When The Handicap Principle Is Just A Handicap

The Handicap Principle, or what is known in layman terms as conspicuous consumption, is an important biological hypothesis that explains why the males of some (most?) species have evolved costly status signaling displays. The idea is that a high fitness male demonstrates his high status to females by showing he can afford to waste resources on, for example, showy plumage or sport cars. It is objectively better for the male’s survival to not have heavy plumage that could make escape from predators more difficult, or to save money for future contingencies instead of waste it on an expensive car; yet, males of different species will often acquire these presumable maladaptations or waste resources on nonessentials because sexual selection exerts a force equally as powerful as natural selection.

So goes the theory. In reality, the theory bumps up against a wall.

You can’t get much more handicapped that that, unless you were limbless and genital-less with a concave forehead.

People open to the ideas of evolutionary psychology sometimes forget that nature operates within a system of checks and balances just as free markets and republics (putatively) do. The Handicap Principle helps explain some odd evolved male traits in species, but nature is always ensuring that the evolved handicap never gets too far out of control. Because when that happens, it’s no longer a status signal; it’s a real handicap that will repulse women or get you killed.

Game and the Handicap Principle have a rocky relationship. Handicapping yourself — a la Mystery with his furry hats and Victorian coats — is a great way to signal high status, IF you have compensating alpha male traits. Mystery has those compensating traits; specifically, his height, his grace under pressure, and his renowned game ability to handle the inevitable female shit tests and seamlessly escort women through the stages of seduction.

If, on the other hand, you are short, ugly, nerdy, insecure and without any game at all, dressing like Mystery is apt to backfire. Your calculated self-handicapping will not be a signal of confidence and high status, but an actual handicap that makes your job of getting laid harder than it need be. For you, the appropriate level of self-handicapping would be something along the order of uncommon shiny cufflinks or a gaudy ring. Just enough to incite curiosity in women, but not so much to banish yourself to the realm of weirdos.

Maxim #55: The degree to which you handicap yourself in an effort to signal high status to women should be commensurate with your game expertise and your confidence level.

The more confidently you can pull off showy clothes or an asshole attitude, and the more effortlessly you can deflect the shit you will invariably get from others offended by your ostentation, the more the Handicap Principle will work for you instead of against you.

Keep in mind, as well, that Mystery’s fraught couture is a game tactic in itself, designed to provoke reactions from women that allow Mystery to demonstrate his alpha prowess through his unperturbed handling of those reactions. You should welcome shit tests from women, because that means you have aroused interest in them. Mystery’s garish dress is a short cut to coaxing those much-valued shit tests out of women. But you need unshakeable confidence bordering on delusion to successfully pull it off, which, in my observation of fledgling PUAs, most men practicing the dark art of pickup don’t have in sufficient quantity.

For the average man who has leapt above the fray and grasped that important sex differences in psychology exist and thus interactions with women require a different toolkit than conventional wisdom offers, the Handicap Principle will be most relevant to him during the comfort stage of seducing a woman into bed (or into a longer-term relationship). In CH parlance, this is known as “vulnerability game“, and it is vital, in small doses, as a quasi-handicapping game technique for strengthening emotional connections with women.

Signaling that you possess beta provider potential is a powerful bonding glue to women who are at heart creatures of duality seeking the best of both alpha and beta in men. But since alpha is in rarer supply and harder to acquire, and since beta comes naturally to most men and is easier to acquire, the trick to finding the right balance is to emphasize your alpha while leavening it with droppings of beta. These beta droppings are the equivalent of handicapping yourself with costly displays of provider plumage and emotional vulnerability. They will only work when you have already established your attitudinal alpha male seed-cred.

If you haven’t established that alpha seed-cred, your beta droppings will go over like an elephant’s dung heap, because they won’t be droppings so much as “more of the supplicating same”. This is why women love to feel like they have to struggle to get a man to admit his emotional core, and dislike having men dump a bucket of their emotional core all over them. As women perceive it, the struggle is an irrefutable sign that the man is non-needy, has options with other women, and will give her the challenge she subconsciously craves.





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  1. This should be a maxim. It’s Golden.

