Don’t Stop Thinking About The Next Girl

A big mistake guys make when they start dating a girl they really like — the “one” — is neglecting to continue going out and getting fresh leads.  I used to do this, so I know the mental processes that go through a guy’s head when he’s really into a girl he’s dating.  He channels all his pickup energy into this one girl, figuring that if he made it as far as a first or a second date he should focus like a laser beam on her pants zipper.  He spends the long days in between seeing her analyzing his progress, picking apart the meaning behind her actions (or inactions), and daydreaming about what a relationship would be like with her.  When he goes out, he gets lazy and tells himself there is no urgency to collect new numbers since he’s already dating a quality chick and most of the other girls can’t compare anyhow.

This is a sexually lethal frame of mind to put oneself in.  When a guy completely boxes himself in like this with no options to fall back on, all it takes is a change of heart by his golden girl to crush his soul and send him spiraling into morose self-examination.  It’s like investing your whole wad in a biotech startup with huge promise only to see it crash to a sub-penny stock after the CEO is convicted of fraud.  You’d have been a lot better off diversifying your portfolio in a range of pussy sectors.

As an example, once, during the course of a month, I had four second dates in a row fizzle out on me leading to no sex.  I made a critical error by jumping from one girl to the next — dating, failing, getting a new lead, dating again, failing again, etc.  My desperation and self-doubt grew with each new girl, practically ensuring failure.

The way to beat this crippling dating handicap is to follow the “two in the kitty” rule religiously.  You should date a minimum of two girls simultaneously until you have locked in your preferred girl by having sex with her at least three times.  I have found through trial and error that a girl will bond to you after the third bang.  Before that, it’s a crapshoot and depends on the girl’s innate femininity.  Because modern girls have taken on male characteristics (especially DC girls who are more masculine than girls from less ambitious or overeducated towns) and are sluttier than past generations, the first or second bang won’t guarantee emotional attachment.  By the third bang, however, you will notice a very perceptible shift in the balance of power.  Suddenly, she will call and text you first, ask about your weekend schedule, tell you to “give me a call soon”, start doing favors for you, cuddle longer, and generally betray signs of nervousness when you make yourself physically or emotionally scarce.

That is when you will have her in the palm of your hand and can steer the relationship in the direction you want it to go.

A guy can achieve this if he adheres to these fundamental principles:

  1. Other girls CAN compare.  Girls are more interchangeable than you’d think.  Don’t get sucked into “oneitis”.
  2. If you date one girl exclusively and she really turns you on, you WILL give off a needy vibe at some point during the pre-sex seduction no matter how much experience you have.  The best players who have ice running through their veins and cyborgian state control get that way because they date and fuck many girls concurrently.
  3. A good date means nothing.  The only thing that matters is penis in vagina, and even then a feeling of security is not assured until the penis has penetrated the vagina on at least three different occasions.  (Three times in one night does not count.)
  4. You will find it easier to close the deal with your number one girl if you are banging a number two and three girl.  A man getting regular sex has an aura that girls subconsciously register in their hindbrains.  Don’t ask me how this happens, but it does.  The Aura is very powerful, like the chemical hormones secreted by ants and bees to get them to cooperate as a social structure, and will be your Valkyrie in the battle for pussy.
  5. Approach the game while dating as ardently as you do when you are dating no one.  If you have a date Tuesday, go out Monday and Wednesday and get more numbers.  Even if you fail at getting numbers, just taking the initiative of meeting new girls and chatting them up will reduce the neediness you feel with your date.
  6. Never, EVER, feel guilty for dating and banging many girls simultaneously.  The mating marketplace is a battlefield and the Genitalia Convention rules of engagement clearly stipulate that it’s open season for fucking around until terms of exclusivity are tendered.  This is not your mother’s dating environment.
  7. A hot chick is MORE likely, not less, to continue seeing you if you tell her you are “dating around”.  A guy who knows he has options and is in fact exercising those options is extremely attractive to a girl.

Don’t give a girl the chance to pull the rug out from under you.  Have another ten rugs underneath that one and you will glide through your interactions with women like a shark through a school of mackerel.





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  1. Just what I needed today. Well done.

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  2. you definitely need to write a book.

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  3. This doesn’t happen that often that I can truly say this…..

