Babe Freeze

There will come moments when you won’t be the reincarnation of Casanova. A hot babe will unexpectedly address you, and you won’t have anything scintillating to say in reply. Hey man, it happens. There have been at least three seconds in my life when I wasn’t at the top of my game. I weep with shame.

May yer ever-humble host make a most humble suggestion should a bout of “babe freeze” lock your brain and jaw?: Instead of conspicuously struggling to summon a try-hard witty response, remain silent and expressionless, perhaps livened with a reciprocal nod. In the event of a brain misfire, no reply is better than a spastic, dorky, strained, or unfunny reply that lands with a thud and extinguishes all vagina tingles in a ten block radius.

Naturally, a witty, funny, or darkly triadic reply is best, but if you don’t have one at the ready should a lovely lady rock your steady, it’s better to shut yo mouf and avoid leaving any impression that you REALLY LIKE THIS GIRL and want to win her approval and her giggles and her reoriented open body language. Or: Better to be silent and thought a beta male, than to speak spergily and remove all doubt.

Strategic silence is a form of game as much as any loquacious routine. Counterintuitively, it’s also harder to pull off than the tongue-toiling tingle teasers, because every irrepressible instinct in a man is to say something, ANYTHING, when a cute chick talks to him. And this instinct gets a lot of men in trouble, because it won’t be every time he’ll have a suave segue that stimulates snapper. When his game abandons him, that instinct to jabber can lead to stammering rather than seductive sorcery.

Strategic silence is ineffably alpha, and women know this, which is why when you deny your beta male instincts and choose instead the path of muffled mystery, your aura grows three sizes until it has shouted erection at the heart of the world. To refuse a woman a clean response beyond a nod when she has spoken to you? Outrageous! Why, you must be an alpha male. How intriguing. Perhaps if I talk to him again, he’ll acknowledge my womanly awesomeness…

Like other overpowered elements of game, strategic silence is meant to be employed sparingly. Although tales of mute maestros mesmerizing girls with nothing but the liquid rhythm of their physicality prick the public ear, I have rarely witnessed a man woo a woman solely with the sounds of silence. Economy of speech: good. Tapping out your game in morse code or eye flutters: bad. Save that stoic repose for those times when you really need it, like when a girl catches you off-guard with your thoughts drifting to nature shows about long-lived fungal colonies.

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In related news, introverts who act extroverted can make themselves feel happier. CH gets a lot of mail from self-professed introverts who say that game is tough for them because they don’t energize like extroverts do by socializing with lots of people. Their gripe is not without merit, but now they should be heartened by this latest research that if they simply push through their self-doubts and make active efforts to engage women, their happiness levels will rise. So far from being a necessary punishment, socializing can actually lift the moods of you introverts. And there’s no better foundation for a proper seduction than a good mood.





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  1. on July 25, 2013 at 1:14 pm Uncle Elmer

    You mean the dark, somber, pissed-off persona isn’t a babe magnet?

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    • on July 25, 2013 at 4:07 pm Great Books For Men GreatBooksForMen GBFM (TM) GB4M (TM) GR8BOOKS4MEN (TM) lzozozozozlzo (TM)

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      One of the remarkable things of the “Christian” (Churchian) manopshere is how much they hate the MANLY Jesus, Moses, and the prophets and saints.

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      It is really quite remarkable how there is post after post after post about marriage, and never once do they turn towards Jesus nor Moses nor Genesis.

      Were Jesus to arise today, they would crucify him during the typical sermon and resume thei rbutthetxxinzgz and gianattstetxingz and serving tinzgzlzozozozooz over God, Law, Reason, Homer, Honor, Moses, and Jesus.

      Long story short, Jesus came to Fulfill the Law of Moses and Genesis, and that really pissed off the churchians:

      3: And the LORD God said unto the woman, What is this that thou hast done? And the woman said, The serpent beguiled me, and I did eat.
      14: And the LORD God said unto the serpent, Because thou hast done this, thou art cursed above all cattle, and above every beast of the field; upon thy belly shalt thou go, and dust shalt thou eat all the days of thy life:
      15: And I will put enmity between thee and the woman, and between thy seed and her seed; it shall bruise thy head, and thou shalt bruise his heel.
      16: Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.

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      • St. Maximilian Kolbe >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

        Also Newton was all about the tingles and butthexing. For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.

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  2. It’s a big tension-creater when a guy just raises his eyebrows at me in a quizzical way… as if he thinks I just said something charmingly stupid and he’s wondering whether it’s worth his time to respond.

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    • on July 25, 2013 at 1:25 pm Uncle Elmer

      Most of the teen heart-thobs seem to have that look permanently stitched to their face.

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    • Um-hum. When you reply with silence or just a quick (not emphatic) nod of the head or a grunt, often a woman will try harder in the conversation, thinking that she must have said something dull or lame. Saying nothing is often perceived as a demonstration of higher value. Either that, or you’re just boring — it could go either way. But if a true man has nothing to say, no reply at all, then he’s acting like a true man when he says nothing; if he tortures himself to come up with a reply, any reply, then he’s dancing to another’s tune, which is ununsexy.

