A Bike Messenger Lesson

My neighbor was sitting on the stoop smoking a cigarette, bike messenger cap propped at a jaunty angle, looking morose. I stopped to say hi. I normally enjoy conversation with him because as a bike messenger dealing with DC cabbies, rampaging Metro buses, lackadaisical cops, and douchey BMW-driving yuppies glued to their cell phones he usually has some funny stories to tell. Plus, his personal history is dramatic, having fled New Orleans with his girlfriend when their home (yes, in other parts of the country young people are able to afford a house together) was flooded by Katrina and winding up in DC living in a one bedroom basement apartment to carve out a new life for themselves. He had dreams to open a Cajun-style restaurant.

But this time was different.

“Yeah, me and my girl broke up.”

“Wow, sorry about that, man.” I didn’t need to ask who dumped whom; it was obvious by the way his voice trailed off when he spoke.

We talked a little more. He didn’t give specific reasons for the breakup and I didn’t console him beyond the most perfunctory acknowledgment. Consoling is for women. Men advise and motivate. So I told him to hang with me and my buddies next time we were out, there would be plenty of new women to meet. He said sure, but his slumped body language revealed a beaten man.

I remember the dark thoughts that went through my mind the first time I met him and his girlfriend a year ago: Scruffy low status bike messenger with cute, young Asian girlfriend moving away from the relatively provincial and poor New Orleans into one of the high-flying East Coast megalopolises, right smack into a rapidly gentrifying yuppie neighborhood, filled to brimming with players and alpha males on the make, flashing high status jobs, degrees, bottle service, connections, and sheer overwhelming numbers. As much as they are obviously in love now, their relationship is doomed.

I already knew their trajectory. She compared him to the competition, whether she was aware of this or not. He came up wanting. She flirted and soaked up her newfound power. He looked around and saw 5s acting like 9s and realized he was in a Twilight Zone where his girlfriend was now considered out of his league. She reassessed her sexual market value and slowly withdrew sex, snapping at him constantly for perceived infractions. There was nothing he could do with the meager game skills at his disposal. He reassessed his sexual market value and decided to move out of DC.

Turns out their unconditional love was very conditional. Sometimes all it takes is a move to a different environment to prove that.

People often accuse me of being too abstract in my writing; that what I say doesn’t have much real world relevance to the average person, except in the most extreme circumstances and under laboratory conditions.

On the contrary, everything I write about has the utmost importance to every one of your lives. The arid world of the theoretical is always lurking there in the shadows, stalking you, ready to pounce and devour you in a flash, leaving you wondering why your dopey new age beliefs or romantic visions of love or confidence that the mudbath of human nature doesn’t apply to normal people like yourself weren’t enough to spare you the claw and tooth attack of reality. You are all slave to your beast masters.

I hope bike messenger guy doesn’t see this post.





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  1. Half of your posts are numbered lists of dos and donts. In what way are these not practical?

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  2. I emailed you about this as well Roissy but this is sorta applicable to this post. Moved away from DC, tried to do Long distance, with cute young gf in dc. broke up with me, heartbroken, blah blah blah.

    are long distance relationships doomed in most cases?

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  3. Do you think his status-drop alone lost him the girfriend?

    You mentioned his meager game skills. Since game is needed to keep, and not just get a girlfriend, I wonder if he was always a bit of a sap with her and their move to DC was the catalyst, and not the cause, of their breakup.

    Also, in New Orleans he showed ambition and had plans (opening a restaurant) while in DC as it seems from your description he was content to stay at his low paying job (probably without health insurance) and in a basement apartment.

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  4. on July 28, 2008 at 4:51 pm sara the freedom lover

    Roissy

    The arid world of the theoretical is always lurking there in the shadows, stalking you, ready to pounce and devour you in a flash, leaving you wondering why your dopey new age beliefs or romantic visions of love or confidence that the mudbath of human nature doesn’t apply to normal people like yourself weren’t enough to spare you the claw and tooth attack of reality.

    Dopey new age beliefs should be avoided at all cost. And what does ‘new age’ mean anyway? It’s gets a bad rap because of the stupid pot smoking hippies; damn their fetid souls. I prefer “leading edge” over new age. Given that, your views are accurate. Anything teaching that is a crutch or keeps you asleep, hypnotized and in a more pleasant dream state is de-evolutionary. Everything is a stepping stone and should be allowed…just sayin’.

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  5. “Are long distance relationships doomed in most cases?”

    Yes, R. Sorry, but true. It is hard enough to be faithful when the person is within reach, but going long, sexless stretches without any facetime is the deathnail of any relationship.

    I never “got” the whole concept of long distance relationships. Isn’t the whole point of relationship to have companionship and support? Sure, calling some guy up on the phone would offer a false sense of support, but he is away and would not know the true intricacies of my life. I have plenty of friends I can call if I want that.

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  6. Long distance relationships are usually doomed except when both people feel that the separation is temporary and they want to be together in the long run. But for it to work, both parties need to stay faithful, which is easier when the love is strong. Distance is like the wind: it extinguishes the candle and feeds the bonfire.

    I’ll add a caveat: for th elong distance relationship to work, the separation must have been initiated by the man (his studies, his job assignment). If a woman goes away, then it’s clear that her commitment to the relationship is a second fiddle to something else. In other words, if she loves the guy, she has no reason to move away.

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  7. #5 Lemmonex
    I never “got” the whole concept of long distance relationships. Isn’t the whole point of relationship to have companionship and support? Sure, calling some guy up on the phone would offer a false sense of support, but he is away and would not know the true intricacies of my life. I have plenty of friends I can call if I want that.

    I’ve never really understood that either. To my mind, sex is the element that defines a relationship as a “relationship”; if there’s no sex — or rather, no easily-accessible sex — there’s no relationship. You’re just occasional fuck-buddies.

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  8. Bike messenger is among the lowest-status of jobs, in many cases the first step up from the street or, perhaps more frequently, the last step down before the street. The fact that he’s doing this work after more than a year could be simply an inability to find a better job in spite of a decent effort, but on the other hand could be a sign of major slacker-dom.

    I’m betting on the latter.

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  9. East Asian women are very status-driven in general, and often want their mates to be even more so. A lot of this has to do with culture.

    I know an American guy working in Japan. He works about 12 hours a day on top of a long commute, has maybe one day for a weekend, and when I talked to him on his Friday night, he said, “Hump day is over.” Any recreation is purely for children. Even the workers need to have “useful” hobbies like learning English or picking up piano lessons.

