“I’m Saving Myself for an Asshole”

Last minute resistance is how players describe the general tendency of women to throw hip checks and shoulder blasts right before the blessed consummation.  Guys who are unable to control their state at this critical juncture, when they are at their horniest, will fail the LMR test.   If you’re a new age sensitive man you could give her a sympathetic hug when she resists your advances and wait for another day/month/year.   And then watch your balls ascend in direct proportion to her plummeting respect for you.  But if you want results, there are a few ways to neutralize LMR once it begins.

  • Agree in words, but not in action.  Simply affirm whatever doubt she voices as if you are going to do what she says, but go on moving the seduction forward.  “It’s too soon.”  “I agree.”  “Maybe we should slow down.”  “I agree.”  “But we hardly know each other.”  “I agree.”  “OMG, there’s no way I can fit that.”  “I agree.”  This tactic works better if you pull back a little every time she complains.  Let’s say you have a hand on her breast.  If she hits the brakes, you move your hand off and stroke the outside of her leg, then move it back up to her breasts after a minute.  Repeat ad nauseum.  With some girls you will be saying I agree 20 or 30 times before she succumbs.  Patience and persistence are your best allies now.
  • Seduce her.   This tactic requires more intelligence because you’ll be attempting to talk her out of her second thoughts.  It’s a more direct approach to dealing with the virgin on her shoulder whispering in her ear to slow down, so you’d better know what you are doing because the more you talk the more you risk saying something logical that’ll kill the mood.  The key is to distract her from logical thinking and make her focus on her runaway emotions, which is every women’s Achille’s heel.  A seduction which fries her circuits would sound like this:

Sometimes we need to lose ourselves to find ourselves, don’t you think?  The most passionate relationships start instantly, like you both knew it was destined to happen, and nothing getting in the way of that would feel right.  It’s crazy, isn’t it?  I have been making love to you from the moment I saw you.

  • Preempt her.  This is my preferred method, and probably the most effective.  You make your intentions known then immediately acknowledge a barrier to fulfilling those intentions.  I want to kiss you all over, make love to you all night, and hold you close in the morning, but we should get to know each other first.  Or, if the barrier is external:   I’d fuck you against that tree right now like we were animals in the woods, but a hiker might walk by and see us.   This shows her you understand her.  Plus, it relieves the pressure she’s feeling without sacrificing the sexual tension.  Then when she’s later ripping off her clothes she will rationalize that you both got caught up in the moment despite the barriers to sex.
  • Freeze her out.  Some girls are pure unfiltered evil.  Hours of foreplay that lead to zero conclusion can inflate a man’s sack to a medically inappropriate breaking point.  Cockteasing in the bedroom is pure power play.  Solution?  Be careful not to show exasperation by getting up and doing something random.  Start working on a painting.  “What are you doing?”  “Painting.”  “Why?”  “I just got an idea for the color scheme here.  I want to get it down before it disappears.”  [Students of NLP will notice the embedded language of loss anchored to the moment.]  She’ll likely re-initiate.

If none of the above work, stop bothering.  There will come a point when persistence turns into desperation.  If she’s really adamant about saving herself for the 100th date instead of the 99th, bump her down the queue.  She is now a second class citizen to the other girls in your world.  Your sex and love are valuable and if she wants another shot with you she’ll have to prove herself.


  1. You are such a rapist.


  2. As long as it’s all consesual….


  3. I would throw up everywhere if a dude said the suggested seduction quote.


  4. Resistance is sexy!


  5. gn – i’ve used lines like that. it’s worked. seductive smooth talking depends a lot on the context and vibe.


  6. Preemption is a good strategy, girls like it when you take control. However your take on it, blurting out that rubbish, is suicidal. Steven Pinker has written some stuff on the importance of metaphor – short summary – saying what you really want with such blunt language will not get you sex. Metaphor, skirting round the issue etc., emerged for some evolutionary purpose. You need to preempt and be firm physically, kiss her on the shoulder, make your intentions known, but under NO CIRCUMSTANCES say this:

    ‘I’d fuck you against that big tree right now like we were animals in the woods, but a hiker might walk by and see us.’