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  3. Yes, game IS tough for us reserved introverts. Yet The Chateau has always said “fake it ’till you make it” and this, in my experience, works; I am indeed becoming more socially adept by WORKING AT game, just as I’m becoming more physically fit by WORKING AT lifting weights. Both increase my happiness.

    Silence is very effective if coupled with a slow, deliberate nod, not the quick jerky movements that are typical of us recovering betas. And, yes WORKING AT understanding and controlling your body language does produce results.

    WORK – what can’t it do?

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    • on July 25, 2013 at 1:26 pm Uncle Elmer

      “WORK – what can’t it do?”

      Increase the girth or depth of your penis.

      [CH: I once knew of a guy who claimed to hang a small weight from his dick. He told people who asked that it added an inch to his timber.]

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      • Nor can it increase your height. Yet women are quick to reject suitors on something they cannot change.

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      • Variation on trollish “women only go for looks /money .”

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      • on July 25, 2013 at 9:29 pm RafterManFMJ

        Who care!? Blah blah blah to short. Another shit test.

        Have.u.learned.nothing?

        Bitch sez u 2 short ? Fuk dat and move on… Fuk you beta bitch UB da prize! Ho can’t re late?

        Sumting Ron?

        Move on!!!!

        Pussy is like pork bellies (bacon) or orange juice. It’s all good once your in it (no? Ever pull out mid stroke and say, meh, I’m going home?) and as such it’s a commodity.

        LoL u worry about height. Bitch blows u out cause you only 5 1? Move on and get a job in the circus.

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      • “CH: I once knew of a guy who claimed to hang a small weight from his dick. He told people who asked that it added an inch to his timber.”

        Which left him with a 1″ longer pencil dick rather than a stout sausage. Maybe he thinks he wins.

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      • I once “knew” “a” “guy” who stuck an air pump in his urethra, baked out of his mind after a Looney Toons marathon. That trip to the ER was pretty embarrassing for me I mean him.

        Meep meep!

        [CH: You keep weird company.]

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      • on July 26, 2013 at 10:41 am Art Vandelay

        “Does your dick even lift?”

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    • Spot on.

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  4. Two comments:

    1 – There is a difference between being an introvert comfortable in his own skin and being a moody, self-conscious dweeb. I have never seen evidence that the former makes anyone unhappy (or less happy) or that it inhibits his game. But a lot of introverts do fall into the latter category, which only serves to lend false credence to the myth that extroverts are happier and more socially successful. JMHO.

    2 – I do agree that silence can be golden, but I also agree that having women think (initially) that you’re a bit of a silly weirdo can ultimately run in your favor if you can convince them that you’re 100% committed to who you are. If you can survive the endless shit-testing, the rewards are sweet.

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  5. on July 25, 2013 at 1:34 pm Uncle Elmer

    “He told people who asked that it added an inch to his timber.”

    If you are a Euro-man, merely trimming your pubes has the same effect.

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  6. I get this all the time. I’m not good at dealing with it either, which makes me go from shy girl to creepy girl. Like when I am in the steam room at the gym, and I end up staring straight into a girl’s vag and then she catches me and has this look on her face like “srsly?” I freeze, not knowing what to say, and I feel like she is cringing in her heart. Feeling like the creepy lecher who doesn’t know how to communicate yourself out of a bind is sucky.

    Hearts, I am comforted to know that even you have faced this problem at times. I wish I could emanate aloof confident vibes too.

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    • on July 25, 2013 at 1:40 pm Uncle Elmer

      You are afriad of success. In porn flicks that is the moment when you initiate the massage…(cue 1971 jazz organ)…

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    • When you are (like me) a naturally altruistic, hopelessly romantic, pedastalizing beta provider type it goes against your nature and takes a lot of practice. So WORK AT it. And remember that if you scratch that aloof confident guy you might find a real sweetheart like me!

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    • “I end up staring straight into a girl’s vag and then she catches me and has this look on her face like “srsly?”

      Oh my gosh fem how I just laughed….
      I don’t know if it was intended to be funny.. but I can just imagine it.
      I’ve stared at women’s breasts by mistake.. I couldn’t really miss them because they were all on display. and then when caught I felt so embarrassed .But seriously, some things are difficult not to miss.
      How can women put everything on display and then complain that people look? It really baffles me.
      Of course in the steam room it’s different.. your supposed to be naked, I think I’d just make a conscious effort to keep my eyes elsewhere.

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      • on July 25, 2013 at 2:22 pm Peregrine John

        Displays are for viewing. If the one making the display complains, they’re an idiot. Or a manipulative idiot. Or a manipulative idiot with serious cognitive dissonance issues.

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      • I’m glad you laughed. I meant it to be funny 🙂

        I’m soooo bad at not staring in the locker room or steam room.

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    • “She who flirts with furburgers should look to it that she herself does not become a furburger. And when you gaze long into a vag the vag also gazes into you.”