    One of my friends is trying to get funded for a start-up by a Chinese woman, who sneered at him for not having a college degree. Even though he codes in all kinds of programming languages and is gainfully self-employed, the lack of proper credentials hurt him. All of the Asian girls I went to high school with are now in Harvard or Yale or some other Ivy League medical school. All of the Asian guys are in similar boats.

    I’m an underachiever compared to other Asian girls I grew up around, since I have a bachelor’s in liberal arts and don’t make a whole lot. My mother still pressures me to go to graduate school and to get a better-paying job. She constantly compares me with daughters of other Asian friends she knows, who make more money, have business degrees, etc.

    When that young Asian girl moved to DC, she definitely saw all the status posturing going on around her. All those lawyers, doctors, and rich high-flying politicians, both male and female. She likely wanted some of that, and if she has relatives, they no doubt pressured her to “get ahead,” and for her to choose a mate that was high-achieving as well.

    In Asian cultures, success is its own meter of value. All else can fall by the wayside. That’s why a lot of Asian girls go after financially or academically successful “beta” American men that white girls do not at look twice.

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  10. @2

    Long distance relationship are mostly doomed.

    The core problem is that any relationship is maintained by a set of daily stimulations between the partners. Throw in big distance, and the daily stimulation goes away.

    And what replaces it… the sexual sea in which we all swim. The stimulations are too great, and usually the woman, who is being approached every day by the male Hottz™, bails.

    Just the way it is.

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  11. In Asian cultures, success is its own meter of value. All else can fall by the wayside. That’s why a lot of Asian girls go after financially or academically successful “beta” American men that white girls do not at look twice.

    Very astute observation!

    A similar phenomenon is visible amongst Orthodox Jewish women subject to the constraints of the man being an Orthodox Jew AND successful. He can be an utter putz, but if he has the two key variables the rest is forgiven.

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  12. This happens at every level, not just the bike messenger level. No matter how high status a guy is, and no matter what the woman’s previous status, she will become a part of his circle and will observe that some members of the circle are higher status than HE is.

    If a woman who has never had any money marries a wealthy investment banker, she will quickly scope out the other investment bankers and notice that some of them have more money than him–and will begin to consider him a relative failure. If she marries a rock star, she will notice that some other rock stars are more successful and grow resentful at being stuck with such a loser.

    Women are generally dissatisfied with their husbands status levels, regardless of how high the status is in the overall population.

    There ARE exceptions to this, women who are not overwhelmingly status motivated, but probably not more than 10-20%.

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  13. unconditional love… lol

    yes, you guessed it… do it, right in her fucking head

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  14. If she marries a rock star, she will notice that some other rock stars are more successful and grow resentful at being stuck with such a loser.

    John Densmore, the drummer for The Doors, wrote in his autobiography that his groupies and girlfriends sometimes saw treated him as a steppingstone to sleeping with Jim Morrison.

    Women are generally dissatisfied with their husbands status levels, regardless of how high the status is in the overall population.

    There is a grain of truth in this, although it’s overstated and I’m not sure if “dissatisfied” is the right word. Nevertheless, it’s important to have other things going for you to keep the marriage going. You can’t be a wuss and she has to feel like you are emotionally strong; you have to do fun things together, have your special “couple rituals” etc.

    You can tell when your wife loves you by the way she looks at you like you’re her whole world. Your income/status (above a certain reasonable floor) is not a part of why she looks at you that way.

    Of course, for that to work, you can’t marry a Gold Digger. If you’re dating a girl you think you’ll want to marry, make sure your first 10 or so dates are inexpensive and low key but fun.

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  15. @12

    Again, the amazing stupidity of the human race.

    Over-estimation of one’s own worth is the precondition for such stupidity. Then again, today’s divorce laws would ensure that her Trade-Up™ action paid handsomely by walking away with substantial alimony and a big chunk of change allowing her to then bring home Mr. Higher Status Investment Banker. A little Googling reveals that the chunk of change is usually 10% of his net worth + 1 house. That’s a little north of $3 million.

    Let me do the math here: High end Hottz™ escort $2500/night. Realistically, 120 nights/yr works out to $300K year. So, relative to the mostly inevitable divorce, Mr. Investment Banker could fuck the Hottz™ escort for 10 years, no fuss no muss. The silliness of being married gets even worse as his net worth rises.

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  16. In Asian cultures, success is its own meter of value. All else can fall by the wayside. That’s why a lot of Asian girls go after financially or academically successful “beta” American men that white girls do not at look twice.

    I know a lot of herb beta white guys that only date Asian women because they are keenly aware of this.

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  17. on July 28, 2008 at 5:52 pm Badboy Extrodinare

    Good story.

    Lesson to be learned here: Depending on what you do, what you are worth, your status, and your level of game, stick with where you are the alpha? Or goto a huge city and “train/pimp/network” until you’ve really “Arrived” there?

    I’ve completed quest 1 in a city roughly 10% as large as DC. Considering taking on quest 2.

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  18. Guapo, investment bankers are losing their jobs faster than a man shuffling snow in summer. Hell, women are divorcing their IB husbands in record numbers and taking them to the cleaners b/c they’re are upset they have to curtail their spending or because the hubby lost his job.

    marriage is dead….and women killed it.

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  19. I’m with Peter on this one. The whole “Bike Messenger” thing is akin to being a fry cook (which I once was): As an interim job or a short term lifestyle decision it’s fine and a job where you can keep hot woman as long as you have game, but if your not going somewhere with it (opening a restuarant, going to grad school, getting a better, more hi profile job) then it becomes immensely challenging to keep a hot woman long term, particularily if she’s successful and around more successful men.

    It’s not that you need money but it’s a matter of comparison: her smooth, successful coworker, or some sweaty bike messenger, puffing on a joint at the end of the day about to fire up some Ramen for the 100 night in a row.

    It’s not that all woman are looking to trade up, not anymore than many men are on the look out for a hotter, cooler POA. It’s just that your practically inviting her to trade up unless you have A+ game.

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  20. on July 28, 2008 at 6:16 pm Glengarry Glenpoon

    Turns out their unconditional love was very conditional. Sometimes all it takes is a move to a different environment to prove that.

    Bullseye. It works the other way too … try moving to a country like Brazil with a good job and your current girlfriend. See how long it lasts.

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  21. East Asian women are very status-driven in general, and often want their mates to be even more so. A lot of this has to do with culture.