    “Women love to feel like they have to struggle to get a man to admit his emotional core, and dislike having men dump a bucket of their emotional core all over them. As women perceive it, the struggle is an irrefutable sign that the man is non-needy, has options with other women, and will give her the challenge she subconsciously craves.”

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    • Yeah, I wanted to say the same thing you did, Jack. Although I think it’s a bit cruel to teach men that they should not be emotional. It’s better to be what you are, I think. It’s OK to be emotional, just don’t be needy, desperate and without self respect. Desperate guys are extremely unattractive (while for women, desperation can even be attractive).

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    • on October 15, 2012 at 5:46 pm Great Books For Men GreatBooksForMen GBFM (TM) GB4M (TM) GR8BOOKS4MEN (TM) lzozozozozlzo (TM)

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      Feminism, like a fiat currency, was created by the central bankers to transfer labor and assets from good men to themselves. They debauch both the currency in secretive meetings of the fed and your future wife in secretive tapingz of buttcocking seeesisonszoznoznoznzo, whence she is desouled and reprogrammed through he ass to transfer a man’ assets to da state and da bernankeid eleitezzlzolozoz

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    • agreed – that was a masterful display of insight

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  2. beta droppings are the equivalent of handicapping yourself with costly displays of provider plumage and emotional vulnerability.

    genius!

    Just reminded that you can’t generate attraction by offering shit that they can already get. An AFC responded to my regurgitation of the 1/3 rule of compliments, with an exasperated, well, “but they never compliment me!” Sorry, but throwing out compliments won’t get you any.

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  3. I know he’s lying…but there is no struggle to get to his emotional core.

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  4. I think in humans the actual handicap is testosterone. T actually interferes with your immune system so if you have high T and made it into adulthood, then you must have an awesome immune system.

    Peacocking only makes sense for animals that aren’t as social as humans. Our survival depends on how socially connected we are; there isn’t any human equivalent of a lone peacock with massive plumage.

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    • The handicap principle applies only to aesthetically pleasing handicaps that originate biologically: high testosterone, bright feathers, large horns, etc.

      Mr. My-Little-Pony does not have any readily apparent biological handicaps. Mental handicap, maybe, but no biological handicaps. Note that his fatness is not a handicap.

      As for Mystery, the guy is a sharp dresser and he is congruent with it. He dresses like a performer, which is not too far off from his natural “magician in a club” persona. He has an eye for accessorizing, and if you gave him $100 in JC Penney’s and asked him to dress conservatively, he would still come up with some sharp stuff.

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      • My Little Pony guy is signalling that he gave up. And he’s so defensive about it that he wears it, literally, on his sleeve. Even if there were a pink pony shirt emo scene, and God knows, why not, he’s ethan suplee type frame is a sign of an abused child, abused with a hfcs upbringing.

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      • I believe its testosterone as well. Testosterone reduces empathy and reduces verbal ability. Thus, I notice men with extremely masculine faces dont speak much and arent able to emotionally connect with people. This makes it very hard to pick up women. Vulnerability game does not come easy to these guys.

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      • I was thinking about this point, the kid’s hefty. What if he were an all state defensive tackle on his high school football team and still dressed like that? Would he not get date to prom or blown after win? Course he could.

        Or to Bryan’s point, him being a big oaf with alpha cred from athletic success, the verbal -disability would not matter.

        Um, my point being…. This kid is not fighting off bitches with a stick. He’s realizing that his already low status is a killer and he’s lowering it even more to create an excuse for him not having friends or influencing people.

        The thing is, if he were alpha and wanted to dress like that, the girl he got would probably start dressing that way too. Which would make him happier or sadder?

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    • You hit upon an important aspect of display: a male with expensive or handicapping display, who is still alive, must have some compensating pro-survival characteristics.

      In the case of the actual peacock bird, the males take no part in the raising of young. they just supply sperm. A male peacock with an impressive tail must have been exceptionally strong, fast, and disease-resistant to have survived with it. Those qualities will be passed on to both male AND FEMALE offspring. The pea-hen’s objective in selecting the best peacock, is to find the male who will help her produce the most-fit daughters, because it is the number of DAUGHTERS who live to adulthood that determines the fate of her genetic line.

