Shaming Mistresses

A reader writes about a banner put up by an Argentinian wife whose husband had an affair with a woman named Eliana.

So making its rounds as the meme-of-the-day all over twitter/the Internet, about two weeks ago, was this photo of a banner that a scorned woman posted on the street near her house, in a city in Argentina (where I live):

Translated, it means: “Eliana Dora Duek: You enjoyed fucking my husband – and he gave it to you in the ass! Veronica”

Here’s what I don’t understand: why did the scorned woman Veronica *want to publicize to everyone in her neighborhood* that her husband was cheating on her?. What is Veronica thinking, and what is she trying to achieve? And what’s the significance/importance of the “ass” detail?

Women are born with a martyr mentality brain module that guides their every thought process. Thus, when a wife suffers infidelity she does not think that advertising this fact will redound negatively to her. She can announce to the world that her husband cheated on her with a mistress who let him do her in the ass, and the wife won’t ever feel like this embarrasses her in any way. Quite the opposite; she will win allies and supporters to her side.

But a man advertising the fact that his wife made a cuckold of him will win no allies and supporters. People won’t rally around him and give him group hugs to lift his spirits while calling the wife an ungrateful whore. Instead, most people will feel pity for him and want to get far away from his problems.

Why the difference? *Women are reproductively more valuable than men*. People, men and women, are wired to rush to the defense of a scorned woman more readily. It is in the nature of both sexes to immediately assume the worst about the man and the best about the woman in any domestic dispute. A scorned wife? Poor dear. He’s a pig and a lout. A scorned husband? I heard they were having trouble.

So a wife who publicizes her husband’s affair can expect more social benefit from it. She has not lowered her sexual market value by admitting to being the victim of infidelity because women’s SMV is almost entirely wrapped up in their looks. On the contrary, a man who publicizes his wife’s affair HAS lowered his sexual market value, because a man is judged on conditional status-based metrics, one of which is his ability to keep a woman happy and loyal. It’s preselection in reverse: the unfaithful wife has *deselected* the duped husband.

I predict, then, that you will see a lot more of these public shaming tactics from women against their cheating men then you will from men against their cheating women. And I base this on a simple grasp of evolutionary psychology fundamentals. (There’s a reason “Don’t Date Him Girl!” is a popular website without an equivalently popular “Don’t Date Her Man!” site.)

Interestingly, the wife also gets some benefit from outing the mistress. By naming her and describing her actions in lurid detail, she is tarred with the implied slut brush. Women will sneer at her wanton ways, and men will want to seek her out for sex (but not for commitment! Which would be a victory for the spurned wife.) It takes two to tango, and all that, and wives are not blind to the threat that younger, hotter, tighter competition poses to their marriages. The ass detail was simply embroidery to maximize the slut smear.

If I were friends with this wife, I would tell her that she might have avoided all these problems if she let her husband spelunk the stool cavern. Anal love is the balm that binds.





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  1. http://www.aei.org/article/103674

    Feminism by Treaty. There is a scary UN treaty that may be ratified soon.

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  2. From the article:

    “The treaty in question — the Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination against Women (CEDAW) — commits signatory nations not only to eliminating discrimination but also to ensuring women’s “full development and advancement” in all areas of public and private life. “

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  3. on June 2, 2011 at 11:13 am Glass Half-Full Sigma

    Also, ‘good girls’ don’t do anal. Or they do it in secret, at least.

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  4. She can announce to the world that her husband cheated on her with a mistress who let him do her in the ass, and the wife won’t ever feel like this embarrasses her in any way.

    The wife wins allies and supporters to her side because she implicitly boasts of his sexual prowess in all things ass.

    Such a woman, chosen by such a desirable man is by association, an alpha female.

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  5. on June 2, 2011 at 11:22 am Glass Half-Full Sigma

    Btw, check out this screencap for a real treat:

    It’s seems that I can’t turn anywhere in America without seeing entitled tubs-of-lards like the woman in that screencap.

    Why can’t we just send someone over to Eastern Europe and hand out Visas to any good-looking girl they find? I’m sure most of them would want to come to America. Lord knows, we need them:

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  6. The husband gets some high fives from his buddies though.

    Roissy: update your blog to threaded comments for the lulz.

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  7. The kind of warfare that an “alpha female” (let’s just say a female who wish to assert dominance over other females) is willing to engage in is quite scary.

    I’ve always found it interesting the presence of these alpha females. They are not necessarily the most beautiful of the group, (sometimes they can be the ugliest) but they exert huge influence over the other females. The kind of tactics they use will make most men’s alpha posturing look like child’s play.

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  8. on June 2, 2011 at 11:33 am Mystery for the ages

    @Firepower

    What I want to know is how the wife found out that he did the mistress in the ass…

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  9. Women are envious of other women with alpha husbands. If he is unfaithful the wronged wife will become more popular with other women.

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  10. Duek = syrian jewish name

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  11. on June 2, 2011 at 11:43 am NYCBachelor

    Its even more then that- in a twisted sort of way she is also boosting her own status by bragging that her husband has a mistress (and one who is taking in the pooper at that). Sort of a after the fact pre-selection (post-selection?) That attests to her mate’s continued alpha virility and high status; by association she is higher status since she landed a man who managed to maintain the alpha.

    Its a sort of way to subconsciously claim at a higher spot in the pecking order; her man is more alpha then the others because he’s still fooling around (betas don’t have mistresses)- hence she has a high smv male and is thus better then her social circle sisters.

    Of course this is all reptillian hindbrain/gina tingle; by forebrain reasoining she’s a helpless victim that deserves sympathy/allies- so its win/win for her.

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  12. Women want to keep the price of sex high, the price of blowjobs even higher, and the price of anal obscenely high. The shaming of women who engage in kinky sex reflects this.

    In her perfect world, missionary would be a once-a-month obligation for hubby, blowjobs would be twice-yearly, and earn her a lavish gift, while anal would be doled out so sparingly that it is expected to earn her major concessions from her man.

    Don’t commit to any one woman, and make them compete amongst themselves for your attention, and you get all these things on tap for free.

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  13. on June 2, 2011 at 11:47 am Ave Veritas

    A facebook search of Eliana Duek returns what appears to be a tranny. That’s probably irrelevant though. The banner boils down to the most female of pursuits: attention whoring.

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  14. No woman I date long term is kept in the dark about my lack of the monogamy gene. If I was to marry (solely for knighthood in Monaco), she’d have to not just respect that I like competitors of hers in my bed, she’d have to be turned on by it.

    Feminism didn’t kill a man’s ability to sleep around — men did by betafying en masse.

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  15. “Anal love is the balm that binds.”
    Best thing i’ve ever read, serious.

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  16. Interesting. She is appealing to women in her community to shame the other woman. Guys will generally shrug or leer at the idea, but will only get angry and denounce her if theu are seeking female approval or really twisted dudes operating like closeted homophobes. Of course, other women may superficially go along with this, but some contingent will be wondering what magic dust the dude has on his dick to get anal from the mistress and make the wife so batshit.

    I hope the husband involved is smirking, with chin tilted up and chuckling softly when people ask thim WTF is up with that crazy banner his banner put up. Saying little and letting the mystery deepen ensures another gal will be game for some down-low back-door real soon. Wife is doing the husband a favor here if he plays it right.

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  17. on June 2, 2011 at 11:58 am Ave Veritas

    Perusing that dontdatehim site on my phone reveals a comedic gold mine of female delusion. Thanks for the link.

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  18. advertising her being cheated on probably does adversely affect other men’s estimation of her a small amount. she will win allies, yes – other jilted women.

    men, however, will wonder if something’s a little bit wrong with her and that’s why the guy strayed. it won’t change whether they’ll consider banging her or not, but they might be suspicious about her value as relationship material.

    if you were just getting to know a girl and she told you she’d been cheated on a few times, wouldn’t you wonder what was going on? of course “a few times” is different to once, but the point here is that SMV can be affected by something like this.

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  19. That slut shaming is making something of a comeback is probably a good thing in the long run.

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  20. on June 2, 2011 at 12:30 pm NYCBachelor

    Which do you think embarassed arnold’s wife more- that he cheated on her or that he did so with a hideous/low status woman?

    Which of these facts do you think cost her more status?

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  21. IMHO, you’re trying too hard to make sense of this woman’s actions. Women are crazy. Period. There’s not always rhyme or reason to the batshit crazy things they do!