    No comment

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  4. Fuck my “No comment” IS a comment…. wait what?

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  5. “A big mistake guys make when they start dating a girl they really like — the “one” — is neglecting to continue going out and getting fresh leads.”

    […]

    “As an example, once, during the course of a month, I had four second dates in a row fizzle out on me leading to no sex. I made a critical error by jumping from one girl to the next – dating, failing, getting a new lead, dating again, failing again, etc. ”

    So maybe i’m missing the underlying sentiment here but these sentences (and the idea behind them) seem in direct contradiction to one another.

    You say the best way to have “game” is to date a lot of people at once.. and then you give an example of yourself doing that and say you didn’t get any. Perhaps you didn’t get any in that month because you didn’t put in enough effort – you were too busy moving from the ex one to the next one to see something that might have been really great and in front of you all along. And then perhaps it just wasn’t supposed to happen with them?

    Just sayin.

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  6. If only “unfeminine” women sleep around with ease, how do you explain famous women like Pamela Anderson, or Marilyn Monroe? I suppose you could argue that their fame itself is a mark of their ambition, and that they are therefore “masculine” types in spite of their appearance. On the other hand, I’ve known a great many non-famous women who struck me as being ultra-feminine in their feelings and emotions, but who appeared to sleep around with (apparently) relative ease.

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  7. alias clio- there’s a difference between sleeping with a man who treats you like a beautiful princess and a man who’s drunk and has no feelings for you. Both of the women you describe had many sexual partners who happen to be passionatly invested in them, and vice verca. Being a skank who puts out on the first date with any joe shmo is different- there is no chemistry.

    oh roissy, how are you ever going to fall in love again if you use this approach? if you don’t make a mental and chemical bond with a woman, you will never love her, no matter how perfect she looks. qodyoqydqodyiquydiquydiuqytdiqutdiuqytiyq

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  8. I don’t exactly disagree with you, Irina, but I suspect that it hurts more to experience many passionate and close relationships, than to flit lightly from one casual encounter to another. That’s sort of Roissy’s point here, isn’t it? Not to invest too much in one person, because you’ll inevitably suffer for it? Funnily enough, this is one area where I actually agree with him, although my own solution to the problem is of course quite different.

    Anyway, the point I was trying to make is that some ultra-feminine women, famous or not, with strong feelings and a tendency to bond with their lovers, still seem able to move easily from one sexual partner to another – casual or not so casual partners alike.

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  9. I don’t date around, so obviously what I say isn’t too applicable to the pursuit of the multiple bangitude. Anyway, every guy whom I’ve been with has demonstrated and told me that he was in love with me before I became intimate with him. It was a subconscious criteria I stumbled upon when I was 15, and it hasn’t given me cause for regret so far.

    Not too long ago, I fell in love with a guy who was by all definitions a nerd (my type; we had long conversations and amazing chemistry, the kind that made me nearly fall on the sidewalk walking next to him), and he claimed to love me in return and seemed to feel a lot for me. I was ecstatic with him and was ready to give up just about everything for him. Then, he had sex with another girl whom he claimed to smell just like me. I was devastated. I made sure to never see him again.

    That was the precipitating event that made me get married.

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  10. “Then, he had sex with another girl whom he claimed to smell just like me.”

    hmmm, either he was lying or is a uber nerd. the lesson here is to give it up faster. Guys hate waiting.

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  11. “A man getting regular sex has an aura that girls subconsciously register in their hindbrains. Don’t ask me how this happens, but it does. The Aura is very powerful, like the chemical hormones secreted by ants and bees to get them to cooperate as a social structure, and will be your Valkyrie in the battle for pussy.”

    So true. And girls complain that guys are jerks and cheat on them. Uy, what a world.

    Our attraction mechanisms, I realize, are solely designed to make us create more copies of our genes. This has absolutely nothing to do with guaranteeing life happiness.

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  12. mandy – those were consecutive dates, not concurrent. i had dated four girls in a row, but never more than one at any given time. that made all the difference.

    alias clio:
    That’s sort of Roissy’s point here, isn’t it? Not to invest too much in one person, because you’ll inevitably suffer for it?

    no, my point is to not invest too much in any one girl before she has become emotionally attached to the guy, usually by the third bang. the way to accomplish that most easily is to date, and preferably bang, a few women concurrently.

    i actually love investing everything i have into a girl who really matters to me and who loves me back.

