Another Game Concept Confirmed: The Allure Of Male Choice

Camelot007 writes:

I believe there is no better explanation of what women need than in this excerpt:

“And within a committed relationship, the crucial stimulus of being desired decreases considerably, not only because the woman’s partner loses a degree of interest but also, more important, because the woman feels that her partner is trapped, that a choice — the choosing of her — is no longer being carried out.”

It comes from an article titled “What Do Women Want” written by Daniel Bergner and is backed by research done at Queen’s University in Ontario Canada.

The stability of a long term relationship rests mostly on the happiness of the woman. Men in lackluster LTRs are perfectly happy keeping the thing sputtering along if they are getting their sexual needs met on the sly with mistresses. But women are a different beast entirely in this matter; if a woman feels turned off or egregiously neglected by her lover, she will prefer to jettison the relationship altogether and start fresh (as fresh as an aging woman can start) rather than share her intimacy with multiple men concurrently.

And so when a man loses interest in his partner the LTR or marriage is in less trouble than when the woman loses interest in her partner. Married men would be wise to recognize this insidious imbalance in the sexual force and behave accordingly if they don’t want to get the barrel end of the divorce theft industry pointed squarely at their nads. You may not like it, but under the restrictions imposed by the corrupt state of modern marriage the onus is on men to keep their wives happy, rather than the other way around. (Yet another reason to skip out on marriage in favor of LTRs or cohabitation.)

What this research implies is that if you want to sustain the hot sex in an LTR for longer than the first few months, and by extension reduce the odds that your girlfriend will cheat or generally behave like a bitch, you need to frequently qualify her. Qualifying a woman makes her feel like she has to continue working for your affection, and thus overcomes the naturally emergent impediment common to all LTRs of anhedonic emasculation. She wants to know she has earned your interest, for only when this final piece of the puzzle is in place will you remain the mortal god she yearns to idolize.

In the turbulent bazaar of the sexual market, perception is everything. No matter how deftly a wife or long term girlfriend is able to logically convince herself that her partner’s SMV is no lower than when they first met, her altered perception of his value that accompanies LTR confinement and complacency will inevitably corrode her feelings of lust. Game can remedy this dissolution by instilling in her a renewed appreciation for her man’s desirability. A healthy reminder, if you will.

A woman loves to feel that the man she is with has illimitable choice among competitor women. A man with sexual choice is a desirable man, for he is preselected by women and will pass on his preselected genes to her sons. A man without choice in women — and, however wrongly, such can seem the case to a woman hitched to a man in a familiarizing and deballing monogamous LTR — is an undesirable man, for why should she love a man whom no other woman would deign to love? She begins to question not only whether he still finds her attractive, but more importantly whether he is himself still attractive to other women and is choosing her among a smorgasbord of pussy options. The disenchantment spiral unwinds.

A man “trapped” in an LTR can avoid, or at least temper, the disenchantment spiral by employing various game methods designed to validate his woman’s hypergamous need to be with a higher status man than herself:

1. He can instill dread.

For example, kill complacency dead by calling her from a location where girls’ screeching voices can be heard in the background.

2. He can screen her like he did when they first met.

“It’s important to me that a woman knows how to do the reverse spider monkey hanging from a pull-up bar.”

3. He can provoke competition anxiety.

“Your friend Carrie looks like she’s been hitting the yoga classes a lot. A man can tell.”

4. He can helpfully remind her of his options.

To wit: Don’t look away in misguided appeasement when that sexy waitress tosses you a flirtatious glance under your GF’s/wife’s nose. Instead, revel in the moment. Grin and wink back at her. Make it obvious that you could get a new woman in a day if your lover was to leave you.

5. He can cheat.

This is the trepanation of reviving a flagging relationship. Use with caution. Fact is, when you cheat on a woman her perception of your sexual market value skyrockets.

A woman will fight with the last fiber of her being against the encroaching discomfort that she is being settled for by a man with a lack of options. Every marriage and LTR, left to their own inertial devices, encourages this encroachment. Do her, and yourself, a favor: game the shit out of her til death, or the wall, do you part.





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  1. Damn! Oh well, second!

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  2. Good advice.

    Few women accept it, and even fewer will admit it, but they LOVE LOVE LOVE a man who will walk if she doesn’t live up to his standards.

    If a girl lets you down somehow, LET HER KNOW. Only beta males grin and bear it. An alpha male will tell his woman what’s up.

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  3. Wow! A post I 100% agree with. Good job. No leaps in logic for once.