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    • That testosterone is a handicap theory was always bullshit, since it is directly responsible for the development of male strength, fertility, and rational brain development. The positive effects of testosterone far outweigh any negatives.

      Testosterone is attractive because its effects on the body signal power. Chicks dig power. Whatever it does to the immune system is negligible in comparison.

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  5. Seems like an example of contrast is king. Mystery can wear faggy clothes that suggest 0 social understanding because it contrasts with a demeanor of extreme social savvy. Whereas some one with no social savvy dressing like that does not show contrast but confirmation.

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    • Interesting point. I imagine a guy with the right amount of game can sell being a hard core brony.

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    • Dressing to be noticed, also signals one is supremely comfortable under others’ gaze, signalling confidence.

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    • Uh, Mystery’s clothes are not faggy and don’t constitute “0 social understanding”.

      You are just buying into modern day feminism and capitalism.

      Before women stole them, men were the first to wear things like wigs, makeup, fur, hats, feathers, tights, heels, earrings, robes, ruffles, etc. And they were a hell of a lot more manly back then too. Just ask Capt. Morgan.

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  6. Dear Chateau

    Reading Revelation I came across a shit test that I’m not “SURE” how to respond, hence mystery or Lovedrop do not clearly give an answer to, here gose:

    “You say something, but she completely ignores it as if she didn’t even
    hear you. She avoids your gaze and acts like she can’t see you. She
    completely disacknowledges you.
    Didn’t she hear what you just said? You look stupid if you repeat
    yourself. You try this once, and then get angry at her for “making you
    look stupid.”
    If you become confrontational, now you are the one in violation,
    and she has a legitimate reason to treat you as weird and creepy.”

    Basically it just tells you what not to do, which I understand.

    If a girl says “What?” and acts like she didn’t here you to make you look stupid when really in truly she did hear you, what would be a proper responce? Help much appreciated.

    [heartiste: “nevermind”.
    whatever you do, don’t repeat yourself if you think she genuinely heard you but is playing a dominance bitch game. repeating yourself is low value. “nevermind” is a good reply to that. as is saying “what?” in return, like you’re mimicking her for fun. “you heard me” is another good reply if she’s being especially bitchy and you think she’d appreciate a little of the ol’ ultra-asshole. or, my favored response, just ignore her “what?” and either change the subject or talk to someone else in the vicinity.]

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    • She’s being a bitch, no doubt about it. In addition to CH advice, don’t be very nice to her for a few days. Maybe even disappear for a night or two without an explanation.

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    • Sometimes, when women ignore you it’s to help you avoid the acknowedlgement that you’re saying something stupid, and thus repeating yourself is a doubly bad idea.

      I’ve seen my afc friends do this and based upon that observative I’ve made it a point to not repeat self unless good reason.

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    • Yeah, I’ve run into that a couple of times. Not the “What?” but just pretending they didn’t hear me. I always walk away and find somebody else to talk to. I can’t remember a case when a girl who pretended not to hear me actually showed interest later.

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    • Thank you, my cousin who I live with dose this allot. I like to practice game on her tho.

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    • you: stupidwhoresaywhat
      her: what?
      you: lolzlzolzozlzolzzozlzozlzlzolzlolz

      i usually go with ‘never mind’ or ‘don’t worry bout it’

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    • on October 16, 2012 at 2:12 am eat it up beat it up

      I remember a girl pulling this on me once. This was before I knew about this blog.

      I knew she had heard me. I held my frame, paused for a few seconds while still looking at her, and then said, calmly but firmly, “I’m talking to you.”

      She then lowered the bitch shield and responded to what I had initially said.

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    • Is she ticklish? My girl gets pinned downed and tickled when she’s bad.

      Another non-verbal way to mitigate her attempted dominance display is to stare at the center of her forehead, just above the eyes with an expressionless gaze. This is a body language technique that creates tension and conveys both dominance and contempt. This can be very intimidating and aggressive so if she’s really a good girl don’t overdo it. (Source: semi-hot blond fox news chick’s book on body language)

      And if you haven’t already made romance explosion in her and that is your goal then this might not the best thing to do. Although, perhaps if you break the tension with a smile or a good tickling it would be an effective push-pull sort of thing. Try it out and report back.

