its creepy social deficiencies. But my policy for at least ten years has been to establish the real world connection before attempting anything approaching intimacy online. Because otherwise — forget about being duped (That’s a man, baby) — you begin the relationship in reverse, and you are swimming against the natural current of increasing familiarity in the order it was meant to be: face, style, vibe, tone, speech, body, thoughts, words.

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      • Word King A!

        When I was online dating it took me awhile to figure out why I didn’t like the men once I’d actually met them in person. They were nice enough, even attractive, looked like their pictures some of them, but something was out of place. I realized we were doing it backwards, we weren’t experiencing attraction the way its meant to be – 3D. So many signals, even the way a person holds their mouth, or tilts their head can be off-putting (happened to me). I learned to exchange one to two emails, have one call and then agree to meet within the week. No chance for false intimacy to build. Women and probably men too make the mistake waiting awhile to build a connection before going through the actual meeting, big mistake. We create fantasies in our heads from email exchange and even from postings here. There are a few posters here I’d love to meet just from their writing style.

        There was a great show called Dating in the Dark which proved this point. All attractive people they were introduced in the dark (6 people – 3 and 3), then they decided based on conversation only who they’d go on a date with. The dates were all in the dark. They even got ‘busy’ in the dark. But very rarely once the person saw the other person at the end of the show did they choose to continue seeing them. See they had built an image in their head and it didn’t match. On one episode they had a sketch artist on and asked the men and women to describe what they thought the other person looked like, they were way off. So even though they were above average in looks, they were turned down because they didn’t match the ideal they had in their mind. I remember one show where the chemistry was fantastic, but he looked much younger than she thought he would (he also wore an ill-fitting suit) and turned him down based on that.

        Sorry for the ramble. 🙂

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  57. on August 8, 2011 at 3:37 pm a.nonny.mous

    I’ve figured out a great technique to short circuit broads from asking this question, along with the other annoying chick questions, such as “How does this look on me?”, “Does this make me look fat?” , etc.

    My simple two word response to any of these questions is the same: “You’re fat.”

    Now, I give my girls a bit of warning. The first time they ask the question, I look at them and tell them: ” That’s a female question. It’s annoying and meaningless. I’m not going to answer it. If you ask me again, I’m simply going to tell you you’re fat.”

    Usually they whine, but I don’t explain much more, other than to say, “No matter what response I give to that question, it will only create problems. You’re fat.”

    And then I do it, especially when she forgets or “forgets” as broads tend to do.

    “Honey, what are you thinking?” “You’re fat.” (but always smirk when you say it)

    “Does this look good on me?” “You’re fat.” (smirk)

    “Does this make me look fat?” “You’re fat.” (smirk)

    etc.

    You’d be surprised how quickly this pavlonian thing works. They know you don’t mean you think they’re fat, but chicks get so hurt by even the joking accusation—especially by a man—that they’re overweight, they will stop asking you those questions within the first few times unless they really do forget.

    It’s like a shock collar to chick’s mumbly meaningless chatter.

    N.B.: some may play on your heart strings. “Look, it really hurts when you say that.”

    Your response (still smirking, but distracted and dismissive, as if she were a child): “Then you shouldn’t ask me that anymore.” (and hold firm on the line).

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    • Brilliant, frigging manipulative, I love it 😛

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    • Ya.

      I use variations of “that’s a girl question” for annoying chick chatter.

      I’ll say “I’m not a girl. Go talk to your female friends about that”.

      I like your explicit training to circumvent the annoyance. The same effect can usually be had in a more subtle way, if the girl is moderately attentive. Instead of an electroshock to the temples each time she gives you a negative behavior, you just ignore it. But be sure to positively re-enforce other behaviors and give a general positive attitude.

      I save my shocks for things that really piss me off, and then I use percussion bombs.

      The manly attitude is to first of all know what is a chick question. Then to not feel beholden to play that game. The third step is discretionary – ignore, ripost, or shock.

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  58. In memory of an earlier title of this blog: http://www.frumforum.com/the-prowl-can-i-lobby-a-guy-i-rejected

    It boggles the mind, it truly does.

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    • I love the comment that says she should have just fucked him.

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      • I think the guy in the article could learn some Game and needs to visit this blog.

        Her: I am seeing someone
        Him: So?