      Beyond Good and Evil, Aphorism 146

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    • on July 25, 2013 at 3:56 pm Libertardian

      Just tell her she has a beautiful vagina. If, after that, she doesn’t offer to let you pet it, then to hell with her – some people just have no manners.

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    • When I stare into a girl’s vag…I’m making the assessment if I yell into it, I’ll hear an echo.

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    • on July 25, 2013 at 9:35 pm RafterManFMJ

      What u need to make you more socially graceful in my dick rhythmically slapping you in your face.

      Sated, knowing your place in this world nominally by my side you’ll be able to look the steam woman directly in her face and ignore the yellowed steam yeastiness gysering betwixt her fallow thighs.

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  7. what do you say to the woman in these scenarios? an 9 is giving you double takes at a cafe in line while standing next to you. The 8 is twirling her hair sitting next to you in library? stone walled face isn’t going to close the deal in these scenarios. they end up leaving and nothing happens. What do you say or do after you’ve gotten clear IOIs?

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    • I wasn’t too good at these scenarios until recently. I learned to just say whatever comes to mind, without deliberating over it or feeling self-conscious about it. JUST SAY SOMETHING. Get the wheels of conversation rolling. The mere fact that you did sets you apart from other guys.

      Once you train your mind to start responding this way it will become easier to engage girls in these situations (or anybody in any social situation really).

      My day game still sucks, so that’s all I really have to offer.

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    • on July 25, 2013 at 2:20 pm Zombie Shane

      > “what do you say to the woman in these scenarios?… What do you say or do after you’ve gotten clear IOIs?”

      Dude, this is kinda my problem with “faking it”.

      At some point, traits like “clever” are gonna be pretty tough to fake.

      On the other hand, you don’t wanna waste an uber-clever Monty-Python-level side-splitter [which might work on a really smart IQ 130s-ish law student or med student or MBA student] if your “9” or “10” is just an IQ 110 nanny or LPN or legal secretary.

      So in addition to “know thyself”, you also need to “know thy prey” – if, say, you blurt out something about Snooky’s pregnancy, then should you adopt a tone of voice of sympathy for Snooky’s plight, or a tone of voice of outright disgust at Snooky’s vulgarity?

      And then ask yourself how you might completely change your strategy if, say, the object of your snark were Kate Middleton rather than Snooky.

      But don’t kid yourself – judging up a chick in a few tenths of a second can be really tough, and it’s entirely possible that your wisecrack is gonna fall flat like a limp wet noodle.

      So just keep reminding yourself: Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

      And whatever you say to her, speak in a deep sonorous unflinching unhesitating voice of CONFIDENCE.

      Which is something that you can actually fake.

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      • on July 25, 2013 at 2:35 pm Zombie Shane

        judging up = sizing up

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      • This is probably an old one, but a guy hit on me in the library once by coming up to me and saying, “please stop staring at me, it’s embarrassing.” Sure, I’d seen him and checked him out when I walked in– obviously he caught me– but I think this could work even if you don’t catch the girl looking… if said in a funny, confident way.

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      • That might’ve been me. I use lines like that all the time. My favorite go-to (useful for any situation): “Take a picture, it’ll last longer!” Sometimes the girl doesn’t get it, in which case I change the subject. But when they do get it, magic happens.

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      • The picture line is waaaaay cockier I think. I haven’t gotten that one so I must not be hot enough for the really big negs. Hm.

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      • Amy, did you know it was a “neg” when he said it? It has happened to me, but I just thought the man was being really rude.

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      • EOF, I think of a “neg” as flirtatious teasing. So yes, I knew it was a neg and not the guy being genuinely annoyed that I looked at him. And I knew that any guy who comes up to a girl in that situation is doing it because he’s interested… there’s just no other reason for him to bother. It’s bold and I like bold (as long as it’s not disrespectful).

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    • what do you say to the woman in these scenarios? an 9 is giving you double takes at a cafe in line while standing next to you. The 8 is twirling her hair sitting next to you in library?

      Have you had conversations with human beings before?

      Zen koan: Master Unmon says, the more you specialize responses for top-of-the-scale women, the more you take yourself out of the game.

      Deep breath. Quick Hail Mary (no sign of the cross). Then …

      “Hello.”

      Keep what little powder of cleverness you have dry for after you have established at least a minimal rapport. Blowing your wad on the opener, especially over a girl who has already wordlessly opened it for you, is premature ejocularity.

      Matt

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    • Phil Connors game. I have used the sit behind you in high school English class line before for fun.

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  8. The strategic “Damn” has worked well for me. That one word can have many different meanings depending on volume and tone of voice and the context, as demonstrated by the master:

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  9. Note that this post is an adjunct to the “just say something” post, and is intended for those times when you’re not expecting a girl to talk to you, rather than for those times when you have to approach and need to make the first move.

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    • post for first move?

