Science Validates Game

Many housebroken betas and feminists (two sides of the same coin in some respects) ask me to prove game works. They want double blind, controlled experiments. I usually reply that such a thing is nearly impossible. Surveys will tell us nothing, as we have learned by now that women will often say things utterly at odds with what they wind up doing. And the complexity of women’s attraction triggers is an order of magnitude more complicated than men’s. Women only need to look good. Men need to do A through Z, in the right order at the right time, and with just the right cocky grin. “Proving” female game is therefore a much easier proposition than proving male game, which, if it were undertaken, would require placing probes in random vaginas and following around players and poseurs for hours as they work their magic, then having hidden cameras in bedrooms to capture on film if the deal was closed.

But all is not lost for the hardened skeptics. Science is slowly, inexorably, proving that the maxims and many precepts of game are true and real. It has proven the effectiveness of the neg, and now a new study is out validating the critical game concepts of “fake it till you make it” and alpha body language.

Body Posture Affects Confidence In Your Own Thoughts

Researchers found that people who were told to sit up straight were more likely to believe thoughts they wrote down while in that posture concerning whether they were qualified for a job.

On the other hand, those who were slumped over their desks were less likely to accept these written-down feelings about their own qualifications.

The results show how our body posture can affect not only what others think about us, but also how we think about ourselves, said Richard Petty, co-author of the study and professor of psychology at Ohio State University.

When you act like an alpha, you’ll begin to feel like an alpha and consistently behave like an alpha. When you mimic the behavior of the powerful, you yourself become powerful in reality. This is why body language is so important to picking up girls. Jettisoning bad body language and acquiring good body language begets self-confidence, and the two interact in a positively reinforcing biofeedback loop.

It doesn’t matter if your self-confidence is unjustified. All that matters is that you act confidently and think confidently, however irrational. Not only does the act of faking confidence eventually morph into real confidence, it also has the pleasant side effect of making women swoon.

Recall Poon Commandment XI:

XI.  Be irrationally self-confident

No matter what your station in life, stride through the world without apology or excuse. It does not matter if objectively you are not the best man a woman can get; what matters is that you think and act like you are. Women have a dog’s instinct for uncovering weakness in men; don’t make it easy for them. Self-confidence, warranted or not, triggers submissive emotional responses in women. Irrational self-confidence will get you more pussy than rational defeatism.

Here’s an interesting result from the experiment:

[The study] suggests people’s thoughts are influenced by their posture, even though they don’t realize that is what’s happening.

“People assume their confidence is coming from their own thoughts. They don’t realize their posture is affecting how much they believe in what they’re thinking,” he said.

“If they did realize that, posture wouldn’t have such an effect.”

Can you consciously think your way into self-confidence? Yes, but Anthony Robbins tapes are probably not as effective as aping nonverbal alpha cues.

This research extends a 2003 study by Petty and Briñol which found similar results for head nodding. In that case, people had more confidence in thoughts they generated when they nodded their head up and down compared to when they shook their head from side to side.

You are not a special snowflake. You are a circuitboard of neurons, veins and chemical agents completely at the mercy of your material components acting in concert to keep you clueless about its essential goal. Soon, sooner than you think, you will degrade into your constituent parts and nothing you say or believe now will matter at all.

Game seems to engender predictable responses from the snowflake crowd. Bitter bitches and envious betaboys who want to keep you in your place will say “Oh but this isn’t natural! You can’t fake alphaness for long if it isn’t who you are.” But, in fact, you *can*, because the longer you fake it the more natural it becomes. With time, it won’t be fake at all.

Then they will say “Oh, but you’ll get called out once the mask slips. Your true colors will show.” Neither is this true. Hold the mask up long enough and like Jim Carrey’s movie character it fuses with your soul. But let’s assume for purposes of discussion that the anti-gamers are right about this point. Will it make any difference to men wanting to have more choice and fun with women? If the choice facing a beta is between no game and no sex, or game and three months of sex with hotter women until they clue in on his true nature, which choice do you think most men will take?

Finally, the doubters will cleave to their cherished pet theory that there are “naturals” and then there’s everyone else who shouldn’t even bother trying. But they miss the flaw in their thinking: Naturals also faked it till they made it. The difference between them and the competition they leave behind is that naturals began their journeys of faking it at a much earlier stage in life. Now, granted, their journeys likely began earlier because of genetic advantages they inherited at birth, but they didn’t sit on sofas waiting for pussy to fall in their laps. They chased, they pursued, they strutted, they mimicked, they boasted and they gamed until they got so good with women people started calling them naturals. And success with women breeds more success with women, until it doesn’t even look like they’re trying anymore.

Betas should take a page from the naturals’ playbook and fake it like a champ. Women will love them for it.





Comments


  1. The point still remains:

    Given the current socio-legal setup, there is no incentive for men to do anything other pump-and-dump or pay for sex.

    Anyone who is looking for something other than the above will be disappointed.

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  2. This post was a bullseye.

    “But, in fact, you *can*, because the longer you fake it the more natural it becomes. With time, it won’t be fake at all.”

    One of the best things you have ever said on here. And that is saying a lot.

    Act as if.

    This is Manifesto Destiny.

    – MPM

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  3. “You are not a special snowflake. You are a circuitboard of neurons, veins and chemical agents completely at the mercy of your material components acting in concert to keep you clueless about its essential goal. ”

    I liked this. Todd White’s head is spinning as he tries to find links to his own blog to disprove this statement.

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  4. This particular post must be really enthralling, but I don’t have to read to know that science can validate just about anything you want it to. I could very easily find a study that invalidates game but why bother?

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  5. More evidence that science validates Game:

    “Women might claim they want caring, thoughtful types but scientists have discovered what they really want – self-obsessed, lying psychopaths.”

    http://www.thegmanifesto.com/2009/10/the-dark-triad-narcissism-thrill-seeking-and-deceitfulness.html

    Really though. No need for the studies.

    You could have just asked me.

    – MPM

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  6. Most men read about ‘game’ to ultimately, find that ‘one special one’ or a good long term relationship. That goal is not attainable or desirable to attain, irrespective of the method used.

    The other problem with satisfying the whims of women is quite simple. If you have a zero sum based activity with a ‘winner takes all’ attitudes, those who did not win might decide that the activity is fundamentally rigged against them.

    In olden days, one or a few angry men could not kill many people. Now, things have changed and it is possible to do so either directly or indirectly. This has not manifested itself to the levels it will..