        For the record I believe she was rude for ignoring the first email. Here is an easy response, “I really enjoyed our air conditioned, conversation, sure I’d be interested in carrying the conversation further. I don’t want to be presumptuous however, but I am seeing someone if that’s the direction you were going?”

        She is unwilling to own the fact that she screwed up too (his response and behaviour was a little silly). If she’d handled it better she would have been able to ‘lobby’ him saving face for both of them. Self-awareness low.

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  59. on August 8, 2011 at 5:14 pm Boner Rampage

    too much theory

    just don’t say nuthin don’t give her nuthin

    just keep f’in her good

    you must be extremely Alpha like me

    not a KJ or a blog nerd who thinks too hard

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  60. If she’s standing, grab or slap her ass lightly.
    If she’s seating or you are in a table with her, grab her hand and do a slight circular motion, like if you were playing with her clit. Works wonders if she already knows about your amazing finger abilities (asuming you have them).
    Has anybody here used the classic, “if I told you I would have to kill you?”

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    • How would “If I told you, you’d be TRYING to kill me. At which point I would sadly have to kill you?”

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  61. Good lord. Think it may be best to skip the comments from now on.

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  62. I’ve never waited to call anyone back either. We’re all tethered to our cell phones so it’s obvious when someone is playing this silly waiting game.

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  63. Oops, the above was in response to something Neecy said at 10:14am.

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  64. Ha! I just realized that Heartiste now has a serious girlfriend. This blog is only a few steps away from a focus on marriage counseling.

    I see a 2017 post now — “Teaching your kids game”.

    -Mercy

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    • Is that why he renamed it? Hmm… A weak strategem, if so. I’ve had girlfriends track down stuff about me online that I couldn’t find myself, even when they told me what to look for. She’ll find it.

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  65. “raping your sister”

    dead silence should follow.

    Then, after 3 beats, say, “But only if she was drunk.”

    Finish off with kick to the gut, double middle finger to her face, then stunner. Walk out of room with her unconscious, arms raised in triumph, sound of glass breaking.

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  66. did someone here ask udolipixie what she was thinking?

    or to please explain everything she was ever thinking or feeling?

    who would be dumb enough to ask what she’s thinking – unless its her therapist gettin $200 an hour

    That type of thinking inspires visits to strippers hookers and mute colonies

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    • My first time in the comments here, but everything she wrote was tl;dr. Also the other verbose chick, that she was arguing with.

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    • on August 10, 2011 at 1:47 pm The Chrome Microphone

      “did someone here ask udolipixie what she was thinking?

      or to please explain everything she was ever thinking or feeling?”

      She’s a woman. We didn’t have to.

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  67. From “Two and a Half Men”

    Courtney: What are you thinking about?
    Charlie: I was fantasizing about other women.
    Courtney: That doesn’t necessarily mean it’s over.
    Charlie: I pretended you were the big blue chick from Avatar.
    Courtney: It’s over.

    -Classic!

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  68. Pro-tip:

    Skip over the posts written by females.

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    • on August 9, 2011 at 8:26 am too late for romance

      No kidding.

      What the hell happened to this place? The obvious female attention whoring and the pathetic responses contradict almost every great post made in the blog’s initial few years.

      It’s time to slice this Buddha’s throat, take a nice hot shower to wash the back splatter away and get out into the real world.

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  69. This is somethign i did right, even with the before me. My answer is always the truth:
    “Nada damn thing.”
    “The flight speed of an unladen African swallow.”
    “Quantum physics.”

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  70. “Quantum physics.”

    HAHA,I liked that one

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  71. I get this one all the time. It’s a shit test to see if you’re listening to her.

    What I tend to do is:

    Her: “What are you thinking about?”

    Me: “Hmm?” (quickly try to remember SOMETHING she mentioned in the last week)

    Her: “I said, what are you thinking about?”

    Me: “Nothing. So what ended up happening with that new Chinese girl at the office?”

    Shit test. Shit test. Shit test.

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    • Why would you want her to know that you’ve been paying attention?

      That’s sweet and all, but reassurance won’t get her working harder on pleasing you.

      Mystery serves that aim better.

      What am I thinking? You’ll never know, so you’d better watch your step.

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  72. Best post in weeks Blogger, very nice

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  73. Give her your Yoda impression: “Hmm, spank you I will.”

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  74. Where the hell are Doug1 and Rollo? Too many weak commenters these days.

