Marriage Is No Escape From The Sexual Market

A reader passes along this personal anecdote:

I wrote you about a year ago with a tale about a birthday dinner with a girlfriend where I showed up late, had no present, and subsequently violated her in wonderfully new ways that night as a result.  The main reason I wrote at the time was because I owe a great deal of how my life has changed, both at work and with women, to your blog.

Today I have another entertaining story that proves yet again how right your posts are.  I’ve been talking to a married woman for about a month now.  Her husband is well off, but about 15 years older and has made no effort to take care of himself.  He also has very little sex drive.  She does modeling and acting.  I’ve included a picture so you can make your own assessment of how attractive she is (please don’t post that if you do comment on the blog about this.  I’m really not looking to affect her career with this). [ed: she’s sexy.]

I’ve been working her pretty hard the last month.  She gets approached by men EVERYWHERE.  She even has pro athletes trying to hook up with her.  So I  had to go a different route and ride that line of being somewhat supportive when she complained about her husband, but frequently make sure she knew I found her sexy as hell, and wanted to violate the hell out of her.  Halloween, that tension build-up all paid off.  We were both at a party at a bar, friends of hers all over, and after just one drink, she didn’t care who was watching.  We didn’t even make it to midnight before I was violating her in the parking garage.  The thing that was most striking to me after that, was how hard she was working to try to get some indication of commitment from me to assuage any doubts she had about what had happened.  She clearly wants out of her marriage, but that old hypergamy makes her want to know she can jump straight from one secure place to another.

The saddest thing is that her husband effectively all but told her to go fuck me.  She’s spent years trying to get him to go to the gym, go do things with her instead of sitting on his ass, and be affectionate to her.  He basically gave no alpha, and didn’t even give any supportive beta either.  As she’d describe her marriage, he honestly sounded more like your typical housewife (let himself go, believes she should just love him for who he is, etc.) than a man.

I wonder if this kind of thing happened with any regularity in Medieval Europe?

Women simply cannot be trusted to act virtuously. Their sexuality must be constrained to some degree by the operating patriarchy if civilization is to flourish. In times past, the threat of lethal cuckold revenge struck fear into the hearts of whorish wives and alpha male interlopers. Today, the State ensures the cuckold foots the bill for any bastard spawn the whore may have with her itinerant lovers.

How far we’ve fallen.

But I digress. The photo the reader included of the cheating wife was quite telling. Some girls just have the “eye of the trollop”; their intense, smoky glare broadcasts far and wide “I act before I think.” I’m not surprised a rich man married her; rich men tend to be both ignorant of female nature (they can’t be bothered to learn) and hooked on the thrill of possessing a dangerously sexy trophy wife. Rich men are under the mistaken assumption that their wealth is enough to keep a wife fulfilled and satisfied. We here who study the crimson arts know better. Perhaps they deserve the cuckolding they get.

The “love me for who I am” platitude has got to be one of the most self-destructive pretty lies a person can sincerely hold. If you believe that, and act in accordance with that belief, I can practically guarantee you will suffer in love. Even the most naturally natural alpha males who strut with conviction that they are Satan’s gift to the world know that women require certain emotional stimulations to respond sexually and to fall in love.

What can we learn from this reader’s story? Well, if you like the idea of fucking sexy, bored housewives in nightclub parking garages, you should be aware of the following:

1. Does she give off that wonderful whore vibe? Watch for the eyes and the walk. Women who love da cockas have a certain way of walking. And if she glances even for a split second at your package, she’s pre-lubed.

2. Has she been drinking? Really, it helps.

3. Does she complain about her husband or boyfriend within the first five minutes of meeting her? Now you may think this is a recipe for being her emotional tampon so she can bitch about the asshole she loves, but the benefit to you depends greatly on how you handle her whining. Too much concern, you’re beta toast. Too little, you give her no excuse to find salvation in your crotch. Also be cognizant of the style of her complaints; if she’s down to fuck around, she’ll sound more coldly dismissive of her husband or boyfriend rather than earnestly despairing.

4. Do her friends all seem like sluts? Slutty female friends are rarely cockblocks. Do you know why? Because sluts love it when their friends are sluts, too. It means no chance of being judged.

5. Is it Halloween? If it is, double your odds of closing the deal on the same night.

Whatever you do, never give your real name, address or phone number to a married woman. The last thing you need is a shotgun in your face when you open the front door.





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  1. I’d also add to #5

    “#5 is it halloween, or any other high energy/emotional holiday, with no sign of her man in sight? If so, double your odds of closing the deal on the same night.”