    Perhaps true in general, but note that the young woman in question was from New Orleans. If I’m not mistaken, most Asians in the New Orleans area are Vietnamese, and as such may tend to be a bit lower on the socioeconomic scale than most other Asian-Americans. It is also possible that they may not share all of the typical cultural traits such as a strong status drive.

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  22. #19 BatesHorn
    I’m with Peter on this one. The whole “Bike Messenger” thing is akin to being a fry cook (which I once was): As an interim job or a short term lifestyle decision it’s fine and a job where you can keep hot woman as long as you have game, but if your not going somewhere with it (opening a restuarant, going to grad school, getting a better, more hi profile job) then it becomes immensely challenging to keep a hot woman long term, particularily if she’s successful and around more successful men.

    I don’t know. In a lot of cities, being a bike messenger carries a certain amount of rebel cache. There’s the perception — accurate or not, and probably not — that they’re living life by their own rules, unburdened by the corporate grind. Plus, they’ve got great calves.

    Check out the missed connections on craigslist sometime if you don’t believe me — there are usually at least a few posts about cute bike messengers and the like. This might not be the case in more status-conscious cities like DC, though.

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  23. This post is pretty consistent with a popular social psychology theory on interpersonal relationships as based on satisfaction and dependence.

    People are constantly looking at their Comparison Level (boy/girlfriend or whatever is their basis for they believe they should be getting) vs their Comparison Level Alternatives (whatever other options they have). When the outcomes of the relationship exceed what they expected from the CL, then the person is satisfied. When the options (CL Alt) become more exceed the expectations they have for their boy/girlfriend (CL), then the person will become unsatisfied.

    This is pretty much an established idea:
    http://psp.sagepub.com/cgi/reprint/29/12/1560.pdf

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  24. Echoing Reggie’s comment, in cities like New York and Philly, bike messengers have their own culture and groupies in the way that DJs, bands, and artists do (although to a lesser extent). I can’t attest to the quality, but like Reggie said, a subset of people are more likely to look at bike messengers as cool rebels rather than low-status losers.

    The lesson here is as it’s always been: If you aren’t in the DC game of high conventional white collar ambitions (politics, law, consulting etc.), there just ain’t much room for you. It’s amazing how many young people choose DC as a default city due to the higher availability of jobs relative to other big cities, when in the fact the city’s culture does not fit them whatsoever.

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  25. R:
    are long distance relationships doomed in most cases?

    yes, unless one of two conditions are met.

    1. you are significantly higher status than her. it won’t be good enough to be just a little higher status. you have to be way above her for a LDR to work, as that is the only way she will be thinking about you every second of every day you are away from her.

    2. she is subject to the social shaming of her peers and family. i feel for those military guys overseas who get breakup letters from their GFs while they are taking fire in enemy territory. the kind of girl who would cheat on her soldier BF has to be shamed into good behavior. if she cheats she needs to be ostracized from her tribe.

    PA:
    Do you think his status-drop alone lost him the girfriend?

    he didn’t have an absolute status drop. he was doing similar work in New Orleans when he met his GF. she loved him then, so the only thing that changed was the environment — more alpha males giving her attention, less feelings of love for her BF. his dream to open a restaurant kicked into high gear after he moved into DC, probably figuring that the increased male competition meant he had better put more effort into his bigger goals.

    but it was for naught.

    peter:
    If I’m not mistaken, most Asians in the New Orleans area are Vietnamese

    correct. his GF looked vietnamese.

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  26. “The arid world of the theoretical is always lurking there in the shadows, stalking you, ready to pounce and devour you in a flash, leaving you wondering why your dopey new age beliefs or romantic visions of love or confidence that the mudbath of human nature doesn’t apply to normal people like yourself weren’t enough to spare you the claw and tooth attack of reality.”

    I dig the motivation and execution of this post and think what you have to say is both concrete and insightful and can be applied elsewhere. (Poor guy–as if he hasn’t already lost enough.) But this particular sentence above ruined it for me. In your overuse of so many words, you are effectively conflating your understanding (and from the way I read it–a problematic, if not contradictory definition)of “theoretical” with an entirely different interpretation of “reality”. Your over-wordage ultimately deflates the entire point of your “point”. As a result, the insight of the post turns shallow, if not just attacking, which leaves me with very little clarity as a reader.

    Otherwise, interesting stuff. You’re nice to take the guy out. 🙂

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  27. his dream to open a restaurant kicked into high gear after he moved into DC … but it was for naught.

    That sucks. I had pictured him unfairly as a slacker once he got to DC. At least on the bright side he is rid of a girl of questionable worth as a long-term girlfriend or wife.

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  28. “At least on the bright side he is rid of a girl of questionable worth as a long-term girlfriend or wife.”

    That’s true

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  29. on July 28, 2008 at 7:30 pm Bike Messenger Guy

    I am the bike messenger guy – and she wasn’t Asian, she was Mexican!

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  30. I don’t doubt the groupie thing for cyclists. I’ve met some hipster chicks who go absolutely nuts for them. But the question is who was she around? Did she take some office job and instead of seeing the guys as a bunch of lame Bill Lumbergs, the dynamic changed and she became interested in a different lifestyle and a different man?

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  31. on July 28, 2008 at 7:48 pm Gunslingergregi

    Aww Roissy asian girls aren’t perfect wtf lol

    That’s why you keep them in Asia. Any woman living under us law is bound to be fd up.

    Really though what was the relationship his grilfriend or did they consider themselves married. Did they promise each other to be in it for life or just going steady? Yea they had been through some adversity but there was probablyinsurance money to go through. What were the actual promises they made?

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  32. Here is the simplest way to make an LDR work: marry her and get her pregnant before you leave. She’ll be too busy not moving, and later being obsessed with everything her baby is doing, to think about cheating.

    (And if she doesn’t mean that much to you, why are you so worried about losing her anyway? There will be other chicks to sleep with.)

    Tough break for the bike messenger. Moving from province to city has rarely been a great thing: you used to contract a whole mess of infectious diseases and die soon, or you prostituted yourself to get by and left your unwanted babies in an alleyway. Things are much better than before, but it’s still a questionable deal.

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  33. Roissy-

    The shame factor, in the military is not always as powerful as you would think: The military guys and wives I know will freely admit all sorts of hanky panky goes on with left behind spouses on bases. It’s the old story about the men who were not drafted in WW2 because they had an economic skill deemed too important for military service basically having there way with all the wives left behind.