      Status seeking male members of a peer group commonly do this as a calculated dominance / status display often within earshot of others, usually when they already perceive another is lower status and are “going in for the kill”. It’s effective because if you’re on the receiving end of it then your relative status is instantly determined and put on display by both your physical and verbal reaction. In terms of body language the group will know he’s taken you down a peg if you avert your gaze downward, your jaw drops, your shoulders slump, you fidget, or make excessive head movements

      Since these physical responses are involuntary, it’s probably best to focus on maintaining powerful body language and say nothing more than is required to get him to look your way (e.g. calling his name) and and giving the hard forehead gaze. It’s an aggressive thing to do, but it serves to maintain your status and it puts him on notice.

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    • I use this to AMOG guys. I say “What?” and get them to repeat themselves, especially when they’re saying their name or if they zing me with a good burn. If I need to really crush them I’ll misinterpret them after too, so they have to clarify AGAIN what they meant.

      (Me with girl, guy comes up and hits on her and I can tell he’s a random and not a friend of hers):
      Her: “this is YaReally”
      Me: “Hey man, what’s up? I’m YaReally.” (bug friendly smile and vibe from me the whole time)
      Him: “(shaking my hand) Jimmy.”
      Me: “(as if he was too quiet for the bar music) What?”
      Him: “JIMMY!”
      Me: “Kimmy? Oh man you must’ve gone thru hell in school with a girl’s name.”
      Him: “huh? Wait no its–”
      Me: “It’s cool, I got a buddy who’s parent named him Jesse and people always assume he’s a girl before they meet him lol”
      Him: “(frustrated/embarrassed) no no, it’s JIMMY. With a J”
      Me: “Ohhhh fuck my bad lol sorry I can’t hear shit over this music. So where are your friends Jimmy?”
      etc.

      By then, even if he had a vibe going on with the girl, I’ve shit all over it and fucked his state up too much for him to recover lol I’ve had slick alphas escape this trap but its extremely rare and I don’t even get mad at those guys I give them props and learn from how they handled me.

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  7. All points well taken, but I disagree that Game is at odds with the Handicapping principle. The principle doesn’t say anything about synthetic status displays. You actually need to have the goods you are signaling for it to work. You can pin plumage to a rooster, but that doesn’t make it a peacock. You can dress George Costanza like Mystery but that doesn’t make their game equal. Any of us could blow several paychecks to rent a Ferrari for a week, but it doesn’t make you the high-value man who can afford such a car. When you have the goods – i.e. when you actually are a high earner, you show it through your car, boat, house and other spending habits; when’re youre a physical marvel it’s already pretty obvious, but you can show it more by your choice of clothing etc. etc. Point is – fake status signaling, (or Game tactics to some) is not a natural phenomenon addressed by the Handicapping principle.

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  8. I know a guy locally who sorta kinda models himself after Mystery. He’s short. Not sure if he ever actually gets any girls, but usually the only ones who seem to give him the time of day are the artsy/funky ones.
    Showy plumage and such are, in the animal kingdom, detrimental to the male’s life expectancy, but highly desirable for his mating potential. The females don’t give a crap how soon he dies, just as long as he fertilizes her eggs with Showy Plumage offspring first. In humans, most females actually prefer the live-fast-die-young type of guy, provided, of course, he’s tall & hot. Result: Legions of Single Mothers(TM) wondering why they ‘can’t find a Nice Guy(TM)’ in online dating forums.

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  9. Isn’t vulnerability game essentially the old interview trick of turning a negative into a positive, or rather a beta trait into an alpha trait? E.g., I cook a lot because I am always having people over, I like cuddling and watching a movie because I’m so busy I rarely have the time to do so, etc.

    My favorite is that I do the big brother program:
    “I have to go do ____ with my little brother on Monday.”
    “Awwww, that’s so cute.”
    “Yeah, I figure somebody needs to teach the little bastard to shoot guns and chase women.”

    Works pretty ace.