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  7. Hell of a post. Posture is huge.

    Still, all this sexual darwinsim stuff does nothing to sway my belief that you are actually a world net style wingnut christianist whose blog is actually an anti-secular society cautionary tale.

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  8. Something I’ve noticed talking to mid-betas who take themselves to be naturals. They always seem to do two things:

    1. Rack their memories for successful lays, add several points to the women so they can brag about a HB7 rather than the HB4 she was, and compress the time so that five lays in five years sounds like it all happened this year

    2. Invariably utter a sentence along the lines of “I convert about 90% of my dates into lays”

    I suspect they really believe the latter, and they aren’t always wrong. The reason:

    Most beta’s can’t read IOIs and don’t understand social dynamics. By the time they notice the girl sitting in front of them might be interested she’s already been shotgunning IOIs at them for hours if not weeks and months. So in the beta’s mind he is about to begin the pick-up whereas in reality he has already been selected by the girl and doesn’t need to do much more other than not fuck up.

    So commences the beta mating dance as he convinces himself of his tight game while the girl tolerates it because her mind is already made up. He tells his stories, dances, takes her out on the date etc. By the third date he’s banging her.

    In his mind he’s got tight game and nothing will convince him of the contrary. Of course his conversion rate is high. It’s actually to his discredit that he managed to mess up 10-20% of the girls who were trying to jump onto his cock.

    Safe in his little beta shell he will laugh dismissively at PUAs who do genuine cold approaches and only convert 10%.

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  9. “If you have a zero sum based activity with a ‘winner takes all’ attitudes, those who did not win might decide that the activity is fundamentally rigged against them.”

    That is why institutionalized monogamy is an effective protection mechanism for weak men.

    – Pupu

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  10. It’s intersting how people have always had a way of instinctively knowing things that “studies” and PUA writing is now exposing to much mainstream skepticism.

    Virtually any human culture’s traditional prejudice, custom, scrap of folklore, or proverb functioned to pass on these simple truths from one illiterate generation to another.

    Hell, even six-year-old boys instinctively know what’s alpha and beta, both in relation to other boys and toward girls (notice how the more confident boys tend to tease and pick on girls in grade school?)

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  11. on October 28, 2009 at 2:00 pm HUNGRY HUNGRY HIPPOS YO

    “Lucifer
    The point still remains:

    Given the current socio-legal setup, there is no incentive for men to do anything other pump-and-dump or pay for sex.

    Anyone who is looking for something other than the above will be disappointed.”

    Have you heard of a fellow named Dave From Hawaii?

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  12. Bang on.

    I totally agree with this 100%

    Anybody out there who wants to say that you are not being “yourself” or some such nonsense really needs to go back to the drawing board in order to figure out what creates the “self” to begin with.

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  13. “Lucifer
    Given the current socio-legal setup, there is no incentive for men to do anything other pump-and-dump or pay for sex.

    Anyone who is looking for something other than the above will be disappointed.”

    This way of handling issues, will hit you back, if you fail to play game, and take shortcuts, im sure extended regions of your whole life is a big shortcut.

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  14. @bik
    love the liz Báthory avatar. she’s like a hero over there

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  15. kind of a big leap from posture to seduction. the main point about the effects of a positive feedback loop is true and applies to both, but game is way harder than sitting up straight. it requires a sophisticated understanding of psychology, social cues, timing, etc. all of which some people will naturally have a harder time with than others.

    a pop-psych puff piece about the effects of improved posture is a far cry from “proving” anything. That doesn’t mean it’s not true – just that it’s, as noted, really hard to prove absent reality-TV-style capture of every stage of an interaction.

    hey, wait – what does reality TV itself say about this? aren’t there many obvious validations of game on the STD channel, formerly known as VH1? wasn’t there a passage in “the game” when on of the early community dudes won the girl by applying game on “the bachelorette”? and mystery’s show, beauty and the geek, etc. – there are lots of them that show the principles quite clearly.

    does it really need to be proven? why do we care? those who know it works, know it works, and the rest can believe whatever they want.

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  16. BTW, the above kind of reminds you of Tom Sawyer doing stunts of physical daring in Becky Thatcher’s yard.

    I once knew this wild kid who rode a BMX bike off the roof of a McDonald’s. Everyone knew he had done this. This is certainly an excellent strategy if you think you can do it without a significant risk of ending up paralyzed below the neck, which I doubt.

    I also think of the obnoxious and stupid driving we all used to do at ages 16-19.

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  17. ^ which unfortunately endangers other people as much as ourselves.

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  18. This is new? I remember reading about research in the 90’s that modeling external behavior leads to internal changes to match that external behavior.

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  19. Good. The truth comes out.

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  20. I have trouble seeing why your comments re posture are even controversial. Military training establishment have relied on this since the time of the Pharoahs.
    -Make them stand and walk like soldiers and they will begin to think and feel like soldiers.-

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  21. The fundamental problems:

    Humans behave as if was 10,000 BC. They base their actions on what they could get away with in a more primitive era, because they think they can still get away with it.

    Humans do not live in 10,000 BC or even 1950 AD anymore. Actions which would have worked for thousands of years can become counterproductive.

    and that is the real problem, human capabilities has evolved faster than the human mind. We cannot give up the new capabilities, because we now require them to survive. There is no going back to a simpler time. If we tried to, people would cheat and kill each other (and technology makes that so much more efficient).

    Something has to give…

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  22. “would require placing probes in random vaginas”

    Hmm. You could rig up a 802.11n tampon with a moisture probe…

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  23. “Your’re not special snowflake”…

    … “you’re the all dancing all singing crap of the world.”

    The correlation with Tyler Durden quotes (the character, not the PUA) was unavoidable.

    On that specific post, I guess is Oscar Wilde who said “heal your body thru your soul. And heal your soul thu your body.”

    Confident stance leads to confident mindset.

    From personal experience, I can remember years ago when I started boxing. With time, I would walk proud and confident, and started experiment some sort of quietness in my mind.

    In other words, the more phisically capable I felt, the more confident I was in my mind – and it all was coming from the guts.

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  24. As science tells us, testosterone isn’t only what you make naturally — it’s also what you can increase by performing certain activities (weightlifting, sports, etc.)

    Fucking betas should be playing sports whether they like them or not.

    You can learn all the game you want, but it’s easier to alter the biological base of your personality.