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  22. on June 2, 2011 at 12:42 pm NYCBachelor

    “IMHO, you’re trying too hard to make sense of this woman’s actions. Women are crazy. Period. There’s not always rhyme or reason to the batshit crazy things they do!”

    Everything they do has an underlying reason; you just do not undertand the reasons as you are looking at what they do from a direct masculine perspective. Look at what information or advantage they derive indirectly by their actions and you will have your answers.

    Women are crazy like a fox.

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  23. This one is great from dontdatehimgirl:
    6. MASTURBATING TO ONLINE PORN. Stroking his family jewels while watching porn online doesn’t seem like cheating to your guy. He thinks it’s like cybersex � harmless and hurts no one. What he doesn’t understand is that what he’s doing undermines your relationship. Remember that most women that let themselves be used in porn films are surgically enhanced and full of cosmetic filler like Botox. They’ve probably got a horrible tale of how they were abused and that’s what led to their lifestyle. You’re not one of those women and for your guy to spending his time masturbating to someone like that, it’s cheating. Why isn’t he doing it to pictures of you?

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  24. This dynamic is precisely why millions of otherwise frumpy, average women, who’ve never experienced infidelity, will enthusiastically sing along with Carrie Underwood’s “Before He Cheats” – every line memorized and belted out with gusto.

    In the absence of real indignation women will actively fabricate it for themselves. They get off on the chemical rush that comes from indignation, so when it’s lacking in real life they’re more than happy to participate in it vicariously through their girlfriends, The View, Tyra Bank’s show, etc.

    And nothing pumps the female indignation gland like infidelity, even imagined infidelity. For every Argentine woman’s infidelity banner, there are 1000 more women who got off on her second-hand indignation.

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  25. Tsc, tsc… If I were her I’d have done the same!!!!! *upset* But that’s normal in South America countrys (the cheating husband, not the banner). Here everygirl grow up hearing her mother and aunts say “Prepare yourself for when you get married, cause every man cheat!”. And I’ve been wondering why so many of my girlfriends are becoming lesbian… Really, like 40% don’t even want to hear about men at all!

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  26. NYCBachelor: “Which do you think embarassed arnold’s wife more- that he cheated on her or that he did so with a hideous/low status woman?”

    She was most likely the one who broke the story, in order to shame him.

    Ahnuld was banging chicks without respite before and after his marriage to her. My guess is this maid and her kid were some sort of last straw/convenient excuse that finally made it enough for her to stop pretending. That and the end of the whole First Lady of California processional role she got by staying married to him. Women LUUUUUUUUV a title like First Lady, and will crawl through broken-glass-laced shit to get it and keep it.

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  27. Aaron

    advertising her being cheated on probably does adversely affect other men’s estimation of her a small amount. she will win allies, yes – other jilted women.

    Um, yeah – and lots of smart men. The kind that post here. Notice?

    men, however, will wonder if something’s a little bit wrong with her and that’s why the guy strayed. it won’t change whether they’ll consider banging her or not, but they might be suspicious about her value as relationship material.

    She’s married.

    if you were just getting to know a girl and she told you she’d been cheated on a few times, wouldn’t you wonder what was going on?

    No. Not at all.
    Girls are for fucking. Sluts are for plowing…hard. They are not intended as soulmates capable of discussing Proust or Renaissance poetry to ‘complete you.’

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  28. I’m trying to figure out if there’s a downside in this for the husband. The sign is basically a testament to his alphaness. Plus it’s notice to the other neighborhood ladies that he won’t waste her time by stopping at mere flirting. This guy will give her what she wants!

    Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want to get caught. But if I did get caught, a sign like this could wind up being a good thing.

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  29. on June 2, 2011 at 1:40 pm Malcolm Tucker

    Yeah, why wouldn’t the ultimate outcome of this thing for the dude be positive if the played it right.

    To me if, and this is the question, IF he handled it right then it might be a good problem. Sure he’s cucokolded if he gives a shit about things like this, but then again he looks like a stud if he’s all “yeah, and I gave it to her in the ass too!” about it. It’s be like the Chinatown line about old whore and buildings getting respectable with age. If he’s got a reputation as a lovable cad then who cares?

    I say if he’s willing to play the stud and take on all of that role including a bad reputation he could come out ok, but I’ve never been to Argentina. Everyting’s always a crapshoot.

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  30. on June 2, 2011 at 1:50 pm Jay Crawford

    Occam’s Razor observation:
    What Veronica’s husband did was a betrayal of his marriage vow to her; thusly, by generally accepted societal standards of personal integrity, it was WRONG.
    Now, objectively, societal standards form our notion of RIGHT and are part of our implicit social compacts. Thusly such standards are the means by which we establish laws and maintain order among ourselves. We call that order JUSTICE.
    Obviously the offended wife is seeking justice by embarassing her husband’s (presumably knowing) mistress as a low-standard (cheap) violator of socially accepted sexual practices. She may also be hoping that such embarrassment will drive the other woman away and that social pressure will also push her husband back towards fidelity to her.

    Folks, we can engage in all kinds of conjecture about social status, sexual market value, and many other abstractions.
    And it will all be pure sophistry.

    The ACTIVE DYNAMIC is very simple: A man and a woman decided to act in a manner which hurt another woman. Their actions were wrong and now the hurt woman is seeking some socially-imposed justice to stop the injury to her.
    I hope that the (very) public exposure of this marital infidelity and emotional injury will lead to fewer women wanting to be “the other woman” and fewer men risking social stigma by breaking their vows. Then, with less risk-free opportunity for marital betrayal, may those men instead seek to improve their marriages so that such betrayals will become less tempting to them. Thusly will fewer wives and children (and ultimately, fewer men) be hurt.

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  31. Riff Dog

    I’m trying to figure out if there’s a downside in this for the husband.

    In Argentina, it’s known as now having to deal with the blossoming outrage of the wife’s entire family.

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  32. Notice she didn’t bust on her husband, just the slut he fucked. An Alpha is still an Alpha.

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  33. on June 2, 2011 at 2:19 pm CatoRenasci

    I’m not sure I agree the woman didn’t lose status with her posting the banner. I’d almost bet she didn’t put up the banner without a lot of ‘help’ from friends — at least one of which was perfectly happy to sabotage her by making her look the fool.

    1. She looks the fool because she her husband was moved to go elsewhere — sure plenty of guys go elsewhere even if wifey’s pretty fine, but still….

    2. She looks the fool because she’s advertising her guy can be borrowed.

    3. She looks the fool because she listened to her friends in advertising the whole sordid business.

    Major FAIL.

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  34. A couple from my high school class ended this way. Sophomore year of college she walked in on him with another girl, so she turns around and Facebook messages a shit ton of people from my class. We’re talking like ~200 people out of the 700-ish I graduated with, looking for sympathy points and what not.

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  35. In my experience, women actually admire men who cheat (on other women). It’s always seemed to me that, though cheating on them is bad, cheating on other women is actually a sign of virility. Women admire men who cheat, as long as it’s not personal to them.

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  36. @ Lotez

    “Notice she didn’t bust on her husband, just the slut he fucked. An Alpha is still an Alpha.”

    Nailed it.

    As Rollo Tomassi once put it—women don’t want their man to cheat, but they love a man who could. Even after her hubbie’s dalliances have come to light, she’s not leaving him and isn’t trashing him. I’ll bet my left arm she goes home and services him the way he is due.

    This, my friends, is the power of alpha.

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  37. “In the absence of real indignation women will actively fabricate it for themselves.”

    I know of a middle aged couple where the husband had an affair. All the wife’s friends got involved and it seemed to me as if they were actually enjoying the whole thing.

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  38. Obviously the cheated girl at least has a grasp subconsciously that her status is not disminished, at the contrary it may be rised, because she put her name in the note, if the objective was solely to shame the other girl, there is no need to put the name of the cheated girl.

    Basically, this girl is announcing the alphaness of the husband and want to be identified too.

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  39. this guys get it,.

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  40. I agree that women do respect the married man who is capable and competent and accomplished at cheating. It is a sign to women that the guy has social proof from other women and worthy of spreading for.

    I’ve had a long series of mistresses and they all tut-tutted a bit but NEVER ditched me because of my history with other, prior women.

    This particular woman seems to want to share the glory with her man AND show that she’s a bit alpha too.

    If the man dumped the mistress and was contrite and monogamous from now on, the wife would diss him as a wimp.