    Don’t let any woman you want to keep around be without you those nights. And keep a lookout for solos the whole time. You never know what may happen if the man goes home early amd she sticks around

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    • on November 18, 2012 at 11:47 am Zombie Shane the Evangelist

      Marriage is an institution the one [and sole] legitimate purpose of which is the creation, birthing, nurturing and raising of CHILDREN.

      As far as I can tell, old wealthy man-boobs dude never bothered to start a family with young, flaming-hot model chick.

      Seriously – WTF do people think is supposed to happen within a childless “marriage”?

      It’s as though old wealthy man-boobs dude was using young, flaming-hot model chick as an anatomically-correct inflatable blow-up doll, which he then promptly threw in the back of the closet when he grew bored with her.

      If you aren’t going to make & raise a family, then WTH are you doing getting “married”?

      It’s just an exceedingly pointless exercise in grotesquely narcissistic and purposeless nihilism.

      Children.

      Off-spring.

      Progeny.

      The Future of the Human Race.

      That’s where it’s at.

      Anything else is a waste of everyone’s time.

      PS: And for all you now-aging PUAs who haven’t yet taken the plunge, you can either get busy making babies, or you can get busy going extinct…

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      • on November 18, 2012 at 12:07 pm Zombie Shane the Evangelist

        If I can be allowed to reply to myself – for the younger PUAs at CH, who never saw it the first time around – check out 1987’s “White Mischief”:

        http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0094317/

        It features a young Greta Scacchi, at the very pinnacle of her sexuality [which, I can guarantee you, was one helluva pinnacle], and it tells the story of a bunch of crusty old British dudes, who sit around all day [every day], competing with a cocky young army-officer PUA for her affection.

        It’s immediately obvious that her old, wealthy, man-boobs husband had made a terrible mistake in marrying a girl like her with no intention of starting a family.

        Without the blood ties [and, if I might be so bold, without the spiritual ties] to him which would have come from making a family, she ends up viewing him as nothing more than a glorified Automatic Teller Machine.

        PS: Make sure that you get the “Uncut” version, because Scacchi gave a very, very “NC-17” performance.

        IYKWIMAITYD.

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  2. The eye of the trollop is actually the tell of the BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder). They are the most dangerous female in existence because they keep themselves looking as hot as they can while at the same time standing ever ready to falsely accuse if they don’t get what they want. Jill Kelley has the look of the classic BPD as does Broadwell. They always do crazy things with their eyes (intense wide open eye staring) and their eyes wander wander wander looking for victims where ever they go. Think Fatal Attraction. 10% of USA females are BPD.

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  3. […] A reader passes along this personal anecdote: I wrote you about a year ago with a tale about a birthday dinner with a girlfriend where I showed up late, had no present, and subsequently violated her in wonderfully new ways that night as a result.  The main reason I wrote at the time was because I owe a great deal of how my life has changed, both at work and with women, to your blog. Today I have another entertaining story that proves yet again how right your posts are.  I’ve been talking to a married woman for about a month now.  Her husband is well off, but about 15 years older and has made no effort to take care of himself.  He also has very little sex drive.  She does modeling and acting.  I’ve included a picture so you can make your own assessment of how attractive she is (please don’t post that if you do comment on the blog about this.  I’m really not looking to affect her career with this). [ed: she's sexy.] I’ve been working her pretty hard the last month.  She gets approached by men EVERYWHERE.  She even has pro athletes trying to hook up with her.  So I Source: Chateau Heartiste   […]

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  4. Just like Petraeus with the genders reversed. High value person wed to dumpy passive farm animal. A persistent tempter/temptress triggers a lack of discretion.

    Because they are too wrapped up in polite fictions they lack the self awareness to conduct a discreet affair. The reader probably could have kept this going on longer if he would have kept it out of public… I guess I’m still angry that the director of the CIA can’t even conduct a clandestine fucking affair! America deserves better role models.

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  5. 5. Is it Halloween? If it is, double your odds of closing the deal on the same night.

    Ha. ‘Tis true.

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  6. and the danger is much higher than one would expect where 10% of the women in the USA have BPD, because they keep themselves attractive, as a necessity of THEIR game, far more often than the average woman, their actual impact numbers in PUAland may be more like 30%, or 1 in 3. Their pathology is based on abandonment they felt as children and they are quick to have sex in order to attach. They are also quick to lie and falsely accuse and, because they have a lifetime of experience, are very convincing actresses. Divorcing or breaking up with a BPD can be one of the most dangerous moments in your life. They will attack with utter ruthlessness.

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    • From personal observation, I’ve seen and heard of lots of fatties and fugs who obviously have BPD. And overall, having BPD appears to be correlated with how many cocks a woman has taken.