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  25. Eric Johnson,

    Evolution works through attrition (negative selection), not though positive selection.

    If it did not, why did dinosaurs die out and crocodilians live? Both were archosaurs..

    Some dinosaur species were of the same size rage (200-500kg) as the giant flightless ‘terror birds’ that were the apex land predators for 15 million years after the dinosaur extinction. Why did their ancestors live, but smaller dinosaur species perish?

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  26. You are not a special snowflake. You are a circuitboard of neurons, veins and chemical agents completely at the mercy of your material components . . .

    I have never agreed more with something said here.

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  27. ””””’The G Manifesto
    This post was a bullseye.

    “But, in fact, you *can*, because the longer you fake it the more natural it becomes. With time, it won’t be fake at all.”

    One of the best things you have ever said on here. And that is saying a lot.

    Act as if.

    This is Manifesto Destiny.

    – MPM”””””

    Manifest pussy

    Yea I do chuckle at time on how easy it will be in the future since you know now is not hard.

    What will my confidense be like when I can travel the world on a whim?

    Sick shit.

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  28. Hold the mask up long enough and like Jim Carrey’s movie character it fuses with your soul.

    Half right. There is no soul. There is no essential you. The only thing that makes you different is your biology and that can manipulated.

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  29. “Though much is taken, much abides; and though
    We are not now that strength which in old days
    Moved earth and heaven, that which we are, we are-
    One equal temper of heroic hearts,
    Made weak by time and fate, but strong in will
    To strive, to seek, to find, and not to yield.”

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  30. “Fucking betas should be playing sports whether they like them or not.” (JB)

    Sweating stupidity out is never a bad idea.

    Sports are about enduring.

    Sports are all about focus.

    Sports are all about embracing competition, and cultivate strenght and intelligence.

    You cant let small stupid thoughts cloud your mind while in a sport.

    The aim is winning, but dealing with defeat is crucial in any competition sport.

    Sports teach you one thing or two about the realm of Alphadom.

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  31. “Finally, the doubters will cleave to their cherished pet theory that there are “naturals” and then there’s everyone else who shouldn’t even bother trying”

    Its pretty funny that feminists think like this. Its basically the Indian Caste system applied to sex: you will never get sex unnatural because you were born beta and you will be that way forever.

    Game says that there is no such thing as a natural order. It can all be up-ended and altered. This idea is revolutionary and terrifying to those who believe in the natural order.

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  32. Right on!

    Or as I always tell my friends: don’t be yourself. Yourself sucks. Be someone cooler than yourself.

    I spent my entire childhood almost friendless. I wasn’t picked on, I was just… ignored. I had horrible social anxiety. In high school, with a bunch of complete strangers, I simply decided to pretend like I was confident and people liked me. I introduced myself, I participated in conversations, I smiled a lot.

    And now I have a group of about thirty friends that goes to parties every weekend. Parties where they play Smash and paintball and watch anime, but I wouldn’t like the other kind anyway.

    Of course, the place our dearest host and I would disagree is about whether this works for women-getting-dates too. All I can say is, as a solid 6,* I started to get dates (with decent provider betas) only once I started telling myself “I am beautiful. Of course he’s attracted to me, why would he be?” that I started getting dates.

    *I am very attractive. Unfortunately, I’m a very attractive fifteen-year-old boy.

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  33. ”””””I started to get dates (with decent provider betas) only once I started telling myself “I am beautiful. Of course he’s attracted to me, why would he be?” that I started getting dates.

    *I am very attractive. Unfortunately, I’m a very attractive fifteen-year-old boy.
    ””””””””’

    So ozy you want to reword that or are you a 15 year old gay cop lol

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  34. … Nope.

    I’m an eighteen-year-old girl who is regularly called “sir” by waitresses. A friend’s sister thought my boyfriend was gay because she saw us kissing. Eight-year-olds will poke me and say “are you a boy or a girl?”

    While I’m wearing blue eyeshadow.

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  35. Ok well I wish you luck.

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  36. Lucy: “Given the current socio-legal setup, there is no incentive for men to do anything other pump-and-dump or pay for sex.”

    Third possibility: pimping. At some point our Lord and Master needs to do a piece on Iceberg Slim, the mack-daddy godfather of game in written form.

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  37. Funny that you posted this, as I’m attempting to finish watching Pickup 101’s “Physical Confidence” DVDs.

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  38. Lucifer,

    Most men read about ‘game’ to ultimately, find that ‘one special one’ or a good long term relationship. That goal is not attainable or desirable to attain, irrespective of the method used.

    Not many people appreciate your genius and the no-nonsense truth of your words. But I do.

    Your ideas and statements would have a bigger impact if you went over to the GirlGame blog at http://girlgame.wordpress.com. You would be a much bigger fish there.

    Try it out for a while and see what happens. You might have a lot of fun.

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  39. Lucifer positive and negative selection are the same thing at bottom: the fitter versus the less fit. More fit and less fit are the only fundamentals.

    But if an allele or a phenotype is gaining ground relative to where it was at baseline, we call it positive selection. Yet the fundamental fact there is just that that allele is more fit than the average allele for that locus – that’s why it gains ground.

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  40. Just read the new Spenser, ‘The Professional’. Spenser meets a PUA.

    “Susan says there’s something wrong with Gary,” I said. “That he has as much sex as he does, with various women about whom he doesn’t care very much.”

    “Strange tail,” Hawk said.

    “I know,” I said. “I’m not sure Susan gets that, exactly.”

    . . .

    “And maybe it matters to him that he can cuckold the husband.” . . . “other men’s women.”

    PUA as intra-gender competition. Herb of the month, pathetic beta, etc. Make sense. Works for feminism too. I’m so much more woman than you, I can spent four years in college majoring in nagging and still get a better man than you. Sister, I can rag out the first black president about his stinky socks on network TV cause I’m more woman than you. Like, I can put metal in my face and still be prettier, or tattoo myself and still- etc.

    And, Mr Parker? If you read this? Team up with Joe Lansdale for your next Spenser. Your respective talents could really do the Two Bear Mambo. Just saying.
    Just saying.

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  41. > That goal is not attainable or desirable to attain, irrespective of the method used.

    That depends. Some of us just have a monogamous nature. Natures vary and it’s hard to imagine other peoples’ natures. Obviously, I would accept a harem of women if it were somehow just delivered to me or otherwise made really easy. I think any man would. But in real life, under real conditions, promiscuity just doesn’t interest me.