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      • The archives are filled to brimming. If you’re making the first move, anything is better than nothing. “Hey, you’ve got the best fake smile in this whole place.” That should get a convo going. Today’s post was advice for situations when a girl opens you, or a girl says something unexpected during a getting-to-know-each-other conversation which you don’t know how to reply to in an interesting way.

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  10. on July 25, 2013 at 2:04 pm The Spirit Within

    I read this post ten minutes ago but waited until now to respond.

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  11. I agree 100%. Silence and a knowing look is better than stumbling out something awkward and reactive.

    On introverts:
    http://yareallyarchive.com/search/?q=introverts

    “far from being a necessary punishment, socializing can actually lift the moods of you introverts.”

    One of my fav quotes on this is from Mystery: “A guy asked me “how do I get into a good state for going to a party?” and I told him “the point of a party is to PUT YOU in a good state.””

    Tyler talks about this a lot too…clubs are supposed to be fun and relax your stress from working all week and pump you full of good emotions. They’re not designed to intimidate you (except some high-end exclusive places lol)…they’re designed to be a big playground of FUN. When you walk into a club and you’re out of state, let the club do what it’s DESIGNED to do and let it take over, get sucked into the vibe and the energy and use THAT to fuel your experiments in extroversion:

    Socializing should be FUN, not work. If it feels like work to you, that outlook/mentality is the first thing you should focus on fixing before worrying about how to get a phone number or when to neg:

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    • Yeah, this isn’t really new news. Your brain follows what your body leads with just as much as the other way around. Friend of mine who’s into psychology explained it all to me one time, with historical references and crap, but that’s really what it comes down to. Or as he puts it, “You’re not faking it til you make it, you’re making it til it’s made.”

      Plus, it works. I learned to do it in high school. Shocked the fuck out of me when it worked, but I never argue with success.

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    • You need to get FUCKING PUMPED! You think Ric Flare can calm down after doing a fucking promo? HELL NO HE CAN’T! He goes back stage, does 10 lines of coke and runs through walls until he finds himself in studio 54, THEN HE SHUTS THE PLACE DOWN! woOOOOOOOO!

      – Friedrich Nietzsche
      The Dawn, 1881

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    • I read that book “quiet” on introverts. The problem is that introverts have to be awesome in order to compete with extroverts in a lot of situations. Being awesome is hard. Just fake the extroversion.

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  12. I suppose this doesn’t work for women caught in a shy moment if she likes a man, it would probably just come across as rude.
    Sometimes men intuitively know if the woman is in fact just shy though, and has “guy freeze”. Men seem to pick up on that and ask why you are so shy.

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    • on July 25, 2013 at 2:27 pm Zombie Shane

      Jesus H Christ, EOF, if those really are real pictures of you, and if you really are the person whom you pretend to be on this forum, then get your ass over here to a “Red” location within the USA and you’ll have 50 or 100 marriage proposals within a month.

      Red State dudes over here would kill for a woman like you.

      And why the fuck are you worried about being shy?!?

      Shyness just adds to the allure.

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      • Shane that is so lovely.

        [CH: “You’re such a nice guy!”]

        Thank you so much for the compliment

        [“Thank you so much for the pedestal.”]

        I am very unnoticed because I normally stay in the house and do house things and charity work, so I don’t receive often compliments like that.

        [Damsel in distress game.]

        But I’ve got a new job now woohooo so I will be moving to another country in the next 2 months. 😀

        [F-close status: Negatory.

        I kid because I love!]

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      • on July 25, 2013 at 2:41 pm Zombie Shane

        > “I normally stay in the house and do house things”

        Now you do understand basic mammalian biology, right?

        Especially that it’s gonna be impossible for you to have children unless you get out of the house and meet THE MALE OF THE SPECIES, right?

        In the flesh, right?

        [CH: Dude… challenge game. Push, then pull.]

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      • I know.
        But I have had many other things going on. I had obligations.
        And I am young still. But now is the time I must marry and start to have babies.
        I am scared of course, because I have to go out to work, and so long now I have worked from home, so I’m really stepping out of my comfort zone.I don’t have immediate family left in this country so it’s only nostalgia keeping me here right now. I am the youngest of 5 daughters, they have all moved on and married.
        I know I will not move on also unless I do the same. so I will.. in the flesh.

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      • Lol modern girl thinks 29 is young. Olzzzlolzz

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      • I’d potentially marry you bu I’m a Turk, so. 😀

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      • It wouldn’t be a Turk’s first invasion of Cyprus.

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      • First? They are still here. many of our Churches are now mosques

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      • Man up and kick out those heathen worshipers of the crescent moon already.

        I have a great Cypriot friend whose mom and dad came over on the boat. He’s probably the most instinctively magnanimous person I know.

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      • “It wouldn’t be a Turk’s first invasion of Cyprus.”

        *rimshot*

        Fun fact: Turks invading them was a reaction to Greeks junta going all Enosis on Cyprus. Can’t possibly criticize them for that. The ONLY thing they could potentially bitch about is them STAYING on there.