    His best course is to act cool for awhile, not apologize or grovel, and keep some “personal time” for his dalliances in a way that is less in her face.

    That, and slap his wife’s butt in public a few times while grinning.

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  41. but only at the beggining of the video..

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  42. Does the picture have Eliana’s address in it somewhere?

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  43. Hey, this is unrelated, but I’m not sure how to get in contact otherwise. I’m 21 and in College, and moved back in with my parents for a month between school and summer school. My parents live extremely close to a Catholic Girl High School. Now, obviously, there are a lot of hot girls. I have a mental road block picking them up, though. It’s not illegal or anything, they’re well over the age of consent, and are even graduating or graduated, but it’s just been ingrained that it’s such a huge difference, college and high school, and I feel like other people who see it will label me a creep or something.

    Any advice?

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  44. I’m not sure what kind of women you’re talking about who would admire, respect a man who cheats. We Are ALLLLLL capable of cheating.
    Perhaps it should be that since we are all capable of cheating, we should respect and admire those who have the self control, awareness, integrity in face of temptations to resist acting on their own desires and selfish impulses. Sure, if we are discreet no one will know, but We, ourselves will know and that’s what will set those who are of higher quality apart from those lesser. I pride a man who has good impulse control and a strong conscience. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to cheat, but he is able and capable of resisting his own desires.

    A man with self control is a man who IS IN control. That’s an alpha.

    After that’s been said, we are all imperfect and what truly counts is our intention, but no one will know what that is except yourself.

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  45. Disagree that Veronica doesn’t look bad in this situation.
    A woman should know how to keep her man at home, by whatever means necessary; including how you so eloquently proposed “let[ting] her husband spelunk the stool cavern”.
    To women she represents someone who doesn’t know how to keep her man satisfied.

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  46. There’s a saying in Chinese translated roughly as:

    When you are shaming others, you are in fact shaming yourself.

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  47. This reminds me of a chic I know who was cheating on her husband left and right. She openly would say how she was the guy in the relationship, going out on girls night and leaving him home with the kid. She openly had a boyfriend.

    It was only when she found out that her husband, who travels to over see his properties, had a girlfriend in every major city he owned property in did she start to regret her decision.

    She played the victim card hard, but he knew about her affairs which is why he started having them of his own. Everyone knew she drove him to this. Nobody respected her for it. Oh sure there were tons of dudes lined up to hit it. But nobody wanted to save her. He finally got custody of the children and now she lives in an apartment and works at starbucks, while his net worth is blooming towards the millions. Dumb hoe.

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  48. I disagree that the woman has not harmed her sexual market status. She’s proclaimed her allegiance to her Alpha cheating husband, who obviously finds other women hotter, younger, tighter. AT best she can get some no commitment sex, but she’s not going to find a better or even equivalent husband. She’s a depreciated asset who has proclaimed herself a one-man women.

    One lacking in the sexy department to keep her man faithful.

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  49. I respectfully disagree Mr. Whiskey.

    Consider polygamy. Being Number 1 Wife in the Sultan’s harem is better socially than being the one and only for a sheep herder. Mormon “celestrial marriage” makes that a theological concept.

    Men don’t always cheat for upmarket reasons. Variety can be its own reward.

    As to Ms/Mr What, having sexual relationships outside marriage is not always the decision of the “cheating spouse” if the alternative is the decision by the other to not have sex anymore.

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  50. on June 2, 2011 at 5:14 pm CatoRenasci

    Polygamy is a bad analogy here: in polygamy, the #1 wife has specific status and authority over other wives, which is absent in the context of an affair.

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  51. A woman should know how to keep her man at home, by whatever means necessary; including how you so eloquently proposed “let[ting] her husband spelunk the stool cavern”.

    you mean ‘non-alpha man at home’.

    men like variety. alpha men can get variety at their leisure. if you’re going to marry an alpha, you’ll just need to accept the fact that he’s going to step out.

    even if you let him spelunk your stool cavern, it’s still the same stool cavern day after day. and you only have a finite number of holes with which to renew his spelunking interest.

    pizza with pepperoni, pizza with anchovies, pizza with ham and pineapple….in the end, it’s still just pizza.

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  52. Roissy, your advice at the post’s end would probably not have stopped the husband from straying. Variety both, in the act and in partners, is a goal and a pleasure limited only by a reward vs. consequence judgment. Since this man had options, he is probably a risk-taker and an optimist, and misjudged the likelihood of being discovered. It might have lessened the chance minimally, but odds are fair the wife would still find herself in the same situation.

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  53. Excellent analysis.

    One more reason the internet is “where it’s at!”

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  54. Isnt it commonplace in Argentina for powerfull men to have a mistress? From what I have read its something that is accepted just not discussed……maybe she didn’t get the memo

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  55. whiskey. great point !!!

    she’s also shown herself to be tactless and indiscrete.

    She’s screwed. The only man who will have her, i.e. take her seriously is the husband.

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  56. Every man in Latin America has a mistress. Powerful or not.

    Say what you want. Beta’s are not tolerated in Latin America.

    Neither by men nor women

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  57. “Everything they do has an underlying reason; you just do not undertand the reasons as you are looking at what they do from a direct masculine perspective. Look at what information or advantage they derive indirectly by their actions and you will have your answers.

    Women are crazy like a fox.”

    SOME women are crazy like a fox SOMETIMES. Some of the things they do have a purpose. But, just like men, some of the shit they do is just plain crazy, spurred by irrational impulses like anger, jealousy, etc.

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  58. I wonder, is this Whiskey?

    http://tinyurl.com/4xfkxcr

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  59. Aaron

    advertising her being cheated on probably does adversely affect other men’s estimation of her a small amount. she will win allies, yes – other jilted women.

    men, however, will wonder if something’s a little bit wrong with her and that’s why the guy strayed. it won’t change whether they’ll consider banging her or not, but they might be suspicious about her value as relationship material.

    I agree. I’d definitely think less of her for relationship purposes. Also for being a harridan bitch.

    Heartistry is right though that men are far more shamed though when it’s publicly know their wife’s been cheating.

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  60. what–

    A man with self control is a man who IS IN control. That’s an alpha.

    Self control is nowhere near enough to be alpha. In fact many alphas a good bit impulsive. You’re not getting it.

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  61. Simon–

    She played the victim card hard, but he knew about her affairs which is why he started having them of his own. Everyone knew she drove him to this. Nobody respected her for it. Oh sure there were tons of dudes lined up to hit it. But nobody wanted to save her. He finally got custody of the children and now she lives in an apartment and works at starbucks, while his net worth is blooming towards the millions. Dumb hoe.

    Yeah, well that’s like one family court decision in a million these days.

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  62. Simon–

    What state?

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  63. Doug1

    I know your definition of an alpha, but I like my own definition. I like them with self control and in control. Blah!!! Call it what you want. I like MY MAN to be with self control, in control…alpha, beta, omega, broccoli, spinach, tofu..etc….hehehheh!!

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  64. Backdoor love is the only true love….

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  65. http://query.nytimes.com/gst/fullpage.html?res=9E01EEDF1E39F930A35753C1A9629C8B63

    “Bentley writes, she has not only found her self, she has discovered ”Paradise,” she has experienced ”eternity in a moment of real time,” and she has gotten to know God ”experientially.” That’s not all. She is also pretty sure that anal sex is responsible for piercing her yang, forcing her yin to the surface and releasing decades of anger stored in her lower intestine. ”

    *sniff*….so beautiful!

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  66. on June 2, 2011 at 7:40 pm Obstinance Works

    And all the men of the village perked up thinking to themselves, who’s this Eliana chick, and what’s it feel like in her el orto?

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  67. Feel a little sorry for the mistress. She should counterattack: assuming that the wife is an ugly aging unfeminine lardass (highly probable), she could post banners of the wife’s face without make up or photoshopping and something along the lines of “I demand my husband to be loyal to me” or with both she and the wife photos: “Yes I (husband) know, what the hell was I thinking?”.

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  68. I agree with coward.

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  69. That’s some cowardly dick, spamming the thread with… whatever that is.

    @what
    looks like your man is actually alfa-alfa, e.g. herb.

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  70. When I read the banner my first though was who’s this Eliana chick? Not Victoria. She’s non-entity.

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  71. What you think of this whiner Weiner wiener guy?

    There is a saying, if you’re in a hole ((meaning in the ground, not another type), stop digging.

    The guy went completely wrong about it from the start. In his shoes, I’d say: “This can’t be my wiener, it’s half my size.”