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  42. I suspect there is a correlation between political electoral systems and betatude in a given society. In the US where we have a First-past-the-post (FPTP) system, it doesn’t matter how much effort you put in, as long as you rake in 51% of the vote you win everything. Winner takes all.

    In some european societies with proportional representation (PR), a party can rake in 10% of the vote and get 10% of the seats in parliament, and in a coalition government it can be this 10% party that swings key legislation and gets to dictate to the largest alpha party its own agenda.

    Similarly, we are shown how effective game is here in the US because it mimics what we’ve come to know about alphas and winners. Winner takes all. The only positive one can take from losing is that you can use it to better your game in order to win later. Nobody ever desires to lose perpetually.

    In some other parts of the world a beta can still have his one ace up his sleeve and land a good woman and keep her fidelity. Thats because he’s that minority party that still has his trump card against the alpha plurality attempting to deny him his piece of the vag pie.

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  43. Eric Johnson,

    Why were terror birds the apex predators in S.America till 3 million years? Why did they become less important in the rest of the world?

    You seem to discount the idea that chance and luck are far more important drivers for what is fit and less fit, than ability.

    Would mammals have become what they are today if the classical dinosaurs and aquatic reptiles had not died out? Both these groups did extremely well for almost 200 million years and then … gone.

    The success of mammals comes down to one factor- enough survived.

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  44. An easy way to investigate this would be to look at what brain areas are activated in girls when they talk with an alpha compared to a beta.

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  45. Eh, the nitty-gritty of game still seems to be lot more art than science. There’s loads of strategies, lines, and routines that only work because of (a) random chance, or (b) because saying anything is better than staring at your shoes and doing nothing. (I’ve proven this by literally babbling random noises and nonsense at a girl in a bar and then getting her number. Maybe I should create a theory of Babbling Nonsense Game.)

    Of course when someone gets blown off, it’s not “fake it until you make it”, it’s “lacking convergence” or something.

    This is only really relevant because some people here seem to believe that game has broader societal implications. If that’s true, you would need a more rigorous approach and less pet theories and “works for mes”.

    Krauser: you make some excellent points. However in my experience, a lot of ‘real naturals’ rely on social game. They’re laying their friends’ friends, not doing cold approaches. Alpha, beta, whatever, if you’ve been ‘pre-qualified’ your conversion rate should be pretty high.

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  46. An easy way to investigate this would be to look at what brain areas are activated in girls when they talk with an alpha compared to a beta.

    Here’s an easier…and more fun….way to investigate. Read up on game, go to a bunch of bars and hit on chicks and game them until you get laid.

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  47. After the toothed dinosaurs died out 65 million years ago, these things were the apex terrestrial predators- for the next 15-20 million years and upto 3 million years ago in S. America.

    Mammals only became large and successful from about 40-45 million years ago starting in asia (based on fossil evidence). Till then the biggest mammals were about as big as a coyote.
    _________________________________________________

    Phorusrhacidae

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phorusrhacidae

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  48. I wonder if a boldly upright posture wastes energy. This might help make it a costly signal, and explain why one doesn’t always do it automatically.

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  49. Eric Johnson,

    You are confusing ability with success. What is a liability in one situation can be an advantage in another.

    Have you noticed how many actors, writers, artists have hypomania, or it’s sub-clinical manifestations. Coincidence? What is a liability in lifestyle (accountant, engineer) can be an amazing edge in another (artist, writer).

    Every “advantage” comes at a cost, and it is hard to predict when one advantage becomes a liability. It is not a coincidence that the specialist lifestyle can be a boom or bust depending on the situation.

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  50. hypothecary wrote:

    …I could very easily find a study that invalidates game but why bother?

    Maybe because you just made the claim that you could do so?

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  51. Some of us will have sons. How do we help them be alpha from an early age?

    Yes, we can coach them, but we should also make sure that their mom indulges them and shields them from guilt or obligation whenever possible, while encouraging their sense of adventure and exploration.

    Do the minimum to protect him physically, and do the maximum to feed his ego and sense of entitlement.

    Feminist moms and some Jesus moms do the opposite – swaddling him physically while damaging his ego with exhortations to be gender-neutral or to “help others first.”

    Feminist moms are essentially saying to their sons: “you are your own worst enemy. Redemption only comes from yielding to the desires of morally superior others.”

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  52. Phaedra Starling is the pen name of a romance novelist and licensed private investigator living in small New York City apartment with two large dogs. She practices Brazilian jiu-jitsu and makes world-class apricot muffins.

    Gentlemen. Thank you for reading.

    Let me start out by assuring you that I understand you are a good sort of person. You are kind to children and animals. You respect the elderly. You donate to charity. You tell jokes without laughing at your own punchlines. You respect women. You like women. In fact, you would really like to have a mutually respectful and loving sexual relationship with a woman. Unfortunately, you don’t yet know that woman—she isn’t working with you, nor have you been introduced through mutual friends or drawn to the same activities. So you must look further afield to encounter her.

    So far, so good. Miss LonelyHearts, your humble instructor, approves. Human connection, love, romance: there is nothing wrong with these yearnings.

    Now, you want to become acquainted with a woman you see in public. The first thing you need to understand is that women are dealing with a set of challenges and concerns that are strange to you, a man. To begin with, we would rather not be killed or otherwise violently assaulted.

    “But wait! I don’t want that, either!”

    Well, no. But do you think about it all the time? Is preventing violent assault or murder part of your daily routine, rather than merely something you do when you venture into war zones? Because, for women, it is. When I go on a date, I always leave the man’s full name and contact information written next to my computer monitor. This is so the cops can find my body if I go missing. My best friend will call or e-mail me the next morning, and I must answer that call or e-mail before noon-ish, or she begins to worry. If she doesn’t hear from me by three or so, she’ll call the police. My activities after dark are curtailed. Unless I am in a densely-occupied, well-lit space, I won’t go out alone. Even then, I prefer to have a friend or two, or my dogs, with me. Do you follow rules like these?

    So when you, a stranger, approach me, I have to ask myself: Will this man rape me?