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  10. I dunno, I think the metalhead in a My Little Pony t-shirt looks mysterious and interesting. He looks so batshit. I thought women liked batshit crazy men?

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  11. Women find even THAT guy interesting?

    Now I understand why chastity belts were invented.

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  12. Here’s my problem: oneitis with a BPD. I can’t get over her, and simultaneously attract all the crazy hot whore’s into my bed silently & invisibly like a unicorn. The hotter they have been, the more damage they have done, as I’ve come to understand.

    Plus, men hate me more and more every day because of how easily I hoodoo their voodoo women. And I’m white.

    Virgin or whore? Complex, herpes. What’s a guy to do when the only option’s are outcome independent? I wish I were a beta, I’d have reasons to live & want to pass on my seed – masturbation doesn’t cut it, those women are outside. I guess I am a beta, ’cause I think about this shit too much. Because I’ve experienced too many women, sexually.

    Both short-term & long-term. And whether a week, a night, a year or two or three or eight, with or without effort they’ve all been exactly the fucking same. In the end, they all recognize and respect me, doubtlessly & come back for more – be that a day, a week, a night, a year or two or three or eight, with or without effort. However, that means I’m a nice guy who is gonna finish last, because I started first as the Alpha. No such thing nowadays as a nice guy, nor Alpha, nor Beta.

    It almost feels as if it’s my station in life, or my duty, to be the man who turns a virgin into a whore, and a whore into a respectful beta-seeker. That’s been my experience thus far. Countlessly.

    All men & all women are the same. Some just have more affluential upbringings. Same problems in every class, caste, or system, whether they promote being chaste or not. It’s the managing of emotions that we haven’t figured out yet, though we all know essentially what would make for a better existence. And all those problems stem from the fundamentally hypergamous nature of women, and the swaying sexual nature of men learning to attract women – Alpha by trial & error, Beta by study & prayer. Or, because men typically say what they mean, and do what they say, they are manipulated in manifold ways by the Law of coy women – so to dominate is to submit & to submit is to dominate – a constant game of flux of Game, between Man and Women.

    Maybe I’m babbling, but I needed to get it out.

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    • oh you’re babbling for sure.

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    • ” masturbation doesn’t cut it ”

      Why are you spanking the monkey, if your getting laid so much ??

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      • That’s what I’m sayin’ – no masturbation. So I fuck instead. Sleepless nights abound, but pussy flows freely too. And I think that’s the issue. After becoming a lesbian via game, I just fuck around too much. Even guys ask me out on dates or for a drink. And I get free meals and free drinks from both sexes. People come to me for advice, or I direct women to me for sex. Truly a Cat, I suppose. Or a magnet. I pick and choose who & when & how. It’s simple. Though it’s exhausting, this knowledge. Da’at.

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      • ” After becoming a lesbian via game ”

        Damn man, are you a guy or a girl ?? I’m confused as f*** .

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      • what’s the most you have had sex with in one day w/o trying .. sort of just in flow..? and how many times has that happened in your life ..

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    • on October 15, 2012 at 9:07 pm gunslingergregi

      good stuff

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    • I just use a cunt to masturbate. Problem solved.

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  13. on October 15, 2012 at 6:20 pm Lucky White Male

    ” But you need unshakeable confidence bordering on delusion..”

    Yes

    A great KMac quote: “The greatest deceivers are those most self-deceived.”

    Seduction, a game of deception in many ways. You need legitimate confidence but also a good dose of irrational OVER confidence.

    Something the greatest men of history (and the greatest con men) had in spades

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  14. Concepts that were once so foreign now seem obvious after a few years reading this blog. I read this entry and thought, but of course. Tangentially, he probably is responsible for the high success of my marriage.

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  15. Tweet:
    Btw, for purely self-interested materialist reasons, I would choose to be best writer. But for transcendental reasons, best mathematician
    ____________

    You’re already the best goddamn motherfucking writer in this country.

    Ditch the false modesty bro. It doesn’t suit you.

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  16. sigh… this thread is too complicated for my tiny negro brain. Can ya’ll change the topic to something like “race” so I can participate?

    Thanks.

