Relationship Game Thoughts

If your girlfriend is complaining about your selfishness, you’re doing it right.

Your gift to her is that you don’t go around sleeping with other women.

Meaningless acts of romance are far more meaningful to girls than meaningful acts of romance.

Similarly, spontaneous expressions of romance will linger in a girl’s memory far longer than elaborately planned romantic gestures.

‘Romantic gestures’ is redundant. *Any* gesture done for a girl who already likes you is romantic.

Role-playing is worth ten diamond tennis bracelets in a girl’s captured imagination.

A girl’s urge to pressure you to marry is inversely correlated to her depth of love for you.

Corollary: a marriage ultimatum means she is on the cusp of falling out of love with you.

Love is as corrupted as any other barter in the mating market, but its great advantage is that it never feels that way.

Marriage counselors could save more marriages simply by uttering these two words: tease her.

The alpha male way to apologize for a minor offense is a shoulder rub. The alpha male way to apologize for a grave offense is cunnilingus.

All regrets and apologies should be expressed long enough after the offense was committed that a direct connection between offense and contrition is plausibly deniable. This is known as the Betafication Avoidance Buffer.

A strong relationship is defined as one in which your girlfriend’s friends all want to sleep with you.

Once a girl falls in love with you, she will stop taking the counsel of her friends’ opinions regarding your compatibility with her.

Corollary: You are then free to piss off her friends as much as you want.

Love is margin for error.

Love like an idealist, think like a cynic.

Relationships are more erector set than blank white canvas.

But when the time comes to paint, paint with the entire palette.

If she wants to see you one more day per week than you want to see her, you’re doing it right.

Texting is a great way to get out of hour-long nightly phone conversations, while at the same time keeping the embers of infatuation burning.

If she plans three dates for every two of yours, you’re doing it right.

A girl in love is one who withers as much from withheld compliments as from supplied criticism.

Give her an email address that you rarely access. There are many ways to stoke the female yearning for an elusive man.

Her infidelity is an automatic relationship or marriage terminator, except under one circumstance: she was cheating with your other girlfriend.

If she sneaks away to reapply her lipstick after every make-out, she is afraid she’ll stop pleasing you. Or she’s a street walker.

A bay window, a cool summer’s night breeze, and ambient light backgrounding fettuccine alfredo and pinot noir is the female equivalent of receiving the perfect hummer.

The neg never dies. It just fades away.

If she assumes the doggie position unprompted, you’re doing it right.

If she gives you mouth love without you having to ask for it, you’re doing it more right than you can fathom.

“You make me feel happy” is the pre-cum of a girl’s oxytocin-greased mental ejaculation. Her orgasmic “I love you” is less than one month away.

A good relationship is one in which you joke that you are her king, and there is an undercurrent of wishful seriousness in her playful response.

If you tell her you feel a little under the weather, and she comes over to your place with OJ, herbal tea, soup, and cough medicine, you’re doing it right.

Don’t rush the naturally emerging stages of the relationship. Men who rush things are insecure about their staying power. Men who have options are comfortable taking their time getting entangled with a girl. Most hot young girls prefer the latter; cougars, fatties, and single moms prefer the former.

If you are significantly higher value than the girl you are dating, don’t underestimate the degree to which she can become obsessed with you. An available alpha male giving signals of commitment is like finding a giant diamond lying on the ground in a state park; it just doesn’t happen for most girls.

When she starts inviting you on her vacations and business trips, she loves being with you. When she pays your way, she hates being without you.

Better she is an infatuated lover than a loving dilettante.

If you haven’t had an argument within the first two months, you’ve passed an important test. If you haven’t had an argument within the first year, you’ve failed an important test.

Girls take seriously their pets’ opinions of you. One purring cat can shave off seven hours of courtship.

Beware girls who always want to go to “events” or “do interesting things” with you. They fear the connection will break without the scaffolding of a contrived shared experience. If she’s happy sitting on a park bench with you people watching she’s a keeper.

Joyfully fornicate with girls who are always drunk when they’re with you. But don’t date them.

If a girl loves you, all problematic matters that would have presented an obstacle to the initial seduction become irrelevant or are actually turned in your favor.

After one month together, you will be astonished at how often and how vigorously a girl in love will qualify herself to you without you even trying to instigate it. Don’t interrupt her when she’s doing this.

It is a girl’s natural state of mind to question your worth when she is not in love. In contrast, it is her natural state of mind to question her own worth when she is in love.

When a girl is down on herself, do not try to lift her up. It is enough that you are there listening to her.

Saying less is always preferable to saying more. She will be inclined to imbue your silence with positive connotations, and your loquacity with suspicion.

Girls will sometimes preemptively break up with you if they suspect you are too much alpha for them. In these cases, the impending breakup is best averted by nuzzling your head in her boobage for ten minutes. Your body language should mimic a cat’s.

Occasional displays of testosterone (ODTs) are more effective, require less effort, and are more fun than “talking it out” when the relationship is rocky. Curse profligately, punch a wall, slam a door, grab a wrist, break a lamp, menacingly wield a heavy object, and disappear for days at a time — then sit back as she swoons and resubmits to your authority.

Preternaturally serene mindfucking is the ultimate ODT, but should not be attempted by men low in intelligence or feeble of will. Do not mindfuck girls who are less than an 8; you could destroy them for any future beta desperate to settle down with a has-been and populate the country with future generations of danegeld-paying cogs.

You know that song “Love is Like Oxygen”? There’s no such thing as too high.

You could spend $100,000 on a lavish wedding, but the thing she’ll most fondly remember is that erotic note you hastily scrawled on a cocktail napkin and passed to her under the table. Think about it.





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  1. Awesome observations. I’d like more posts on ODTs please.

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  2. I like this!

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  3. on August 26, 2010 at 5:06 pm gunslingergregi

    You fucking surfer.

    he he he

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  4. “You could spend $100,000 on a lavish wedding, but the thing she’ll most fondly remember is that erotic note you hastily scrawled on a cocktail napkin and passed to her under the table. Think about it.”

    i recently witnessed a facebook version of this. gold.

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  5. Excellent stuff. This should be taught to boys in school.

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  6. My so always tells my how selfish I am right before we have mind blowing sex.

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  7. on August 26, 2010 at 5:13 pm gunslingergregi

    ”””’A strong relationship is defined as one in which your girlfriend’s friends all want to sleep with you.””””’

    Take that to the bank.

    ”””””Once a girl falls in love with you, she will stop taking the counsel of her friends’ opinions regarding your compatibility with her.”””””

    See above.

    ”””””‘Romantic gestures’ is redundant. *Any* gesture done for a girl who already likes you is romantic.”””””””’

    Interesting thought.

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  8. In my experience, I’d say all the above is true.

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  9. This stuff beats every marriage guide ever written.

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  10. If you make her ask for permission before giving you mouth love you’re doing it perfect.

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  11. If your GF cuts her hair the way you want it, youre doing it right.

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  12. Gold throughout.

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  13. CR,

    You’re getting lazy and filling in. But I don’t mind; this is good stuff.

    All regrets and apologies should be expressed long enough after the offense was committed that a direct connection between offense and contrition is plausibly deniable. This is known as the Betafication Avoidance Buffer.

    B.A.B.: Brilliance.

    This is among the best gems here.

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  14. Well laid out post… 2 paid vacations to a little Island in Puerto Rico were probably the biggest rewards. It’s counter intuitive and people can read about it up and down….but until they actually stop putting in effort they won’t see half the benifits. The sad part is that once I start seeing girls cross that line of falling hard, the chase is over and I naturally lose 90% of my interest.