    Do you think I’m overreacting? One in every six American women will be sexually assaulted in her lifetime. I bet you don’t think you know any rapists, but consider the sheer number of rapes that must occur. These rapes are not all committed by Phillip Garrido, Brian David Mitchell, or other members of the Brotherhood of Scary Hair and Homemade Religion. While you may assume that none of the men you know are rapists, I can assure you that at least one is. Consider: if every rapist commits an average of ten rapes (a horrifying number, isn’t it?) then the concentration of rapists in the population is still a little over one in sixty. That means four in my graduating class in high school. One among my coworkers. One in the subway car at rush hour. Eleven who work out at my gym. How do I know that you, the nice guy who wants nothing more than companionship and True Love, are not this rapist?

    I don’t.

    When you approach me in public, you are Schrödinger’s Rapist. You may or may not be a man who would commit rape. I won’t know for sure unless you start sexually assaulting me. I can’t see inside your head, and I don’t know your intentions. If you expect me to trust you—to accept you at face value as a nice sort of guy—you are not only failing to respect my reasonable caution, you are being cavalier about my personal safety.

    Fortunately, you’re a good guy. We’ve already established that. Now that you’re aware that there’s a problem, you are going to go out of your way to fix it, and to make the women with whom you interact feel as safe as possible.

    To begin with, you must accept that I set my own risk tolerance. When you approach me, I will begin to evaluate the possibility you will do me harm. That possibility is never 0%. For some women, particularly women who have been victims of violent assaults, any level of risk is unacceptable. Those women do not want to be approached, no matter how nice you are or how much you’d like to date them. Okay? That’s their right. Don’t get pissy about it. Women are under no obligation to hear the sales pitch before deciding they are not in the market to buy.

    The second important point: you must be aware of what signals you are sending by your appearance and the environment. We are going to be paying close attention to your appearance and behavior and matching those signs to our idea of a threat.

    This means that some men should never approach strange women in public. Specifically, if you have truly unusual standards of personal cleanliness, if you are the prophet of your own religion, or if you have tattoos of gang symbols or Technicolor cockroaches all over your face and neck, you are just never going to get a good response approaching a woman cold. That doesn’t mean you’re doomed to a life of solitude, but I suggest you start with internet dating, where you can put your unusual traits out there and find a woman who will appreciate them.

    Are you wearing a tee-shirt making a rape joke? NOT A GOOD CHOICE—not in general, and definitely not when approaching a strange woman.

    Pay attention to the environment. Look around. Are you in a dark alley? Then probably you ought not approach a woman and try to strike up a conversation. The same applies if you are alone with a woman in most public places. If the public place is a closed area (a subway car, an elevator, a bus), even a crowded one, you may not realize that the woman’s ability to flee in case of threat is limited. Ask yourself, “If I were dangerous, would this woman be safe in this space with me?” If the answer is no, then it isn’t appropriate to approach her.

    On the other hand, if you are both at church accompanied by your mothers, who are lifelong best friends, the woman is as close as it comes to safe. That is to say, still not 100% safe. But the odds are pretty good.

    The third point: Women are communicating all the time. Learn to understand and respect women’s communication to you.

    You want to say Hi to the cute girl on the subway. How will she react? Fortunately, I can tell you with some certainty, because she’s already sending messages to you. Looking out the window, reading a book, working on a computer, arms folded across chest, body away from you = do not disturb. So, y’know, don’t disturb her. Really. Even to say that you like her hair, shoes, or book. A compliment is not always a reason for women to smile and say thank you. You are a threat, remember? You are Schrödinger’s Rapist. Don’t assume that whatever you have to say will win her over with charm or flattery. Believe what she’s signaling, and back off.

    If you speak, and she responds in a monosyllabic way without looking at you, she’s saying, “I don’t want to be rude, but please leave me alone.” You don’t know why. It could be “Please leave me alone because I am trying to memorize Beowulf.” It could be “Please leave me alone because you are a scary, scary man with breath like a water buffalo.” It could be “Please leave me alone because I am planning my assassination of a major geopolitical figure and I will have to kill you if you are able to recognize me and blow my cover.”

    On the other hand, if she is turned towards you, making eye contact, and she responds in a friendly and talkative manner when you speak to her, you are getting a green light. You can continue the conversation until you start getting signals to back off.

    The fourth point: If you fail to respect what women say, you label yourself a problem.

    There’s a man with whom I went out on a single date—afternoon coffee, for one hour by the clock—on July 25th. In the two days after the date, he sent me about fifteen e-mails, scolding me for non-responsiveness. I e-mailed him back, saying, “Look, this is a disproportionate response to a single date. You are making me uncomfortable. Do not contact me again.” It is now October 7th. Does he still e-mail?

    Yeah. He does. About every two weeks.

    This man scores higher on the threat level scale than Man with the Cockroach Tattoos. (Who, after all, is guilty of nothing more than terrifying bad taste.) You see, Mr. E-mail has made it clear that he ignores what I say when he wants something from me. Now, I don’t know if he is an actual rapist, and I sincerely hope he’s not. But he is certainly Schrödinger’s Rapist, and this particular Schrödinger’s Rapist has a probability ratio greater than one in sixty. Because a man who ignores a woman’s NO in a non-sexual setting is more likely to ignore NO in a sexual setting, as well.

    So if you speak to a woman who is otherwise occupied, you’re sending a subtle message. It is that your desire to interact trumps her right to be left alone. If you pursue a conversation when she’s tried to cut it off, you send a message. It is that your desire to speak trumps her right to be left alone. And each of those messages indicates that you believe your desires are a legitimate reason to override her rights.

    For women, who are watching you very closely to determine how much of a threat you are, this is an important piece of data.

    The fifth and last point: Don’t rape. Nor should you commit these similar but less severe offenses: don’t assault. Don’t grope. Don’t constrain. Don’t brandish. Don’t expose yourself. Don’t threaten with physical violence. Don’t threaten with sexual violence.

    Shouldn’t this go without saying? Of course it should. Sadly, that’s not the world I live in. You may be beginning to realize that it’s not the world you live in, either.

    Miss LonelyHearts wishes you happiness and success in your search for romantic companionship.

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  53. @ Ozymandias: Why are you using that moniker when you are a chick?

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  54. Even with a double blind study, the anti-game sect will just say the study is flawed (“sample size was too small!”). A lot of them have made up their minds for all eternity that game doesn’t work because they are too scared or have too low a self-esteem to try.

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  55. @Breeze: Because I love the poem and Ozymandias in the comic Watchmen brings me gina tingles.

    Jesus. How long have you spent on the Internet? You really can’t judge someone’s gender by their name.

