Everything She Does Is Cute

I’ve got a new post up at The Spearhead. It’s about the sexual benefits that accrue to the master gameplayer who treats women like bratty little sisters. This is normally my Friday Night Game post, but since I’ve been busy jetsetting with A+ list celebrities and ambassador daughters, I’ve been negligent posting over there. So here’s a Tuesday special for you. Excerpt:

So what does “everything she does is cute” mean in practice? It means not getting riled up when she tests you. It means not explaining yourself when she stamps her wee feet and wags a finger at you. It means never acting apologetic when she’s upset with some mysterious infraction you’ve committed. Keep in mind that when a woman gets upset, at least half the time she’s not really upset with whatever misdemeanor she’s accusing you of; she’s just upset that your behavior caused a temporary reversal of gina tingle induction.

Go read it over there. I believe that the tactics described in the post should be a solid foundation of inner game as well as outer game.


  1. on November 9, 2009 at 8:30 pm some other guy

    great post, roissy. thanks.


  2. I work in a office full of women.

    I can tell you right now the general sentiment of this advice rings true.


  3. To Roissy :

    You’ve been jetsetting with A+ list celebrities?

    If that isn’t an embellishment, please, do tell.


  4. on November 9, 2009 at 8:52 pm Marcus Halberstram

    Most attractive women act like brats, do why not treat them similarly?

    In the rare case of an attractive woman not acting like a brat, I would venture to guess that they would not be attracted to men treating them like one. How much does a woman’s brattiness correlate with how responsive they are to game?


  5. This is normally my Friday Night Game post, but since I’ve been busy jetsetting with A+ list celebrities and ambassador daughters….

    Sorry, some of us are allergic to bullshit.


  6. Sorry, some of us are allergic to bullshit.

    It’s obviously a joke.



  7. genius!


  8. Very true and wise – but this is largely an argument for avoiding the company of fatty-losers chicks.
    That is OK; such an argument will always previal.


  9. This is the most fucked up thing I have seen in a while. It’s a “Cougar Convention”.



  10. on November 9, 2009 at 9:33 pm Passing through

    An allegory of life mercilessly descends upon the National Zoo:


  11. on November 9, 2009 at 10:02 pm dirtyharrycallahan

    one of the easiest ways to do this, mentally, is everytime she is being a bitch, call her a brat instead. It’s a playful word which reminds them of being a little girl, which they like, but it conveys the same sentiment without the anger.


  12. on November 9, 2009 at 10:08 pm dirtyharrycallahan

    and if I had read the article before commenting you basically say that, dur.


  13. “It means not explaining yourself when she stamps her wee feet and wags a finger at you. ”

    No shit. If a woman shakes a finger at me, I’ll wave my big floppy…ahem… hand in her face and go Oooookkkkkkaaayyy like a total retard, over and over.


  14. While this is good advice for a lot of guys, and definitely way, way better of a reaction than the standard nice-guy emote-athon response to female shit tests, I think it should be tempered with this caveat: Don’t respond to genuinely bitchy behaviour by calling it “cute.”

    If she says, “You’re such a player!” with a smile on her face, she is flirting and implicitly complimenting you. Calling her a brat, pop psychologist, or saying she’s projecting are all great responses. If she’s teasing you, she’s flirting with you. Flirt back.

    BUT the best response to real, legitimate, capital-S Shit tests is to punish her bad behaviour, not reward it. If she insults you, pushes for commitment, or tries to get you to do something you don’t want to in a bitchy, unpleasant way, the appropriate response is stern, controlled anger:

    “You knowwww, usually it’s the GUY who pays on dates.”

    “Are you still seeing other girls?”

    “X friend is a loser, why do you hang out with him?”

    Should all be met with Grrr Angry Daddy.

    Teasing girls is great during pickups, and when she is flirting with you via small-s shit tests. But there will always be a time and a place for manly anger and disapproval.




  15. Dealing with shit tests and little fits correctly separates the boys from them men. “Everything she does is cute” is a great way to explain how to handle the whole situation. Any effect she has on your mood shows you have too much invested.