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  4. You guys out there in your teens and twenties, thinking about marriage and the life you intend to build.

    Read this post five times. Print it out and return to it annually for a tune-up. It is the single best bit of marital advice I have encountered in all my decades. It tracks what I see in multi-decade marriages where the gal is still ferocious about keeping her man.

    Trust your Uncle Heartiste on this one. This bit of advice used to be passed on from father to son, back when fathers still existed. Now you guys get treacly nonsense from delusional people about how to sustain a marriage.

    All lies. Mainly told to themselves, but also foisted on you.

    Read heartiste. Seriously.

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  5. Great to see you made a post on this. Knowing this is key to LTRs IMO.

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  6. “game the shit out of her til death, or the wall, do you part.”
    game the shit out of her til your death or menopause, and then you will part.

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    • Trade her in at 40 for two 20s.

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      • That’s downright cruel. How can you say something like that?
        Wait until 45, and then trade her for two 22.5.

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      • Trade her in at 36 for two 18’s.

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      • Just trade her, right before she trades you. There will be signs and portents. Divide her age by 2 to get your 2-for-1 replacements.

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      • And if Asians don’t do it for you, go to some other spot on the globe where you have relative advantage and where large age gaps are possible. Eastern Europe, for example.

        But the idea of promoting breaking the marriage contract, especially with younger girls enrages some men.

        As I’ve mentioned many times, (and I’m not sure if others ever have), there is a sexual strategy that aligns with the female agenda. We can pejoratively call it the mangina, or beta provider strategy, or without the hate just label it as a socialy concerned grouping of brothers in arms. These guys agree and comply with the female desire to be taken care of past their prime mating years, in return for lifetime exclusive sexual access.

        The socialist men of low socio-sexual score have dna that gives them two extra moral senses – the respect for purity, and the respect for authority. The innately deeply FEEL that their social contract is RIGHT. They litterally war with the libertines and bohemians.

        This is more than an emotional meme war. Its a war of sexual castes.

        But what they don’t realize, or refuse to realize, or don’t want to realize, is that the war is over. They lost.

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      • on August 20, 2011 at 10:18 pm old guy, lower case

        Agree, except, not sure the war is over, think it may just be beginning.

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      • I find it educational to see the level of emotion and hampstering brought out on this blog over the war.

        Nupi, for instance, is unaware of why he finds me a poor reflection on other westerners. His “reasons” why deconstruct themselves by just mentioning them back to him. His forest of reasons disappears after each tree he presents is one by one shown to be but a shadow of a shrubbery.

        There is a reason why he has a negative emotional reaction to my dating lifestyle, but he does not realize that he does not know what it is.

        Many people here are also inherently socially conservative, and their hampsters are scrambling to explain their distaste for my dating lifestyle.

        Anon even recently got so emotional that he threatened me to shut up or else he’ll search me out in real life!

        He he he.

        A nerve.

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      • I think you’re delirious you stupid old cunt. People on here see you for what you are, a borderline pedophile sex tourist.

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      • I wish I had your self-delusion. Honestly, my life would be so much easier. Ignorance is bliss and all that, after all.

        To be more specific: A guy that flat out admits he is role-playing with girls that take the role of the 13 year old rape victim claims others are wrong for claiming he reflect bad on them? no further questions, my honor.

        And as explained elsewhere, I am anything but socially conservative. As far as I am concerned, everyone should be able to marry everyone and the only reason why I am against gays adopting children is because I know how cruel children are, not because I believe gays would be bad parents (they would probably be above average parents, having decided to be a parent in a conscious decision, if anything)

        | There is a reason why he has a negative emotional reaction to my dating
        | lifestyle, but he does not realize that he does not know what it is.

        Then pray enlighten me.

        The fact that you do not see why I believe you reflect badly on us Westerners in Asia speaks volume to anyone but you (and that sock puppet of yours).

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      • Nupi,no sock puppet here. I’ve no referential frame re SE Asian chicks, but chinese, korean, japanese chicks above 6 you have to game. The notion that no game required is ludicrous. Try not to and you hang out to dry. Once again, go back and search for Gorby’s (Gorbachev) specifics.

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      • Cadnerd: personal experience indicates otherwise. Up to at least 8s no game needed, none at all. Asking is good enough and sometimes even that is optional. Oh and that includes fighting over who gets the privilege of paying for the pretty fucking expensive drinks.

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      • If asking is all that’s needed for you, then you are going for low hanging fruit.

        Not all Asians are low hanging fruit. Not even all Asian 6s are low hanging fruit.