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      • Don’t sell yourself short, in addition to your domestic activities and your charity work, you do find time to post sexy pictures of yourself on a PUA website.

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      • lol. my pictures are sexy? I didn’t intend them to be.

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      • but yes, thankfully I do have free time. I am not always busy, my life is not hectic.

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      • Oh you coy little minx. “Mercy me, are my long legs distracting you, sir? I am so embarrassed, tee hee.”

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      • No they aren’t sexy. I suggest you keep practicing.

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      • To look sexy is not what I want. It’s not a good look to look sexy for every man. A woman should only present herself in that way to her husband.
        I don’t like to be told I look sexy, it gives the wrong impression of me. Better to be told you look cute or pretty if being complimented on physical appearance.

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      • “I don’t like to be told I look sexy, it gives the wrong impression of me.”

        Didn’t you read…I said they weren’t.

        And why did you think I told you to practice…perhaps I’m your future husband and you don’t know it yet? I never said anything about posting them to the public.

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      • Oh, Lara, lol 🙂 Will you be moving to the U.S., Embracing? The gentlemen would like to know.

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      • Nope Kate, not US. 🙂
        Nothing is concrete yet so I will not say which country yet as I am not 100% if I will go through with it. The offer for the job is there.
        Plus if I say which country I’m sure everybody on here will think I’m crazy.
        But I’ll be sure to let you all know when I decide.

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      • To the below, not sure why it didn’t post. I believe EYF said she was Cypriot in an earlier post, and judging by the “everyone would think I am crazy”, I assume you are moving to Greece for work. Can’t wait to see THAT family album in fifteen years, it will be like Princess Peach and Luigi, and all their mustachioed children.

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      • “Can’t wait to see THAT family album in fifteen years, it will be like Princess Peach and Luigi, and all their mustachioed children.”

        LOL hahahahahaha. this is hilarious. thank you for the laugh

        and no not Greece. that would be truly crazy, there’s no work there. not Europe.

        plus not all greeks have mustaches.

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      • I went to Greece when I was a younger buck, and everyone had mustaches. Even the men.

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      • Uma Thurman, meet Janeane Garafolo.

        ps I’d do both of you. That’s a high honor I don’t toss around lightly.

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      • Sadly for me, I was not included in this high honor. Alas, I remain merely light to toss around.

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      • *eyebrow raise*

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      • thats a nuclear barb

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      • And why the fuck are you worried about being shy?!?

        Shyness just adds to the allure.

        I hate shy girls.

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    • Right, I think all we have to do is smile and look interested. Aloof silence and/or raised eyebrows would signal bitchy disinterest.

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  13. 2 thoughts:

    1.) From some limited daygame it seems it’s more important how you are when you say something than what you say.

    2.) Roosh will tell ya to do the elder talk “Is that a good computer you’re using ?”

    3.) I remember one of Mystery’s lines he reflexively spit out to Style’s girlfriend (the hot musician who played with HOLE & one he stuck with for awhile) as she arrived in the Hollywood Lair they were staying at and he was in his bathrobe and slippers “You always go out dressed like that ?”. The point is that he was obviously taken aback, caught by suprisie by a beauty arriving in the morning at his house, and he had something sassy, provacative a little neg, ready to say, a little grenade he carried on his belt at all times…

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  14. I guess it depends on why you’re there. If you want to get laid in that particular set, then ya…you probably are best served by taking the time to pause. But, if you’re trying to hone the value-build skill set (which involves becoming wittier, funnier, and general awesomeness)….say anything is way better IMHO.

    Ya, at first you’ll just say faggy shit. I started off months ago just saying whatever I was feeling in set when I couldn’t think of anything to say. And ya, it was terrible. I mean, the evolution of how I respond to ‘you’re short’ shit testing I think is evidence….

    ‘Ya you’re short’

    Original: (ignore/say nothing/raise brow/keep plowing)

    ‘You’re short’

    Feelz: Ya, that’s true (gay, just acknowledging it…even if plowing)

    ‘You’re short’

    Better: Nah, I’m just really far away.

    ‘You’re short’

    Recent: ‘Well I’ll have you know that I just recently had plastic surgery — I used to be 2 feet five inches tall — and now I’m over double that. So I’m on top of the world right now, and you’re ruining it….(look at heels) nice stilts, btw.’

    ^ Response was the Little Boy to the Shit Test’s Hiroshima.

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  15. Can I get the full Kate Engagement story ?

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    • Lifetime Movie Network has purchased the rights. You’ll have to wait for the People photo exclusive for a taste, it’s under contractual embargo until next Father’s Day.

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  16. Oh hail yeah

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  17. There is nothing better than when an introvert says something so awesome…it renders her speechless.

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  18. I used to be a Whitewater rafting guide and am quite introverted. This can be tough, but through experience I learned that as a guide in dangerous situation, you have to take control of the group from the start. You want them to have confidence in you and also do what you tell them to do.

    Many elements of game helped me long before I ever learned anything about it.