    I do a lot of subtle punishment and rewards. I also like to deal with girls by completely ignoring them, but not so they think I am ignoring them due to their “test.” I will ignore her questions because I am more infatuated with the band on my watch, or the the water spot on my spoon. They realize I have selective hearing….and I also like to interpret things the way I see fit.


  16. Roissy;

    Without betraying your traveling companions’ trust, I’d love to see a post on how game allows you to associate with such giants.

    Personally, I’m “dating” a photographer (she refers me to me as her lover, never boyfriend, upon my request), and her clients include A-list and B-list bands and celebrities. Turns out, men greatly respect other men who can manage a group, and particularly one who always brings an entourage of beautiful women.

    Meanwhile, she pays for my drinks, dinners (when she’s not cooking), and as of Nov 1st, rent.


  17. on November 10, 2009 at 12:39 am learnedmonthstoolate

    It is staggeringly depressing to learn so much stuff from this site and the general “game” world—that is so obvious in retrospect—that would have saved a side relationship I was in earlier this year and really enjoyed (14 years younger, superhot and supersmart and superfunny) if only I hadn’t been trapped in my (unfortunately, “natural” to me) beta behavior.

    The description above—“than the standard nice-guy emote-athon response to female shit tests” so perfectly sums up how I fucked up when faced with her pretty much daily shit tests.

    Another clue for beta guys, tho if you are reading all this already you probably don’t need to know. If the girl WANTS to dig you—as this one I think did—she will more or less, but not using explicit recognition of the whole “game” paradigm which this one would, of course, have rejected as ridiculous and “nothing that would work on her” if made articulate, pretty much TELL you so, in ways that if you are too obdurately beta in your “natural” behavior you won’t notice. Til it’s too late. In my own case, she would drop such quotes as “It’s a girl’s nature to enjoy being affronted” and TELL ME IN SO MANY WORDS while fucking that “all that fighting we do in email—it’s really all about this.”

    Damn I was stupid.


  18. Found this http://jezebel.com/5365055/can-a-woman-be-a-pickup-artist while trawling around the Internet and it seems as if most women’t don’t actually believe PUA stuff. So does it work for all or most or just a minor subset of women? Just wondering.


  19. I use a demeanor of mild amusement as if everything they are saying is a fairytale coming out of a 4 year old’s mouth when they get caught stealing cookies.


  20. I learned this because I was not a womanizer which I suppose comes of as alpha. Betas are just terrible womanizers.

    A classic I remember was when one girl asked me for a staple remover. Seemingly annoyed, I gave her a paper clip and told her to stop using staples you silly broad which of course made her more interested.


  21. I am beginning to think there is a good deal of context to individual alpha-beta behavior. When I was single, I slanted naturally towards beta mostly because it took a lot of effort to work up the nerve to ask women. I could overcome it, but only with a lot of work.

    However I cannot relate to beta behavior once in a relationship. When I was young yes, but I quickly grew out of it. It shocked me one day to realize I have never bought a piece of jewelry for any girl friend I had. I didn’t even take them out much and sometimes had one chip in for the motel room. I rarely put up with tantrums etc. I would hate to have beta tendencies in a relationship and have to beat it down like I did when I was single. That sounds like hell.

    Its also interesting that early on with my first girlfriends I was dumped consecutively 3 times. That was because it was new and my natural low tolerance for crap was suppressed. Now I am certain what the problem was. I was indeed acting like a beta. After that I was always the one to do the dumping. It does not look like a coincidence as I look back.


  22. Eman,

    I watched that video, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rWR1Z4AiyWM&feature=player_embedded

    You are right. That is a pretty good idea of what the 25 year-olds-are facing. Hence why that guy is doing what he said he’s going to do at the end of the video. He was spot-on about how being raised by a single mom had indoctrinated him into what his old approach was. He is also right about “biochemical highs”, known on this blog as gina-tingles, are. A Roissy can teach one about the arts of sustaining those gina-tingles for the duration of the relationship and keep a relationship going, but in the past they were uneccessary because socially it was so repugnant to use spouses disposably. No-fault divorce fucked all that up and hence we have what we have, men like Dave-from-Hawaii having to use game to re-seduce (biochemical high, gina-tingle, whatever) their wives to save their marriages.