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    • Don’t worry; Sweetheart Jason will excuse your lack of intelligence as “white man’s racism.”

      After all, you’re “averagely” intelligent…for a negro.

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  17. I began a blog because, as the blog banner suggests of my concern that western society has become to left wing pink, and fluffy, and that through the combination of communist political correctness, and radical feminism the anglosphere is rapidly flushing away everything that was once right, and joyful is now nearly all necrotic, and sour.

    Normal heterosexual desire is only a few small steps away from being declared a hate crime, obesity is now seen as a lifestyle choice rather than the mental disorder that it so clearly is. Cultural Marxism hates beauty, yet it cannot stand to hear an ugly truth, so instead perpetuates pretty lies that sensor freedom of thought and expression which leads to the dystopian state in which no one now matter how depraved, and self indulgent should ever be made to feel they are being judged, unless of course you happen to be a normal heterosexual which means you are a hater.

    One of the wisest statements I have heard lately is “political correctness is communist thought control disguised as good manners”, this going to be my new meme, and I think this would serve as a mantra for the fightback that is beginning to gain ground on the fringes, and will in time find its way into mainstream thought. Unfortunately the required correction is still a long way off because the opinions of normal thinkers are becoming less, and less represented where it counts i.e. in politics, law, education, the media that are the principal instruments of societal change.

    The left (socialists, and democrats[gimmedats]) will always remain the most populist faction because they offer to give every minority everything for nothing even if it leads to national bankruptcy, and insurmountable borrowing, in fact this travesty furthers the communist mission creep as western nations have to go cap in hand to the likes of China, and Russia to have any chance of just about making the IMF loan interest repayments.

    So why then the alienation of the normal heterosexual?, put simply the strong family unit is the biggest obstacle to cultural Marxism because a family has to be concerned about what its taxes are spent on, its disposable income has to spent wisely, and not frittered away. Dystopia purposefully ignores the uncomfortable truth that without working families to pay for its dysfunctional indulgences the “everything free for every outlier gravy train” will eventually grind to a parsimonious halt, and that is why it will eventually crash, but there is still a long way to go.

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  18. There is a thing called “stolting” displayed by male antelope of several species. Basically, they show the females how high they can fling themselves into the air and then to survive a brutal, dead-stop -stop landing. When done right, it looks like the word sounds. When it is done right, Antelope Pussy opens up like a field of flowers in bloom.
    Whatever. The trick is to make the kind of display that aligns with the specific, sometimes very specific, hind-brain desires of the targeted females.

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  19. There is a difference between countersignaling and the handicap principle or handicap signaling. In the case of handicap signaling, the display or signal is genuinely costly. In the case of countersignaling, it’s not. I think the examples described are mostly examples of countersignaling rather than the handicap principle per se.

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  20. I raped a handicapped kid once…tastes just like chicken.

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  21. on October 15, 2012 at 9:13 pm gunslingergregi

    yea handicapped myself to that point with almost no money still had the hottest blond on the street showing up at my house to hang with me till i told her not to come anymore. She disapeared off the planet after that. Am stuck with the second hottest bitch off the street now.

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  22. on October 15, 2012 at 9:16 pm gunslingergregi

    so is it the prettiest woman that can’t handle rejection at all?
    cause this chick ain’t been seen in 5 months

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  23. on October 15, 2012 at 9:19 pm gunslingergregi

    wierd part was i didn’t want to fuck her as much as the chick i am fucking shit out of now so still not sure on the looks thing only cause like my wife now the current chick got the same bloodtype as me still working on that theory

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    • Your wife is a whore.