    Also, I’ve heard that war zones are like Vegas, what happens there stays there and a lot of those men and women hook up with somebody while abroad, married or not.

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  34. on July 28, 2008 at 7:58 pm Gunslingergregi

    Not every relationship is unconditional Love. He can make theirs unconditional though and not surrender. That is why it is good we have choices in certain things.

    I predict he works his but off gets some loot together then a woman comes apparently out of nowhere lol to help him spend it.

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  35. [i]”In a lot of cities, being a bike messenger carries a certain amount of rebel cache. There’s the perception — accurate or not, and probably not — that they’re living life by their own rules, unburdened by the corporate grind. Plus, they’ve got great calves.

    Check out the missed connections on craigslist sometime if you don’t believe me — there are usually at least a few posts about cute bike messengers and the like. This might not be the case in more status-conscious cities like DC, though.”[/i]

    from what ive seen, bike messengers do alright with indie-rock-type chicks. go to san francisco or chicago sometime. the mainstream yuppie women might not understand, but bike messengers usually clean up wherever alternative, artsy girls are involved

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  36. Most IB I know would not have time to enjoy the escort 120times a year so the math would look even worse for marriage. American Psycho did a good job portraying the M&A mindset but the workload is something else entirely.

    Now for hedge fundies…

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  37. marriage is dead….and women killed it.

    NICE!!!

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  38. And while we’re at it, there’s no such thing as “unconditional love”.

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  39. #32 agnostic
    She’ll be too busy not moving, and later being obsessed with everything her baby is doing, to think about cheating.

    Conversely, couldn’t you argue that with the increased financial and temporal burden of having a child, she’d be even more on the lookout for a higher-status — i.e., richer — provider to support her financially and take at least some of the labor off her hands? And the guy not being around makes looking for opportunities to cheat more likely and the cheating itself much easier.

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  40. Come to think of it, I’m trying to figure out the opposite.

    My status is rising sharply right now (it’s not just lights though) whereas my GF stays at her previous level. That would suggest *I* should replace her wouldn’t it?

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  41. on July 28, 2008 at 9:04 pm Gunslingergregi

    Unconditional love sure there is a man can have it even for just friends. Guy jumps on grenade unconditional love there where no conditions why he did it he just did it to protect and serve his fellow man. Oh wait or maybe hes been waiting his whole life to jump on the grenade but still unconditional.

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  42. on July 28, 2008 at 9:06 pm sara the freedom lover

    I think this is one example where Ryan is right, i.e. ‘Kick a bitch” but not literally; certainly figuratively. It’s better than being depressed over one slanty-eyed Asian cunt and taking out his anger passive aggressively on all women or God forbid, an innocent cat. Not to say he should stay indefinitely in a state of justified anger/revenge (how dare she?) but instead use it as a spring board to other more positive states of mind. He needs to come to grips with exactly what he is/what he did to attract this painful experience so as not to repeat it. Most are too lazy, too hooked on playing the victim, or too egotistical to grow and learn from their experiences enough so as not to repeat them. Been there.

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  43. on July 28, 2008 at 9:17 pm sara the freedom lover

    29 Bike Messenger Guy

    I am the bike messenger guy – and she wasn’t Asian, she was Mexican!

    I take back what I said about the slanty-eyed Asian cunt. Make that one stupid Mexian cunt.

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  44. on July 28, 2008 at 9:30 pm Gunslingergregi

    The slant Eyed and somewhat round eyed Asian woman will be the stimulas that helps Asian men retake over the world mark my words there is no competition. An asian nerd wierdo beta whatever can still get a hot piece of ass.

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  45. on July 28, 2008 at 9:51 pm Ferox Obscurus

    Taleb, if I recall, refers to this same phenomenon in Fooled By Randomness (I highly recommend it if you haven’t read it yet, you filthy plebes, assuming you can even read).

    This situational comparison can be useful at times (you don’t want to be stuck with a loser), and is a two-way street (I know many men who have dumped girlfriends for “upgrades”). The trick is not being fooled by false signals, or inadvertently trading down or giving up something truly good.

    One must always be both cognizant of but wary about biological drives.

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  46. So, Roissy, how many times you banged his gf?

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  47. “The arid world of the theoretical is always lurking there in the shadows, stalking you, ready to pounce and devour you in a flash, leaving you wondering why your dopey new age beliefs or romantic visions of love or confidence that the mudbath of human nature doesn’t apply to normal people like yourself weren’t enough to spare you the claw and tooth attack of reality.”

    This is the crux and the most important thing. No matter how much you love her and no matter how much she loves you, you can still be destroyed by the reality of the love marketplace. She cannot make a binding promise to love you forever even if you make a matching promise to her and keep it. Every relationship is subject to a better offer at any time.

    She is not on your side. And she cannot be.

    Thank you, Roissy. Thank you for telling the truth.

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  48. Good post; what alot of people don’t understand is that the socially-inadept obsessive intelligent types that wind up in the ‘engineered player’ collective usually rise like a phoenix out of ashes not unlike those spoken of.

    It’s very easy to hate and to say that this is a pile of bull, especially if you have a long term mate. But reality can and will bite you in the ass. There are plenty who testify to it, bike messenger being the latest.
    Other thoughts:
    I’ve never been in a ‘working’ LDR, but I’ve seen them. The key difference is being together ~80% of all weekends. Please note that this does not mean sans cheating: just that it endured.

    The ‘game’ talk sounds like and can deteriorate into keyboard jockeying, but if you haven’t seen how relevant so much of this is, it’s because you haven’t had to look.

    To secure peace is to prepare for war.

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  49. 47: It’s stating the obvious, really.

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  50. on July 28, 2008 at 10:37 pm sara the freedom lover

    48 Animus

    To secure peace is to prepare for war. – Animus

    You cannot simultaneously prevent and prepare for war.
    – Albert Einstein

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  51. on July 28, 2008 at 10:59 pm Gunslingergregi

    brian says
    She cannot make a binding promise to love you forever even if you make a matching promise to her and keep it.

    You would take away her free will to make a descision and stick to it. There are a certain percentage of people who have the will to do certain things they set out to do or say they will do irregardless of cost or situation.