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  13. I know this was for Roissy, but I’ll answer:
    American society actuallly really expects that (young) men will marry happily perimenopausal women, menopausal women, single mothers, divorced mothers with lots of kids, BBW and so on. As a man, you are essentially a workhouse and your interest are worth shit: if you are in your thirties and look at women in their early twenties you are a pedophile.
    Best advice for young US men: score around in your youth, save up, when in your thirties go and marry a woman in a different country.

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  14. That was the precipitating event that made me get married.

    hope, did you get married for the right reasons?
    right reason = love.

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  15. Roissy, genius. I’ve been explaining the phenomena behind point #4 with my friends a lot lately.

    Having multiple options, especially when you’re actively banging them tightens your game immensely. Because you have a backup, you act like an arrogant asshole alpha to both girls, knowing if one dumps you have the other. Girls pick up on the cocky vibe lust after you (sorry ladies, it’s true). Nothing beats earned confidence.

    I’ve only channeled this when I’m actually dating two girls at once, which has happened a few times (I wish more!)– but the results were near-mystical.

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  16. Advice to a young man from the grandpa in “Little Miss Sunshine”

    1) Score a lot when you’re a teenager, amassing a lifetime of memories of being with other young ‘uns.

    2) Wait to do drugs when you’re old, since at that point you have no responsibilities and no need to worry about chromosome damage.

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  17. One of the ironic thing is that when you have a girlfriend you become more attractive to other women, and through your gf you meet a lot of new women (like her friends and the friends of her friends). In fact, I have to fight of a distant friend of my gf, and she is rather cute. What should I do?

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  18. i actually love investing everything i have into a girl who really matters to me and who loves me back.

    But it always ends, doesn’t it?

    I’m not being moralistic, I’m actually very interested in what causes the love to go away for you, or otherwise why don’t you marry a girl in that situation?

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  19. “hmmm, either he was lying or is a uber nerd.”

    Uber nerd. His mother had an IQ in the 150+ range, and he was a chess champion of sorts.

    “hope, did you get married for the right reasons?”

    I come from a different kind of culture. My grandparents are in their 80’s and had their marriage arranged. They have tons of kids, grandkids, a long life, and are still married. I seriously doubt they were still going at it when they were in their 70’s.

    “right reason = love.”

    What is love but a neurological process? You’ve written this line yourself many times. Given the correct drugs, you can be made to feel like you’re in love. When certain portions of the brain are removed, or chemicals inhibited, people become incapable of certain emotions.

    http://www.newscientist.com/article/dn11530.html

    I married for stability, friendship, companionship and love (quietly burning on the backburner, no raging passionate fires). I wanted someone to care for, to rely on, to cherish, to believe in, to protect me, and to never betray me or leave me.

    Most men have too much of a player streak (perhaps that is why I am morbidly fascinated by the “game” and the player mindset), but I tried to choose wisely. I’d rather never have another orgasm again in my life than be left in the lurch. Strong statement, perhaps, but there it is.

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  20. on November 14, 2007 at 9:14 pm Days of Broken Arrows

    Hope,

    Don’t take this as an attack, but if you’re happily married, why are you on this board referencing orgasms?

    Would all you guys want your wife to be on this board talking about under which circumstance they’d never have an orgasm?

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  21. Roissy, you say “no, my point is to not invest too much in any one girl before she has become emotionally attached to the guy, usually by the third bang. the way to accomplish that most easily is to date, and preferably bang, a few women concurrently.

    i actually love investing everything i have into a girl who really matters to me and who loves me back.”

    Some of us (perhaps more women than men, but men too), don’t want to invest anything at all without an actual commitment. A real commitment, that is, like the offer of a wedding ring. Not a pseudo-commitment, like “I’ll love you until I get tired of you”.

    Leaving out moral issues (for the moment), my own belief is that it’s better to take the light approach and invest nothing at all unless you sense that someone is a “keeper”, I mean a permanent one. There’s nothing more painful than serial monogamy. It can make a wreck out of a person, though men seem to manage it better than women. The bar skanks you regard with horror may once not have been skanks, but pretty young things who practised serial monogamy and were once too badly burnt (it only takes once) to be able to love anyone again.

