No, but the slippery Freudian-Marxists would like people to slip all right. It was a spelling mistake that was great for identifying imbeciles in the not so distant past. The world wide web has probably moved on since.
CH, this is “message” of Christmas thanks and a wish that from my house and my family to you and yours that you have as merry a Christmas in your life as we are having in ours.
I wish to point a thing you have done for me personally.
Often one can “define” an difficult abstraction by determining what it is not. A term such as “happiness” is incredibly difficult to define exactly because it is based on abstractions of abstractions, each in itself is a difficult thing to describe.
So take the sum, the total, of these hundreds of articles over time, articles that each in itself can come across as snarky, negative, cutting, insulting of women, wives, society, the culture. And those articles create a summation of the negative. On in the mind of a reader, it can create this “cloud” of negativity by which the world can be viewed.
But it also can create the reverse, the awareness of the positive, of the good, merely by observing that if a thing, or a situation, or a person, lacks the attributes that are negative, then therefore it must be positive.
So take some idea like “25 signs a woman is a slut”, then combine that with some article listing the detriment, the damage, that a slut can impose on a man and a family. So then when you can look at the woman in your life and see NONE of these things on the list, when you see how she brings none of that detriment into your life, then you can look at her in the positive.
Take these myriad articles about the negative in the attacks on traditionalist culture, the problems the removal of traditionalism is causing society, then when you spot places where traditionalism still exists, even when it is corny, schmaltzy, you can view it as a positive. So my example is to read where Jessica Valenti complained over “having to wrap Christmas presents and how the majority of Christmas work, planning, tasks, and chores fall on women.” Then to come down into the living room, and see my wife dressed in festive Christmas attire, playing some Perry Como Christmas Schmaltz music, humming along, happily wrapping gifts, and delightedly bringing Christmas cheer into our home, well, that’s a quiet positive. And where before, I might have a noted it, this time, I understood what a gift that was in the life of a man and in the family of the woman. I understood those things that only a woman can give and to appreciate the one that gives it.
So the gift you have given me, is this ability to see the good, by knowing the bad, by being able enjoy the positive by understand those things that are negative and if I detect a lack of them, then the situation is not negative. These examples up above are trivial. The I certainly don’t have the space to point out the depth and breadth of the awareness gained from reading every post for two years, following links back into the past, reading those subjects, then going with the places those links offered me to further, deeper reading, to understanding of things from the genetic, the biological, personal, social, cultural, each ring encompassing more and more, out into infinity.
And this Christmas season, this has “jelled” me as a greater understanding, of seeing. And instead of complaining about what I don’t have, the loss of what I did have and now don’t, I can see the real value of those things, those gifts that have been given to me. I know what it like to have floundered, wandered in the wilderness, then to “find my way home” and and to know that it is good by the knowing of what is bad. It is as simple as watching a little girl dancing with delight over receiving some simple “girlish” feminine present, to seeing a church parking full of cars for a Christmas functions, to seeing men and women out and about doing there “Christmas Chores” with love in their hearts for their families, all attempting to reinforce the good in the traditional.
The last time I wrote this, it caused quite a stir in the community. But as I said above, in the knowing of the bad, I know the good. I have a debt for the depth of that “knowing”. And in that “knowing” I can look at my life, my wife, my world today and know I have been one lucky former basement dweller.
A bit late to getting around to reading this, but it’s a great post. The “red pill” perspective is brutally honest and yet very true — I am convinced of that. Yet even though they are an endangered species, there are still some good quality women out there worth having as a wife and mother to your kids. This site has opened my eyes to the reality of how the female mind works, but at the same time I have come to appreciate the woman I have even more. Not to say that the red pill hasn’t upped my LTR game (it has) but it’s also made me thankful I have a good woman.
Merry Christmas Everyone! And a happy belated Chanukah Whiskey Betaman: http://voxday.blogspot.com/2014/11/some-thoughts-on-reading-israeli-history.html#c146069222076883883
”White women fed up with White guys for not being sexy and wanting sexy domination by Muslims/Blacks and babysitting jobs giving moral lectures to Third World immigrants”
Vox Day replies:
”Just because you have homosexual jungle fever doesn’t mean all white women are interested in Black Muslims, Whiskey. Your fascination with a nonexistent fetish says considerably more about you than it does about anything else.”
Man I just saw an Adam Carolla rerun on O’Reilly tonight and he was talking about how he is now persona non grata in Hollyweird because he told them that they need to be responsible for raising their own dadgum children. Dudes like Carolla and Mike Rowe and Kevin Sorbo are teh awesomeness.