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  52. Not that I am a paragon of the English® language, but “irregardless” is not a proper word. The word to use is “regardless” for English®

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  53. on July 28, 2008 at 11:13 pm Gunslingergregi

    I heard that somewhere before I did it on purpose lol

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  54. on July 28, 2008 at 11:21 pm Gunslingergregi

    El Guapo in response to your other post about the IRS and such stopping someone. People can still get to a hundred k pretty quick and let that most powerfull force in the universe according to benjamin franklin work for them. I am of course even talking about average folks. Getting rich is easy why most don’t do it. It ends the game too quick.

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  55. on July 28, 2008 at 11:24 pm Gunslingergregi

    Paperdreamer,
    That article you posted they expect me to pay 25 dollars to read it. Where is the free one?

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  56. In other words, if she loves the guy, she has no reason to move away.

    Even if her job or schooling yanks her away? Or are only women supposed to give up stuff for their men?

    if there’s no sex — or rather, no easily-accessible sex — there’s no relationship. You’re just occasional fuck-buddies.

    If there’s no sex, and it’s considered a mutually beneficial outcome, then it’s a true platonic friendship.

    If you’re dating a girl you think you’ll want to marry, make sure your first 10 or so dates are inexpensive and low key but fun.

    Sadly, that ends up filtering out women who are remotely attractive, leaving behind the unwashed…

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  57. Einstein was good at physics, but a blithering idiot otherwise.

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  58. Even if her job or schooling yanks her away?

    If her job or schooling yanks her away, it means that she loves her school or job more than her boyfriend, which means he should let her go.

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  59. #56 David Alexander
    If there’s no sex, and it’s considered a mutually beneficial outcome, then it’s a true platonic friendship.

    Well, sure. But that’s the case irrespective — or is it regardless? — of distance. And that’s not the sort of relationship under discussion, I don’t think.

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  60. Insta-English® Lesson

    Prefix ir is a negation.

    Thus irrelevant, irrespective, irreparable are negates of relevant, respective and reparable.

    Irregardless is a double negation. Which in English® we frown upon.

    Hope That Helps.

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  61. Back to our scheduled programming:

    @48

    Yes, the so-called “engineered player” for lack of a better word, which is the reformed nerd/geek/technocrat, can become a powerful force. My observation has been as they move out of the awkward conscious incompetence stage they manage to compete quite well.

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  62. If her job or schooling yanks her away, it means that she loves her school or job more than her boyfriend, which means he should let her go.

    Thus, as a counterpoint, if I leave for a job or school, it’s magically better? In effect, it’s okay for me to love school and work more than my potential g/f as a male?

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  63. David, if you have a girlfriend and you both think this may lead to marriage, then if you go away (temporarily) for work or school, it’s for the benefit of you both.

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  64. I’m sure status played a part in the break-up, since any decent looking girl who comes to DC will be showered with attention, but sounds like the messenger boy has no game. If that’s the case then he shouldn’t have never gotten together in the first place.

    The reverse may have been true for him in NOLA, that HIS sexual worth was higher than it should have been in a land of undesirable males. Tight game is the only answer to preventing such an break-up like this, besides working your ass off for money, which way too many other guys have.

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  65. on July 29, 2008 at 12:45 am Gunslingergregi

    El Gaupo a member of the spelling police jc man. The understanding of the word is there. It just may not bind a legal document but prenumpts aren’t working well anyway even when proper english is used.

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  66. The real question is now, can a natural player become an engineered nerd?

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  67. David, if you have a girlfriend and you both think this may lead to marriage, then if you go away (temporarily) for work or school, it’s for the benefit of you both.

    That’s what doesn’t make sense to me. In the sense of this long-term relationship, why would it be bad if she left for school or work, if her improvements would benefit our (future) marriage as well?

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  68. Incidentally, those high class escorts that charge 2.5k/overnight, is this what they all look like?

    http://www.alialegs.com/index.php?page=Photos

    she charges 2k/overnight.

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  69. Moving to the big city is often disruptive in countless ways. I’ve noticed (in Manhattan) that people who come here clump in a few different groups. One group gets here, gets overwhelmed, and leaves within a year. Another group lasts about five years, then feels exhausted and like they’ve “done” Manhattan, and takes off, if only for the ‘burbs. But really they’re kind of taking off like the early quitters are. Longer than five years … And you’ve kind of made it over the hump no matter how long you actually stick around. The big city is a genuine experience … Not saying that it’s a good one or a bad one, but it’s certainly an experience.

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  70. why would it be bad if she left for school or work, if her improvements would benefit our (future) marriage as well?

    Allowing for exceptions* girls typically don’t care much about their careers or schooling if it gets in the way of being with their guy. It’s not necessarily “bad” if she left for school or work, but it’s certainly a red flag. It could be nothing, but combined with other signs of loss of interest in you, it’s someting to pay attention to.

    The male motivation works differently. If you want a commitment with a girl, or if you’re already married, you see the pursuit of career advancement as a means to give you both a better life.

    * A good friend of mine makes about 30% of his wife’s salary. They seem like a happy and successful couple to me, but then again, she too made a few compromises in post-doc work to avoid separating from him.

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  71. David, I’ll say it nicely, before anyone says it in an unnecessarily mean way: a man following his woman is a beta move and it decreases his value. This move will likely be for naught, since she will shortly leave his beta ass. A man following a job opportunity is doubly increasing his value by demonstrating independence, and by being generally ambitious, the relationship will therefore not be hurt by the distance, if not solidified.

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  72. damn, el guapo! enough with the twee ™ & ® already.

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  73. Allowing for exceptions* girls typically don’t care much about their careers or schooling if it gets in the way of being with their guy.

    Wow, if that’s even remotely true, then women suck… 🙂

    Seriously, doesn’t that eventually leads to bitterness in the long-term? I’ve met older women who feel bitter about the stuff they gave up or sacrificed to the men in their life.

    If you want a commitment with a girl, or if you’re already married, you see the pursuit of career advancement as a means to give you both a better life.

    I guess that’s one of the benefits to not getting married and separating the roles of emotional and sexual support. You don’t have think in terms of “us”, but in terms of “me”.

    a man following his woman is a beta move and it decreases his value

    In other words, a happy beta will never be happy with a woman? What if I want to follow her because of my love for her? Why can’t I make her happy?

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  74. Incidentally, those high class escorts that charge 2.5k/overnight, is this what they all look like?
    http://www.alialegs.com/index.php?page=Photos
    she charges 2k/overnight.

    The chances are basically 100% that she has a hideous pedophilic Bald Eagle :(((

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  75. This post might be Roissy’s finest………………………….its dead-on.

    You may not like it, but its DEAD-on.