    I bet I could then hear the swishing sound of all the ladies hamster wheels: “This man is a presidential material!”

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  72. @Cadnerd
    “looks like your man is actually alfa-alfa, e.g. herb.”
    hehehhe!!! smart reply Cadnerd. I like…… : )))

    You remind me of someone that used to frequent this blog. he has a great sense of humor too and wasn’t always SERIOUS…

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  73. In my experience, it does little harm to a man’s sexual status to be outed for getting some strange on the side. He may take a bit of the standard shit for “being a dog,” but it will also frequently get him a phone number or three as well.

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  74. on June 2, 2011 at 10:44 pm From the can

    Pretty sure this is related: If you’re looking for alpha maleness, look at Sarah Silverman. Venn Diagram time, Alpha Female one circle, Alpha Male the other, ss IS the intersection. Admit it, you’d suck her dick.

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  75. Sarah Silverman’s a twat. Her depth is as flat as a lid from a sardines can.

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  76. @wat

    Serious? Neva. Life may not be always within the divine spectrum , but a comedy it is.

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  77. Anal sex is teh ghey.

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  78. ‘k, From the can, do ya wanna know how I really feel?

    Tediously twaddling twat at that.

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  79. Cadnerd,
    There is a time to be serious and time to just let it be. To add another comment to the past posts on aging and staying healthy and beautiful…..the secret is in our attitude. make a serious face and watch all those deep wrinkles start to form. hehe!! Comedy it is!! You’re right!! hehehe!! I reserve my serious self for special occasions.

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  80. What, I love the piston-like motion of my spleen (beside that of my other… member). If the spleen moves often and spontaneously, it’s like winning a lottery. That simple.

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  81. You saw it on CNN first…

    “Options for Your Mediocre Marriage,” by Pamela Haag, CNN, 2 JUN 11
    http://www.cnn.com/2011/LIVING/06/02/marriage.with.issues/index.html

    Making Marriage 2.0 “fun”-er…

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  82. The poor girl featured in cowards post obviously needs the administration of some emergency DICK.
    Show us her address and she might get lucky.

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  83. That CNN article author’s female utopia…

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  84. wonder why comment werent accepted ¬¬
    fala sério, que bosta!
    haha

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  85. on June 3, 2011 at 12:39 am betondo fuchatuch

    Ayuh.

    Don’t know the psych/bio-logical backdrop, but I don’t believe that women possess a humiliation gene, or maybe it’s recessed in some way. They will embarrass themselves down to mulch and grubs to show their contempt for their stud’s completely normal behavior. Hell hath no fury, or logic.

    Note the women who publically dump their stud’s clothes at his place of employment, make a scene at his job, flash boobs to random video cameras, stand meekly in the background during alpha-hubby’s emotionally contrite admission to alpha behavior (fucked other chicks) and willingness to even partake in the raising of the bastard ninos o ninas.

    This (the women’s) curiously predictable behavior trait isn’t a double-edged blade though. With some male attention-to-detail (and a little luck) it can be incredibly useful and beneficial.

    Kinda like nitro.

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  86. Oh, another video for Ms. Haag’s suggestions… “marriage sabbatical”

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  87. I dont know, i think that by publishing this the wife draws attention to the fact that she was cheated on. There was obviously a reason she was cheated on and while people may outwardly congratulate her on her daring they will secretely feel a bit weird.

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  88. on June 3, 2011 at 2:34 am The Specimen

    In Italy, cornuto (cuckold) is one of the worst insults you can level at a man. Them’s fightin’ words!

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  89. on June 3, 2011 at 2:47 am The Specimen

    Re: Don’t date him girl

    I’d actually gone and read some of the entries on that site before for laughs. Is it me or is, “He has a small dick,” pretty much the default insult that bitter women turn to after being burned burned by players? I still don’t understand how the proprieters of that site haven’t been sued for libel yet.

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  90. on June 3, 2011 at 3:18 am It's hip to be square

    what, just because your boyfriend pretends to pay attention to your delusional ramblings, it doesn’t mean that anybody here gives a fuck what you have to say. By the way, does anyone else suspect that what is either an elaborate male troll persona, or at the very least a fucking ugly chick. Either way, the act is tired. Just go away, already.

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  91. It’s hip to be square,

    You have very poor observational skills. It only shows how inexperienced you are.
    so next time you throw another unintelligent comment like this, you don’t deserve a reply…silence is what you’ll get.

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  92. Some people have wires crossed in their brain. Figuring out their motivations only teaches you how broken brains can work.

    When a person does something that will bring her aim farther from her grasp, her wires are crossed upstairs.

    Women often get freaky in the head from the emotion of jealousy. Jealousy is meant to mate guard, but often becomes a matter of completely destroying the relationship. It can be worse than brinksmanship.

    Some girls will literally threaten you “love me or I’ll send you to jail”. Making it impossible to love them.

    BPD is common among women. Some put the estimate at over 10%. Banners like the one in the example are uncommon, as it is a sign of pathology. Of a broken brain.

    You can figure out how broken brains work, or you can just ignore girls like that, despite that they usually fuck great, and move on.

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  93. What, all of us don’t deserve any replies or comments from you. We deserve better. Silence is better.

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  94. I think men should consider brazenly admitting cheating if caught and saying they did it because they’re alpha and could, then turn around and throw that at the jilted woman’s feet when she accuses you. Simply respond by saying yes, I did it because I could and moreover, it raises your SMV because all the other women know you have a man that can get hot women. I have no intention of changing that and you had best get used to it. She’ll bitch and whine for a few hours, but once the seed is planted, her hamster will do all the work for you and you will have a gateway to a harem. Women only care about status in the eyes of other women.

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  95. I like what’s comments.

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  96. on June 3, 2011 at 8:58 am GodHatesFatChicks

    Being caught cheating is going to bring on a huge shit test from your main girl. Think about, shit tests are used to size a man up and see if he’s really as strong as he’s presenting himself to be. If a man thinks he’s so alpha that he can cheat on his girl, she’s going to test the shit out of that man to see what he’s made of. If he doesn’t back down, then she will very likely stay with him. If he’s too apologetic, she’ll probably dump him.

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  97. Tyrone, it’s protocol to be honest but not in your face about your other girls. That is, you don’t taunt your love interests.

    Girls will even explain to you that they will tolerate “cheating” as long as it’s not in their face.

    Yes, you can get away with a lot. But girls tend to snap unexpectedly. Everything is going fine, and then the next thing you know you have writing in permanent marker all over the inside of your apartment and surrounding our apartment door, saying things like “You win. Enjoy his big western cock!” That happened to me about 7 years ago in Thailand, after 6 months of no problem non-monogamous dating.

    Lately I even had one girl have a full out psychotic break. Five months of sweet disposition turned upside down and no one wants to see the underside of that pancake. I’m talking hallucinations, death threats, suicide threats, insane tales of pregnancy (4 months?!), stalking, and on and on.

    I don’t even think non-monogamy is sustainable, on the individual girl level. You get from 4 months to a year out of the girls, before something snaps.

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  98. Comment in mod.

    And yes, GHFC, girls will shit test you up to the point of brinksmanship, but won’t leave you for having more than one girl.

    Not right away.

    Eventually, yes.

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  99. Lara

    I like what’s comments.

    What doesn’t make comments. Unless you consider “tee hee” a comment.

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  100. javert

    Feel a little sorry for the mistress. She should counterattack: assuming that the wife is an ugly aging unfeminine lardass (highly probable), she could post banners of the wife’s face without make up or photoshopping and something along the lines of “I demand my husband to be loyal to me” or with both she and the wife photos: “Yes I (husband) know, what the hell was I thinking?”.

    Lol
    Better yet, put a banner with her face on it saying: I was cheated on because I didn’t swallow”

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  101. @Cadnerd

    You’re no nerd. I’m sure your spleen and your other member is mighty fine. hehe!! Your EQ is looking pretty good too. 🙂

    Lara,

    I like your comments too! 🙂

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  102. tee hee!!! hahahhaha!!! lol!

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  103. @xsplat

    Some people have wires crossed in their brain. Figuring out their motivations only teaches you how broken brains can work.

    They DON’T work. They operate. Also an euphemism, but more apt. Imagine it as a pack of hamsters spinning wheels in different direction.

    BPD is common among women. Some put the estimate at over 10%. Banners like the one in the example are uncommon, as it is a sign of pathology. Of a broken brain.