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      • Nupi, are you less than 35 yo? Then you may be right and I’d accept your personal experience.

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      • That says more about you then the Asians: I’ve had 7s and 8s hit on me (Asian 9s are even more rare than caucasian ones so thats very unlikely to happen no matter what), for but various reasons I did not go for it at the time. And no, that reaction is not all that uncommon, either.

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      • And Nupi, if no game is required to fuck Asians, then why is money required? Why are all relationships based on finances only, if women will spread for any western man without any application of game – just by asking – and sometimes without even the need for that?

        Why would anyone pay for what as you say you can get easily and for free and with next to no effort?

        Is there any girl in all of Asia who will not readily spread their legs for a westerner? And would it be under any circumstances possible for game to help to seduce and romantically enslave this extremely rare anomaly of an Asian, who isn’t instantly naked and frothy at the sight of a round eye?

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      • on August 21, 2011 at 6:02 pm old guy, lower case

        It really is extraordinary the level of negative emotion and shaming being directed at you.

        Quite interesting really, carry on xsplat.

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      • Anyone with any suggestions/tips for Hong Kong game/women.

        Its one of the Sth East Asian places I want to cross of my list

        I will be there in the next few weeks for a bit of R&R, may even go to Macau
        for a day or two before the obligatory thai stop over.

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      • Cadnerd: Significantly younger than 35 and according to just about everyone (including the people I want to buy booze from) looking much younger than I am. Which is EXACTLY why the old guys in Asia are pissing me off so much – anyone always thinks you just got the girls because you are rich dumb Western guy.

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      • Your hate is because – why? Because old men CAN NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES use game in Asia?

        Old men can ONLY use money?

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      • My “hate” (trust me, in my case, hate is FAR worse than what I subjected you to) largely focuses on what Anonymous chided you for, your deluded extrapolation from gaming Asians to the rest of the world. And your steadfast refusal to admit that you benefit from a LARGE power differential.

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      • Nupi.I’m 57. No game, no poon. A simple equation. I am not rich to buy the girls with lucre.

        anyone always thinks you just got the girls because you are rich dumb Western guy

        Which is not the case. Why you then hating on older western guys? Instead on those that carry on that misconception. It’s irrational, to say the least.

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      • Familiar with statistics?

        On average, the usual prejudice is wholly true from my experience of traveling and working in Asia. And it’s not just me, most of of my (male of female) friends (including the significant share of them who have Asian SOs) is disgusted when they return from Phuket, Pattaya or most partsof the Philippines. And that’s exactly what all of us are pissed off by. Having to explain the rest of the world that no, our girls are not dating us for the fact that we make 10 to 50 times the local average wage because frankly, they do so, too.

        I DO know some rare counter examples (and have deep personal ties with at least two of them), but they are just that, RARE.

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      • Nupi, your presumption that no game is required flies in the face of fact. When this is pointed out to you, you just ignore it.

        I was dirt poor for most of my 12 years in Asia. More poor than the locals.

        I’ve dated girls from high class families, girls who had good jobs and better incomes than I had. Most of my girls have been college educated.

        All your arguments are straw men.

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      • Nupi, those guys in Pattaya are sex tourists with paid for sex girlfriend experiences.

        Just because they exist does not mean all westerners are 1) tourists (as opposed to expats) and 2) paying for sex.

        Real relationships are possible, where there are large age differences. Real, romantic, love relationships – relationships of the kind and quality that we all aspire to.

        Your slander is vile.

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      • Dunno, Nupi. It’s like you’d extrapolate that because Amsterdam has a red lamp lanes, then dutchie girls are easy. Why do you care what people think or think they “know”?

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      • You seem to be totally oblivious to the fact that Westerners by their sheer background have higher status in most of Asia. I must know, the first time I traveled Asia even before I went to university, so it could impossible have been money. And that type of status works quite irregardless of whether the girl is college educated or not.

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      • Nupi, that’s another strawman. Not only not am I oblivious, but I state and re-state the same thing. Over and over.

        You are oblivious to the fact that I’m not oblivious.

        And even though i have advantage, at my age and with my looks, not all girls will spread their legs for me just for being western.

        You are oblivious that there is a possibility to use game, rather than money.

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      • xsplat,

        “go to some other spot on the globe where you have relative advantage and where large age gaps are possible. Eastern Europe, for example.”

        You’re wrong about Eastern Europe. No large age gaps are possible there, sorry. And pedophiles are put in the jail like anywhere else.

        [Hearitste: The hosts would appreciate it if you don’t cunt out with the pedo label. Hint: If a woman has tits, ass and hips, it isn’t pedohilia for a man to find her attractive, regardless of age.]