    BTW–“Men advise and motivate”——-very true. Thats exactly what your real male pals will do for you if you are in a logjam.

    Peter,
    I hope you meet the woman with the biggest, fluffiest muff on earth to floss your teeth with. Romania might be a place to start looking for this—-maybe Turkey. Ive heard things about Arab women…….

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  76. on July 29, 2008 at 4:03 am SovereignAmericanMale

    @73 David Alexander

    Seriously, doesn’t that eventually leads to bitterness in the long-term? I’ve met older women who feel bitter about the stuff they gave up or sacrificed to the men in their life.

    Yes, but only in specific instances.

    The bitterness lies within the fact that they misjudged the nature/character of the man. And his corresponding inability to meet her needs over time.

    Having overvalued a jerk or ass who couldn’t keep his dick in his pants, or directly negotiate nontraditional sexual practices, or some other issue, she made a call and placed her bets on him being the man she imagined him to be. And LOST!

    Her sacrifices to buy in, increase his value accordingly.
    Time within the relationship is the only arbiter of verifying the invalidity or validity of her choice.

    While most females don’t do the math consciously this is what it looks like (imho):

    post relations bitterness = (degree of sacrifice * perceived mate value) / emotional + financial return on investment squared.

    The men have a similar chart. Since I am not responding to a comment about men’s bitterness, I will abstain from posting it.

    Note a.
    Some women are delusional, and will blame (via transference @80 +/- 05%) the mate for failing even when its clearly her own actions that precipitated the end of the relationship. This bitterness is not the same as the bitterness posted above.

    Note b.
    Any challenge to Note a., should provide data to the contrary at time of contest or be disqualified. Questioning my sources, denotes failure to research with due diligence on the objectors part. Silly people such as Sara the Funny need not comment, as she is not interested in making actual contributions, but having her attention quota met.

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  77. on July 29, 2008 at 4:31 am Milton Freedman

    SAM please post so we may scrutinize your male version.

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  78. Having lived in NOLA for a number of years (pre-Katrina) I’m not sure that it was a “beta” heaven based on a lot of guys in prison. Sure the large Black population is mostly criminal (in the projects) or solidly middle class (East New Orleans around UNO) and separate from the City (it’s like a Black Irvine CA).

    But in the City, most of the date-mate market is young professionals, artists (in the Downtown district), and various other folks.

    One huge factor: the amount of eligible men and women is very small. Grad students at Tulane, various people working in satellite corporate offices, various sous-chefs in the top-ranked restaurants there.

    Another factor: LOTS of gay men, further deflating the eligible men’s numbers. Making them more valuable in comparison. New Orleans was filled with gay men, running most of the Antique places in Magazine and the Quarter.

    That being said, the guy from NOLA ought to move his butt to someplace else than DC. A minor metro area, like Knoxville, or Nashville, or perhaps Raleigh-Durham, Indianapolis, and so on. He’ll probably find some of those New Orleans dynamics in his favor, and find less competition as well. Why he wanted to open his own restaurant and was not working as a sous-chef in DC I don’t know.

    One thing disturbs me. NONE of this dynamic was widespread just two generations ago, and possibly even one. What indeed changed to make marriage and relationships a thing of the past? That all love is conditional?

    IMHO, extreme personal mobility, social anonymity it brings, over-estimation of women’s beauty and power and staying power, the beauty industry (catering to that over-estimation), and consumerism in all walks of life.

    If you look at the NFL’s advertising, it runs on “tradition” and “history” in how it presents itself. Women’s magazines and so on hit “new, fresh, sexy!” all the time. Telling.

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  79. on July 29, 2008 at 5:00 am SovereignAmericanMale

    @74 Peter

    Feels the spirit of Simon Cowel overtake me.

    With that kind a of money she should buy a new face… She is anti porn.. capable of making a man lose an erection.

    I have always preferred a/b cups so she is good there.
    (The only complaint I have about Halo, my Australian finance is she just grew into a 14DD, and will not consider a reduction op)

    Thighs are very muscular, and missing sexy baby fat (not celulite) while lower legs, arms are too thin.

    Sex with overly skinny girls is akin to fucking a bag of antlers.

    She rates about a 5 on physical beauty if she is under 6 feet.

    Which means she has to have Mad MAD sex skills, does about 300 kiegal contractions a day, oozes sexual charisma via pheromones (no camera yet can display that),
    Has a hypnosexual walk-movements, and voice that triggers all kinds of libido response in men.

    *S.A.M. has pimped ladies and whores for about 12 years (started in H.S.) as well as in the drug trade before his Saul on Damascus road epiphany*

    A dear friend and fellow retired pimp has a good point:

    “Fast food, fast cars, fast women, and fast money are fast because of the speed of their arrival and more importantly their departure from your life”

    -Zed A. Wagner “Hitting the Target, essays in really bad judgment and piss poor aim.”

    IMHO Being a successful pimp requires/causes alphaness.

    Sharp game can get you into a desperate housewife’s bed; but Alphaness (both natural and evolved) can make her turn tricks, give you the lionshare of the “trap” and still have her quim and heart wrapped around your manhood, and happily accepting her stall in the stable of your women.

    The ethical and morals required to remain actively Alpha are contrary to my almost nascent spiritual values, as such I have done some renouncing of worldly aspects and habits.

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  80. on July 29, 2008 at 7:03 am SovereignAmericanMale

    @77 Milton Freedman

    SAM please post so we may scrutinize your male version.

    Male post relationship bitterness could be done like this:

    post relations bitterness = (effort+productive achievement)*(trust+time investment) / (degree of due respect not rendered * relationship goals not attained) squared.

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  81. A grandest problem here is the modern conception of love.

    F. Roger Devlin summed it up when he asked what is love? Is love the feeling a woman has when she meets some high status guy, or some man talking at a podium, or some guy with good game? Or is love when an old woman routinely takes care of an incapacitated spouse?

    Love is now seen as an emotion, a feeling, a brief mix of neurons. This is the female idea of love: all emotion. Love is mind rubbish, make-believe, formless garbage. This conception of love has been foisted on our culture by the more feminine poets and writers, beginning with Dante and his elevation of this mind rubbish to the face of God in his ‘love’ for a woman he had never even met.

    So yes, she probably felt the emotion of love for the biker, and vice versa. She used him for the nice feelings he gave her at the time, but emotions are mind stuff and fall away eventually. They must constantly be reignited to endure.
    Love was once an activity, a habit, something you did. Not mind rubbish. Not mind rubbish.