    First, I had to at least pretend to be outgoing and socially confident even if I didn’t really feel it. Being assertive in introducing myself and learning the names of the clients (focusing on the cute women, naturally, but also on the more alpha-acting males–it’s important to be able to call them out when they screw up or you need to give a command).

    Second, it was always important to establish my “alpha-ness” in those groups, because I was in fact the guy in charge of their safety and it was important that if the shit hit the fan there would be no question of them doing my bidding. Instead of telling them of my experience and training, I just let my ability to handle the boat and the clients speak for itself. Also, in my instructions and safety briefings I never left any doubt who was in control.

    Occasionally, I’d get some “macho” gym-rat who felt the need to prove how tough he was, it was usually way too easy to let them fail and embarrass themselves in front of their women.

    Once in a while I would get genuine tough guys on my trips and then I’d always give credit where it was due, without fawning on them. You gotta respect the guys who earn it and always try to learn from them.

    What has amazed me during and since those times is how what was faking at first just became my natural approach. It is now so much easier and I feel so much more confident.

    I’m still an introvert, but with a new difference: today, when I actually desire to meet and talk to people I feel much more at ease doing it and don’t come off as awkward.

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  19. When this happens to me, I usually laugh and admit I lost my train of thought. I’ve never had a girl put me on blast, they usually laugh and admit they think that it cute when a guy does that.

    Again, most guys can’t/won’t use self-deprecation. But I’ve never had it fail me.

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    • yeah but thats because your game is locked down. i bet yareally can relate too, i know i can.

      women auto eject on me (until i figured out how to dq myself ENOUGH and OFTEN), but never blow me out. it’s weird because once your tight, it’s all beta game and not failing a shit test by overgaming, not being a pussy.

      being sigma/alpha whatever does give you a break to settle into beta game.

      like your blog.panty game was a good contribution.

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  20. “CH gets a lot of mail from self-professed introverts who say that game is tough for them because they don’t energize like extroverts do by socializing with lots of people.”

    to all the introverts out there (myself included) – fucking deal with it. you are, quite literally, whatever you want to be. if you’re a looser right now, that’s because you choose to be one. self flagellation sucks so fucking stop it, what’s worse you’re most likely doing it because of some completely non legit self delusion. if anyone can get self deluded it’s the introverted intuitive types (http://www.pokerstrategy.com/glossary/Levelling_2040/ texas holdem has wonderful real life analogies, do yourself a favor and learn how to play it, also moar fish for me lol). get out and do shit, reading about it is way too slow and inefficient.

    been there done that

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  21. […] Babe Freeze  Home  Babe Freeze […]

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  22. Whorefinder has a Babe Freeze well stocked with dismembered female body parts, Jack the Ripper Rape.

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  23. What about burping as a response?

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  24. on July 25, 2013 at 9:08 pm Flashing Lights

    I watched a fairly natural alpha friend of mine in situations when we would go out. I always considered him a really funny guy, always having a good quip for the situation, that was just right for the ladies.

    I actually watched his interactions, and observed the number of times he COULD have said something vs the number of times he DID say something.

    I was shocked because he actually said things FAR LESS than he had the opportunity to. But, since he picked his battles, saying things when he KNEW he had a good line, he seemed like a witty kind of guy.

    What did he do the other times? Interestingly, he had this “look” he would give people. He’d cross his arms, lean his weight back on one leg, and just give people this “look”. It would range from studying you, to not believing you said what you said, to thinking over what you said as if not quite sure how to respond… He’d put you on the spot and make YOU feel awkward with whatever it was you just said…

    Then the conversation would flow on.

    He said nothing, and gave a “look” FAR more often than he would say something witty or well timed.

    So… food for thought.

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    • I’ve seen Tom Cruise do a look like that a lot in movies. I find it really interesting. It’s slight-smile + slight surprise + curiousity + challenge/doubt.

      It’s like your showing you’re interested, but want them to prove they’re serious about what they’re saying.

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    • Good observation. I’ve noticed this being done to me and I’ve started adapting it as well since I’m not yet socially adept. It’s fun and face-saving to act like one’s comment/joke was not quite up to your own standards when in reality you’re just covering up your own lack of a witty response.

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    • Watched the first ten minutes and nothing remotely intelligent was uttered by Mr. Beta and the three post-wall feminists. The editor of Playgirl is an expert on what women want? That must be why her magazine is such a tremendous success!

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      • I understand because the commentary was not as sharp/concise,eloquent, or enertaining as we’ve come to enjoy in our beloved Chateau. It’s mixed in with a lot of blah blah blah.