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  75. Where is the banner with O chained to a pillar that is usually seen at the top of this blog?

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  76. This thread has completely lost its focus. It really needs to be rebooted—- all the way back to the 1030s when Auther Rex was the only recognized King and his daily job was slaying and hacking apart all of those semi-human beings that do NOT belong here.!!!!

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  77. You could always throw it back at her and ask …

    What are you thinking about?

    Then playfully tease her about her answer.

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  78. “Too many weak commenters these days.”

    Agreed …. unfortunately I think it’s also a reflection of the quality of the blog in general of late.

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    • Also; the blog could be instantly improved by 50% if all posts by Neecy and her cohorts were immediately deleted by the editor(s).

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  79. If I were still stupid enough to ask this question, the following are the ones that would work wonders on me (in no particular order),

    – saying nothing accompanied by an eye roll or other facial expression that shows how stupid the question is.

    – “Gay shit” – fdsa

    – “ham sandwich” C-Money

    -“Ripping your clothes off and ravaging that body of yours” – Meh

    – “My awesomeness” with appropriate smirk – Nutz

    – Having Ted supply the answer especially if he can come up with something cocky. (Might get overly embarrassing for her if he stumbles for an answer.) A. B. Daba

    “How I can make more money by running a midget rodeo” – Kane

    Unless you’re in a LTR and she knows something is bothering you, cock sure and funny is the best way to go the first couple of times. If she keeps it up and it gets overly annoying I really like the “Your fat” comment. (Sorry I can’t find who said this one again.)

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    • “If I were still stupid enough to ask this question,”

      LOl Sting. yes I think its such a ridiculous question for a woman to ask. it seems some women get uncomfortable as soon as there is a little silence between them and their man. Silence is okay. I find the question very needy and somewhat intrusive. Just b/c you are in a relationship doesn’t mean that your every thought needs to be shared with that person.

      I too like the cocky/stupid replies back. it says “don’t ask me anymore” without saying so. LOL

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  80. – I think exactly about what you think i’m thinking.
    – And what would that be?
    – Some things are better left unspoken

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  81. Exclusive: science proves Heartiste is a fraud

    The more feminist a society becomes, the more sex betas receive:

    http://jezebel.com/5828794/research-claims-more-gender-equality-means-more-sex

    [Heartiste: You might want to look in the mirror to see the real fraud. Nothing in that study demonstrates that the increased amount of sex in feminist societies is benefiting beta males. It is more likely that women, being the hpergamous creatures they are, have been capitalizing on the freer sex market by lavishing more of their attention on alpha males.]

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  82. “The more sex betas receive”… from used up ex skanks.

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  83. My standard response has always been “Me.” followed by either silence, a fadeaway to do something else, or a change in subject if I’m feeling chatty. It works pretty well.

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  84. I am thinking about how the slutwalk participants are getting uglier.
    http://pajamasmedia.com/zombie/2011/08/09/deconstructing-slutwalk/?singlepage=true

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  85. “How glorious my jizz looked splattered across your rack the other day/just now”

    you can substitute in a$$, back, face, stomach, etc. for rack

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  86. What are you thinking? How about, “If I told you, you’d slap my face.” With a shit eating grin, of course.

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  87. What are you thinking about?

    “Bush”
    “well the whole first family really”

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  88. – I think exactly about what you think i’m thinking.
    – And what would that be?
    – Some things are better left unspoken

    Gilgamesh, I’ve used exactly that one, and the followup. Gmta.

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    • I used it once in my native language (french). It’s even better in english.
      However, i delivered it in a very bad way because i laughed. It could be powerful if it’s said seriously with a mysterious aura.

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  89. I can’t believe we all, including Heartiste, just forgot about the truly best possible answer:

    “What are you thinking about?”
    “It’s complicated.”

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  90. on August 9, 2011 at 7:34 pm The Chrome Microphone

    There’s a commercial in the UK with this question. The guy says “Which one can run faster – A horse or a dog?”

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  91. lol @ the bitchassness of this beta provider

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  92. Ah, yes. The UK tonight.
    Here is a question: Can a fit young rioter carrying a stolen TV run faster or not faster after taking 9 buckshot pellets to his upper thighs.
    Rhetorical question, as always.

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  93. I second the blow job.