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  82. I don’t buy it was once an activity. Love was always an emotion.

    But I would suggest to do away with “love” as a term and instead divide the meanings into infatuation, lust and affection.

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  83. on July 29, 2008 at 1:26 pm SovereignAmericanMale

    @82 Nupnup

    I don’t buy it was once an activity. Love was always an emotion.

    There are longstanding distinctions of the meanings of love.

    Activity & action yes, the word “Love” is an accurate rendering of the Greek word Eros.

    To make love is to do activity of “eros”.

    Clearly distinguished from the sexual action of the Greek words:
    1. “porneia” which would be translated as lust, fucking, fornicating, committing adultery or whoring and most especially doing this with someone unlawfully or illicitly.

    2. “hedone” (hay-don-ay’) sensual pleasure seeking, lustful fucking.

    Or the emotional ones “epipotheo” or “potheo” (to yearn); to dote upon, i.e. intensely crave possession of, or long after, infatuation, obsession. {the emotive love and lust terms that are internal, passive nonaction words.}

    Other words that translate into English from the Greek as “love” are “Agape”, “Storge”, and “Phileo”.

    Doing a good deed for a bro, is an act of “Phileo”, or an action of fondness type love.

    Examples would be springing to take a bunch of friends to a good restaurant, bailing a friend out of jail are “phileo” types of love actions. Even more so, if you don’t expect repayment for these actions.

    A mother nursing her infant, or changes his diaper commits the love act of Storge. As does a Father tossing a ball with his son, or teaching him how to be handy with tools.

    A good samaritan who stops to render aid, change a flat tire, give em a life to the gas station performs the activity of “Agape” love. He could have gone on his way, but he loved the stranger.

    Giving your stuff to a thrift shop (salvation army or goodwill) You are loving your community with charity. Charity is a Love action/activity.

    Its also tied in with the word “Philanthropy” (lover of humanity) Like when a rich mofo like J.D. Rockefeller sets up foundations to give his millions away. And when privileged trust fund babies head to Africa to volunteer in the Peace corps or whatever group, this is another Action of agape Love.

    And someone pointed out the love act of sacrifice, by a soldier diving on a grenade, to save the lives of others.
    This is a blend of agape and phileo.

    While we can’t chose emotions, we can make choices.

    Your failure to “buy” the action/activity sense of the word “love” doesn’t undo all the history of its correct usage in this way.

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  84. […] A Bike Messenger Lesson The arid world of the theoretical is always lurking there in the shadows, stalking you, ready to […]

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  85. on July 29, 2008 at 3:33 pm sara the freedom lover

    73 David

    a man following his woman is a beta move and it decreases his value

    In other words, a happy beta will never be happy with a woman? What if I want to follow her because of my love for her? Why can’t I make her happy?

    Am in contact with a man (work related) who has made this choice and I can feel the discord in him when he talks about it. In his case he was on a rich and varied spiritual path that included all the great enlightened masters/mistresses. He fell in love with a devout Christian woman four years ago and decided to follow her path instead.

    He has a full time medical practice in Oregon and flies to Idaho on the weekends to be with his wife who raises show horses AND runs a retreat for emotionally disturbed kids there, with lots of Bible studies and missionary style work. The strain is really getting to him and the bottom line is she is running the show, though he loves her and the work, it’s just wearing him down. How it will end, or if it will end is anybody’s guess, but I don’t get a good feeling about it.

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  86. on July 29, 2008 at 3:46 pm sara the freedom lover

    81 S. Flyte

    Love was once an activity, a habit, something you did. Not mind rubbish. Not mind rubbish.

    Mature love is a choice that can only be made by someone who knows their mind and trusts their heart. Mature love is highly intelligent; a supreme combination of mind and heart. If I might generalize; men are often heartlessly rational and women are more often mindlessly sentimental. Both are stupid and immature. Certainly romantic love falls into the sentimental and purely hormone driven category. It’s idealizations can’t last and usually end badly with the stark reality that the love object is not an object but a continually changing complex mass of paradox. Anyone who can love a REAL man or woman; RARE.

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  87. on July 29, 2008 at 3:49 pm sara the freedom lover

    83 S.A.M.

    Sorry, over posting alert…couldn’t resist.

    Giving your stuff to a thrift shop (salvation army or goodwill) You are loving your community with charity. Charity is a Love action/activity.

    Don’t forget the tax receipt.

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  88. @50: Einstein was a physicist, not a philosopher and not a politician. I used to be really great at math and couldn’t get a woman to touch me with a ten foot pole…

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  89. on July 29, 2008 at 10:03 pm sara the freedom lover

    88 I get your point Animus, but I still think Einstein is right. It has the ring of truth to it, whereas ‘preparing for war to prevent war’ sets off my bullshit alarm.

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  90. Which is tougher to get and keep a girl in – NYC or DC? Are these the two toughest?

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  91. sara..”If I might generalize; men are often heartlessly rational and women are more often mindlessly sentimental.”

    I think that when it comes to relationships, the opposite is usually true. For women, marriage is a business deal that has a huge impact on their future income and status. Once upon a time, they HAD to think about it that way, because that was how society works.

    Now, women have lots of other choices for income and status, but still focus on these things in romantic relationships. I don’t know whether it’s because of the history, or maybe something wired in.

    But the business aspect is almost always there in any relationship more than a 1-nite stand, and this can also been seen in movies and novels aimed at women.

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  92. on July 31, 2008 at 2:27 am SovereignAmericanMale

    sara..”If I might generalize; men are often heartlessly rational and women are more often mindlessly sentimental.”

    There is a good quote for men about this:
    “There comes a time in every man’s life (and it will) when he will be required to shoot his dog”

    I don’t have a quote for women about mindless sentimentality
    but I can point you to the nearest opera showing.

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  93. on July 31, 2008 at 4:45 am sara the perplexed

    91 Jeff

    Now, women have lots of other choices for income and status, but still focus on these things in romantic relationships. I don’t know whether it’s because of the history, or maybe something wired in.

    In my experience the whole romantic fantasy/attachment drama happens especially to younger (pre 40) women regardless of how modern and “equal” to men they delude themselves into believing. (They think that EQUAL means SAME; or should! LOL)

    After sex, their minds are a mass of gooey sentimentality, and romantic-delusional obsessions. It’s a cruel joke God has played on the feminists. No really, it’s just nature’s way of TRYING to insure the continuation of the species. “Nature”, “instinct” has no fucking clue that the women who’s just been injected with a million plus lively and single focused sperm is majoring in women’s studies and feminism.