    Let’s replace uncommon by rare, for a better fit.

    You can figure out how broken brains work (already established they don’t) , or you can just ignore girls like that, despite that they usually fuck great, and move on.

    The possible fuck is not worth the trouble. At all. You’d be soaking up the craziness by osmosis.

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  104. the two hare-brains here are chicks. what does that tell ya.

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  105. @what

    You’re no nerd.

    A camouflage of sorts. I specialize on hot librarians (living in a large city, there’ a plenty) and they eat that shit like there’s no tomorrow. You can’t pull alpha on them initially, they get spooked out. Have to tone it down and overlay. They’re a funny bunch. Fun too. It’s a great setup. Effortless. When a noob appears, I don’t have to exert much effort. The squirrels (as I call them, since they like to hop on my pole) do all the work for me. It’s true that a majority of girls operate on a social proof. Prolly 90%.

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  106. It is all about one thing. Attention. Every girl wants to be the star of her own soap opera. Veronica now has the spotlight on herself. She is the talk of the town.

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  107. thanks r0issy. brilliant as usual.

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  108. well explained, roissy.

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  109. With my mistress last night, she made a little remark about my extensive prior history with women.

    I came back with that she really respected me for being a PROVEN attractive man to other women and highly experenced. I suggested that if I was a 60 year old virgin, she wouldn’t be attracted to me.

    She smiled sweetly, acknowledging the truth of my statement and the point being made in this thread.

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  110. What-
    “A man with self control is a man who IS IN control. That’s an alpha.”

    Fail. In the context of alpha as defined by Mr. Chateau, alphatude is a man’s SMV.

    The day when vaj’s start to tingle for men with self control, men will begin to practice more self control. That day has yet to arrive.

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  111. on June 3, 2011 at 2:08 pm Professor Woland

    Argentina is a Catholic country. I am not sure if divorce is allowed today, but traditionally it was not. It sounds like the wife ended up being the last one to know about it. Trying to keep something quite that is already out in the open is futile so may as well join in the fun. Also, mistresses have a unique problem in Latin America. The man rarely divorces his first spouse which leaves the mistress in financial and legal limbo. She has no claim on assets and the children are considered illigitimate. The wife might get the last laugh because in a matrilinial culture it is the man that finds himself on the outside when the breakup occurs, legal or not.

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  112. @Cadnerd

    “You can’t pull alpha on them initially, they get spooked out. Have to tone it down and overlay”

    That’s good. I’m not a librarian, but I can relate…..the spooked part, NOT the jumping on pole part!!!hahaha!! Your EQ is proving to be of high quality. : )

    What do you mean by:
    “It’s true that a majority of girls operate on a social proof. Prolly 90%.”
    I not familiar with the lingo… Social proof? Prolly?

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  113. HR Lincoln,

    So demand dictates behavior.

    What about this…..Behavior dictates attraction. If we alter our own behavior, we might attract a whole new species..a new quality of women. Only if you are willing to experiment and see what would happen. Mind you, if you are happy with the type of women you are attracting why bother, but for experimental purposes, why not. Those women who pride men on having a sense of self control are out there. Think about the environment they will be in. What environment is contrary to being not in control.

    You all talk a lot about women sleeping around. Think about this…. If the woman pride men on having a sense of control, wouldn’t she more likely pride herself on possessing a sense of self control too? Sure! If the person pride themselves on a sense of control the probability of them sleeping around will most likely decrease. There….you’ve found your woman who is less likely to stray. DON”t say it…..you don’t believe it right. Fine. All I can say is if we can’t be flexible in our approaches and behavior, we will forever attract the same type …unless the same type is what you want. que sera sera….. : )

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  114. what, google’s yer friend, sometimes.

    Prolly = probably
    Social proof = increasing perceived explicit or implicit high value of any particular person within a social context. In this particular case, the girls chat among themselves and provide unprompted positive referral. It’s a form of a group think.

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  115. As far as the whole “the wife is the victim” routine goes, I’ve recently seen that firsthand. This couple we’ve known for years got a divorce because the husband was cheating with two different women he met on match.com (those commercials make me laugh now).

    The now ex-wife is playing that sympathy card to all the women in my family “he was so mean to me”, “he used to look at online porn”, “I cant believe he cheated on me!”. I secretly applaud his decision to cheat on her. She turned into a sexless land cow who wouldnt put out. No one ever wants to talk about that.

    I’m wondering how this husbands life in the post has improved since he’s been “outed”.

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  116. Cadnerd,

    Merci!

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  117. LOL! Lilboy aka Epoxy87 aka Ron Purewal aka Roneet Puriwalla, that disgusting Desi emo…..

    posed in playgirl in 2004.

    LOL!! Is he bisexual? LOL!!

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  118. on June 3, 2011 at 7:51 pm The Real Vince

    As a poster who went by “Veronica” stated above, it really comes down to attention; the female race’s incurable need for drama.

    Men don’t make these sorts of announcements because complaining is viewed as generally weak. Now if a man made a joke about his whore of a wife’s whorish ways — amuse mastery — it would go over fine.

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  119. on June 3, 2011 at 8:26 pm Major Scarlet

    how is it that the mistress is a slut but the cheating wife isn’t?

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  120. Heartiste said:
    Anal love is the balm that binds.

    No way. It’s homosimulative.

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  121. tacomaster,

    You’ve nailed it.

    Most married men who cheat do so because they own wives don’t out. This is standard in married women after a couple of years of marriage.

    Arnie Schwartzeneggar even complained about his sexless marriage to Maria.

    Spitzer’s wife essentially admitted the same.

    Where you see a married man cheating, I guarantee its because the wife is not handlng her duties.

    A satisfied man does not cheat….its just too much work.

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  122. Roissy said: “Anal love is the balm that binds.”

    Butt-stuff your wife or someone else will. Women, let your hubby butt-stuff you or he’ll find a woman who will. ‘Nuff said.

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  123. hey! schwartzeneggar has best of both worlds! hehe!! After getting the works from his live in lover, he can then say,

    “Hey, you! Now go and fixed the bed and clean up the mess and have dinner ready by 7:00!!! don’t forget the toilet!!!! ”

    To you alll he is ultimate alpha?!! lol!! hee! hee!

    Have a great day…. BOYS!!

    btw, my brothers loved it when I told them!!….. What’s new…..

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  124. @j

    A satisfied man does not cheat….its just too much work.

    I can attest to that. I’m going on five years and my wife has had the good sense to keep my balls empty and my belly full. I have no reason to cheat and as you say, its simply too much work. The big benefit of a good marriage is that it frees you up to do your hobbies or make money. Chasing women becomes a lifestyle and it uses up a lot of free time.

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  125. @ATC

    Heartiste said:
    Anal love is the balm that binds.

    No way. It’s homosimulative.

    Having sex with a man is gay. Thinking that fucking a chick in the pooper is borderline gay isn’t. I bet your one of those guys that finds any reason to show off his straightness.

    You should change your name to A2M.

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  126. @Tyrone

    Chasing women becomes a lifestyle and it uses up a lot of free time.

    Make it work the other way. Women chasing you. Takes some time to keep it managed, but definitely less than chasing them. You just need to find a niche and and let the social proof work for you.

    Sure, you’ve got a wifey that does your bidding and that’s good. But don’t think for a moment that it would last forever. It won’t. Be ready when it nears the expiry date.

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  127. on June 4, 2011 at 12:48 pm guy who isnt scared of women

    hey roissy, stop being afraid of women. your writing voice is that of a guy who never had the reputation of being popular with women, so trys to create one online. in all your writings/actions you sound petrified of what might be, if the women you associate with dont perceive you to be an alpha.stop being obsessed with being chose by women. all the men who are successful with women dont devote their time trying to figure out what/why womens vaginas tingle…josh harnett, ashton kucher, johnny depp, peyton manning, tom brady dont concern themselves with trying to be the alpha of alll alpha. they just strive to be the best at their chosen endeavor.

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  128. “The big benefit of a good marriage is that it frees you up to do your hobbies or make money.”

    Agreed, but one gets those same benefits from a good ltr without the risk of divorce rape. Plus, there is usually more spontaneity and sex in a ltr than there is a marriage.

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  129. Arod dumps Cameron and she is mad.

    Why would Arod take a high mileage 38 year old poon seriously ??

    He can get any young poon anytime he wants.

    This what a lot of women don’t understand. Whether you are Cameron or Jennifer or not, the rules of nature always kick in.