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  22. “Don’t take this as an attack, but if you’re happily married, why are you on this board referencing orgasms?”

    We both post to message boards, blogs and forums. His are more of the political rant variety, while mine are more of the psychological / social science type. We talk openly about evolutionary mating and adaptive behaviors while we shower together. It’s not that shocking to me, but it may be to you.

    Happiness is also a highly subjective phenomenon that likely comes, at its base, from human evolution. Humans have a mental immune system that allows most healthy people to be in a relatively similar state of happiness. Henceforth I don’t relentlessly pursue it, because marriage is not my primary source of happiness. My brain is.

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  23. on November 14, 2007 at 9:59 pm Days of Broken Arrows

    Hope sez: “We talk openly about evolutionary mating and adaptive behaviors while we shower together.”

    I like to observe social behavior too. And I’m observing that in the last two posts you’ve referenced both your orgasms and being naked in the shower. Conclusion: Some women are exhibitionists not just in public, but even in print! It’s interesting that with women it’s never an intellectual discussion, she has to mention how she was naked. Women’s sexuality infuses everything, and even when you can’t see the woman in question, she makes sure to get you to try and imagine what she’d look like.

    I don’t mention this because I’m some sort of moralist. I could give a damn that you’re talking in the shower. I mention it because it bolsters the entire premise of Roissy’s blog — that women are inherently sexual creatures and must be treated as such.

    Try and talk physics with a woman and she makes it physical.

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  24. Ahhh the AURA. I think that girls can give off a similar aura as well.

    This whole thing is just good advice for guys and girls… but I guess a girls one would have to be tweaked a bit as I doubt that guys begin becoming emotionally attached after the third bangout session.

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  25. “I don’t mention this because I’m some sort of moralist. I could give a damn that you’re talking in the shower. I mention it because it bolsters the entire premise of Roissy’s blog — that women are inherently sexual creatures and must be treated as such.”

    Men and women alike are sexual creatures. I certainly don’t deny it. To deny human nature is folly. We did not get where we are by exercising panda-like sexual abstinence.

    I’m attempting to offer an alternative theory. It could be that I’m deluding myself with simple cognitive dissonance, but I still maintain that LTRs are not happiness dead ends. Quite adaptive for a woman, too, no?

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  26. “There’s nothing more painful than serial monogamy. It can make a wreck out of a person, though men seem to manage it better than women.”

    Nope, _breaking up_ is painful for both men and women, but serial monogamy itself is typically painful only for women. It makes men happier:

    “[W]here men recover from serial break-ups, women fare much worse. In fact it may be much better for a woman’s mental health to stay single [their whole life] than to have loved and lost, suggests the study by Michaela Benzeval at Queen Mary, University of London and colleagues […]

    Women’s mental health progressively deteriorated with the more break-ups they experienced.

    But this was far from the case in men. “Oddly, the best mental health was observed in men who had undergone two or more partnership reformations, and this was significantly better than all other men,” note the authors.”

    http://www.newscientist.com/article/dn4507.html

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  27. Rain And, you do realise that you aren’t in fact disagreeing with me?

    What I was trying to say was that although there may be a few men who react badly to serial monogamy (I always allow for exceptions), women are far more likely to do so.

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  28. Outstanding advice. I seriously doubt many DC area guys will follow it. I subscribe to the “Zero Sum” theory of gender relations. Just as DC area women show masculine dating traits, the males of the area have developed feminine ones. 0f course, they would never admit to growing pussies, but it’s a fact.

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  29. pa:
    But it always ends, doesn’t it?

    perhaps, but i never think this way. do you go on vacation thinking about the boring plane ride home?

    I’m not being moralistic, I’m actually very interested in what causes the love to go away for you, or otherwise why don’t you marry a girl in that situation?

    i can have love without marriage. in fact, from what i’ve seen it’s better without marriage!
    as for why love went away, well…
    sometimes it didn’t go away, but she did.
    other times, love went away because, in the exculpatory words of a former prez: mistakes were made.
    most of the time, though, it just fades and new loves await.

    hope:
    What is love but a neurological process?