        Not that all of this is new but some of it is to me anyway especially #4

        1.) 18:00 Women are turned on by strangers more than men they know
        2.) 8:30: Women’s behaviour and what they say they want is conditioned much more by society than by their natural desires. Women in speed dating checked the ‘i want a date box’ less when men approached them than when the tables were turned and they were instructed men. Reminds me of Rion Williams contention that you need to go to Brazil and Africa to see women more in their natural state (i.e. not conditioned as much by society). Until you have been to Brazil and been stared down by a beautiful woman (not a prostitute) you have not lived
        3.) More sex increases desire
        4.) 4:30: “something about the psyche of women that responds really powerfully to desire coming a woman’s way”. One of the primary stimulants for women’s desire is intensely expressed desire on the part of the man (i.e. makes them feel desirable). This reminds me of an extreme sex addict who commented “no woman could resist me” and he was not good looking and simply had a mattress in the back of his van so he always had a place to go quickly. The lesson here ? Be relentless
        5.) 16:35: Rape fantasy is a hugely commmon and consistent fantasy among women. Of course we here at Chateau are not surprised as we know that the incidence of orgasm during rape is surprisingly high.

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      • I already knew everything you mentioned. In fact, I’ve read most of the relevant studies in their entirety. I suppose if you’re new to this stuff, the video could be helpful, but there are better sources out there. A Billion Wicked Thoughts is a good one. Or just read CH.

        The speed dating discovery is way overblown. What they found was, both genders accept more offers when they approach than when they are approached. But men accept more when they do the approaching than women accept when they approach, so it’s not like the difference is totally reversed. And the effects we’re talking about aren’t that large to begin with. One explanation that has been put forward is that when people see other members of their sex approaching an opposite sex target, they subconsciously view that target as more desirable (i.e. they’re mimicking the preferences of others). Sounds plausible to me, though there could be something else going on.

        Regardless, this is supposed to disprove the notion that women are generally more “choosy” than men. I never bought that idea to begin with. They are drastically more choosy when it comes to casual sex, but as far as dating goes, why should they be any more choosy, on average, then men? (Note: I do think there are differences at different ages, but the direction changes.) They have to compete for long term mates just like men do. Be too choosy and you’ll end up choosing between cats at the pet store.

        In fact, in experiments where men and women approach random opposite sex targets on the street and ask them for either a date or sex, men and women both accept dates at about the same rate. Of course, when it comes to sex, most men accept the offer while women never do.

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  25. Easy to say, rather hard to do, particularly if you lack experience.
    BUT
    The hotter the chick, the more “normal” you should treat her, in a relaxed, confident, slightly amused tone and don’t ask too many questions; make statements, and basically ingore her looks as much as you can.
    Every other guy that day and the day before ad infinitum has treated her like she is something special because she was born hot and has only focussed on her hotness.
    The exception is hot but dumb.
    The dumber she is, the more direct and caveman like you can be.
    Hot but dumb has a more direct nerve pathway from the hindbrain to the gina tingles.

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  26. I was amused to see this. Employed this strategy just a few days ago.

    I was reading a book in my apartment when I decided to take a break to do some laundry. Lost in thought and in a spergy state of mind, I grabbed my stuff and headed down to the laundry room. Unexpectedly, my cute neighbor was there removing her things from the dryer. It’s a small, quiet building and I don’t run into the other tenants very often.

    (Backstory: briefly talked to this girl, let’s call her Jane and I’ll be Joe, several weeks prior when we happened to walk into the building together. Less than a one minute conversation, we just introduced ourselves; that was basically it. I didn’t make a move; just acted friendly. Hadn’t seen her since.)

    I walk in, put my stuff down, and almost immediately she makes some remark about the weather. I’m in sperg mode, having just spent several hours reading The 10,000 Year Explosion (check it out), and nothing clever comes to mind, so I decide to simply ignore it. Not even a nod. I pour detergent and start loading my stuff. She makes another insipid comment. I turn and casually look at her, and she’s looking quite bangable in her loose, low cut shirt and short shorts. I turn back to the machine and nonchalantly reply, “Jane, right?”

    “Yeah, and you’re Joe?”

    “Right. Blah blah blah…”

    Friendly banter ensues, then we finish up and go our separate ways. She’s into me, but I decide not to press things then and there. I’m not in the zone and I can mack on her another day. But overall it was a successful interaction. I was primed to kill the tingle, but ended up amplifying it instead.

    So this post is dead on. Not shooting yourself in the foot is two thirds of game.

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    • Since this is the place where pretty little lies come to die: you blew it. You should have gotten her digits and suggested a drink. Don’t rationalize that away the way you did in calling it a successful interaction and saying “I can mack on her another day”.

      I have done the same thing so many times that I cannot count and the first step towards making things happen is realizing how you blow it and stopping that.

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      • Not rationalizing anything. Maybe I didn’t make myself clear; I really wasn’t in the mood to be talking to her. I’m not very good at adjusting my frame of mind on the spot; perhaps you are. My objective was to not screw up. If I was never going to see her again, then I would have gone for broke since there would be nothing to lose. But since that wasn’t the case, I just wanted to end the interaction quickly. I can invite her over for drinks another time; she’s not going anywhere.