    A man’s interest in your “qualifications” are far second to newness and freshness of the poon. Cameron shot a little too high – she cant really compete with the new hotties out there.

    For the female Biology is destiny
    For the male Alphaness (looks,money,status,wealth) is destiny

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  130. This is a minor point, but I think the last part of the Spanish line “que te haga el orto” would be translated as “may he do you in the ass” and not “he gave it to you in the ass.”

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  131. BOSTON BRUINS
    YOURE GONNA GET RUINED!!!!

    GO CANUCKS GO

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  132. @Andy Hallman

    This is a minor point…

    Not as minor point, it gives it quite a different spin.
    Veronica is still into real soap operas and did this as a form of deranged revenge and victim play. But apparently, she dislikes the assfuck for some reason and project her dislike on Eliana. Of course, that may be also the main reason her hubby was seeking elsewhere what he couldn’t get at home.

    Everybody gets in the story what they want, ain’t it wonderful?

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  133. @Anonymous

    BOSTON BRUINS
    YOURE GONNA GET RUINED!!!!
    GO CANUCKS GO

    I wish I could share your certainty, but last time, Canucks won with scratched ears (my granny euphemism for something barely accomplished).

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  134. I find it ridiculous of the notion that people don’t think crazy bitches doing this shit aren’t crazy bitches.

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  135. on June 4, 2011 at 11:01 pm bringthemovies

    gotta ask this question

    you seduce a girl, she becomes your little slave. you withhold sex and she pretty much worships the ground you walk on since you’re perceived to be that much more powerful.

    now, you find out that you got syphilis and gonorrhea from her… not sure whether she knows

    what would you guys do?

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  136. Nah. It would just fit so perfectly if men cheated because their wives didn’t put out. That would almost be a socially acceptable rational reason. Maybe that is the case some of the time, but I dont think that’s the case the majority of the time.

    Maybe that’s what pushes beta husbands to cheat, but two of my extremely alpha buddies get all they need and want at home but cheat anyway. I just dont see the “no sex” thing being an issue with alpha guys who cheat. First, their women want a lot of sex from them. They just do. In fact, I have never known a woman who wasn’t horny as hell. Where are these women that give up on sex? Because knowing women, 18-50 I’ve never met a woman that didn’t love a steady diet of cock.

    I think that guys who marry women that are more alpha then they are run into this situation. Unfortunately, its difficult to find truly feminine women in the USA anymore. Most are pretty alpha and masculine. Its a shame, but it requires men to really step up their alphaness to almost unnatural levels keep the spark alive and maintain a healthy marriage with these feminized ‘ladies’.

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  137. In your face CadNerd!

    bruins got an itch, nucks gonna scratch it…make u our bitch, jus try 2 match it…bruins say ur prayers, here come ur slayers……..game on mutha nucka’s

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  138. “Why the difference? *Women are reproductively more valuable than men*.”

    I wonder how true this is today though. Clearly in today’s world the need for reproduction is very different than before (no need for more hands on the farm, etc.); and, for certain segments of the population society would probably benefit from their non-reproduction.

    In fact, I think the obvious gender-wide frustration of women today can partly be explained by this lowered value of children/reproduction altogether. Women understand that their primary purpose will always be tied up with reproduction and not civilization-altering achievement; now that this purpose has been largely removed, what do they have left? Female claims of males becoming increasingly ‘redundant’ are classic cases of projection: men are as useful as ever, whereas women’s role as child-bearer is rapidly becoming unnecessary and in many cases even harmful.

    How much longer will women maintain these privileges after reproduction gas little place in society?

    Plus, the older privileges were predicated on women’s willingness to become mothers at a young age to bear healthy children for tribe; how many of today’s women fit this description? If you don’t measure up to the job, you shouldn’t get the benefits…

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  139. Anonymous, what makes you believe I am a bruins fan? Are you mad?! “F**k the bruins!!”*

    *Quote from Final Destination III.

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  140. Roissy! 3 girls strip 11 year old boy in front of his home or something. They get off easy. If boys did this to a girl, they would all be in jail by now.

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  141. @JR

    “Why the difference? *Women are reproductively more valuable than men*.”

    I wonder how true this is today though. Clearly in today’s world the need for reproduction is very different than before (no need for more hands on the farm, etc.); and, for certain segments of the population society would probably benefit from their non-reproduction.

    Demographics is destiny. Always has been. You present an idea that is based on linear thinking. It just does not work that way. Most western democracies are shrinking demographically. In their misguided policies, they stemmed the shrinkage by immigration. Misguided because they were importing incompatible cultural elements. Some are actually committing a cultural harakiri. Not a question if, but when.

    You need to take into an account all the scaffolding society operates on. Infrastructure, civil engineering, food production and delivery, manufacturing, all of it. If you shrink the population dramatically in one generation (and that’s the trend with replacement rates like 1.3 in many western countries), you won’t have enough people to maintain the structure. Which, of course, is manned by men, for the most part. The low IQ immigrants won’t, women won’t, especially those raised in the JIT (just in time) distribution system. They have no idea how the whole thing fits together. If you ask them where they think meat comes from, they would tell you from supermarket. I’m serious.

    The last 50 years are an aberration. But an aberration that may have some serious consequences, and the clock it ticking towards the point that these consequences will be not just one of the possible results, they will become an underlying fixture that would lead to a collapse of civilization in he second half of the century.

    In fact, I think the obvious gender-wide frustration of women today can partly be explained by this lowered value of children/reproduction altogether.

    Their own doing. They disregard their true purpose in the scheme of things to their peril. The idea about “redundancy” of men is a delusion. With their shortsighted and selfish mindset, they are at the inception of the trend that leads to a subsistence society.

    When during middle ages, the black death took out 1/3 of European population, it was not a big deal, because he civilization was after all in a subsistence mode, with a low level of technological overlay. This time (second half of the 21st century), it may be a different story. The future sparse population will be creating stories about some sort of golden age. In three generation, people won’t be able to comprehend what has been lost. Only incredible myths would remain.

    Back to demographics. The women in that future would be descendants of those ones that tend to uphold more traditional values and that actually breed.

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  142. Continued.

    The point of no return is not ere yet. But within a decade, things may be set on their course.

    There are some brighter spots in the demographic landscape.

    But first the ones that are already on the collapse trajectory.
    The once proud Viking folk that was at the inception of not only Scandinavian nations, but also Russia, won’t survive in their western branch. Norway and Sweden, they will be in the last quarter of this century a distant memory. Russia and Ukraine may survive, but with much smaller population and territory.

    On the other hand, if Israel is not destroyed by a war (a serious possibility), within the next 15 years, they will become a hegemon of Middle east. The demographic figures of all the surrounding nations (including Iran, and Turkey) are below the replacement levels. Israel has 2.6 average for secular families and over 5 for religious families. With the current trend, they would have 22 million by 2050 and population wise and technology wise, they would be the only nation able to field an army that no other nation would be able to defeat. The other group with positive demographics are Kurds. Turks may not know it yet, but in 50 years, what is now eastern half of Turkey would be Kurdistan. As well as northern parts of Syria, Iraq and the northwestern part of Iran.

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  143. […] Heartiste – “Low Energy Younger Women“, “White Knighting Explained“, “Shaming Mistresses” […]

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  144. on June 5, 2011 at 6:05 am namae nanka

    “Female claims of males becoming increasingly ‘redundant’ are classic cases of projection: men are as useful as ever, whereas women’s role as child-bearer is rapidly becoming unnecessary and in many cases even harmful.”

    http://www.antifeministtech.info/2011/05/feminist-paranoia-about-artificial-wombs-and-other-reproductive-technologies/

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  145. on June 5, 2011 at 6:14 am namae nanka

    “If the woman pride men on having a sense of control, wouldn’t she more likely pride herself on possessing a sense of self control too? ”

    which again runs in the fallacy of equating men and women. Which one of them cries about being pressured into it, writes tomes about how they gave in?
    and what about “opposites attract”?

    “If the person pride themselves on a sense of control the probability of them sleeping around will most likely decrease.”

    Or tell you that they slept around with pride.

    “A man with self control is a man who IS IN control. That’s an alpha.”

    lol the goddess has spoken, tee hee

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  146. what condom would you guys recommend?

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  147. @namae nanka,

    hee hee! First, I told my guy I am an “elaborate male troll persona ! hahhahhahha!!” he said ” WHAT? you…a male?!!!” he then proceeded to grad my _______ and said “men don’t have these!” lol!!! hee! hee!