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    • I know BPD quite well. An ex-girlfriend had it (as did her mother). It will seriously screw up your life, if you don’t run. Alluring insanity.

      Broadwell has the same look in her eye.

      It decreases with age, FYI.

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  7. A good example of how money is no substitute for alpha behavior. The husband in the story doesn’t even sound like he was using “white knight beta provider game” (as my friend calls it) he just expected his pile of money to take care of things and in the end it doesn’t even seem that he cared. It’s a warning too that even if you aren’t a chump husband like this guy, you still risk infidelity if your wife has higher SMV than you. In one post you’ve convinced me of what I vaguely realized, a patriarchy is good for civilization. It’s not perfect, no system is, but it beats the hell out of the manboob/matriarchy that’s collapsing the West in front of our eyes.

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  8. I have no faith in married women (most of em)

    When i worked job fairs for a healthcare firm, all the big hospitals and health systems in the US and Canada would send recruiters to these fairs. A majority of these recruiters were married.

    I don’t think i have to finish this story for you guys…

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  9. I’m guessing by comparison the submitter of this email is in decent (?) shape and generally better looking. I have noticed this from experience and observation, that bored trophy wives tend to go for more physically attractive guys. Or maybe it’s just me, but having been on the receiving end of this as a personal trainer of said wives, it’s like they have the money thing taken care of, now they just need a hot boy toy for the sex part. No complaints.

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  10. on November 16, 2012 at 6:14 pm John the Apostate

    As Halloween has passed, I’m looking at the coming holidays? I can see some potential for new years, any thoughts on v-day?

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  11. The more I read about cheating…the more I blame the spouse of lesser value for facilitating it.

    It’s even got to the point…I can tell which ladies are easier to pick off by how their significant other acts. It doesn’t take much…slumped shoulders, nervous tics, PDA, scared to go through life. I wouldn’t trust women much these days either…given the lack of quality men they have that pass through their life. Look out when one does.

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    • agreed, and not because i occasionaly cheat. when you are in a situation where it becomes blatently evident that your partner has no intention of meeting your needs (what ever they may be) there can only be one outcome.

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  12. […] Marriage Is No Escape From The Sexual Market […]

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  13. on November 16, 2012 at 7:42 pm badluckwalksin

    I am a woman; I read your blog regularly because I find your opinions very interesting.

    I disagree with you on somethings, though. If you would care to respond I would be interested to challenge you on this; thank you for your cooperation.

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    • on November 17, 2012 at 5:20 pm Dr. Kenneth Noisewater

      TITS OR GTFO

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    • He won’t.

      The argument against most everything he writes here can be boiled down to “people are decent, and decent people don’t behave this way”. Which is true, when it’s true, but it’s also missing the point. This blog postulates that feminism is eroding the fundamentals of our society and we are, in effect, returning to a state of nature in regards to sexual relations. Base human nature is overtaking the decency of civilization, and this is the position he’s writing from. There’s no allowance for acts of personal decency, because in this world, such things don’t exist. It’s borderline satirical at times, but like all good satire, it’s a horrible reflection of an eventual reality, given a current social path.

      Basically, yes, there are still good people out there that are still clinging to civilization as a way to overcome the meaner driving instincts of human nature. But there are far fewer of them than there should be.

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      • Cynthia: what he’s saying is bullshit; don’t let it get you down and don’t waste time trying to assess the validity of what’s he’s saying; I’m sure you have much better things you could be doing.

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      • *No offense. ^^

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  14. Unfortunately, a lot of boys grow up hearing rotten old sardines like ‘Some day, you’ll meet a girl who will love you for who you are.’
    What these boys are not being told is the fact that the girl who will (allegedly) love them for who they are (whatever that may mean) is most definitely NOT the girl the boy in question would ever want.
    Unconditional love may be had from a few family members (if you’re lucky) and pets.
    Looking for unconditional love from human females is like looking for live mermaids in your bathtub or a friendly unicorn in a factory in Cleveland.
    Mr. Hubby in the above example sounds like your typical Gamma: High status but otherwise unattractive. This seems to be becoming a theme here over the past few days.The model chick married him because he could further (read: finance) her career. Not too bad of a deal, provided he had her sign a watertight pre-nup and won’t shed a tear when he has to divorce her over her IAM (innocent angel mistake) with the pool boy/gardener/cable guy.
    He’s loaded, he can get ‘nuddah hottie.

    Listening to women bitch about hubs, Ex’s,BFs, or any other male they are or were fucking is a vewwy, vewwy slippery slope straight down into The Friend Zone.
    From which there is NO escape.