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  15. this all boils down to attraction. and that’s where almost all relationship advice fails. telling couples to focus on working out their problems and improve their communication skills is the equivalent of telling a lovelorn loser to “just be yourself.” if you want to improve a relationship, work on being more attractive to your partner.

    a woman who is legitimately attracted to you will overlook all manner of personal shortcomings and brush aside almost any obstacle, while a woman who is no longer attracted to you will find fault with almost everything that you do.

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  16. “A strong relationship is defined as one in which your girlfriend’s friends all want to sleep with you.”

    Best line yet

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  17. @ bob

    I second that!

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  18. “A girl’s urge to pressure you to marry is inversely correlated to her depth of love for you. Corollary: a marriage ultimatum means she is on the cusp of falling out of love with you.”

    Intuitively this seems true: but I can’t totally develop the reasons WHY this would be the case. CR, could you please explicate?

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  19. “If she gives you mouth love without you having to ask for it, you’re doing it more right than you can fathom.”

    wait, people ask?

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  20. @Jeff, cuz she doesn’t want to blow her chances. You can pressure a Beta but not an Alpha

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  21. on August 26, 2010 at 5:40 pm gunslingergregi

    Jeff from my take she is tired of working to keep you interested he he he

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  22. In regards to “girls breaking up with you if you are too much alpha for them” could you lend some advice on breaking through what I call “vaginal defense mode”, that is to say if you are obviously physically alpha (ie you look like a juiced up professional wrestler or comic book character in a city where the men are largely skinny hipsters with minimal secondary sexual characteristics)?

    In my experience urban swpl women have a strong aversion to approaches by an obviously dominant man since they do not want to be “owned” physically and they prefer a weaker beta they can get into a relationship and control with sex. So when you approach you trigger VDM. Is there a way to break through that wall?

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  23. This one, unlike some others recently, was unquestionably written soup to nuts by the original Chateau proprietor.

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  24. “When she starts inviting you on her vacations and business trips, she loves being with you. When she pays your way, she hates being without you.”

    When she pays for you AND your friends to go on vacation you are running heavy Game with a rich girl.

    I have never pulled this one off, but my old running partner did (I was the friend she paid for to go as well. Ended up swooping her girlfriends.)

    He is married now.

    – MPM

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  25. Is it better to ask a woman’s permission or just do it and say your sorry if she doesn’t like what you did

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  26. “Occasional displays of testosterone (ODTs) are more effective, require less effort, and are more fun than “talking it out” when the relationship is rocky. Curse profligately, punch a wall, slam a door, grab a wrist, break a lamp, menacingly wield a heavy object, and disappear for days at a time — then sit back as she swoons and resubmits to your authority.”

    This. ODT’s directed at other people also make for volcanic sex later that night.

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  27. Bill–

    In my experience urban swpl women have a strong aversion to approaches by an obviously dominant man since they do not want to be “owned” physically and they prefer a weaker beta they can get into a relationship and control with sex. So when you approach you trigger VDM. Is there a way to break through that wall?

    Sure. Work more on building comfort than negging them in the beginning. Social proofing with other hot or at least cute girls works too. So will being nice to her tubby girlfriend for awhile.

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  28. This is all excellent advice…with a hint of sweetness. Is the Chateau going soft on us? Methinks someone is in love…….

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  29. You could spend $100,000 on a lavish wedding, but then you’d be a beta chump.

    FTFY

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  30. In my experience urban swpl women have a strong aversion to approaches by an obviously dominant man since they do not want to be “owned” physically and they prefer a weaker beta they can get into a relationship and control with sex.

    SWPL chicks do want to be “owned” physically. They generally just want it for shorter periods of time. This is why they are some of the biggest shit testers, especially about politics. How you respond determines which category you go into: potential herb boyfriend or potential alpha fuck buddy.

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  31. “Meaningless acts of romance are far more meaningful to girls than meaningful acts of romance.

    Similarly, spontaneous expressions of romance will linger in a girl’s memory far longer than elaborately planned romantic gestures.”

    So true. It takes away the mystery of “did he do it because he loves me, or because he has to”.

    If a man does something sweet just because it is a declaration of love, not duty. Plus, men should never do things because they have to.

    I’ve gotten flowers twice in 7 years. I’ll tell you what, i cried both times : ) Wouldn’t have had that reaction if I had been conditioned to “expect” them.

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  32. “A girl’s urge to pressure you to marry is inversely correlated to her depth of love for you.

    Corollary: a marriage ultimatum means she is on the cusp of falling out of love with you.”

    The corollary rings more true than the theorm. The urge to marry, or to pressure someone into marriage, is usually there, regardless of how much a girl loves you. It is true thogh the more she loves you, the less likely she is going to use a marriage ultimatum. But ultimatum is not the only way to add pressure.

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  33. @J R

    SWPL chicks do want to be “owned” physically. They generally just want it for shorter periods of time. This is why they are some of the biggest shit testers, especially about politics. How you respond determines which category you go into: potential herb boyfriend or potential alpha fuck buddy.

    Exactly. Disagree with them on politics. They love alphas who have the balls to disagree with them. they won’t LTR you, but they’ll fuck you enthusiastically.

    I stopped even pretending to mouth SWPL garbage ideology as soon as I figured this out.

    Amount of sex with hot SWPLs increased dramatically.

    Want to really impress them?

    Take a SWPL girl hunting.

    Kill an animal and then cook and eat it.

    Wet and wild, I tell you.

    (they still go back and talk about how traumatic it was. They usually fail to mention how they loved your dick for taking them out hunting).

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  34. Every time I read these posts I get the feeling some poor fuck’s life has been spared.

    God Bless the Chateau

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  35. “Texting is a great way to get out of hour-long nightly phone conversations, while at the same time keeping the embers of infatuation burning.”

    Does this count? I literally JUST had this text discourse (no lie):

    HER: Hey Hun I tried to give ya a bj too sleep but I could not make u cum. Was there something I was not doing right? I kinda gave up and just jumped on u thinking maybe that would work. I get kinda sensative when I can’t
    make u cum

    ME: dont trip

    HER: I do trip sometimes I need to hear u like it or I’m doing a good job

    ME: im a quiet dude, but I’ll remember that next time

    HER: Thanks Hun should we do steaks tonight?

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  36. Good post dude.

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  37. The master is back. Bible worthy.

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  38. Damn O_O

    Nice work!!

    More on ODT’s!

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  39. You SOB.

    Should be stickied next to 16 commandments.

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  40. on August 26, 2010 at 6:52 pm Vincent Ignatius

    Damn. You should really find a way to monetize your wisdom.

    A girl in love is one who withers as much from withheld compliments as from supplied criticism.

    One of the things that doesn’t come naturally to me is compliments. I rarely ever give them out. The girl I went out with last Friday looked great; she was all dolled up and wearing a nice dress. I didn’t compliment her at all until we were back on my couch after the date. All she said was “Finally!” and then jumped all over me.

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  41. As I’m no longer officially commenting here, this is just an unofficial visit to congratulate the writer (whoever they may be) on a very good post.

    It is good to get a change from the dark side occasionally, even if one suspects that the change is only a temporary one for the purposes of throwing the dark side, when it returns, into even greater relief.

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  42. Chateau, I listened to that Volga Boatmen song you tweeted. Really great. I enjoyed it, thank you.