    Namae,

    I think I get what you’re saying, but I don’t know what to say except..hee! hee! hahhaha!!

    All our comments have an element of subjective truth to it. That’s all I can say. It works for me. So far so good. All the men in my life ( father, grandpa…he’s not here anymore, but I know he is proud of me, brothers…) are proud of me. That’s all that counts. : )

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  148. You know, my intention is not to create conflict. I simple want to present another view point and yes….no one needs to agree, but simply another way to see things. I choose to keep an open mind and be willing to try something different and hopefully everything will work out. I like reading what you all have to say. I may not agree with everything, but I accept our differences. : )) we ARE different…..I have things you don’t have ! hehe!!

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  149. @what, you know that two words are the natural consequence of your claim, don’t you? For your benefit, I’ll give you a head start on what they are:

    Prove it!

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  150. Cadnerd,

    I Like you…you have balls…hehehe!!… you KNOW what I mean. hee! hee! A man who knows WHEN to be direct is a man who has courage : )

    “prove it”

    don’t know how to say it in Engleeesh…..hehehhehe!!

    sowwwy. lalala!

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  151. From Malaysia… they said little about HOW MANY wives a guy might have, but…

    “Malaysia ‘Obedient Wives’ Club: Good Sex is a Duty,” AP via Yahoo! News, 5 Jun 2011
    http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20110605/ap_on_re_as/as_malaysia_obedient_wives

    “The new club, launched Saturday, says it can cure social ills such as prostitution and divorce by teaching women to be submissive and keep their men happy in the bedroom.

    ‘ … A good wife is a good sex worker to her husband. What is wrong with being a whore … to your husband?’ she said.

    ‘This way, the family institution is protected and we can curb social ills,” said Rohayah, the club’s vice president who is also a trained physician.”

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  152. I’ve been having an ongoing arguement with my girlfriend over the topic of infidelity.

    At the heart of this arguement is that she will ask: “Why do men cheat?” or “Will you still love me in 3 years?” or some variation of this shit test.

    I’ve reframed it by pointing out that her cougar friend has been cuckholding and cheating on her husband for years while the shlub pays for his cheating wife’s trips abroad so she can meet and bang other men.

    My girlfriend no likey this reframe and responds indignantly…not with “NO WOMEN AREN”T BIGGER CHEATERS”…but with….”We’re not that close as friends…”

    Implication: men are always bigger cheaters but…my friend who cheats isn’t really a close friend (note chick logic here)….

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  153. Cadnerd

    Yes, I’m mad! Grrrrr!!!!

    I was too hyper last night.

    Where did *you* go, Mister?

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  154. wala,

    women will always respond indignantly when you expose an undeniable truth about themselves.

    being married to a man who provides for you and pays for your trips abroad to shop and bang other men? this is having your cake and eating it too. what woman wouldn’t enjoy this?

    better answers to those shit tests:

    her: why do men cheat?
    you: (say nothing, smirk and pat her on the head like you would an 11 year old)

    her: will you still love me in 3 years?
    you: years?

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  155. @itsme

    Gold….

    My responses were more direct….

    Her: “Will you love me in 3 years?”

    Me: Keep fucking me like that and maybe…

    Her: No I’m serious…

    Me: I am too…

    Her: You’re never serious, that’s the problem…

    Me: Do you really know why men cheat?

    Her: why?

    Me: When they don’t enough attention

    Her: Are you saying I don’t give you enough attention?

    Me: I’m just saying…now let’s eat…

    xxxxx

    I think I could have kept it shorter, but I do like to experiment with her because she is so predictable with her responses.

    She’s like the perfect case study for this blog on almost every topic including this one.

    She had been telling me about how her “ex” showed her more respect than I did on some common situation…

    Her: When we went out my ex would always ask me if it was alright to dance with other women, and I would do the same…

    Me: Oh, so I should be more like your ex…

    Her: yes, he was always respectful

    Me: But didn’t he cheat on you and that’s why you broke up?

    Her: looking shocked at my reply

    Me: Smiling…Respectful like your ex….ok… What’s his number, I’ll call him and get some of his tips on respectful behaviour…

    Dunno…it’s a lot of trial and error. But often the output of game is all that matters…if whatever I said gets some type of emotional reaction….I think I’ve hit the mark.

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  156. on June 5, 2011 at 2:18 pm NYCBachelor

    Malaysia’s ‘obedient wives’ anger rights groups

    http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/43283956/ns/world_news-asia_pacific

    A Malaysian group urging wives to avoid marital problems by fulfilling their husbands’ sexual desires like prostitutes has angered politicians and women’s rights groups, the New Straits Times reported on Sunday.

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    ..The Obedient Wives Club, which was set up by a group of Muslim women, said domestic violence, infidelity and prostitution stemmed from a lack of belief in God and a failure of women to satisfy their husbands.

    The club’s president, Rohaya Mohamed, said it was open to women of all religions and would conduct seminars on how to be a good wife as well as offer marriage counseling.

    “A man married to a woman who is as good or better than a prostitute in bed has no reason to stray. Rather than allowing him to sin, a woman must do all she can to ensure his desires are met,” Rohaya told the newspaper.

    Females outnumber males in Malaysian higher education institutions, comprising 65 percent of the intake at public universities last year, according to government data.

    But rights groups say women are still often victims of gender bias, and have protested what they considered the club’s demeaning portrayal of women as a cause of social problems.

    “Abusive men often use women’s behavior as a sick justification, but in the end, their actions are their responsibility,” said Ratna Osman, acting executive director at rights group Sisters-in-Islam.

    “To hinge fidelity, domestic violence and the fulfillment of a husband’s responsibilities purely on a wife’s capacity to be obedient, stimulate sexual arousal … is not only demeaning to wives, but to husbands as well,” said Women, Family and Community Development Minister Shahrizat Jalil.

    Hard to argue- if a man’s nuck sack in drained before he goes to work, and when he gets home, he’s not going to be hormonally motivated to find action on the side.

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  157. @walawala

    Her: looking shocked at my reply

    Just so you know, you’ve missed a sound there. Her slit clamming up. Just go back in your memory an listen. It’s there.

    See, you’ve used a common sense and logic wrapped in sarcastic delivery. You’ve committed a sin. In her mind, it is now stored in the area of “I’ll pull this back on him at a time when he least expects it, in whatever connection — no matter how tenuous — of my choosing”.

    The point is not to get an emotional response! The point is to make her panties wet!

    You’ve used one extraneous loop.

    Me: Oh, so I should be more like your ex…

    Her: yes, he was always respectful

    [delete]
    Me: But didn’t he cheat on you and that’s why you broke up?

    Her: looking shocked at my reply [/delete]

    Me: Smiling…Respectful like your ex….ok… What’s his number, I’ll call him and get some of his tips on respectful behaviour…

    Her hamster fills in in her mind: ” But he did cheat on me and that’s why we broke up. Oh noes!”

    At this point, she’ll do her best to redirect the conversation to something more fruitful.

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  158. Too much giving a shit about what society thinks there. I was ‘outed’ like that once, I lost 100+ friends (not facebook either). An entire chunk of my life, gone because a girl was loud and emotional about something she didn’t like that I did.

    What did I learn? It wasn’t “not to ‘cheat'”, it was that the strength of your alpha relies on your ability to control the frame against the resistance of emotion. I banged many an angry girl willing to meet me and discuss “their feelings towards me”. Some of them weren’t even hot, but it was the hilarity that fueled my passion.

    Unfortunately that is why for most people, honesty is a technique, and so is character.

    Every time I was approached by emotionally compromised people I just played them into a rage and turned it around. Not the hottest sex of my life but definitely a better outcome then most people in my situation.

    Stop thinking in right and wrong, think in terms of what you can get away with that at the end of the day makes people feel good about who they are. Do not care about your ego, everyone else will write their own interpretation of the story in the first place and go fucking LIVE, too many people here playing small time.

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  159. walawala said: “At the heart of this arguement is that she will ask: “Why do men cheat?” or “Will you still love me in 3 years?” or some variation of this shit test.”

    Tell to her keep your willie hard and there won’t be any problems… but if she even touches another man she’ll be out on her behind– you’ll happily stud her cougar friend if she’s curious about cuckold play ’cause ain’t no other man parking in your space! To paraphrase Madonna, make her justify your love. (Making her bend over and “take it all, bitch” anally is optional, but in this day and age you probably should.)