    It takes a very, very aware and strong woman to overcome her own biology. Most are just mind fucked when they find themselves so much wreckage over some man they barely knew who gave them the fuck of their lifetime after one or two dates.

    I like to sit in my ivory tower and watch these pathetic goings on from a safe distance. I don’t know about the business aspect of it. Love is the thing for me and I can’t imagine compromising for any amount of so-called security. Without the love and trust there’s no security or happiness.

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  94. hmm.. thank you very much. usefull information

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  95. on August 2, 2008 at 4:12 pm random passerby

    @89: “I get your point Animus, but I still think Einstein is right. It has the ring of truth to it, whereas ‘preparing for war to prevent war’ sets off my bullshit alarm.”

    It’s called deterrence. You convince other countries that attacking you would be foolhardy by building a strong army and/or weapons of mass destruction. If Israel suddenly announced that they’re disbanding the IDF, you can rest assured other nations in the region would be falling over each other to see who can conquer them first. Right now they can’t do anything because they’d get their asses handed to them by the IDF. Preparing for a war is an excellent way of preventing one.

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  96. on August 3, 2008 at 4:12 pm My name is not sara!

    95 random passerby

    Preparing for a war is an excellent way of preventing one.

    Pardon me for being sexist, but I think that is a very male thing in general. (You may find some “feminists” who would take umbrage and claim that they are just as war hungry as any man.)

    War in general is truly insane. Man is the only animal on the planet who actually organizes–at great expense and hassle–for the purposes of killing large numbers of people and putting themselves in a position to BE killed as well. How stupid is that? If everyone could see the utter stupidity, naturally there would be no war. Though war is “normal” by today’s standards, it is completely unnatural in terms of nature. We have become unnatural and as a result; insane. So continue with your viewpoint; you’re in good company.

    Now, I predict someone here will scour the internet to find an exception to my claim that man is the only animal who initiates organized killing and therefore prove me wrong. What do you want to bet?

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  97. on August 3, 2008 at 4:37 pm My name is not sara!

    96 Sara

    I’ll beat whomever to the punch. Of course there are pack animals who hunt for food, but survival is natural. As an example, I would have survived just fine without the war in Iraq. We could have completely ignored the terrorist bombing (or whatever it was) and life would have continued unabated for 99.9% of the earth’s inhabitants.

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  98. on August 3, 2008 at 4:46 pm Steve Johnson

    96-

    “Pardon me for being sexist, but I think that is a very male thing in general.”

    Well, duh. The chicks will just find new guys after the old ones are all exterminated. Hey, some of those conquerers are pretty cute.

    “If everyone could see the utter stupidity, naturally there would be no war.”

    Your tribe first. Some of your chicks are cute.

    “Though war is “normal” by today’s standards, it is completely unnatural in terms of nature. We have become unnatural and as a result; insane. So continue with your viewpoint; you’re in good company.”

    Yep, you and pretty much all social animals from ants to chimps (all of which engage in “war” meaning organized attempts to murder males of a different tribe and mate with the remaining females).

    Where do people get this stuff?

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  99. on August 3, 2008 at 9:25 pm random passerby

    @96: “Pardon me for being sexist, but I think that is a very male thing in general.”

    No, it’s common sense. It’s accepting reality for what it is and dealing with it.

    “Though war is “normal” by today’s standards, it is completely unnatural in terms of nature.”

    Absurd. Humans are a part of nature, and our behavior is just a natural extension of pre-existing animal behavior.

    “So continue with your viewpoint; you’re in good company.”

    And you’re naive and delusional. The world is full of violent people who will rob, rape and murder you if you give them the chance. You can’t make these people go away but you can deter and prevent them from acting. One such deterrence is the police, but I guess you’d rather get rid of them too since sometimes they have to restrain or even shoot people. The army is a similiar deterrent, only on a much larger scale.

    “We could have completely ignored the terrorist bombing (or whatever it was) and life would have continued unabated for 99.9% of the earth’s inhabitants.”

    How about this scenario: you’re walking home late at night, and some thugs decide to gangrape you. As luck would have it, a policeman happens to show up, but unfortunately he thinks “well, I guess I could do something about this, but would it really matter for 99.9% of the population? Nah, I think I’ll head back to the station.”

    I can only imagine what a horrible shithole the world would be if women were in charge.

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  100. on August 4, 2008 at 2:21 am SovereignAmericanMale

    96 My name is not sara!

    War in general is truly insane. Man is the only animal on the planet who actually organizes–at great expense and hassle–for the purposes of killing large numbers of people and putting themselves in a position to BE killed as well.

    Though war is “normal” by today’s standards, it is completely unnatural in terms of nature. We have become unnatural and as a result; insane. So continue with your viewpoint; you’re in good company.

    Uh, sara, I dare to claim that the moment we stopped running around naked we became un-natural. Our unrivaled intelligence has made us, in a word “Supernatural”.

    I would prefer to use the word “Epinatural”. Over Nature or Above the natural order. Nothing in nature harnesses the atomic energy of plutonium, builds guns and bullet proof vests etc.

    Since man doesn’t have a natural enemy/predator, we have had ourselves to function in this role.

    We now fight wars nationally. Only Africa has real tribal warfare. (L.A. does have tribal (gang) warfare too)

    While it historically has been tribal in nature. The 1900’s changed the whole deal.

    Modern Warfare from, WW One through today, is a function of wealth extraction from the taxed masses to the Banking Elite.

    The following is the How:

    The Tax payer (slave) is the final bearer of the burden of modern warfare.

    Governments need money to fight wars, bankers profit by lending it to them.

    Governments use this money with Arms Builders to pay for tanks, ships, planes and food rations and bullets.

    Arms builders in turn employ millions of people.

    The people who pay the taxes, to the Government, which in turn repays the Bankers their loans and pays the interest on the loans.

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  101. Sara 50 —

    “You cannot simultaneously prevent and prepare for war.
    – Albert Einstein”

    Einstein’s the one who got it wrong. He should have stuck to physics.

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  102. Sorry, but DC is not a progressive sprawling metropolis. It’s a segregated overwhelmingly poor southern town. It’s actually more segregated than New Orleans. If you want a megaopolis try Mexico City, Los Angeles or Tokyo. Damn. Taipei Taiwan puts DC to shame.

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