Americans are one of the very few cultures where men regularly sit in a ‘figure four’ position. In a lot of places it is considered quite immodest. During WW2, the Gestapo trained their agents to specifically look for people in public places who sat in such away because it was a dead tip off the person was a Yank.
Game principles say women test for dominance and punish non-Dominance. Manspread away — Its a Sh&t test. The manspreading/splaining etc stuff is just women frustrated at non-dominance amplified by (who said this?) the pill, condom, anonymous urban living, rising female income and status. (TM Heartiste).
OT: from a 26-year-old (looks like she’s 40) single writer, editor, and blogger living in New York City.
on settling (for beta post carousel) after one too many terrible dates with tall, emotionally unavailable men (her personal weakness).
“And I could probably be okay if he was just dedicated and tall but remembered to tell me I’m awesome all the time.”
“So my biggest must-haves are actually dedication, commitment, and consistency. (That’s probably because every man I’ve dated has been the opposite of that and it’s now something I won’t compromise on.)”
Every guy she “dated” in her early 20s was not dedicated, not committed and not consistent.
alpha pump and dump checklist.
“Would I date a dude who adored me, had a great job, bought me flowers once a year on my birthday, and made me feel happy—even if he was under six feet tall? Yep.”
beta divorce rape checklist.
women are beyond delusional (this one “writes” for ask men.)
@ch I wanted your thoughts on this and it could be a topic for discussion maybe? Anyways, what are your thoughts on writing beta-ish emails to girls that you had somewhat long asshole/jerk relationships with? You’ve heard me bitch about that one girl a lot I know, but this is the last question I had.
For instance I had a girl (who I was a huuuuge ass to in highschool) write me a letter about how she hated how I treated her so much and that I ignored her but she still considered me her best friend etc etc she loved me (I never wanted to have sex with her never did). this letter she wrote me didn’t do much (I just didn’t care enough and she wasn’t hot enough) but it still got to me a little. Can this work for girls you were assholes to in the past? Like saying that you’ve been super busy with life, wanted to write it earlier but couldn’t, and that she was a very special girl to you etc.
Would this work?
Part of my oneitis right now is being guilty for treating her so bad. Making fun of her slight yet serious medical problems (just the turn-off prick attitude ya know). I think it might help to just do this idk do you have thoughts on this?
“Yes you are right I have that itch for an Ltr or intimate relationship so I guess you could call that needy. IT seemed she basically gave up on it. My congruency was pretty bad and she mentioned Im a jerk a few times throughout. I just didn’t take the next steps in courtships when she gave me green lights cause I have a huge guard up I hot fucked over my ladder relationship (wasn’t red pill aware but now I am). Idk it’s probably not worth it to get involved again also b/c my life is changing so fast at a young age, but I liked the girl compared to others I’ve been with.
Any thoughts?” BR
@Will – as to the immediate girl, just move on. Forget her. You need to get over your issues before you get into any LTR. My advice to you is focus on you and focus on accumulating as much life experience that you can for the next five years. You are coming from a groupthink environment (college fraternity) and most likely a MC/UMC place of privilege and parental reliance. These things will destroy your opportunity for true success.
You need to go out into the world, on your own two feet, and experience it for yourself. Make your way and learn your lessons. You need to get on the path to becoming dynamic, passionate and authentic. If you are NOT currently working post graduation in a top/near top investment firm, consulting firm, accounting firm or law firm (I have different advice for that) I recommend this:
1. If you are living at home, post graduation. Move out ASAP, like this month. If you are receiving any parental support, cut it off. You need to start relying on yourself. It will be hard work but will radically change your mindset. You want to learn these lessons now and not at 30.
2. Travel as much as you can. Try to spend a few significant chunks of time on the road, on your own, like 2 months or more. Interact with as many people as possible, young and old, male and female. Ask them about where they are in life and how they got there. If they are successful at all (whether by talent or financially) get into what they did right and what they did wrong, learn from their experiences.
3. If you need to work, take a job that will accelerate your social skills and self reliance. I recommend bartending, working in a construction job (where something gets built during the project, i.e. a road, a house, a shop, factory etc. something tangible is left when you are done) or commission only sales. Another option is to start your own business. If these can’t be had, maybe a job in a factory or delivery service, something like that.