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      • on October 15, 2012 at 9:36 pm gunslingergregi

        she was not anymore lolzzzz

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      • on October 15, 2012 at 9:46 pm gunslingergregi

        best woman i have had literally walked through the valley of the shadow of death and made it ok with her
        got to read bible even jesus knew to save the life of one and once she was hooked she was really really really hooked cause she done had everything but you and will be one of the only ones really there to the end period even when your an invalid she still gonna be wiping your ass and taking care of you.
        even your on the cross she gonna be at the foot

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      • on October 15, 2012 at 9:55 pm gunslingergregi

        but yea not with wife now just passing some time with some other chicks wife hotter than both he he he

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      • on October 15, 2012 at 9:58 pm gunslingergregi

        like how people say if you don’t like the us get the fuck out well it doesn’t quite work like that when they know you want to get the fuck out a judge orders you to stay
        like crabs pulling the other crabs back into the barrel so they can’t fucking escape
        yea thats the us

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      • emigrated long ago, never regretted it

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      • America – love it or leave it? Expressed by the right and the left in various ways. But it is not easy to leave the US. First, and this is true of leaving any country, there must be somewhere to move to. This is not trivial.

        Worse, the US is the one supposedly civilized country that it is the hardest to leave. (Not counting hellholes like Cuba, North Korea etc.). Sure, you can get yourself physically out of the country (assuming you have somewhere to go to) but it is hard to get the country out of you . US citizens are obliged to follow US law in many respects, most specifically paying US income tax (in principle – there are all sorts of breaks available) even when not living in the US. Your are not even allowed to buy a Cuban cigar in Mexico and smoke it in Mexico. (OK, that’s pretty trivial and hard to enforce, but it illustrates the principle. Oh, and you also need to register for the draft – if male of soldier age – this might be a non-trivial point)

        To really leave the US, you need to renounce your US citizenship, which is possible but fairly difficult. And you may still be deemed owing US income taxes for another 10 years. And/or you may be denied entry to the US, even if you are now citizen of a country whose citizens are normally allowed entry to the US with a minimum of problems. (Of course, as with physically leaving and needing somewhere to go to, you need to acquire some new citizenship so you can travel, this is also non-trivial.)

        I am working on this – I have been in the US for only two weeks since early June.

        Thor

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      • Thor
        America – love it or leave it? Expressed by the right and the left in various ways. But it is not easy to leave the US. First, and this is true of leaving any country, there must be somewhere to move to. This is not trivial.
        —————-

        All your country are belong to us.

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      • Can you elaborate on the “judge orders you to stay”?

        Thor

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      • on October 16, 2012 at 10:06 am gunslingergregi

        not renouncing citizenship they owe me money he he he
        not a problem with staying in another country for however long i want
        judge said i got to stay near us doctors
        but get in touch at [email protected]

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  24. Outrageously handicapping yourself can’t be too good of a thing. I keep it simple. A few things to make myself more interesting than other males, but nothing that will bring more attention than I’m prepared to handle. You also want to provoke curiosity; I don’t think that lavish overstatement is the way to do this. Subtlety can be your friend.
    Besides, if everyone started dressing like Mystery, wouldn’t that cause problems?

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    • Not for me. If everyone dressed like Mystery, women would think they were homos and avoid them.

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    • if everyone else dresses like mystery, then you dress like a normal human being. you then stand out from everyone else. contrast.

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  25. on October 15, 2012 at 9:27 pm gunslingergregi

    had my iraq no give a fuck look going long hair long beard no teeth he he he

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  26. “women love to feel like they have to struggle to get a man to admit his emotional core, and dislike having men dump a bucket of their emotional core all over them.”

    This seems to imply that the alpha male is made up of an emotional core surrounded by an exterior layer of something that isn’t emotional. This something that isn’t emotional would, I assume, be the thing that women would ideally perceive when they are having a conversation with the alpha male. What is this exterior layer? What, besides emotion, could it be made up of?

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    • simple: strenght, and everything that implies it, be it strong social skill, ableness to respond well to danger etc. the out layer consists of these traits.
      It needs to spell “SELFCONFIDANCE!!”

      Plus my theory is that if that girl that is now testing you in a little skrimish called talk, and gets to you easilly,by breaking your frame, rendering you confused, or submissive,
      her hindbrain will say something like this: If i can break him this easy, what will other men do to him? This dude can only be marginalized (at best) in society, he will not take a good care of me or our children, he doesn’t fight now, he will not fight for us once i commit to him either. This one is so far worth nothing.”

      They don’t think that openely, or even deliberately, but i think that that’s behind it. So make your outlier strong.