    Giving your number to women – married or unmarried – is usually pointless, the only ones who call you first are either 10 years older or lesbos wanting to be friends.
    Getting her number is the ONLY way.

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    • on November 21, 2012 at 7:32 pm badluckwalksin

      You don’t need unconditional love if you have a genuine connection with someone. Unconditional love is what a parent gives to their child; not a spouse to her husband. That’s a different matter

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      • on November 21, 2012 at 7:36 pm badluckwalksin

        Of course, you can’t have a sexual relationship with someone if you don’t find them sexually attractive. I wouldn’t, either. But what I find attractive in a guy is good personality, good looks (something I find attractive, doesn’t amtter if other people say he is or not) and most importantly of all, sincerity. I think the last thing is the most important for a person in life.

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      • on November 21, 2012 at 7:38 pm badluckwalksin

        The way you guys are going, you’ll never finda person who genuinely cares for you even if you’re looking for another 1,000 years. Why should I envy someone like you? It’s unfortunate, but that’s what’s happened to you.

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      • BadLukwalkin

        I actually agree with you on the importance of sincerity in all things. Because if you are good at faking that, you will be in-like-flint.

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      • on November 21, 2012 at 7:44 pm badluckwalksin

        ‘in-like-flin’t – what does that mean? I’ve never heard of that phrase before.

        Did you ever think deeply about what sincerity means? ‘Sincerity’ means to never be afraid of anything.

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      • I often think deep, sincere thoughts about the true meaning of sincerity.

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      • on November 21, 2012 at 8:09 pm badluckwalksin

        That’s good! 🙂

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      • on November 21, 2012 at 8:15 pm badluckwalksin

        lol you are funny

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      • The funny thing about girls who live in feminist creativity lala land is they don’t understand how predictable they are. All “sexually attractive” means is that the guy is socially dominant, charismatic and has other girls falling for him – all of which makes the rest of your criteria futile. The guys who are sexually successful with women in are Naturals (guys you would consider to be assholes or manwhores) and readers of this blog/PUAs (guys you tell your friends and BFs ‘it just happened’)

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  15. “1. Does she give off that wonderful whore vibe? Watch for the eyes and the walk. Women who love da cockas have a certain way of walking.”

    I don’t trust that a woman’s walk betrays much of anything at all regarding how often she has sex because of three reasons:

    1. few women, sluts especially, orgasm during even half of their sexual encounters
    2. women that don’t have sex often are likely to be orgasming regularly with their back massagers or showerheads
    3. I’ve noticed women consciously exaggerate the sway of their hips when they realize I’m watching them

    That being said, the myth of the “vaginal orgasm” needs to be done away with. There’s only one place the orgasm will occur: the clitoris. Orgasm may result from stimulation of the vagina or other places in a minority of women, but a true orgasm will never happen anywhere but the clitoris. I also do not trust women to even know whether or not they are “vaginally orgasmic”. Many women seem to mistake intense sensations for orgasm, “g-spot” stimulation in particular. I won’t believe a woman can orgasm just from vaginal stimulation until I have her in a lab and hooked up to an EEG during the act.

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    • I beg to differ… but hold on while I go get some popcorn.

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    • “There’s only one place the orgasm will occur: the clitoris. Orgasm may result from stimulation of the vagina or other places in a minority of women, but a true orgasm will never happen anywhere but the clitoris.”

      Your statements are completely laughable. In the above quote you directly contradict yourself twice.

      Don’t be bitter that you can’t get a woman off through g-spot stimulation. Women are different sure, but their biggest source of orgasm is between their ears.

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      • Totally agreed. It depends a lot on the girl though – I once had a girl orgasm solely through touching her buttocks and breasts (and talking), but have met others who couldn’t seem to orgasm at all, even with clitoral stimulation.

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      • Are Asians harder to piush across the finish line?

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    • You’re illiterate.

      Do some real research, instead of jacking it off to feminist studies.

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    • http://riffraff92.blogspot.com/2012_04_01_archive.html

      http://zh.wikipedia.org/zh-sg/File:Clitoris_anatomy_labeled-en.svg

      look at those two diagrams, then get back with those in the know when you figure out that how, why, and under what circumstances Vaginal/G spot/ & Anal orgasms are possible.

      i get why women are clueless about their own anatomy and how it works (being nearly completely un-interested in how things work is a fatal flaw of the female species as a whole; but they remain blissfully satisfied with alpha cock, [orgasm or no] so who cares) but as a man – more is expected of you.

      [heartiste: it’s a troll. don’t bother responding to it.]

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    • On 3. was having this conversation with a work collegue yesterday. With sluts/prick teasers conscious, other women probably sub-conscious.