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  160. itsme said: “being married to a man who provides for you and pays for your trips abroad to shop and bang other men? this is having your cake and eating it too. what woman wouldn’t enjoy this?”

    It’s the female equivalent of a man being with two hot women at once. And it’s a very bad example for your girlfirend to see in real life. (Gee, I hope we’ll be like that when we’re older.) The “my ex would always ask me if it was alright to dance with other women, and I would do the same…” permission is too much (what you’d be permitting is illicit unprotected creampies on her lunch break eventually because you let a “connection” happen) so cut that stuff off short with her.

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  161. “Obedient wives club” – Marriage counselors should consider this…

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/06/05/obedient-wives-club-malaysia_n_871447.html

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  162. walawala,

    Your girlfriend comparing you to her ex is a major shit test and no no in of itself.

    That’s flat out disrespectful and she knows it. Your mis handling of that does not bode well for your relationship.
    (its probably doomed).

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  163. Sad B,

    Feminism is doing exactly what is was really meant to do.

    -Reduce Birthrates by reducing procreation by reducing hetereosexual sex by making men more beta (i.e. sensitive to women’s needs…whatever that means), and by making women more mannish in behavior and temperament.

    Men want feminine Women
    Women want masculine Men

    Where neither can find what they really want. Confusion reigns. Less sex, Less marriage, i.e. less children.

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  164. on June 5, 2011 at 9:33 pm From the can

    wow j, spot on and to the point.

    recent observation, sluts call their moms all the time. emotional damage control?

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  165. Hey Roissy I remember you or a lot of people talking on your blog about how welfare people abuse everyone else’s taxpayer money and live a good life off of their money.

    http://www.cnn.com/2011/POLITICS/06/05/florida.welfare.drug.testing/index.html?hpt=hp_t1

    This guys is going one step in the right direction by making sure druggies aren’t the ones receiving welfare.

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  166. I know it’s a surprise to no one, but “Don’t Date Him Girl!” has got to be one of the most hilarious things I’ve read this year. This shit is hysterical, not to mention an insane demonstration of double standards.

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  167. @j, itsme, anonymous

    Thanks.

    “”It’s the female equivalent of a man being with two hot women at once. And it’s a very bad example for your girlfirend to see in real life. (Gee, I hope we’ll be like that when we’re older.)””

    Note: shaming the mistress elevates the status of the guy…but a guy shaming his wife for having two guys or cuckholding him…is beta.

    This is an epiphany for me…Time magazine recently called out this cheating on one’s wife—Arnie, etc…

    But the cougar friend’s cuckholding of her husband prompts rationalization and denials and an awkward distancing from the behaviour on the part of my gf.

    The path to becoming more alpha is frought with these uncomfortable truths and the reality is that one is either the leader or the follower in any romantic relationship.

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  168. walawala: “but a guy shaming his wife for having two guys or cuckholding him…is beta.”

    No, let your gf’s whore-ass friend make herself look sluttish; you just don’t aquiese to ANY of your gf’s shit tests, don’t give her permission for anything she could twist into believing you “let” her do anything like her friend does. (Give her an inch, she’ll take a mile through rationalization.) Don’t bitch openly about her friend (shethinks you doth protest too much then, you’re right) just don’t let her get away with any shit, just like you were a pimp– think “bitch better have my money!” or “woman, get me a beer!”

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  169. Kuwaiti female activist calls for legalizing sex slavery
    http://www.kuwaittimes.net/read_news.php?newsid=MzQxNDA4NDA2

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  170. j, you attribute to feminists motives that simply aren’t there –they do not think in terms of long term social engineering, only so far as their agenda is aligned with marxist prerogatives.. Their agenda is much simpler–power to do as they please without any regard for possible consequences; and a legalized sinecures & entitlements.

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  171. […] found this comment at Roissy’s (thanks to namae namka linking to this blog in another comment): “Why the difference? *Women are […]

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  172. Cadnerd,

    you are wrong.

    The feminist movement in this country was financed by social engineers.

    -The Rockefellers, The Rockefeller Foundation, the CIA – financed Ms. Magazine and Gloria Steinem.

    -The major universities and Fortune 500.

    The early feminists who were Marxists and socialist are what Lenin called “useful idiots”. True believer who have no idea really of what their ideology means.

    They were financed by the big boys for the reasons I explained amongst others. For example:

    The Controllers backed feminism because they wanted women in the formal workforce. Why ?

    1. Prior, only half the population was taxed. Post feminism, everyone is taxed.

    2. Prior, women raised the children and taught them traditional values and religion. Post, public school, public funded-subsidized daycare and TV teach the children their warped values ….not mommy – she has to work. This work to weaken traditional values and religion over time.

    3. Women in the workforce creates additional wage competition with men. Labor become more insecure, Capital more secure. “Divide and Conquer”

    4. Encourage female participation in sports as opposed to “home economics”. Alter women’s focus from home and baby making to “competing” ….” “like men”. Women focus on “careers”, marry later, have less children, more spinsters.

    5. Encourage laws that encourage destruction of the nuclear family.

    These trends were all by intentional design. Do your research.

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  173. on June 6, 2011 at 8:44 am Harman hajy

    ” 1.
    on June 2, 2011 at 10:56 am Dat_Truth_Hurts

    http://www.aei.org/article/103674

    Feminism by Treaty. There is a scary UN treaty that may be ratified soon.”

    Wasn’t there are treaty like that once that socialism would become a world wide principle? That one failed.

    Harman hajy

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  174. J is absolutely right.
    Check http://www.savethemales.ca

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  175. J, no. You’re right that the feminism has been sponsored by the powers that were (and are) as a part of social engineering project. But within the scope of the feminist ideology, the social engineering notions take a distant seat. Though the original impetus, it do not pop in the forefront of feminist thought (a misnomer, I know) patterns.Feminazis are concerned with privilege, and that essentially overs the scope of it. That they are being used as a social engineering tool is external to them.

    Another tool of SocEng was education. In fact, the feminism was tied to it in some ways. But in general, it has been decided that there won’t be an outlet for highly educated populace, and in fact that it would create a challenge to the top class. So, slowly but surely, the dumbing down process was a resounding success. There is a test for 8 graders from 1890′ somewhere on the net. Try to find it and pass it. If you were born after the second half of the 20th century (after 60’s), chances are that you’ll fail the test.

    What role feminism plays this? It has been known that in general, females are better at a rote drilling, while males tend to be more analytical. Once again, in general. Thus, female can be more easily manipulated than males. Institute bullshit subjects into the system, like women studies, and by affirmation set up quotas that the females form a majority of “educated” population and the sky is the limit for what you can do. in the herding sense).

    Another SocEng aspect of the project has been to bring women into workforce. Before the middle of the last century, one income families were the norm. Try to get by on one average income today. You can’t. Enslavement (inversion of orwelian freedom is slavery = slavery is freedom) is progressing in strides.

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  176. Errata:
    Though the original impetus, it does not pop in the forefront of feminist thought (a misnomer, I know) patterns. Feminazis are concerned with privilege, and that essentially covers the scope of it.

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  177. Canerd,

    Yes, Feminazis are concerned with privilege.

    They are “useful idiots” of the social engineers. A small few of them actually know what they are really doing and they are scum.

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  178. J,

    Employers were all for feminism as it enlarged the labor pool and hence created downward wage pressure, much like immigration.

    Of course, not many male CEOs were replaced with women.

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  179. Where’s Great BooKs For Men talking about asskocking and lolzlolz on this?

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  180. Hey Roissy,

    Here’s an article where a man made a billboard saying that his girlfriend had an abortion against his wishes.

    http://www.foxnews.com/us/2011/06/07/jilted-ex-boyfriend-puts-up-abortion-billboard/?test=latestnews

    I know that this move lowers his value, but does this lower her value too?

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  181. Yes, because men and women alike find abortions to be selfish behavior, regardless of what they say in public. And as we know, selfishness is not attractive in women…

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  182. I’m surprised that one of your Spanish speaking followers hasn’t give you an update on the story.

    It turns out that the gf was the wife’s best friend and was staying in the house after she had left her husband! Dude didn’t even have to sneak around town! lol

    Seems that he wimped out to his wife. He supported and helped her with the signs.

    Here’s the story (in Spanish): http://www.codigomardelplata.com/ver_noticia_mar_del_plata.asp?codigo=3208

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