      Hm… If we have strong outlayer, and soft core, women is the opposite, they(most) have easy layer, and cold core. If a girl has strong layer outside, when you break in you’ll find a soft core…
      But these tend to be boyish in some things…

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  27. So, does a funny hat like this one work as a handicap for someone who isn’t that confident? The hat is the ONLY weird thing being worn.

    http://barnim.deviantart.com/gallery/?offset=24#/d53xbc0

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  28. on October 16, 2012 at 1:20 am gunslingergregi

    if you look at pic though the thing is working pretty hard to look like that lol

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  29. I want to use a woman as an emotional pillow. To dump my problems on her, to have her comfort me. I’m mostly into guys, so I can do without sex, though I’d like physical affection with a woman. I’m not sure I’ll ever be able to find this. They DO NOT want to do this with me.

    [heartiste: redirect to: bronies, llc.]

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    • I’m not a brony I agree with this blog. I don’t understand what’s wrong with wanting emotional support and affection from a woman if I happen to be a mostly homo. The only thing I disagree with what you say is that often you seem to imply women would love to have this kind of emotional sexless relationship, but they definitely don’t. They insist I fuck them and when I don’t all hell breaks loose. Eventually they do start to loathe me, predictably, but it takes them a long time. It’s also very interesting how, when they start to hate me, it’s never because I’m a faggot or beta (or omega) but supposedly because I’m “domineering” and selfish. And of course the guys who are assholes and actually fulfill their womanly desires are believed by these same girls to be “nice,” giving and kind.

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  30. I’m impressed by the depth and science of this handicap article. It really simplified and explained.

    http://kim.oyhus.no/AbsenceOfEvidence.html

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  31. “Maxim #55: The degree to which you handicap yourself in an effort to signal high status to women should be commensurate with your game expertise and your confidence level.”

    When a newbie starts out, we tell him to groom himself and get new clothes etc. it’s not because those things matter and will attract the girl, it’s because he doesn’t have enough alpha traits to make up for the handicap of looking like a slob.

    When a PUA hits a certain skill level, it’s important that he go out once in a while or for a period of time looking like shit (a lot of PUAs will just shave their heads or gain/lose a bunch of weight or grow ugly moustaches and beards or wear the same outfit out for a month straight etc). At that point he has enough alpha traits to overcome looking exactly like the ubkempt newbie does and it’s important for him to gather the reference experiences of having success while looking his worst, to drive home the point to himself that his looks don’t matter. Once you’ve pulled a handful of girls looking your worst, you understand why the advanced PUAs stress that looks and nice clothes and cars are irrelevant.

    Far as extreme peacocking goes, you need the congruency and confidence to back it up. If you go out dressed like mystery and take over a room like he does and disarm shit-tests effortlessly, it builds attraction (for a more common example, take the frat boys who go out in togas or as part of an 80s theme night etc an are just having a blast fucking around).

    If you go out peacocked up and aren’t feeling confident and let shit-tests phase you, you’ll be the guy sitting in a corner socially mortified and feeling like an idiot thinking everyone’s watching and judging him, which wearing a ridiculous outfit. I learned that one the hard way lol but you have to, to really understand how much of a difference your vibe makes to the results peacocking gets you.

    Peacocking isn’t what gets you attraction, peacocking instigates shit-tests from society around you, men and women and your own internal fears of social judgement/pressure, and allows you to demonstrate that you can handle those things like a boss and THAT is what gets you attraction.

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  32. I have previously suggested in contradistinction to the usually accepted view that so far as humans are concerned it is the females – and not the males – that display. The multi-billion dollar cosmetics industry aimed at women is surely proof of that, but what of female choice?

    Clearly women are very selective, and Game is an attempt to go to the top of the queue. All the Game in the world is not going to help the guy in the linked video from taterearl. Which brings me to handicaps. A handicap shows to a woman that a man is better than the average. What greater handicap therefore could one imagine than Felix Baumgartner jumping from thirty-four miles up in his balloon. No wonder he has now announced his intended marriage – she must have been wetting herself. This is why women are attracted to soldiers and guys play chicken – but it is not Game!

    What then is one to make of Mystery. It is hardly a handicap – as he must come across as a twat.

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