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  16. on November 17, 2012 at 1:42 am Bharatiyaa Brouhaha

    The best sex women have is with themselves. They learn how to bring themselves to intense orgasmic ecstacy during puberty. A man can never give her comparable pleasure unless he’s some Mantak Chia protege or something.

    Females are very lucky to have their anatomy.

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  17. How to recognize a trollop:
    http://goo.gl/VxKJa

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    • Lol, seems like a nice girl…

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      • Ars gratia artis.

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      • on November 18, 2012 at 11:56 am Great Books For Men GreatBooksForMen GBFM (TM) GB4M (TM) GR8BOOKS4MEN (TM) lzozozozozlzo (TM)

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    • That pic was frightening. I got a horrible thought of her impregnating herself. Egh.

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  18. on November 17, 2012 at 2:52 am Charlesz Martel

    As far as orgasm goes, penile stimulation is definitely enough to bring some women to orgasm. If you’ve ever been with a squirter, you’ll find that out, as there’s no way she can fake that. I once had a swinger who gushed/came five times in one session, completely soaking the mattress- purely from penile stimulation. An older slut, BTW.

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    • I have bad news for you: she pissed on your bed. Gushing and squirting is not cumming. It is not an orgasm. It is the result of stimulation of the urethral sponge during penetration. There is no receptacle in the female body for that much fluid. Females only produce about 5 mL at most of ejaculatory fluid. After that, it comes from the bladder.

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  19. …or it might be wife describing her husband is bad way (to rationalize her cheating). Physical appearance tells a little about man’s value, husband might be alpha as fuck – all we know are from her tales.

    As for ‘looking for signs of commitment’ – can be also part of rationalization she’s looking for.

    What I have learnt is not to trust those bitches, the more attractive sluts are just more picky.

    P.S.
    Well done on +1 notch!

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    • Yeah, we can’t trust the part about him having no sex drive and not giving her affection either. That’s just what she’s telling the LW.

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  20. The husband sounds like a housewife? No, he might just not give a fuck. He might be tired of her…he might not want to put in the effort to impress and woo her because he’s not that excited about her. Really, not everyone wants to play this game.

    I had an experience recently that speaks to this. I was very depressed, didn’t want to see anyone (friend or girl), had no sex drive. I was out of shape, dressed in old clothes that I almost never washed. A pretty, brainy girl who had known me before when I wasn’t like that started hanging out with me and pursuing me. I didn’t understand why she was wasting her time with me in that condition. I’m not sure if it was a saviour-complex thing with her, or if it was that she was a pretentious girl who thought I was “eccentric” or if she was motivated by past memories of me. Whatever it was, she pursued me relentlessly. I wasn’t interested though. Eventually I gave in and a horrible affair ensued.

    Throughout all this she was trying to get me to go to the gym, to do things with her, etc., guess what I had no desire to. Yes I wasn’t alpha or beta with her, I was just not very interested. Maybe she interpreted my lack of interest as me being alpha, I don’t know. But the point is that women will try to get you these things, and your refusing to do so doesn’t make you a “housewife.” Yes I did hang out with her because I was bored, but I didn’t want her “to love me for who I was,” I didn’t want her to love me at all. I’m sure someone looking from the outside might have thought that my lack of desire to improve for her would be insistence that she “like me for who I was,” but the truth is some men just don’t give a damn.

    Anyway this is my rant. Not everyone is on the alpha-beta-etc. hierarchy, because not everyone is in the game. Me, because I was depressed. That woman’s husband, maybe because he’s rich and satisfied and no longer very interested in sex, or at least not sex with her. As for why still be with a girl you don’t fuck, well, maybe habit, indifference, desire to have some company because you’re bored. He might be happy that you’re taking her demands off his hands. I tried to set up the girl who was pursuing me with other guys because I couldn’t stand it anymore. She took my attempts very badly by the way, and intensified her efforts to “get” me. Which she did in the end, though it wasn’t any good for her.

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  21. Valentine’s Day is another gimme. Go to your local D-bag bar (you know the one) and bring your direct game. Look for the drunk girls with no men in sight doing shots. Easy peasy.

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  22. on November 18, 2012 at 11:30 am Anonymous age 70

    It is fascinating to note how many men, on men’s boards, happily subscribe to “man fault” about as much as women do. Good job, guys. Does that make you feel superior to other men?

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  23. Rather un-Heartiste of you to take at face value the whore’s complaints about her husband. Read the reader’s email again. Most if not all of what he knows of the husband comes through her cheating mouth. She’s justifying, of course.

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  24. Just remember: no matter how fabulous she looks, someone, somewhere is sick of her shit.

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