    “love is biochemically no different than eating large quantities of chocolate.”
    this is true.
    but, then, it’s true about anything you could say.
    consciousness? life? music? philosophy?
    just atoms sharing the proper valences.
    none of this matters to the sheer pleasure and joy and excitement that being in love brings. just because it can be reduced doesn’t mean it’s no longer worth pursuing and experiencing and even sacrificing for.

    I married for stability, friendship, companionship and love (quietly burning on the backburner, no raging passionate fires).

    i noticed you put love fourth in your list. that is telling. you sound like a sweet girl, hope. it would be sad if you gave up on the one thing in this world that isn’t bullshit and that was well within your reach.

    and to never betray me or leave me.

    fear is the enemy of love, not hate.

    Most men have too much of a player streak

    look closer.

    I’d rather never have another orgasm again in my life than be left in the lurch.

    lament configuration.

    We talk openly about evolutionary mating and adaptive behaviors while we shower together.

    romantic! 😉

    alias clio:
    Some of us (perhaps more women than men, but men too), don’t want to invest anything at all without an actual commitment.

    the love you take is equal to the love you make.

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  30. on November 15, 2007 at 2:52 am Days of Broken Arrows

    Roissy,

    Please don’t break out the Beatles platitudes. Never did a band achieve so much by saying so little.

    Instead, let’s quote someone who always had something to say, the great Oscar Wilde:

    “Marriage is a wonderful institution, but who would want to live in an institution?”

    “A man who desires to get married should know either everything or nothing.”

    And, best of all:

    “One should always be in love. That is the reason one should never marry.”

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  31. speaking of band refs, i was thinking of bill clinton’s campaign theme song when i wrote the title to this post.

    mine would’ve been more appropriate for bubba.

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  32. oscar wilde went to jail on charges of sodomy b/c he decided to be(realized that he was?) a gay later in life.
    so…

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  33. u alll fuck u

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  34. One should always be in love. That is the reason one should never marry.

    Cute, but why would anyone want to be that old guy at a club?

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  35. the love you take is equal to the love you make.

    sorry brokenarrow, but this is actually a pretty profound statement, especially when you consider they came up with it, so it wasn’t a cliche at the time.

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  36. There’s nothing more painful than serial monogamy. It can make a wreck out of a person, though men seem to manage it better than women

    I’m a man and I’ve rather enjoyed serial monogamy. But I am afraid it’s unfit me for marriage.

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  37. One thing that ties in with serial monogamy is the different way in which men and women typically respond to the end of a relationship. While of course there are exceptions, as a general rule men recover more quickly. If a couple breaks up after a lengthy relationship, chances are you’ll see the man back out in the nightclubs and singles’ bars next weekend. In contrast, the woman spends the next six months watching Lifetime, scarfing down Ben & Jerry’s, and occasionally venturing out with her girlfriends to drink cosmopolitans and complain about how all men are pricks.

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  38. “A hot chick is MORE likely, not less, to continue seeing you if you tell her you are “dating around”.”

    Hahahhah and that is probably why you are single. What a crock of shit. I don’t now one single hot girl who would say that is true… if the girl isn’t #1, she’s out. Have fun with that my friend.

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  39. Describing “a real player” as having “ice in his veins” says it all. It amazes me how guys hold other guys in high esteem if they are completely emotionally detached from human interaction. My experience with guys like this is that they are emotionally vacant and they know it.

    That being said, in my experience, dating several guys at the same time works just as well for women as it does for men. It keeps you from overanalyzing and freaking out over a single relationship, so that you are able to be light and laid back with the guy you really like, and really get to know him. Generally when this happens, if there is a mutual attraction and the relationship is fun, guys start to fall for you pretty fast. This may freak out a “player” like Roissy, but its a good thing for guys like him to have their game thrown off once in a while by a woman who is up to the same tricks.

    The key for a woman dating a bunch of guys at once is to not sleep with any of them, or do much of anything below the belt. The guys that are in it for sex will be filtered out, and the once that are genuinely interested will keep persuing you.

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  40. “i actually love investing everything i have into a girl who really matters to me and who loves me back.”

    Roissy something quite contradictory about this statement and everything u have preached. i will tell u why when i get back.

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  41. Once you become aware that it is within your power to acquire that which you desire, love becomes more elusive.