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  43. on August 26, 2010 at 7:04 pm Marine Engineer

    the scene, if it had happened one month ago:

    [walking back to my apartment in the pouring rain on Sunday]
    GF: hey, you’re holding the umbrella wrong
    ME: sorry … is that better? [now she’s completely covered and my left arm is getting soaked]
    GF: -.-

    after reading CR and various other blogs:

    [walking back to my apartment this past Sunday, in the pouring rain]
    GF: hey, you’re holding the umbrella wrong
    ME: I don’t think so … I’m completely dry
    GF: my arm is getting soaked
    ME: you’re so cute when you’re being a bitch
    GF: [laughs … then processes what I said] oh, so you getting me wet equals me being a bitch
    ME: glad we see eye to eye on this
    GF: Fuck You
    ME: See how cute you look
    GF: FUCK YOU
    ME: adorable … say it again
    GF: [laughing] fuck you [then grabs me close as we keep walking]
    ME: You know, they says it’s really romantic to kiss in the rain. Let’s field test it [and I quickly close the umbrella]
    GF: [Big kiss … then holds me tighter]

    don’t know how this shit works, but it does

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  44. yes, this is a lovely post.

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  45. I sat in the glow of a cooling midwest sunset thinking where have I heard this stuff before.

    I agree it’s a great piece. I was just reflecting on the provenance.

    I think the author of this blog is responding to the ground breaking book, “The Rules, Time Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right,” 1995, by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schinerder. Jewesses. (Assuming the writer of this blog read the book when he was 32, you add 15 years and that would make him 47).

    Here’s Rule Five from The Rules: “Don’t call him and rarely return his calls.” Sound familiar?

    In the Amazon hype, some reviewer says guys read these this stuff to know their game. I think our mysterious webmaster is old, has done that and is reflecting on days gone by.

    I’m not roiled by that. Dude is just standing on the shoulders of a couple of pop female literary giants.

    This was reinforced by his gushing — fawning — about some female in her 20s sending him a picture of her bloated hand.

    out

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  46. on August 26, 2010 at 7:11 pm gunslingergregi

    ””””’If you tell her you feel a little under the weather, and she comes over to your place with OJ, herbal tea, soup, and cough medicine, you’re doing it right.”””””

    If you tell her you don’t feel like going to the doctor and she brings the doctor to your house. I think your doing it right. he he he

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  47. on August 26, 2010 at 7:20 pm gunslingergregi

    If we continue to live we all gonna hit 47 it is inevitable.

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  48. been awhile since I read a really good post here.

    Nicely done

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  49. Before a woman has sex with you, she is looking for ways to reject you.

    After she has sex with you, she is looking for ways to keep you.

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  50. dj bradley

    every most of what game teaches my mom tried to teach me to attract MEN when i was a teen–before the sexual revolution women used tricks and feminine wiles, not men.

    i think its less gender specific and more who wants the upper hand specific–the problem is for WOMEN it attracts BETAS (aka in the past “good husband material) and for men it attracts women who are a little bittle higher level than their norm.

    women THINK they want “hand” in their relationships but rapidly tire of a compliant man, men never get tired of having hand

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  51. man they need an edit feature for these comments

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  52. “The neg never dies. It just fades away.”

    And if she’s still talking about that neg or bringing it up a month later…you’re doing it right.

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  53. Also, if she giggles uncontrollably at whatever you say while hitting you…you’re in.

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  54. is there a way to tell your gf that you are not feeling the way she dresses sometimes without getting into a huge argument ?

    thing is my girl is cute but sometimes lacks aesthetic taste.
    btw i dont want her to dress like a slut, my preferred style is french chanteuse in a mid 60’s film, think anna karina or even audrey hepburn. chic, cute, with a slight dash of elegance.

    as it stands she sometimes dresses with no real sense of femininity. i dont know how to bring this up without her crying or yelling etc.

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  55. @Marine Engineer

    “”GF: my arm is getting soaked
    ME: you’re so cute when you’re being a bitch
    GF: [laughs … then processes what I said] oh, so you getting me wet equals me being a bitch
    ME: glad we see eye to eye on this
    GF: Fuck You
    ME: See how cute you look
    GF: FUCK YOU
    ME: adorable … say it again””

    Understanding game is vital to pulling off what you did.

    Most guys, myself included would have caved after her first “Fuck you”….

    But ignoring it, or amplifying it has the effect of passing that shit test.

    Before understanding shit tests, I would feel guilty or bad.

    Now, I recognize that girls who like you deliberately do that role-play as part of some hard-wired mating ritual.

    I’d read somewhere that if she starts shit-testing you, you’re in because girls don’t shit-test guys they don’t want to shag.

    The other maxim would be “If she shit tests you longer than you game her…bail.”

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  56. @Julian

    you have the frame the situation properly. do not act as if you are hurting her or this is something that is hard for you.

    And i would not phrase it as a negative, tell her how you want her to dress and not how you hate her style.

    “I want you to dress more feminine because it is what I am attracted to”

    if she loves you, and you have hand, she’ll relent. Don’t give in to her crying or what not, just ignore her.

    Another approach would be to be jokey about it, but that could lead to hours of conversation and I think she’d eventually be as offended as if you’d been direct in the first place.

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  57. on August 26, 2010 at 8:22 pm gunslingergregi

    Show her the clothes you want her to dress in.

    If she is a yeller though umm yea that don’t get better lol

    Your with the wrong chick.

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  58. dont have a relationship with a woman who wont basically do what you say

    get a different one

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  59. @julian

    Just get out some old films with these stars in them, watch them with her, signal your approval of the girls’ look and how well it would suit her. To get the message across most clearly, do the signalling approval when you’re watching the film, but only mention to her that the look would suit her a few days later. She’ll be wondering why you didn’t suggest it before, and will seize the opportunity when offered.

    Point her in the direction of the Fashion Spot website – they have threads on all the vintage stars & their outfits.

    That’s what’s always worked best with my girls (st least, the ones who weren’t supe-confident to begin with).

    Fair dues to this post for taking account of the fact that not all women think they’re God’s gifl, Only most of them.

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  60. on August 26, 2010 at 8:37 pm Marine Engineer

    @Walawala

    “Before understanding shit tests, I would feel guilty or bad.

    Now, I recognize that girls who like you deliberately do that role-play as part of some hard-wired mating ritual.”

    totally agree … I’m sort of in the “fake it until it’s natural” mode myself.

    We started dating because I inadvertently ignored her [one-itis with some other girl while she was pining for me … worked out OK until I decided to date her … first few months were great, but recently she started treating me like an ATM … but I found CR, and ignored her again, coupled with agree and amplify … going much better]

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  61. on August 26, 2010 at 8:39 pm gunslingergregi

    Yelling woman = you not man enough for her.

    Although she prob won’t “accidently” have your kid either so might be a good situation if you just relegate it to fucking.

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  62. I often talk to my boyfriend about this blog. I would say that he’s alpha and he’s behavior matches w/ a lot of the tips written here. He refers to your differentiation between alphas and betas as the difference between lions vs. pigs and monkeys. Another of his little sayings, “Love a woman and she will fuck you for life (as in mess w/ your mind).” “Fuck a woman (same meaning) and she will love you for life.”

    Pearls of wisdom 🙂

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  63. Please sticky this somewhere.

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  64. on August 26, 2010 at 9:18 pm Rant Casey - Brazil

    I qualified in most of the “you’re doing it right”. Maybe I missed one or two, but I hit the spot mostly.

    And it still is – sometimes – a huge pain in the ass to be in a LTR.

    Specially when the woman in question is a neurotic, nymphomaniac, radical conservative, ambitious accountant with amazon alpha traits, and quite a redneck sometimes. Sort of bizarre combination.