You want the opportunity to interact with a totally different social spectrum, and learn to still get what you want in that environment. It will be hard, but a few years of this will serve you very well later in life, you will learn how to deal with all manner of people, how to handle difficult situations, how to get things done and how to rely on yourself. You will learn a lot about leadership.
4. Whatever you are interested in and passionate about, develop as a hobby. Really invest in it (time and money), study, practice and get involved in the user community. Extra points if it musical or artistic, but could be anything – cooking, writing, hunting, etc. These kinds of deep interests will begin to form you as a person, and you will be investing yourself in them, and they will be real because they will be totally self generated, you are not just engaging because your peers are all doing it (video games perhaps as an example). A girl you may have for a season, but a passion you will have for a lifetime of pleasure.
You may think taking two or three years to “find yourself” will be a waste but it will pay fantastic dividends. Now you need to do it right, not talking about laying about and partying for three years, don’t waste your time now (that’s why cutting off parental support is important – will change your economics and force action and decision making – and consequences!), focus and apply yourself. So when you are 27 and sitting down in a job interview for a more “career” type of job, or with a potential investor for your own business you will be mature far beyond your years, you will have a solid frame and manner, you will have lots of interesting stories to tell, experiences to draw on and project solidity. In a word you will be authentic.
At this point, assuming you have continued to game as many women as you can in between work and hobbies (and you should with no oneitis) you will be ready to consider an LTR. You will then know a lot about you, you will know a lot about the world, bullshit will be bullshit and you will have a good idea of where you are going. This is massive catnip to women, they don’t need the tangible as much as being able to see and feel the potential. So you can be broke but have an idea and a manner that women will want to hitch themselves to your star. It will no longer be a game. You will BE dynamic, passionate and authentic.
My new manager at the restaurant I work at is a HB7.5. Quirky and quiet. I have upped the flirtation game. I want to do terrible things to her. And no, I don’t care about the consequences. Strategies, gentlemen?
Ah, restaurant chics. So many young, hot ones. And a pretty easy bang. Even if not slutty. Invite to your place and let nature take it’s course. If she’s new to the field and young enough, she may be marriage material. Then get her the hell out of the industry and housewife her up. I know whereof I speak. Cheers.
That’s the key right there. Just be confident [or be really good at faking confidence] and git er done. [Or else fake being nervous and tell her that you need an older more experienced woman like her to show you how “it” works. Or WTFE. Just git er done.]
BONUS TIP: If you want to exercise your Inner Sociopath, then be fucking one of the waitresses at the same time as you’re fucking the manager, and set them at one another’s throats in every manner of cat fight.
No commuter trains in my city. Not getting on a fucking smelly (I assume) bus. But I shall take up the cause at the DMV, doctor’s office or fucking HR power point presentations. And if called out by the worthless HR cunt, will say, ‘My legs are too long so it’s this or standing in the back. I can’t focus in these meetings unless I’m comfortable. Lots of important info that must be absorbed.’ Something along those lines. Open to suggestions. Cheers, gentlemen.
> “And if called out by the worthless HR cunt, will say,”
No, don’t make excuses – it’s the wrong frame of mind – it’s tantamount to apologizing and we NEVER APOLOGIZE. Have a stock set of quick on-the-fly reframes. Nice Guy: “That scent you’re wearing – is it Dior or Chanel?” Jerkface Neg: “That scent you’re wearing – is it Revlon or Liz Taylor?” Nice Guy/Jerkface: “Hey I was walking through the mall the other day and I saw a blouse just like that at Nordstrom/JCPenney.” Nice/Jerk: “Those pumps – are they Valentino/Jessica Simpson?” Nice/Jerk: “Loved that email you sent about the Christmas drive for the Homeless Shelter/Loved that email on Wednesday where you consistently misspelled it’s contraction as eye tea ess and its possessive as eye tea apostrophe ess.”
There’s a time and place for the Hard Neg [tacitly accusing her of shopping at Walmart or at JCPenney] and there’s a time and place for the kind warm-hearted “you can trust me – I know women and I know how to give them lots and lots of orgasms” reassuring compliment [tacitly implying that she smells really really nice]. You’ll have to be the judge of that – often you’ll judge wrong – but no sweat, because there are lots of fish in the sea.
Oh boy, when I read Christmas cheer, I really thought you wanted to just say Happy Christmas!! Haha. Well, definitely the girl in the reflection knows the smiling gentleman, that’s for sure. Say what you want about his incredibly tight jeans, he’s smiling anyway!
A this time of year, amid the joy and the humor, please spare a thought for those less fortunate around you…