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  56. on October 28, 2009 at 10:21 pm Otis the Sweaty

    I can only speak for myself, but I actually feel substantially less confident when I try to fake confidence in any given situation.

    Anyway, can I get on the Alpha Assesment thing? Here is my story: There is this girl I’d met at a party a couple of weeks ago and I called her last weekend and asked if she wanted to get a drink. She said she couldn’t and I said okay.

    Did I do something wrong? I mean, she obviously wasn’t interested so I have a hard time believing there were some magic words I could have said to change her mind.

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  57. on October 28, 2009 at 10:33 pm hiphopanonamous

    I read something a while back in Psychology Today, around the same time that I read The Game, that behavior influences cognition as well as cognition influencing behavior. Once I understood this simple trick of the mind, I realized that it was possible to learn game and get better.

    Good post.

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  58. Well-written and reasoned post. The situation for many in a nutshell.

    Lucifer,
    Have you ever considered going out on nights you dont have anything lined up and gaming women just for the fun of it? You might like it. Think of yourself as an actor playing a role, initiating numerous conversations just to fuck with chick’s heads. Whats not to like?

    If youve got the spending money to buy sex from a professional call girl a few times a week, then you know you have that to fall back on.
    My old roomate used to bring home several women a week (and that was slow weeks). He’d tell them all tons of lies about how he could see a future with them and all of the usual tripe. He’d usually fuck them one-to-three times and then would stop answering their calls**. Since you obviously have no religious scruples, you could indulge yourself in the same kinds of fun.

    ** I had a few steady relationships during this period, and rarely pulled the stuff he pulled. I didn’t “pump-n-dump”, but had girlfriends in those years off and on. I went through the usual bullshit with them, worrying about them, wondering things like, “does she really see me as marriage material”, or “will her family really approve of me”. There my pal was, without a care in the world, fucking and chucking them like no tommorow. I probably had about half as much aggregate sex as he did, but with just a handful of people. He had infinite variety and never pedastalized anyone. Sometimes I think living like he did was “right” unless someone actually falls madly in love with someone else and they foment a lifelong happy marriage together. Perhaps its better to be a male slut than a half-assed-happily married man. Make no mistake, I think happily married people are the happiest in the world, but if one’s union falls short of that, then for the secular person hedonism would indeed be a rational alternative. IM pretty sure you dont entertain religious thoughts Lucifer, so semi-professional skirt chasing for kicks might be a fun little side hobby for yourself.

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  59. on October 28, 2009 at 11:01 pm gunslingergregi

    ””””””””Lupo
    Lucy: “Given the current socio-legal setup, there is no incentive for men to do anything other pump-and-dump or pay for sex.”

    Third possibility: pimping. At some point our Lord and Master needs to do a piece on Iceberg Slim, the mack-daddy godfather of game in written form.
    ”””””””””’

    Thats what my buddy in iraq said I was trying to do. I think there is a fourth. Teamwork and finding a few woman with the skillset to put together something to last through the ages.

    I mean I don’t really pick up when I am with my woman but yea I mean ya ain’t got to be together 24 365 probably good to have breaks to grow apart then get together and enjoy each other.

    These woman would obviously have to be high on the fuck scale.

    Right now I am with one that makes me want to about 1 per day. Max of 2 has happened but its still first month.

    Looking for woman I think that would meet a cutoff of at inspiring lust of at least 3 per day within first 6 months.

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  60. on October 28, 2009 at 11:05 pm gunslingergregi

    Kind of got some of the idea from family member that could make like 25 k in two days but never had a man who could guide that into some empire building. Making money without accomplishing is a dead end. Woman that are powerfull need a powerfull man to guide their work into a meaningfull avenue. Same as a man needs. Good to have help that compliments in the endeaver of life.

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  61. Ruby:

    I feel this persona has been the driving force behind the most productive and long-running legacies in Western society and I’d definitely like to explore it as a successful strategy for career improvement and serial monogamy.

    Good luck finding women in their 20’s in coastal cities who would be amenable.

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  62. z said…”My old roomate used to bring home several women a week (and that was slow weeks). ”

    I am sorry z but I think you are lying, I had a few promiscous friends, none were as succesfull as your imagined friend. However most of my mates ended up doing it on the girls place. On the very rare occassion it would be in our place.

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  63. Lucifer:

    1) How much do you tip your escorts?

    2) Do you consider a PharmD a viable career choice?

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  64. unlearning genius,

    Are you Daoist?

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  65. rake

    I come here to waste small amounts of time, not large amounts. Why don’t you find one for me?

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  66. You are a circuitboard of neurons, veins and chemical agents completely at the mercy of your material components acting in concert to keep you clueless about its essential goal. Soon, sooner than you think, you will degrade into your constituent parts and nothing you say or believe now will matter at all.

    Might as well make life count while we can.

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  67. z,

    To be blunt about it- I do not care about women, beyond sex.

    I have NO intention of wasting my time trying to impress women when I can get a 7-8 with the same effort it takes to search for and book a table at a good restaurant.

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  68. Fake it till you make it. The ability/willingness to do so is a manifestation of courage. Most people are too scared to do something they know they are not good at.

    (Assuming you don’t innately have ‘it’) What is the opposite of ‘fake it till you make it’? The opposite of fake it till you make it is ‘do nothing until you fail’. That pretty much sets up the dichotomy right there.

    Great post.

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  69. Tupac Chopra,

    Never pay more than 300$/hr.

    The range in N.america is between 200-300 $/hr. Below that quality can suffer.. above that quality does not improve (and often suffers)

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  70. In Response to Lucifer :

    My interest in the subject of escorts is more curiousity than anything.

    On that note, would you be willing to write an extended guide of your views on escorts?

    What was your first experience with an escort?

    What boundaries and customs must be practiced?

    What entails a good or bad escort?

    Etc.?

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  71. “Fake it til you make it.”

    Otherwise known as practice.

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  72. Ruby,

    Sure, when I have some time to write in more detail.

    The short answers:

    I started in my early 20s, because I was tired of the BS involved in dealing with “real” women. I initially started with amateurs, but quickly moved on to pros.. no street hookers though.

    Boundaries- Do not fall in love with them, but feel free to be a bit human (as it might get you freebies). If an escort ever behaves like a bitch, just walk away.. there are others who need your money. Remember that you are the customer.