    ODTs are imperative, I cant deal with her without it. The other remedy is… fucking her. I combine both sometimes for optimal results.

    She’s a 7 in my book.

    I had to learn “Brazilian Erotic Jiu Jitsu”. Terrible temper. Choleric one (I’m a sanguine guy).

    2 and 1/2 years together. Loving her is like riding a bipolar mule.

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  65. on August 26, 2010 at 7:19 pm Philly beer guy

    I agree with whomever suggested putting this as a separate tab next to the “16 Commandments of Poon.”

    This post counts among the best CH has written, and is going into the “things to give my son” archive for when he turns 12.

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  66. tighter relationship game starts with using fewer and more deliberate words

    don’t get trapped by her going on and on, just listen and then do something physical

    propose fixes only if she asks, not otherwise

    you’re a man, not her hairdresser

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  67. “A girl’s urge to pressure you to marry is inversely correlated to her depth of love for you.

    Corollary: a marriage ultimatum means she is on the cusp of falling out of love with you.”

    The Truth !!! I speak from painful, but not too painful, experience.

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  68. this is fucking rocket science guys. some guys are fucking hopeless. i love when stupid betas get married to fat pig women and have kids. They ruin their entire lives and I love it. It makes me laug.

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  69. This is like one of those emails that gets forwarded to everyone. But this one is true.

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  70. on August 26, 2010 at 9:55 pm Masterblaster

    ODT’s are very useful. I knew I had my girl on lockdown after she saw me put two hoodrats in the emergency room. She doesn’t even need foreplay anymore.

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  71. on August 26, 2010 at 10:04 pm Sleeping Alpha

    I wish I’d found this site before I fucked up my 10 year relationship with a solid 7.5 virgin. Ah well… ‘ladies of the carousel!’

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  72. “A girl’s urge to pressure you to marry is inversely correlated to her depth of love for you.”

    This is so true.

    Actually it is even worse:
    A woman pressuring a man for marriage, has already divorce on her mind.

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  73. This is a good list and totally true. My husband isn’t really romantic and tends to ignore me much of the time, which I prefer. I always go to bed before him and the other night he came in and kissed my face for no reason. I thought that was nice.

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  74. i mistook one of my favorites as a typo. it says:

    “Love like an idealist, think like a cynic.”

    i thought at first it meant to say:

    “Love, like an idealist, thinks like a cynic.”

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  75. on August 26, 2010 at 11:34 pm David Collard

    Do not marry a girl unless she is:

    Under 25
    Knows her place
    Will cook
    Will do your laundry (mine started this before we married)
    Will take your name
    Has virgin orifices (preferably three)
    Is anti-feminist

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  76. on August 27, 2010 at 12:04 am Gunslingergregi

    You forgot put an airbag at the bottom of a cliff and tell her to walk off.
    If she does marry her.

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  77. Why not a girl that wants to see you the same number of days a week that u want to see her?

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  78. this is CH at his Nietzschean Beyond Good and Evil best.

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  79. @Blahblah

    Read about game. It’s about building and maintaining attraction.

    Seeing each other every day means it becomes predictable. it’s an attraction killer.

    Tension, mystery, intrigue are vital to maintaining attraction. Seeing each other everyday kills that.

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  80. Hi,

    I recently displayed some beta behavior (clinginess, etc.) with my 19 y/o GF that I have been dating (read : penetrating) for six months. Any suggestions as to how I can regain hand?

    (I’ve been running aloof game, seems to be coming along well. Caveat : Chick is LSE)

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  81. on August 27, 2010 at 1:04 am greatbooksformen GBFM

    lozlzozlzlzozlzlo

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  82. on August 27, 2010 at 1:05 am David Collard

    “Chick is LSE”?

    London School of Economics?

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  83. So I just got this fb message from a girl I’ve been friends with for years, but fooled around with when we were drunk last year:

    “I sort of miss you. Don’t suppose you’re still around these [city I currently live in] parts?

    Any advice on how I should proceed?

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  84. Lesbian Sex Experimenter?

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  85. Lightly shittest enabled?
    Low sucky energy?
    Little slutty emo?

    Hmm, maybe she is Low Self Esteem.

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  86. The ultimate form of submission is when she tells you, unpromted that she would allow another woman to join in sex with the two of you.

    A chick told me this the other night and added “that is how into you I am.”

    She is so afraid of losing you, and knows you are so alpha, that her apparent only hope of keeping you is to feed you new pussy.

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  87. I take pleasure in the misfortune of men who are so idiotic that they get married and then, to compound the problem even further, have multiple kids. I love it. I like seeing these men broken and miserable when their old fat wives divorce them, take half their money, and ruin the lives of these stupid beta males.

    I also like to see when men kiss the ass of a hot woman and compliment her. How damn dumb do you have to be to not realize that this is the exact opposite of what attracted women? Read this fucking blog you dumbasses. All the information you need is located on here.

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  88. Well self esteem is a fuzzy concept, one minute up, another minute down as here is more borderline MDD people than generally acknowledged.

    Low self respect, that would worry me.

    Also, ancalgon, you say penetrating, which is probably a good start. Have you tried to fuck her, yet?

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  89. Psycho, you seem to attract your female counterparts. Not that there is anything wrong with it.

    Or she may be into li’l lesbo side dish because that is how she gets really off.

    Or she may be ultimately shit testing you.

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  90. on August 27, 2010 at 2:28 am David Collard

    In a Truffaut movie, Adele H I think it was, the girl is so mad about the man that she buys him a prostitute.

    No girl has done that for me, but I have had them fight over me (verbally). Twice (two sets of girls).

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  91. David, all sorts of shit happen in movies. One of my hobbies is writing TV/movie scripts, so … the only thing is to suspend the disbelief well and with artistry.

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  92. Big news today: Survey finds 1 in 4 (Anglo-Saxon) men travel with a teddy bear:

    http://abcnews.go.com/Travel/grown-men-travel-stuffed-animals-teddy-bears-dogs/story?id=11463664&page=1

    I’m speechless.

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  93. Jerry, the article speaks of Britons, though I can imagine that the stuffie is associated with North American SWPLs in large numbers. Somehow, Ozzies do not strike me as potential stuffed bear bearers.

    Mr Bean was not kidding, was he? 😉

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  94. Yesterday I accidentally found a photo archive site for an American ex, showing her life for the 9 years since we had a bad breakup (she felt we deserved 9/11) and she never communicated with me again.

    The photos show that for 3 years after the breakup she remained a 9 and found another Army veteran, this time her own age instead of 20 years older like I was, who then married her (at the 3 year mark). Then she popped out some kids. The progression was subtle but photos from this past winter and beach photos from this summer show a 4. The same-age husband is, meanwhile, looking better and better. Both would be 29. He won’t reach his prime for another 10 years. She was at her prime when I had her.

    I dodged a bullet. I know he must be hurting. The difference in appearance is too stark. He would have had maybe 2 good years after the marriage. She just let herself go.

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  95. I thought I was on the right path when the girl got to giving me mouth love without me ever mentioning it, but it wasn’t enough to prevent the breakup a short time later. I still think that one (and most of other tips) is true, however 🙂

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  96. on August 27, 2010 at 3:16 am David Collard

    I went through a phase of fucking my wife with her over the edge of the bed. It was a bit impersonal, which I like, and it shut her up. She claimed not to like it, but I told her one night I wanted to fuck her, and she started going over the side of the bed automatically.

    Most amusing.

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  97. Jerry,

    Post pictures. You cannot describe something like that without visual evidence/support

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  98. Quote:
    If you haven’t had an argument within the first two months, you’ve passed an important test. If you haven’t had an argument within the first year, you’ve failed an important test.