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  94. She was crying last night and said, “You have to say something, tell me anything!” I responded “elephant” and she immediately went from shaking-body crying to heavy laughter. I laughed too. Then we had sex.

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    • on August 10, 2011 at 12:07 pm The Chrome Microphone

      what the fuck, that is truly masterful.

      serious balls to pull that off in the face of floods of tears.

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  95. I’ve been reading about shit tests for ages and I can’t get past the notion that :
    if you fail a shit test, that doesn’t instantly game over, does it? as in there’s no recovering from it?

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    • Depends on how big the test, but for the most part, no, it is not game over if you fail a couple. If a LTR quite a few will typically be thrown out before game over. Meeting for the first time, you may get 2-3 or more depending on the girl and the size of the test. If you think the test is a big one, though and you just met? Don’t fail it.

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  96. Aiee. Men, when a girl says, “What are you thinking about?” she doesn’t want to know … what you are thinking about. A straightforward question and a straightforward answer is how men communicate — almost to the point of subverbal indicators sufficing as well as words.

    When women say, “What are you thinking about?” she is begging admittance into your mystery. It is a good sign of progress — she is intrigued by your laconic aura and wants to be one of the privileged few to tiptoe into your world. The last thing she wants is a literal answer to her question, even a quippy one.

    Has an uninterested woman ever in history asked a man that question? It is a confession of submissiveness, as if to say, “Give me special access to your secrets to validate my [growing] feminine attachment to you.”

    So you can answer with a joke or a deflection or with bald honesty. Whatever. As Le Chateau Heartiste Renegade Citizen Roissy says, the typical beta response is a fail; gratuitous flattery wastes an opportunity to press the moment into achieving her spiritual capture. The exact opposite thing she wants (though what she probably consciously expects) is a reflection of her gooey intimacy. If a man “lets her in” to his sanctum sanctorum without challenge, she will adjudge his fortress of solitude to be flimsy and its master a bitch. What kind of valuables would someone store in a tin box with a diary lock on it? Like, you know the band is sucky if there’s no cover charge.

    Make her work for your precious verbal communication. Then when she has earned it, a few words of trite random bullshit will seem like profundity and set her inner thighs atingle. The content then won’t matter. It’s all about the context you’ve laid down and the tone of your speech.

    Once you have elicited that question from her, she has bared her neck to you. Any subsequent teasing is the pure amusement of a victory lap.

    “What are you thinking about?”

    “I’m thinking I own you.”

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  97. on August 11, 2011 at 12:53 am old guy, lower case

    “Crime”

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  98. I’d like GreatBooksForMen to chine in on this one…

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  99. “can an athiest be a cartessian dualist?”

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  100. “What are you thinking about”

    This means, you aren’t being a good conversationalist and she’s starting to get bored with you. This is a polite way of saying the silence is getting obvious.

    Women like intelligent companions who can engage them. So, start engaging. And don’t talk about yourself.

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    • Right, if this question becomes redundant, it’s a clear sign that something is wrong.
      Maybe if someone has that “strong silent type” appeal, he gets a pass. But it’s also a sign that he lacks game, and he would be better off developing conversation skills.

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    • All time is not conversation time.

      Women usually say this when men are enjoying a personal moment of quiet. It could be that silence disturbs her, as she feels nervous and uncomfortable not being constantly reassured with chatter.

      This is not my business. There are times when I’m quiet.

      A simple “stop talking” will suffice in those times.

      I’m not a pet monkey she can prod for continual entertainment.

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  101. What is the purpose of asking me things like would you still want to be with me if I only had one leg? For info this was immediately post sex and I just flatly said no. Good or bad response?

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    • I get questions like that all the time. The favorite is “would you still be with me if I was fat”. The runner up is “if I was ugly”.

      Like you, I don’t delve into a long conversation about it. Nor avoid it. A simple no will do.

      Question answered.

      Some will tell you this is not tactful, or not playful enough to be considered game. For me, it’s game, because it’s your frame.

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    • on August 15, 2011 at 11:59 am brightstormyday

      why would a girl ask this? She’s clearly not winning.

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  102. […] – ““What Are You Thinking About?”“, “The Reluctant […]

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  103. on August 15, 2011 at 11:58 am brightstormyday

    Is it bad that men frequently ask me this?

    I’m tempted to say,”I’m not,” just to see their reactions.

    “I’m not surprised!”

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