    Intresting stuff. That young fella is wise beyond his years and his speech was heartfelt.


  23. on November 10, 2009 at 3:08 am Not for public

    @chi-town: That sound’s very familiar. Now if I could figure out how to fix overcome approach-anxiety (which so far I have always terribly failed at), I would be on a very good way to alpha…


  24. @Zdeno

    Only 2 occasions when I feel the need to put on ‘angry face’
    1. She’s pissed me off and I have no intention of fucking her
    2. She’s pissed me off and I have already fucked her

    All other circumstances and I treat her like she’s my friend’s little sister (bratty little sister if she’s being bitchy or cute little sister if she’s being adorable). Whatever mood she is in, I find it amusing


  25. Eman,

    Cheers on the find. Not many people are willing or able to be skeptical about why our culture operates the way it does, or what voids are left by certain progressive changes.

    A generation of selfish, bratty women is breeding a generation of selfish, condescending men.


  26. Last night, I was finishing up some reading before going to bed. It was work-related, and I needed to concentrate for a few minutes without any distractions. My old lady, however, wanted to chat and be snuggly. I got angry with her and told her to get the fuck off my lap. She stormed off in a huff, and said she wasn’t going to talk to me anymore.

    A few minutes later, I joined her in the bedroom. As she turned out the lights and crawled into bed, I tossed a burqa at her. “Put on the burqa,” I said. She said, “Not tonight. Tomorrow night, with much pleasure, but no games tonight.”

    I repeated, “put on the burqa.” She still wouldn’t put it on, so I turned my back to her and tried to go to sleep. Within 10 seconds, her hand was on my package. LOUD and vigorous sex ensued.


  27. on November 10, 2009 at 10:13 am Robert in Arabia

    A Saudi court has upheld a ruling to behead and crucify a man convicted of raping five children and leaving one of them to die in the desert
    The convict was arrested earlier in 2009 after a seven-year old boy helped police in their investigation. The child left in the desert after the rape was three years old. International rights groups have accused the kingdom, the birthplace of Islam, of applying draconian justice, beheading murderers, rapists and drug traffickers in public. So far this year about 40 people have been executed in Saudi Arabia. In Saudi Arabia, crucifixion means tying the body of the convict to wooden beams to be displayed to the public after beheading.
    Posted by Average Joe at 12:49 PM 0 comments


  28. but since I’ve been busy jetsetting with A+ list celebrities and ambassador daughters,

    this is Roissy revealing his status whore self and that he values a woman’s social status.


  29. @Not for public

    What helped me was creating an obstacle so punishing I had to adopt a persona. Two years out of high school I walked up to this then hot cheerleader’s door. I tell you it was not me walking. I ended up meeting her fiance` but it was hilarious. We didn’t speak a word in high school but there I was with a “what’s up?”. I still feel a rush from it. I came back to tell my friend who was not easily impressed and he certainly was. I used that method often to take it out of so much context that I could create a new me. Its not about over coming women. You yourself are the enemy.

    I got to the point of being able to dance with a few girls at once and sitting back down while they looked on wondering what does he have that he can do that? I am not really interested in womanizing. I like my health and just STDs were enough to disinterest me in the concept. However I was able to sort through a lot of women.

    I’d rather walk and make them want more than have pity sex with a 1000 women.


  30. Well but how does one force themselves to do it? I do all sorts of stuff like that professionally but I could almost never get myself to do it wrt to girls… Generally not even when there was clear interest from their side.