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  42. In response to 40 Anon above – it’s not emotional vacancy that we admire in other men. It’s the self-control with over the emotions that’s so impressive about a man with ice in his veins.

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  43. “The key for a woman dating a bunch of guys at once is to not sleep with any of them, or do much of anything below the belt. The guys that are in it for sex will be filtered out, and the once that are genuinely interested will keep persuing you.”

    Too true, anon #40. It’s very unusual to find someone saying that on this blog, though. Not to mention that if women in general were to follow that advice, they would soon put Roissy and his friends out of the “Game” business. And wouldn’t that be a shame? (Ahem.)

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  44. “it would be sad if you gave up on the one thing in this world that isn’t bullshit and that was well within your reach.”

    I didn’t so much give up on it as I deliberately reconnected the bond I once had with my first love — in actuality, he did leave me and played a wide field, only to come back to me years later. I did marry my first love. I recognized that the state of being passionately in love cannot last without pushing people over the brink of insanity. Psychological addiction to love is very much real; I have experienced its wonders and woes, and I had tumultuous teenage love affairs.

    “lament configuration.”

    It is true. I once lamented my lot in life, bemoaning my poor self and fate, seeking what can only be impossible. I’ve shed many tears over the false idol of romantic love, and I did recoil many times from love due to fear of pain. I gave my best try, but it didn’t stop them from leaving. I broke their hearts, which in turn broke mine.

    After being gamed (the man I mentioned was intelligent enough to do so, and I was certainly naive enough to fall for it), I stopped chasing after it as I once did. Even though I’m still young, I’ve always been a pragmatist. Life is fragile and fleeting, and the person I’m with believes this more than anyone else. It’s pointless to try for perfection, when human beings are inherently flawed.

    “It’s the self-control over the emotions that’s so impressive about a man with ice in his veins.”

    Control is just an illusion. It’s admirable to exercise restraint, but it’s just as admirable to let go of one’s ego.

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  45. It’s admirable to exercise restraint, but it’s just as admirable to let go of one’s ego.

    Wisdom lies in knowing when to do which.

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  46. Roissy – true

    Hope – in every shower are some good ideas – keep sharing

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  47. broken arrows, you are a worthless douschebag.

    instead of regurgitating what roissy says, refreshing your gay browser all day, why don’t you start your own blog, and go off and be gay by your own self.

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  48. on November 15, 2007 at 10:54 pm Days of Broken Arrows

    MQ:

    I think “the love you take is equal to the love you make” is a lame line because it’s untrue. It just sounds nice, like countless other platitudes that have no truth (“It all comes out in the wash;” “the proof is in the pudding”).

    We often take far more than we give. And sometimes people take advantage of us. It’s often not even in the end (pardon the pun!) and life is inherently unfair.

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  49. Well don’t you know that its a fool who plays it cool
    By making his world a little colder

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  50. on November 16, 2007 at 12:41 am journeytoselfdestruction

    Some say the world will end in fire;
    Some say in ice.
    From what I’ve tasted of desire
    I hold with those who favor fire.
    But if it had to perish twice,
    I think I know enough of hate
    To know that for destruction ice
    Is also great
    And would suffice.
    — Robert Frost

    sizzle-ack:

    At least he is willing to accept the truth of reality. I have a feeling there is no hope, merely an illusion convenient for presenting a point. This illusion’s purpose is to be a subtle undermining of the points in this blog as opposed to the more direct and argumentative method previously pursued.

    I could of course be wrong, but it would be a fool’s hope.

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  51. Hope, you’re saying some wise and interesting things.

    One thing, and maybe I’ll have cause to repeat this on some other threads: as you get older and more experienced, you almost want some anti-game. You want to feel nervous and vulnerable and bashful again. You miss that in-love off-kilter feeling.

    Broken Arrow: I believe the full line is “*In the end*, the love you take is equal to the love you make.” You’re young, a long way from the end.

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  52. With all this promotion of multiple concurrent sexual relationships I await roissy’s inevitable post on the issue of STDs.

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  53. on November 16, 2007 at 2:13 pm journeytoselfdestruction

    If you’re not willing to risk getting STDs then you shouldn’t be playing the game.