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  27. on July 26, 2013 at 3:51 am meatbowling

    I wish I mastered strategic silence, and generally more aloof game, but I’m way too narcissistic to shut my mouth. In situations like that I usually just say stuff like, “I normally have something clever to say, but I’m too lazy right now” and then add something like, “don’t just stand there and look nervous in those high heels, sit down,” which works surprisingly well, even on girls with flat shoes, hell, one time when a girl told me that she didn’t have high heels on, I just said, “I didn’t notice, I was too busy looking at your eyes,” while staring straight at her boobs. She giggled nervously and sat down, we made out shortly after, while she complained that her boyfriend wouldn’t like it, but I didn’t fuck her, she was only sixteen and had to go home and sleep because mummy and daddy didn’t like it when she stayed out too late.

    Aloofness and strategic silence may work well, but my nervous drunk rambles have gotten me laid with good looking girls so many time that I stopped trying copying the game of non-talkers. As I gained more experience I both became more charismatic and got this crazy psychopath vibe, so I don’t have to think about game anymore, it just happens naturally, drink a bottle of vodka and wake up in bed with a beautiful young girl without knowing how I got there. My friend says, “girls sleep with you just to make you shut up,” and there’s some truth to that, because I talk and talk and talk and talk.

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  28. In the 1975 movie Hard Times, Charles Bronson handles Jill Ireland with next level alpha male stoicism so smooth and effortless it should be an educational film.

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  29. This silence treatment can work well sometimes while getting shit tested. However, the more I go out and spew game, the more annoyed I’ve been getting at girls that throw out shit testing over and over again, to the point where if it goes on for more than thirty seconds or a minute, I just roll my eyes and walk away, and go back to hanging out with friends or whatever, because I’m bored out of my mind.

    I find that constant shit testing by a woman kills whatever boner I had for her as I walked over, because that style of talk is so stupid after a while. A little of it can be fun in witty banter mode, but if it continues the more it kills attraction in me and I just get annoyed. I’ve found that girls that produce constant shit tests are the ones that are the most delusional and have massive self-esteem issues (the cray-cray!). Women that constantly talk this way to test men should be avoided at all costs. We talk about “fat shaming”, why don’t we “behavior shame” as well and just tell them to “woman up”, put the big girl pants, and quit acting like a stupid idiot and enjoy the moment of meeting of man!

    I wonder if American women will ever revert back to being feminine, fun, flirty, mysterious, and elusive. If you want the golden age of how American women used to be, check out films from the 40’s and 50’s, the interactions between men and women back then were HOT. They spoke in subtleties, innuendo, invoked mystery and talked with subtext. Oh, how I long for a girl of yesteryear, the ones that truly knew how to flirt, dress, and act. Most American women of today are fat, disgusting, tattooed, and pierced with mentally ill attitudes, and are not even worth engaging with, much less even looking at.

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  30. on July 26, 2013 at 8:54 am needahandle

    wow just wow.

    http://www.upworthy.com/meet-the-wannabe-new-barbie-no-longer-burdened-with-those-unattainable-alien-like-legs-7?g=2&c=ufb1

    while we’re at it, maybe we should let kids read picture books through high school English and stop teaching math above addition and subtraction. strive to be average and start apologizing for being thin.

    even better, skinny people should cover up (don’t want to hurt anybody’s feelings) and fat people should be encouraged to wear revealing clothes. “You’re so brave! That’s TRULY beautiful!” Fuck.

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    • I don’t think that new Barbie is “fat”, but I also don’t see the problem with Barbie’s original figure, which obviously represents the feminine ideal. We can’t all achieve that ideal, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t do our best.

      What really floors me is the ladies’ size inflation in mass market retailers. Five years ago I was one size in most stores, and now I’m two sizes less… and my BMI and body fat percentage has not changed. Small women are being sized out of a lot of these stores. It’s not a good trend.

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      • Yep yep. I am stuck wearing low quality clothes for teenagers from american eagle and forever 21 because I can’t fill out even the petite section of adult women’s clothes. I am short but I am normal for my height, not what would be called skinny. I don’t know what short skinny girls do with themselves.

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      • Interestingly the higher you go up the fashion food chain, the more realistic the sizes are. Because wealthy people tend to be thin, I guess. I do the same thing… shop in juniors…. I am 5’4″ and just a little too tall for most petite clothes. Thank God for H&M.

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      • Lucky you. I’d love to be a petite. I am 5’6 but I look taller because I always wear heels. so with heels I am 5’10. I normally wear dresses, I have a huge problems with jeans, they just sit so low on me because I gain weight in the hip and thigh area., it’s not a good look. Dresses I have no problem with as I like loose cotton, it’s easy to find a size that fits.

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      • I stay away from petites because I don’t want short sons. I’m the shortest son in my own family, see.

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    • It leaves out how the artist said he made the barbie using the average American woman BMI, which is overweight.

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  31. […] Strategic silence. Related: Introverts are happier when acting as extroverts. […]

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  32. Silence has been the key for me on many occasions. Even with my wife, I find the less I say the better.

    Before leaving the U.S., I was quite bemused at the reactions I got from cute girls who would talk to me only to be greeted by a grin and silence. I actually find it quite amusing.

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