  31. I found a picture of Roissy on the web:


  32. z,

    No-fault divorce fucked all that up and hence we have what we have

    You realize without no-fault you can get stuck with a fattie, or worse, a bitch who is perhaps too scared to cheat/divorce, but still hates your guts?
    There are of course some valid points in that video, but overall, a pathetic beta rant. Why oh why would you want to force some chick into providing for her? Some strong provider ant (beta?) instinct? If you love her or perhaps just see her more than others as potential mother of your kids, then she’s worth keeping her attracted by gaming. No other reason to be in a relationship. Cooking is not that hard and dry cleaners are cheap.
    Also, the notion of game techniques as something new is ridiculous.


  33. I’ve got a new post up at The Spearhead.

    What’s the spearhead


  34. To El Chief :

    A quick Google Images search of “Roissy in DC” turns up Roissy’s real face.

    I’d post it here, but he’s taken great measures to protect his apparent privacy, so I’ll at least cooperate with him that much.


  35. good work rubes
    his bosses at ACORN will be amused

    loved your uncle jack’s work, btw


  36. Treating a woman like your “kid sister” can backfire if you come across as too mature for her (i.e. you overdo it without switching almost immediately into something fun). This kills the vibe. The idea is to give her shit about her alleged immaturity, but continue your fun game in such a way that she is forced to keep up (she’s following your lead).


  37. In Response to Firepower :

    Why thank you — We are still very proud of Dear Uncle Rubenstein.

    He is still remembered for his tenacity and lust for Candy Barrs.

    Speaking of the advantages of delicious treats with curvy figures :

    “Curvy women may be a clever bet”



  38. on November 10, 2009 at 2:26 pm personal trainer

    Sounds like the perfect game for my new interest. Im in my 40s, divorced personal trainer and chef and she is a sweet petite stick figure blond with huge natural tits who eats anti——–depressive meds and is a hypochondriac.

    She is so much the sweet little brat.


  39. on November 10, 2009 at 2:32 pm personal trainer

    OH…Shes 25 and my jealous bitch friends are whispering she looks 15.


  40. i’m sorry to post this in this thread, as it’s a situation that is momentary and time-sensitive, and i wanted to gain some insight from ya’ll.

    girl coming in to town for 3 nights or so, staying w/ me during the time. we’re on a fuck-buddy arrangement.

    i’m taking her to a musical performance. coincidentally, another girl i’ve been talking to for a few weeks (met her a while ago and got good vibe from her but didnt try for kiss… yeah, yeah i know). i have been putting off hanging out w/ her because i’ve been busy, but she saw my name on the invite list and posted on my facebook:

    “are you going to the concert on Thursday? Can we finally hang out????”

    i replied w/ a cocky “i’ll give it some thought”. basically, i’m concerned that i’ll be w/ the first girl when i will (most certainly) run into this girl. how should i act in this situation, so as to capitalize on future opportunities with both girls?

    thanks for any feedback. much appreciated.


  41. on November 10, 2009 at 2:49 pm gunslingergregi

    Tell her your bringing your fuckbuddy. The truth fuck it.


  42. Now that Roissy has opened my eyes, I can see where so much of the crap I used to believe came from: Songs I hear every day on the radio (and sang along with). Makes me want to puke.

    Eg, Phil Collins: Against all Odds


    How can I just let you walk away,
    just let you leave without a trace
    When I stand here taking every breath with you, ooh
    You’re the only one who really knew me at all

    How can you just walk away from me,
    when all I can do is watch you leave
    Cos we’ve shared the laughter and the pain,
    and even shared the tears
    You’re the only one who really knew me at all


  43. Backdoor Man

    A few minutes later, I joined her in the bedroom. As she turned out the lights and crawled into bed, I tossed a burqa at her. “Put on the burqa,” I said.

    For real? That’s an interesting role playing costume.


  44. Good post.


  45. […] be boys,” our grandmothers tell us with a smile, “Just treat them like grown-up children.”  It’s cuter when she doesn’t fly into an offended rage or lecture him about respect. Naughty boy! […]


  46. You can get around this by showing your girl mild contempt. very mild all the time, pronounced when she really steps over the line.

    The joy is that it almost always comes up entirely justifiable.