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  54. I agree with this post 100% way too many guys I know fall into this trap and its bites them in the ass bad when the girl goes back to her ex, friend zone’s him, ALWAYS have your options open for the first month or two of dating a girl.

    it will also prevent you from mistaking the fact that you’re getting steady sex for being in love.

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  55. on November 18, 2007 at 6:23 pm never mind my name

    You American guys use the wrong metaphore for the dating and mating game. It’s this national team sports obsession of yours. You imagine that dating is a game with a fixed set of rules, where the ultimate aim is “to score”. When women do not respond positively to this kind of approach, you blame them of being selfish, stuck-up, neurotic or unable to face the simple facts of nature. And you praise those poor Asian/Eastern European women, who would fuck anything to get out of their poverty hell. Yet you could do so much better! Don’t think of dating as of sports, think of it as art. Do not prepare for baseball, prepare for amateur ballroom dancing. It can be soooo rewarding. European men are already starting to discover the benefits of this. I’m sorry for my bad English, I hope you understand what I’m trying to say.

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  56. an enjoyable read, very cerebral for my current “oneitis”. i will say though, that in my experience most women like to think that they’re the only one, and they quickly vie to eliminate the competition. the aura and the confidence associated with multiplicity is something that is unmistakable though… perhaps i should snap out of my current state.

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  57. […] — is a prerogative of men only, for reasons having to do with the greater leverage men need to arm themselves with to compete in a dating market that is fundamentally tilted in favor of women. Any girl who makes a […]

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  58. Write a book, and let people know its you!
    THIS IS HILARIOUS!!!

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  59. […] need to be more active in your policy of preferential sexual consumerism. As long as you are dating two or more women simultaneously, you should have no qualms rejecting at least one of them for not being up to snuff. Choose one for […]

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  60. “i actually love investing everything i have into a girl who really matters to me and who loves me back.”

    legit.

    you play the game; don’t think you’ve let it play you

    working on the mitochondrial decrepitude part

    limited by the potential it has to last is love’s greatness.

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  61. Biochim Biophys Acta. 2008 Jan;1780(1):16-26. Epub 2007 Oct 5.Click here to read Links
    Differential effect of creatine on oxidatively-injured mitochondrial and nuclear DNA.
    Guidi C, Potenza L, Sestili P, Martinelli C, Guescini M, Stocchi L, Zeppa S, Polidori E, Annibalini G, Stocchi V.

    Istituto di Ricerca sull’Attività Motoria, Università degli Studi di Urbino Carlo Bo, Via I Maggetti 26, 61029 Urbino PU, Italy.

    Creatine is a naturally occurring compound obtained in humans from endogenous production and consumption through the diet. It is used as an ergogenic aid to improve exercise performance and increase fat-free mass. Lately, creatine’s positive therapeutic benefits in various oxidative stress-associated diseases have been reported in literature and, more recently, creatine has also been shown to exert direct antioxidant effects. Oxidatively-challenged DNA was analysed to show possible protective effects of creatine. Acellular and cellular studies were carried out. Acellular assays, performed using molecular approaches, showed that creatine protects circular and linear DNA from oxidative attacks. Nuclear and mitochondrial DNAs from oxidatively-injured human umbilical vein endothelial cells were analyzed. Creatine supplementation showed significant genoprotective activity on mitochondrial DNA. This evidence suggests that creatine may play an important role in mitochondrial genome stability in that it could normalize mitochondrial mutagenesis and its functional consequences. Thus, creatine supplementation could be used to prevent or ameliorate diseases related to mitochondrial DNA mutations, and possibly to delay aging.

    dont wait; just put it in your water.

    muscles = welcome side effect

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  62. […] When Summer dumps him in the diner, he is shellshocked. Game principle violated: Always keep two in the kitty. […]

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  63. That rug metaphor hit home like a motherfucker! Great writing Roissy. And thanks for the power-boost!

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  64. Popular article. I agree and disagree. Seems people are doing more fighting than discussing in these comments though.

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  65. Brilliant article. Exactly what I needed to read.

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  66. MORONS!!! ALL OF YOU!!!!

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  67. “You should date a minimum of two girls simultaneously until you have locked in your preferred girl by having sex with her at least three times.”

    I disagree. You should date a minimum of two girls simultaneously FOREVER.

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