    This is by far one of the most important things I think you have written. This really deserves a very long and full post as to the reasons why. If you want, I can do another guest post on it.

    [Editor: Absolutely. Go for it.]

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  99. “Do not marry a girl unless she is:

    Under 25
    Knows her place
    Will cook
    Will do your laundry (mine started this before we married)
    Will take your name
    Has virgin orifices (preferably three)
    Is anti-feminist”

    This should be what every man is told before he buys the ring. It’s hard to find a chick like this, but if you do its worth it. I got each one with mine.

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  100. I love this. Epic success-post!

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  101. Surveys also find that 1 out of 4 MSM stories are backed by junk social science.

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  102. on August 27, 2010 at 8:15 am David Collard

    Timitz

    Congratulations.

    A girl should only get a white wedding if she can wear white. No blood on the sheets, no ring. No kidding.

    I am amazed at the lazy sluts some young men will marry these days.

    I used to get my young bride to iron my shirts in her underwear. If you can’t imagine her doing that, don’t marry her.

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  103. Church pastor makes it his life calling trying to shut down a strip club 9 miles away:

    http://apnews.myway.com/article/20100827/D9HROVM00.html

    Who wants to bet his wife put him up to it?

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  104. Love is a mental disorder, more like OCD.

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  105. “Texting is a great way to get out of hour-long nightly phone conversations, while at the same time keeping the embers of infatuation burning.”

    Can’t a man do anything better instead of those hour-long nightly phone conversations?

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  106. on August 27, 2010 at 9:11 am Rollo Tomassi

    Game is MORE necessary in a relationship than when you’re spinning plates. Most commonly men think that once a commitment has been established, at that point it’s OK to relax and “just be themselves.” Only later do they find that it was the things he was doing, the energy he was expressing, while seducing, gaming, sarging his GF / wife was exactly what caused her to fall in love with him. Take away that Alpha attitude, relax the competition anxiety, halt the anxious imaginations and replace them with gratuitous comfort, familiarity, regularity and mundane routine, and you will suffer the same fate as every other disillusioned divorcee.

    The Game NEVER ends gentlemen. It shifts and evolves into new variations within a relationship, but it never ends. Your new ‘normal’, your “just being yourself” needs to be internalized Game. Things don’t get easier, you simply have to get better under new conditions.

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  107. What you do is you keep on dating other women while texting the main squeeze when your phone isn’t shut off for hours on end (never explain why the phone is shut off). See the main squeeze no more than 3 nights per week, and rarely overnight.That’s internalized game for you.

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  108. on August 27, 2010 at 9:28 am David Collard

    Rollo Tomassi

    Absolutely true. My wife used to complain “you used to be so macho” and at other times tell me that when she first married me I was “horrible” and “arrogant”. What I now realise is that she was missing the original me.

    Husbands get ground down by life, job, kids and the woman starts to get bored. “Game” helps top up a man’s natural appeal.

    My advice to any older husbands here is to try a few new tricks. Tell your wife to be quiet occasionally. Give her a few direct orders. Ignore her pointedly. The response might surprise you, pleasantly.

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  109. Alternatively, you can keep the phone on silent and never explain why you didn’t pick up between the hours of 7 and 10PM. If asked, I have said “I guess it was on silent – it does that a few times per week when I bump a button by accident”.

    Its best to get out of the habit of ever having to explain where you were.

    Her: Where were you?

    You: It’s complicated.

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  110. Get in shape and stay in shape. When you’re about to go on a business trip, buy a new tie or something before you go. Talk about how you’ll have drinks with people. You have a separate life, and you socialize. You like it that way.

    This fact alone will keep part of you separate from her. Facing that, she hates it, wants to ‘own’ that part of you, but you won’t let hert. Part of you stays inaccessible and unassimilated. That’s the alpha part. Surrender it, and you are beta toast.

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  111. “Once a girl falls in love with you, she will stop taking the counsel of her friends’ opinions regarding your compatibility with her.”

    Really? You are certain?…………guess I’ve never been in love. [walks away singing “still crazy after all these years” like Larry David]

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  112. Two girls broke up with me because I refused to marry them. A third I broke up with because she had given me the ultimatum about marriage. In each case and in retrospect it was absolutely the right thing to have happened. No matter who did the breaking, the result was the same. In all 3 cases the longer I waited before I committed, the angrier and nastier they got. My only regret was staying in as long as I did (I was young and just learning “game” when game wasn’t even an identifiable methodology).

    I am naturally an alpha male but the longer these 3 “relationships” went on, the more beta I began to feel and perhaps act.

    Makes no difference. Once they were over I returned to my alpha self.

    These were all in my early to mid 20’s and after that I stayed alpha in and out of numerous affairs. Marriage no longer was the goal. Getting laid and having fun (getting laid was fun) was the goal.

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  113. “Hmmm. Sound familiar?”

    Yes, at its core Marxism is a variation on Christianity.

    Both are attempts to level inequality in humanity. The problem with that is, both accomplish this by materially or spiritually chopping the tall poppies. There really isn’t a good solution to this aside from Singularitarianism — at least that would presumably empower the losers instead of punishing the winners. Technology could create a synthesis of rugged individualism and egalitarianism.

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  114. “this is CH at his Nietzschean Beyond Good and Evil best.”

    Yes. It is time to step away from the foreign morality of the Middle East and return to our true morality of Good and Bad.

    I recently re-read On the Genealogy of Morals….sigh. It makes me very upset every time. We think the war was lost 50 years ago with the rise of feminism, but we actually lost ourselves 2,000 years ago. Depressing.

    “The weak deceive themselves into thinking that the meek are blessed and will win everlasting life, thereby ultimately vanquishing the strong. They invent the term “evil” to apply to the strong, i.e. precisely to the “good” according to the noble valuation.”

    Hmmm. Sound familiar?

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  115. on August 27, 2010 at 11:12 am Rant Casey - Brazil

    David Collard

    Do not marry a girl unless she is:

    Under 25
    Knows her place
    Will cook
    Will do your laundry (mine started this before we married)
    Will take your name
    Has virgin orifices (preferably three)
    Is anti-feminist

    Yeah, that’s the girl I was talking about.

    Except I have to put her in her place sometimes – she seems to provoke this kind of situation in an almost “intentional” manner.

    I also tell her to be quiet. “Sheesh honey, I cant almost hear my own thought with all that talking”.

    When I first started reading about Game, as applied to seducing strange women, I thought to myself “Damn, I’m really a beta”.

    As I read about LTR Game, I thought: “Well, I’m not that Beta. In fact I do most of the Alpha things in this list with good results”.

    Then I came to realize: this is obvious. In the past 10 years I’ve been most of the time inside LTRs. 2, 3, sometimes 5 years relationships with flings inbetween (when one is over I dedicate some time to promiscuity).

    Turns out I wasnt all that of a Beta. Not the worst kind. I can handle LTRs really well, in an Alpha way, though I have the apetite for novelty of a Beta (I’m not really into banging too many women, and in fact, its kinda depressing to me… I would often feel like trash after cumming inside a girl I despised as a person). Thats probably Beta, I supose. I cant help, I’m sentimental.

    In Brazil there is a writer who goes by the pseudonym of Nessahan Alita. One of his books is “How To Handle Women”. Its in portuguese.

    Its a book for guys in LTRs, and was my first and strongest influence in the theoretical realm of dealing with women. It’s a manual for Betas, and it teaches how to be… a little less of a Beta inside a relationship. LTR game, basically.