    If an escort appears detached, let her know that you paying for her acting too. If she refuses to comply, just stop it and walk away- after promising her a bad review. Never bargain or turn back- it is not worth it. The silent treatment is especially deadly, because most escorts have a justifiable fear about silent dissatisfied clients (use the fear).

    Always check escort reviews from local escort review boards, and be wary of shill-type reviews.

    A good escort can act well, kiss well and not overact. There are many who qualify as good escorts, but almost as many who are either burnt out or bitches. Show no mercy.. it is your money.

    This sounds a bit too much like game, doesn’t it?

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  73. Consider this,

    1) “All that matters is that you act confidently and think confidently, however irrational.”

    In relation to this,

    2) “You are not a special snowflake. You are a circuitboard of neurons, veins and chemical agents completely at the mercy of your material components acting in concert to keep you clueless about its essential goal. Soon, sooner than you think, you will degrade into your constituent parts and nothing you say or believe now will matter at all.

    It seems that statement 1) is not just a pitch for Game but for religion. Why not believe that you are more than the some of your biological parts, that you have a soul that will live on in some fashion after your body returns to the earth? That faith can give your life more meaning, and give you hope that you will one day connect with those who you’ve lost. And if it comes to pass that you were just a “circuit board”, and there’s only nothingness after you die — you won’t be around to be disappointed by that.

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  74. “Even with a double blind study, the anti-game sect will just say the study is flawed (“sample size was too small!”). A lot of them have made up their minds for all eternity that game doesn’t work because they are too scared or have too low a self-esteem to try.”

    Yeah, you don’t want to get into the trap of validating Game scientifically.

    Those who don’t want to admit it works will find no level of proof satisfactory.

    Also, a lot these people have Asperger’s Syndrome, so are pretty much hopeless as far as basic social perception (I notice militant atheists are often like this too.)

    They should be left alone with their misery.

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  75. All this certainty that humans are nothing but crude material is a bit laughable. What about your consciousness, where’s that located? Yes, it correlates with chemical conditions in the brain but it is not identical with those conditions. In other words, you won’t find the soul by cutting open the brain.

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  76. lapin: but even the Eastern religions differentiate between the soul and the personality.

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  77. JB: The Eastern religions I’m familiar with differentiate between the spirit, or subtle body, which is material like the physical body but consists of a finer, more subtle material (which is supposedly visible to persons who can see auras), and the soul, which is akin to the blank screen upon which all experience is projected. So I was using the word “soul” imprecisely, in a way that would include both of these.

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  78. on October 29, 2009 at 8:38 am Rollo Tomassi

    One of the worst fallacies the JBY (just be yourself) crowd cling to is that personality is static. It’s not. Personality is always in flux; you are not the same person you were 1, 5 10 years ago. We do hold onto individual character traits throughout various phases of our maturity, but even these can shift or be dropped due to circumstance (see traumatic stress disorder) or they can be replaced by novel, more useful ones as we mature. Personality and identity are malleable not static. In fact it’s exactly this flexibility that’s necessary to help us adapt to environmental changes and increase our survivability.

    You are who you say you are. So when I get that horse shit from some properly conditioned JBY beta it’s very easy to dismantle the “just be yourself and girls will want to hang with you” crap. Think and you shall become. JBY is probably the most insidious tool of the would be beta competitor. Essentially it’s “beta-game”; convince a sexual competitor that being beta is the key to success.

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  79. The critics are being totally self-contradictory.

    If people are maleable, and can learn/change/improve, then they can learn to become better in ways that make Game work for them.

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  80. if you take it up the ass from other men, does that mean you’re beta?

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  81. Bah humbug! The human spirit isn’t that malleable (or it’s only reallly downward malleable after a certain age). The human spirit and moral outlook is almost fused by the age of 10 and what hasn’t will fuse by the age of 20. Trying to teach game to those who are over 30 years of age is near hopeless.

    Besides sex is just breeding. Thus those who are most genetically healthy get to breed at the peak of their fertility. Since Alpha men and Alpha women are virtually bilatteral symmetrical they lose their virginity in their teens whilst Om3gas have noticeable vertical asymmetry and don’t get laid. At least Betas are sort of decent average and most will get laid but it’s all biology. Is it any wonder Alpha males learn game fast because they’re genetically hard-wired to do every right and will get fast positive feedback on what they do so they fasttrack getting laid. Surprise, surprise!

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  82. beachboy

    if you take it up the ass from other men, does that mean you’re beta?

    only
    if you ask
    for opinions

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  83. on October 29, 2009 at 12:52 pm gunslingergregi

    lol not gonna empathize with that? he he he

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  84. Velvetgunther

    …advice on how to deal with difficult female bosses. Do the rules of game apply? I don’t wanna end up with them in bed, i just wanna make my workplace situation easier. Any advice would be welcome

    It is off-topic, but NBD, this thread is expiring anyway.

    I’m not exagerrating when I state Female bosses are complete, utter, unrepentant, you-go-grrl bitches obsessed with power. Decades of de-humanizing males means no amount of female vindictiveness is forbidden for punishing you personally for generations of alleged gender inequality that gave us incandescent lights, cars, international trade, croque monseur, air conditioning and Polio vaccine.

    There is a very obvious reason staring you in the face as to why for the complete history of mankind, women were never allowed by our wisened, experienced forefathers to be bosses.

    Boss means leader. A leader of men whom others willfully follow for the benefit of the group.

    Barring any loose zygotes in the royal ovaries of the Nefertiri, Queen Liz I variety, nobody was ever stupid enough to permit pre-menstrual psychos the privilege of directing a dependent group toward profitable enterprise.

    That is, until fucking hippies and Pelosi-fed Frisco PC Freaks came up with the brilliant idea to turn the business of our country into an episode of Tyra! Your Carter-ite forbearers lay down the sack and surrendered your birthright. You will have to deal.

    Firepower’s advice is for you to quit and work for a male company or for you to become the boss and start your own business. You could get a sex-change and that will ameliorate most problems, yet pradoxically feminine, create another set. If you opt for snippage, you will be at a disadvantage to all the other girlies who’ve spent a lifetime from the cradle to the schoolyard backstabbing and oneupping other bitches. Do not be hotter than your bossy.

    Other than that, you must spend the rest of your work years being an emasculated yesboy catering to the whims of her emotions or whatever TV show has put a giant bug up her ass.

    God help you if she’s black and has still another axe to grind.