    Absolutely ridiculous Roissy, christ. And what moron says ‘fuck’ to a girl?


  7. A. Well-bred girls would balk at you cursing in her presence, a sign of low class and insensitivity. B. The word ‘fuck’ would make her run a mile, unless she’s some fiddy cent ho bimbo with an std.


  8. Not for nothing, I usually don’t have to say anything because I use Sex Panther by Odeon…60% of the time, it works all the time.


  9. ah cuch, it’s the well-bred girls who are most turned on by the animalistic dirty sex talk.

    there is a time and place for blunt statements of intent. the trick is to say it with a knowing smirk, a cocky devil-may-care attitude. also, when i talk about preempting LMR, i’m assuming you’ve built up enough attraction with the girl that sex is imminent. i wouldn’t say this stuff before that point.


  10. Well, at least it’s not a post about good place to drink with gay guys.

    The seduction is all about the delivery. If your delivery is top notch, your tone, your body language, you could be reciting the Gettysburg Address and she’ll sog her panties.

    Preemption, of course, is a great trick. Extra effective for us Jewish guys, who give that natural impression of being forced into anything physically enjoyable. Combine with above for the full effect. “Are you sure you don’t want to get some sleep?” when you clearly mean “I want to take you from behind,” generally leads disproportionately to the latter.

    Cuch, a ‘well-bred girl’ who would be offended by such FCC-scary language probably wouldn’t be letting you finger bang her in the park downtown in the first place.


  11. OK I just had a bad experience with a ‘proper’ girl before: she was horrified when I used the ‘f’ word in a story. Later on she playfully insulted my miniature golf prowess, I gave her a teasing middle finger and she was shocked, SHOCKED!, that I would dare gesture in such a way to a lady.

    She also demanded I open doors for her, wash my hands all the time, take off her shoes, you name it. Now I do all this stuff automatically, even though most girls probably don’t expect it. But it was only language and manners she demanded, when I pushed her physically she was all ears.


  12. Roissy has a point about that swearing. Normally, in everyday conversation, I utterly dislike excessive swearing.

    But when my boyfriend uses it in a specific context… it does funny things. And then I do funny things. Funny things, thus, happen. *coughs*

    You’re so mean, roissy, taking the oh-so-helpless-damsel’s oh-so-non-existent virginity. Any girl who really wanted to save herself would surely detect danger and run for her life from when you say ‘Hello!’.

    So whats your game with shy girls? Do you even bother? (Assuming they have average looks) I haven’t seen posts about that around any of the fratire literature.

    Did you ever break precious ickle hearts with your merciless tactics? And, at the risk of sounding like some sort of therapist, how do you feel about that?


  13. b – shy girls flower with the proper care. when the bloom needs to be coaxed, the perfume is that much sweeter. as for breaking hearts… all’s fair in love and indifference. it’s never a good feeling (unless she truly deserved it), but i have to stay true to myself.


  14. […] Dealing with a girl’s last minute resistance. […]


  15. I lost so many lays because I played along with/ respected her wishes to take it slow.

    Few years later I realized that this only made the disrespect me, and thus ending my chances with them.

    A woman who isolates herself with a man in any location has to be taken as she wants to fuck.

    Any objection (definitely not saying rape her) other than “STOP” is just a test these idiots throw at the man, and should just be averted/evaded/dealt with.

    One side effect of these women testing the men or trying to be not slutty is that the only ones who break these tests are either assholes, guys who got more ass that a toiletseat, or the one who could not give a flying fuck about the woman in the bed.

    Nice guys, gentleman, good men, quality men who are not aware f this will loose that battle.


  16. on July 30, 2008 at 12:48 pm SovereignAmericanMale

    In days of yore, My response to the girl who played way too hard to get was to grab and flip open my cell. Dial a ringer for a booty call, while staring deep into the eyes of Mz 2hard2get.

    My next words to Mz. are:

    “Call me when you are done at your therapist and are ready for real intimacy. Sex is fixing to happen here in a few minutes and unless you are in, then your out”

    This has led to a large number of menage e twais.