    Only heard about Pick Up techniques recently.

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  116. A lot of these have been true in my experience, deep stuff.

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  117. Knack
    If you want, I can do another guest post on it.

    [Editor: Absolutely. Go for it.]

    Although no longer officially commenting here, a name, date or link for the first guest post obliquely referred to would be much appreciated.

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  118. This post makes up for the last post…which was probably one of your worst posts….

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  119. +1 on the ODT thing.

    A few years ago, during a particularly stressful time for both of us financially, my wife started verbally abusing me over some stupid thing with our house remodel expenses. I got really angry about it, obviously pissed off, tight-lipped and ready to lash out. We were standing face to face, maybe a foot apart, and she took one more dig at me. In one swift motion, I raised my arm back, turned, and punched the wall next to us at full force right in front of her. “This conversation is OVER,” I said and turned my back on her. She was stunned speechless and just stood there open-mouthed.

    Unfortunately, when I punched the wall, I managed to hit it right on a double stud and broke two bones in my hand. By the time I reached the other side of the room, I was feeling it and sat down heavily in a chair. All the anger had gone out of me with the punch, and I was completely calm now even though my hand was starting to hurt like hell. “Get me the first aid kit. I broke my hand,” I told her, maintaining my cool and keeping my voice low. She immediately, without any question or hesitation, ran to the back room to get the kit. When she brought it to me, she was so conciliatory and submissive it took me by surprise, but I ran with it.

    That incident completely changed the dynamic of our relationship at a critical juncture for both our marriage and our finances. After that, her whole attitude toward being a wife shifted into a much more deferential, feminine mode and our whole home environment became much more harmonious. She became much more affectionate too. I’ve noticed in the years since that this pattern has repeated every time I’ve let her slip into a controlling mindset and I react to some trivial incident with a little ODT. The most recent happened when a recent business associate was maneuvering to cheat me on a deal and I was storming around the living room, ranting at the guy that I was going to “rip off his head and shit down his neck,” if he kept trying to steal money from me and my family. I’d noticed my wife hovering in the background, listening in, and figured she was probably going to chastise me for loudly swearing and threatening somebody where the kids could hear. Not so. As soon as I hung up the phone, she jumped me and practically tore my clothes off as she dragged me into the bedroom. 😉

    I think you ought to do a whole series on ODT for guys to whom this does not come naturally. If they can muster the occasional testosterone outburst, it would do them a world of good, not just in their relationships with women but in their own personal sense of well-being.

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  120. on August 27, 2010 at 12:33 pm gunslingergregi

    ”””””’Original JB
    “Hmmm. Sound familiar?”

    Yes, at its core Marxism is a variation on Christianity.

    Both are attempts to level inequality in humanity. The problem with that is, both accomplish this by materially or spiritually chopping the tall poppies. There really isn’t a good solution to this aside from Singularitarianism — at least that would presumably empower the losers instead of punishing the winners. Technology could create a synthesis of rugged individualism and egalitarianism.
    ””””

    So probably the anti-christ but really just trying to deprogram from the gay leaning religion I grew up with. That makes sense.

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  121. were you on vacation?

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  122. on August 27, 2010 at 12:42 pm gunslingergregi

    I don’t think real actual men were meant to have only one bitch it is stupid and half the men are actually probably fags. The fag religion hurts both. lol

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  123. ”””””’Original JB
    “Hmmm. Sound familiar?”

    Yes, at its core Marxism is a variation on Christianity.

    Both are attempts to level inequality in humanity. The problem with that is, both accomplish this by materially or spiritually chopping the tall poppies. There really isn’t a good solution to this aside from Singularitarianism — at least that would presumably empower the losers instead of punishing the winners. Technology could create a synthesis of rugged individualism and egalitarianism.”

    Yes. I can see how slave morality would more easily lend itself to communism- the hatred of the bourgeois (or nobility) etc.

    I think it goes deeper than that. There is a biblical/talmudic hatred of beauty and the very world we inhabit. Hatred of our bodies (ahem, circumcision) and worldly pleasures (not just sex). It’s a complete hatred of ancient Western values which has been projected onto the rest of the world.

    The problem is that Western society is unequivocally individualistic, even with millenia of middle eastern philosophies trying to bend us towards submission and collectivism. It’s just not in our nature. I believe the anomie of the current american prole is due to the fact that he has never become fully realized in his culture. A culture that is unfortunately dead and buried.

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  124. These reader responses are brilliant. Almost makes me want to get married so I can punch a few walls or bend my wife over the bed to make her swoon.

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  125. on August 27, 2010 at 1:18 pm gunslingergregi

    So that is why I reject my religion. I don’t think it is middle eastern though. Muslim religion makes a heck of a lot more sense to me and actually seems like it encompasses more types of personalities.

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  126. on August 27, 2010 at 1:19 pm gunslingergregi

    Then the punishments are death which I can more live with. Seems like christians just enjoy punishing people for life and creating hell on earth for people.

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  127. on August 27, 2010 at 1:34 pm gunslingergregi

    ”””’Miley_Cyrax
    These reader responses are brilliant. Almost makes me want to get married so I can punch a few walls or bend my wife over the bed to make her swoon.

    ””””

    lol it is still nice as long as she takes care of all the mundane and you fuck other woman. That is really best way to keep your ltr in check.

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  128. gunslinger- the christians should not bear the brunt of the consequences of this religion. the abramic religions are culturally jewish. Judaism, Christianity, and Islam are based on the same perverted ideals. We didn’t come up with it.

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  129. These are excellent. And I must say by your checklist I am doing very well. Thanks for this. I’m going to read it from time to time and never forget it.

    SS

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  130. on August 27, 2010 at 2:06 pm gunslingergregi

    Muslim dudes I have met tend to be cool as fuck. Can’t say the same about christians.

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  131. on August 27, 2010 at 2:07 pm gunslingergregi

    atheists also tend to be cool guys.

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  132. on August 27, 2010 at 2:09 pm gunslingergregi

    Along with chiristians who don’t take it too seriously.

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  133. on August 27, 2010 at 2:12 pm gunslingergregi

    Basically like christianity turns you into a robot who never has to think. No longer human just a worker bee waiting to die.

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  134. Really good writing. Serious offense mitigated by cunnilingus! She is cheating with your other girlfriend. The Alpha life is a good life…

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  135. on August 27, 2010 at 2:22 pm gunslingergregi

    It causes you to see having children as a sacrifice and to seek out suffering for yourself so you can have a nice hell on earth for yourself and offer that pain up to god rather than being a cognicent individual and creating heaven on earth for yourself and just enjoying the fuck out of life.

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  136. on August 27, 2010 at 2:24 pm gunslingergregi

    I’m having a seriously hard time throwing off the yoke of slavery and just going ahead and setting myself freeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.

    Instead of just always placing myself in positions to offer it up.

    I need to take that shit that is my fucking birthright and create the shit that makes me happy now. Fuck after I die.

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  137. Can someone please elaborate on this please

    If a girl loves you, all problematic matters that would have presented an obstacle to the initial seduction become irrelevant or are actually turned in your favor.

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  138. on August 27, 2010 at 2:40 pm gunslingergregi

    When she wants to fuck you as much as you want to fuck her nothing matters at all. Your just fucking and loving.

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  139. Female main motivators: sexual pleasure, and social proof.

    As social animals they are sheep, and as individuals they are hedonist.

    Do not underestimate the capacity of the human brain to develop sophisticated intellectual structures to accommodate social influence, and those should be dominated as well, but the real weakness and the one that matters when she is alone or alone with you, is desire, which is triggered by basic primate and tribal cues, not by the cute peculiarities of the lovable modern movie boy.