    I am a good-looking prick. Yet, I am a great boss. If you picture me a better boss than any of the girlgame crew, or nicenipped psychos like femx, you will need a survival strategy.

    You will need to drink the Kool-Aid to become a full-fledged podperson worshiping at the PC Altar of Empowered Diversity tended by the folks who demanded you take Transgendered Interracial Lesbian Feminist Studies courses to get a degree.

    I am serious.

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  85. Female bosses in large corporate environments come in these types:

    1) the motherly consensus-builder; not unpleasant to work for, but stasis can be the norm. The better ones give you lots of latitude if you are effective at your job, and will have your back with higher ups.

    2) the bitch on wheels: a vain, power-hungry loose cannon; the worst kind to work for, but in many industries, she will annoy her bosses, embarass the company in front of outsiders, and make enemies among her peers and subordinates. Waiting things out until she screws up big time (and she WILL screw up), or sabotaging her in various machiavellan ways can be a weapon. Make allies among her superior and peers.

    3) The hard as nails, but effective and fair female supervisor. They exist.

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  86. on October 29, 2009 at 2:20 pm gunslingergregi

    ”””””Firepower’s advice is for you to quit and work for a male company or for you to become the boss and start your own business. You could get a sex-change and that will ameliorate most problems, yet pradoxically feminine, create another set. If you opt for snippage, you will be at a disadvantage to all the other girlies who’ve spent a lifetime from the cradle to the schoolyard backstabbing and oneupping other bitches. Do not be hotter than your bossy.””””””’

    Other than threatening to kill her children which has its own serious set of problems. Yea letting otrher woman do your dirty work for you is probably the best method. When the old hag told the idiot that no one likes her yea she quit a short time later. Sometimes its best to let another woman administer the brutal soulkilling words that put the bad boss in her place.

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  87. hypothecary,

    I’m not going to look because I doubt there is one. I just found it interesting that you said you could find one so easily, but then didn’t do it. Why would you make that claim? I’d be interested to see such a study.

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  88. PA,

    Excellent comment above regarding the three types of female bosses.

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  89. Ruby wrote:

    I was wondering if anyone here could illuminate on the Virtuous-&-Condescending For-Your-Own-Good Patriarchal, Dignified “Dad’ persona?

    In the context of pickup, I don’t think this makes much sense, but I could see where there is some relevance in serial monogamy. There is a certain type of woman that would be attracted to this type.

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  90. on October 29, 2009 at 2:55 pm gunslingergregi

    Kind of coming around to what the mans role is in modern world.

    The woman can do the micromanagement at a soulkilling job and cook wash dishes clean the house and offer her body up to the man as his personnal playground plus minute details of raising kids.

    The mans job is to lay down some good dick. Then whatever else he wants to do. Plus maybe some macromanagement of what the woman produces kids included. ie saving resources, maybe instill some values like how to use woman properly to bring out the best of their abilities.

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  91. Just wondering about something. David Duchovny’s character in Californication, Hank Moody gets laid a lot, but has limited success in other parts of his life. His career is going nowhere, he can’t write anymore etc.. etc.. Is he considered an Alpha?

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  92. Adrian, hard to tell. Consider these things:

    1) It’s a TV show, so they can get away with bending the laws of reality. Another example: Jack Bauer can mangle four “red shirt” guards bare handed.

    2) Many “alphas” would be considered losers in other times, but today, with the welfare state and the female desire for men who treat them like shit, many men are eperfectly fine with being layabouts, with no career goals, no success, etc.

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  93. “The critics are being totally self-contradictory.

    If people are maleable, and can learn/change/improve, then they can learn to become better in ways that make Game work for them.”

    Agreed. It’s not ‘people’ who are malleable – it’s the human brain, in a very physical sense. With advances in neuroscience in the last two decades, we now know for a fact that there is no true ‘wiring’ or ‘fusing’ (or course there are typical brain maps, and stages of developement – but the proper teaching or technology, or from necessity, much of this can be altered. And what you do not use, you lose) of the brain/personality.

    We all have tons of potential for radical personal change – IF we strive for it, which most can’t or will not.

    Try to tell my dad, who has literally a little over half of his brain left after a massive bleed, and is now walking without support, talking clearly, thinking, and improving each day – that the brain isn’t plastic. Hah.

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  94. on October 29, 2009 at 4:43 am JB

    “Also, a lot these people have Asperger’s Syndrome, so are pretty much hopeless as far as basic social perception (I notice militant atheists are often like this too.)

    They should be left alone with their misery.”

    I have/had Asperger’s, but overcame it by studying psychology and body language early on, and having an older brother who basically forced me to be social. In the earliest days I treated trying to become popular like a game, in the vain of chess or monopoly games. In my early twenties I developed a certain disdain for females that allowed me to practice rudimentary game “game”, as I no longer felt constrained to put them on a pedastol. Having never studied PUA, and learning bits of it the hard way, through trial and error, I did slowly find myself in a reinforcing cycle of getting better with women. It was a long, hard road forever, but I was dedicated (horny). Many Geeks have Asperger’s and I think several PUAs were Geeky in their early days. Mystery jumps to mind, but I don’t follow the PUA community, so don’t hold me to that, but he looked like a geek in his early years. I discovered your community through the MRA community, and much of what I learned through evolutionary psychology and trial and error is reflected in the principles of game. Not all Aspergery people are hopeless. Human emotion does follow a logic at its core from an evolutionary perspective. Geeks are good at logic.

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  95. Rake

    Why would you make that claim? I’d be interested to see such a study.

    If you would be so interested, why don’t you find one then? I do NOT have time.

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  96. Rake,

    I DID find this!

    King Lear vowed that because he was a man he would rather go mad or die than weep. Many adult male patients in psychoanalysis have just such an internal prohibition against crying, learned individually and often culturally encouraged, a prohibition that affects their ability to process loss, maintain intimacy, and accept vulnerability. It is suggested that the appropriate psychoanalytic role with these patients is to recognize and actively address this culturally supported prohibition. In addition, it is proposed that the prohibition against men crying may be a consequence of male envy of maternal traits and other feminine characteristics. Further, it is suggested that the developmental theory that the male child must “disidentify” with the mother memorializes a phallicism that often invokes the prohibition against crying in men and is itself mistaken.

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  97. There is a nat geo special about sex where they color birds with a prisma color marker so the males look like they have more testosterone — those birds go on to a. Reproduce more and b. Actually have higher testosterone levels.

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