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  140. […] In a recent post, he rat­tles off dat­ing tips for men. Some of his tips, with my com­men­tary, are below. I have left out many that are vulgar. Mar­riage coun­selors could save more mar­riages sim­ply […]

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  141. @gunslingergregi
    Any alpha man should be against all religion as they’re all designed to control and betacize. The book “God is not Great” is an excellent essay on this topic. Of course if you’re the one in control it would be great.

    The underlying theme with all the ‘love’ Game Thoughts is weakness. Considering that romantic love is a hoax and is really a projection of neediness, I have no qualms with taking advantage of anyone foolish enough to believe in it.

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  142. on August 27, 2010 at 4:13 pm gunslingergregi

    It is not just that the christian religion tries to betaize.

    It is also that it seeks to prevent people from actually being kind and I like to be kind.

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  143. @Morsellaux : I’ve fucked her for six months.

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  144. “Love like an idealist, think like a cynic.”
    –CH

    “Pessimism of the intellect, optimism of the will.”
    –Gramsci

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  145. on August 27, 2010 at 3:39 pm (R)Evolutionary

    Book, please.

    This post epitomizes tight, internal relationship game as well as the techniques and mindset necessary to both maintain frame and hand. Bravo, CH, Bravo. Bring it to B&N, Amazon, Borders, and all the other booksellers. Shout it from the rooftops.

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  146. on August 27, 2010 at 7:04 pm David Collard

    Another thing you can try, as an established husband, is to build your own micro-culture. Since we are all supposedly cultural relativists now, you can simply ignore the more feminised aspects of the culture and impose your own cultural rules. It helps if one is actually a member of some plausibly patriarchal religion (Catholicism, Islam). Just build on that.

    It is surprising what a wife will accept as normal, if you require it consistently.

    Sometimes too, a woman’s femininity leads her to displays of submissive attitude. Accept these as normal. My wife has a habit of asking my permission to spend even small amounts of money. I just accept this as normal, and grant her permission. A male feminist might be inclined to “educate” her to be more independent. Bad idea. Encourage her to make little submissive gestures like that.

    Another thing she does sometimes is pour my tea for me at the breakfast table. Just accept these little actions as your due.

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  147. on August 27, 2010 at 7:08 pm David Collard

    I don’t agree that the Christian religion has to “betaise” men. For a few years, my wife used to accompany me to the Latin Mass. We are Catholics. She used to cover her head (with a hat or veil) as a sign of her submission to me as a wife. All Catholic women used to do this, until about fifty years ago.

    There is NOTHING inherently feminist about Christianity. Read the New Testament. Including the bits that mangina pastors and priests like to pretend aren’t there.

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  148. There is nothing more erotic than the sight of a kneeling woman, head covered by a mantilla.

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  149. It’s ironic that most women these days will wear anything in the bedroonm (or out of it) but draw the line at a simple black lace head-covering, despite the pleasure it may bring to their partner.

    Also, mantillas are nearly as hard to get hold of these days as virgins. I keep one in my bedside drawer at all times for emergencies. On one occasion, when away from home, I had to improvise with a pair of black lace knickers.

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  150. on August 27, 2010 at 7:24 pm David Collard

    Yes, anplayer, quite a lot of men find women in mantillas and the like sexy. I don’t so much, but I can see the appeal.

    What it is really, I suspect, is a woman in a submissive posture. I like to see women kneeling, but also squatting (girls do this a lot, I think they find it comfortable; they will even do it around an office when at a filing cabinet, for example).

    I also find, as do other men I suppose, that waitresses are sexy because they are in a supplicant position. I am so used to my wife waiting on me at the dinner table, that I hardly notice it now, but having her bring me my meal and then sit beside me as I sit at the head of the table can be slightly erotic. Marriage can sill be fun for a man.

    Posture and position are important. A girl who sits on your knee in public, or kneels to stimulate you orally, or remains standing while you are seated, is an erotic sight.

    I was once in an Italian-Australian run hairdresser, and a pretty young woman, in heels, brought me a cup of coffee as part of the service. That memory of feminine subservience has stayed with me for a decade or more.

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  151. on August 27, 2010 at 7:28 pm David Collard

    anplayer

    My wife wore a mantilla she had made herself for a while, then just a black and white hat.

    Women still seem to be able to make mantillas or source them. There are places that sell them.

    The fact is that women used to mostly wear hats before Vatican II. It is simpler really.

    BTW, anplayer, I assumed you were a man. My response would have been slightly different if I had realised you were female.

    The knickers story sounds a little contrived. I wonder if you are teasing me.

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  152. on August 27, 2010 at 7:45 pm gunslingergregi

    ””””””David Collard
    Another thing she does sometimes is pour my tea for me at the breakfast table. Just accept these little actions as your due.”””””””’

    I like my woman to feed me as well. This tends to bond even better I think. he he he

    But yea it was my woman who started the shit but now it has become standard practice no matter where we are.

    I will occasionaly grab a drink for her as well to do my part for the teamwork if her hand is busy feeding me he he he

    Or if we go to a resteraunt and I want her to try something I will be the one to feed her.

    Eating a meal definetly becomes a more sensual emperience.

    Plus you can play with her tits and legs and shit because your hands are free. So you can like fuck with her and tease he he he

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  153. @David Collard

    I am not a bloody female.

    I agree with you re. subservience.

    I have never had a virgin (my sole attempt ended badly, both parties retreating bitten, but unbloodied) but I like a girl to be devout. I have a theory that religious fervor in women is linkied with a high sex trive. This is true of protestants as well as Catholics – have you ever seen Elmer Gantry?

    The knickers story is almost certainly tmi but 100% accurate. I never understand why people make up funny stories when the truth is always much more hilarious. Particularly when sex is involved. People deal with the necessary loss of dignity involved in sex in different ways. As far as I am concerned, the only way to deal with it is with a sense of humor.

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  154. on August 27, 2010 at 7:51 pm gunslingergregi

    You get to concentrate on her body while she concentrates on you. Instead of both of you concentrating on feeding your faces individualy. Think about it he he he

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  155. If you do this she will…if you do this she will that…me me me as usual from AW. Personally I could care less what works for AW. All AW are absolute shit.

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  156. on August 27, 2010 at 8:18 pm David Collard

    Sorry, anplayer, I realised my mistake when I checked out your blog. You are a bloke.

    My wife was a virgin. I first fucked her (vaginally) on our honeymoon at Surfers Paradise, in Queensland. I know that is a hackneyed place for a honeymoon, but we had won a stay in a timeshare apartment there in a competition.

    Deflowering her was painful for her and unpleasant for me, as I had to more or less rape her. We were using the Billings Method (Catholics) and I had not been able to fuck her for the first several days of our marriage. I just managed to deflower her in time before we had to go home. She had a very tight and thick hymen, and the second time I fucked her, back home, she bled quite profusely again. All over the mattress. The stain was there for years.

    As for loss of dignity during sex, I make sure my wife is in the undignified position, if there is one.

    Speaking of stains and ODT, a good ODT is to throw food or plates (or the whole dinner) on the ground. I have done this with the Sunday dinner a couple of times, when my wife has provoked me badly enough. The advantage is that nobody gets hurt, one’s masculine amour propre is assuaged, and the woman has to clean it up. I did this with a cup of coffee not long ago, and there is a nice stain on the bedroom ceiling now, for my wife to stare at as I fuck her.

    The dinner-on-the-floor thing only works if you really are angry, and the girl knows that she – not you – will be the one spending half an hour cleaning it up.

    I understand there is a scene in American Beauty where the husband does this. Art imitating life.

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  157. @gunslingergregi

    “I’m having a seriously hard time throwing off the yoke of slavery and just going ahead and setting myself freeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.”

    It’s about loving truth beauty and greatness, rather than exalting mediocrity and sickness.

    Freedom is a red herring.

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  158. Speaking of stains and ODT, a good ODT is to throw food or plates (or the whole dinner) on the ground.

    Yup. Patience is a virtue, but snapping is a virtue also. After years of telling my mate to never use chili peppers in my food, and her using “just a bit for flavor” over and over, I questioned the food on my plate. “No, that’s just black pepper”.

    I called bullshit and threw the the plate of food across the kitchen floor. End of conversation.

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  159. I’m the husband of a typical woman. Pushy, submissive only in bed, mad, manipulative. I regret much of what I let go during the courtship. Honestly, it’s taken a few beers to even comment on this. I couldn’t care now. Whatever. Take this as a warning, guys. Marry after she’s worshiping you, not before. Beat her mentally until she’s yours then vow. The last few months have been hell trying to correct my mistakes, and it’ll be years until it’s done. Save yourselves, men. Don’t get married or make her your wife slave before signing with the state. Even then, don’t trust the state. Fuck this world and it’s statism.

    God help us all.

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  160. “@gunslingergregi

    “I’m having a seriously hard time throwing off the yoke of slavery and just going ahead and setting myself freeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.”

    It’s about loving truth beauty and greatness, rather than exalting mediocrity and sickness.

    Freedom is a red herring.”

    +1 @ Jeffrey

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  161. on August 28, 2010 at 11:43 am Rant Casey - Brazil

    @anplayer

    I have a theory that religious fervor in women is linkied with a high sex trive. This is true of protestants as well as Catholics – have you ever seen Elmer Gantry?

    As far as I can tell you, this is true.

    My current woman – wich I refered to as nympho – is an ardend catholic. She even tried to be a nun, and family persuaded her not to.

    As a plus, shes vegetarian. It sums in sex drive, as vegetarian females, for some reason I have no idea why, have a hungry relationship with the cock. (Perhaps they are trying to subconsciously compensate the meat intake, but thats quite a douchebag theory).

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  162. Read the New Testament. Including the bits that mangina pastors and priests like to pretend aren’t there.

    What are the pro-masculinity quotes in the New Testament?

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  163. I would add: If you starts cleaning your apartment, unprompted, every time she visits, you are doing it right.

    A great way to put an end to the long phone call problem is to use a line like – “if you want to talk about your feelings call your girlfriends, if you want a solution call me.” The night time phone calls will disappear almost immediately and never return.

    With texts always wait at least 5 minutes before your initial reply (unless there is an immediate need.) Wait at least 2 minutes for any additional replies.

    Also, nothing will get a SWPL chick wetter than cranking rounds out of an AK-47 on a Saturday afternoon. It must be something about the smell of cheap Eastern bloc gun powder….

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  164. on August 28, 2010 at 7:12 pm David Collard

    Ex-Chump

    Just off the top of my head:

    “The woman was created for the man, not the man for the woman.”

    “As Sarah called her husband ‘master'”.

    “The head of every woman is the man”.

    “See that she respects her husband”.

    “Wives … be submissive … in all things.”

    “The woman sinned and became a transgressor.”

    I could go on.

    The New Testament is highly patriarchal. Modern clerics hide this out of fear of feminists.

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  165. on August 28, 2010 at 8:00 pm David Collard

    Harmonica has a point. Do not marry a girl unless she shows real signs of valuing you before you are married. I think Harmonica could probably turn things around even now with a little effort, including applying some of the insights he will pick up here, on “game” and so on.

    But a girl will likely get worse, not better, once you marry her. The work of keeping her yours does not stop once you marry.

    A woman who really values a man will do incredible things to please him. Not begrudgingly either. I don’t want to be blasphemous, only God deserves worship; but a woman who really values you will revere you. She will do extremely submissive things to please you. If she doesn’t do some of this before you marry, she certainly won’t after you marry, not without a major effort on your part.

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  166. @Rant Casey

    Yeah, I have personal experience of religious fervor in women. One of my exes (not the nurse) was a former nun. I literally couldn’t keep up with her. It was a choice between her & my other concurrent relationships. If I’d stayed with her, I’d have become monogamous through sheer exhaustion

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  167. “A woman who really values a man will do incredible things to please him. Not begrudgingly either. I don’t want to be blasphemous, only God deserves worship; but a woman who really values you will revere you. She will do extremely submissive things to please you. If she doesn’t do some of this before you marry, she certainly won’t after you marry, not without a major effort on your part.”

    I’d like to add something, but this time sober. What Rossiy and Roosh and others have said about the female disconnect is completely true. Women don’t know what they’re doing, even the smart ones. She will say “I love you so much” and mean it at the time, but they won’t know why they’re saying it. My wife tends to say it when she’s tired, upset after a fight or affected by some kind of mood changer. She’ll also say she wants to be submissive, but then whine when asked to do something or keep asking me to do stuff for her. They have no clue what they do. It’s moment by moment living through their emotions, moods, etc. She’ll “love you so much” but also nitpick you if you let them, because their animal brain’s geared to be picky.

    I know I’ve got to be much more aggressive and stern. It’s not easy for a male raised mostly by his mom and corralled by a beta dad and two manipulative younger sisters. But it’s also true what Roosh has said, alphas are made, not born. I’ve changed a lot and those with the typical feminist brainwashed consumerism addicted wives can win eventually. But it takes time, hard work, a lot of calming prayer and a will to command your life.

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  169. on August 30, 2010 at 3:20 am Gunslingergregi

    @Harmonica

    A lot of shit dealing with your woman is just a matter of fucking her.

    They are actually basic in a lot of ways.

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  170. on August 30, 2010 at 4:36 am David Collard

    Harmonica

    I do think alphas are partly born that way. I have always been a total male chauvinist. According to family stories, I was “speaking for” the women in my family as a very small boy. But, I also think men are often naturally alpha, and it gets sapped out of them. Also, life grinds you down, and you lose your edge.

    As for women not knowing what they are doing. Absolutely. There is a total disconnect between what they say (and consciously think) and what they do, and what their vaginas “feel”.

    I have had a girl simply abase herself to me (you don’t want to know the details), and then a few moments later grumble when I have asked her to make me a coffee. My wife, a few weeks ago, was screaming at me about how she would never go the gym (to lose weight) again, AS SHE WAS LEAVING TO GO.

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  171. Things are changing fast. I just had to apply and assert.

    I do love those those moments, David. I’ve been yelled at during copulation for making her feel unwanted. It was beyond absurd.

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  172. on August 30, 2010 at 7:58 pm David Collard

    Good luck, Harmonica. Women have an alien logic about them, which a clever man can turn to his advantage.

    There is a saying about an ethnic group (which I won’t name) that “they are always either at your throat or at your feet”. I think it applies to women well.

    This is why men find women confusing. There is no apparent consistency. It is one reason why a man has to be consistent, because the woman won’t be.

    It is hard to encapsulate “married Game” in one principle. But I would say something like, convey a consistent air of superiority and certainty (like a good boss).

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  173. Very true to life.

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  175. I don’t get the second part of this quote:

    “If you haven’t had an argument within the first two months, you’ve passed an important test. If you haven’t had an argument within the first year, you’ve failed an important test.”

    What important test do I fail if there was no argument within a year?

    Thanks!

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