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      • you have rel*tive advantage and where l*rge age g*ps are possible. E*stern Eur_pe, for inst*nce.

        But the idea of promoting breaking the marriage contract, especially with younger girls enrages some men.

        As I’ve mentioned many times, (and I’m not sure if others ever have), there is a sexual strategy that aligns with the female agenda. We can pejoratively call it the mangina, or beta provider strategy, or without the hate just label it as a socially concerned grouping of brothers in arms. These guys agree and comply with the female desire to be taken care of past their prime mating years, in return for lifetime exclusive sexual access.

        The socialist men of low socio-sexual score have dna that gives them two extra moral senses – the respect for purity, and the respect for auth_rity. The innately deeply FEEL that their social contract is RIGHT. They literally war with the libertines and bohemians.

        This is more than an emotional meme war. Its a war of sexual castes.

        But what they don’t realize, or refuse to realize, or don’t want to realize, is that the war is over. They lost.

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      • Have you been tested for dementia, you senile old fuck?

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      • “in return for lifetime exclusive sexual access”

        Only works if they uphold THEIR end of the bargain.
        Which…….they don’t.

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  7. Talk about 3-some. Playfully request 3-some.

    “My friend Nina is coming over, what do you want to do tonight?”

    “3-some?”

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  8. I’ve read your entire archive, everything you write makes sense when looking back at my past relationships that succeeded and failed.

    Everything makes sense now. thank you! my son will not fail like me.

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  9. This is how I used to “instill dread” in my last GF a mid-20s solid 9 ex barmaid and promo girl turned school teacher… LTR was a 2.5 year relationship which I broke off at the end… But that’s another story.

    Day to day, I would never argue with her or get angry when she did something I didn’t like. I would instead put it in a mental list. Every few months or so. I would just bluff break-up with her. Out of the blue, I would sit her down and say. “It isn’t working between us. It’s over”. She would cry and all and ask why etc I would then pick the 5 things from the list that I disliked about her and tell her. This would work every time. In fact it works too good. I think I will tone it down a few notches next time I choose to go back into an LTR.

    What this does:

    a) shows her you are ready to walk.
    b) shows her you have options
    c) makes her qualify to you as she needs to “improve” to stay with you

    Instead of coming across as a powerless complaining Beta REACTING to her BS, you come from a position of power.

    If I can draw an analogy here, this would be the equivalent of a poker “All-in” move. Done every few months with skill, keeps her in check big time no matter how hot. I think this is key to establishing a solid foundation in an LTR, you can decrease the frequency of this with time but at the beginning, it is key to establishing you as the leader in the relationship.

    This may sound cruel to some of you but unfortunately, this is what it takes today to keep a hot woman happy. As the saying goes, “Don’t hate the playa, hate the game”.

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  10. What if you touch another girl in front of your current chick? Say you’re talking to the girl and you make playful comments and then just lightly touch her on her hand or something.

    Good idea or bad idea? Just right or pushing my luck too much?

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  11. on August 19, 2011 at 1:11 pm Rollo Tomassi

    Dijo sin hablando – Told without speaking.

    Communicate with your behavior. Never overtly tell a woman anything. Allow her to come to the conclusions you intend. Her imagination is the best tool in your Game toolbox. Learn how to use it.

    This is the single greatest failing of average frustrated chumps: they vomit out everything about themselves, divulging the full truth of themselves to women in the mistaken belief that women desire that truth as a basis for qualifying for their intimacy or enduring commitment. Learn this now: Women NEVER want full disclosure. Nothing is more self-satisfying for a woman than to think she’s figured a Man out based solely on her mythical feminine intuition (i.e. imagination). When you blurt out your ‘feelings’ or overtly make known your optionless status, regardless of the context or the nobility of your intent, all you do is deny her this satisfaction. And like an easily distracted child she discards you for another, more entertaining toy, that holds some kind of mystery or puzzle for her figure out.

    Always remember, women care less about the content of what’s being communicated and more about the context (the how) of what’s being communicated. Never buy the lie that good communication is the key to a good relationship with out considering how and what you communicate. Women are naturally solipsistic. Your ‘feelings’ aren’t important to her until you make them important to her.

    It seems counterintuitive to deliberately withhold information that you think would solve whatever problem you have. Every touchy-feely therapist will tell you to open up and express yourself, but all that leads to is the negotiation of desire and the disingenuous obligations based on those terms. You cannot ‘tell’ women anything, they must be led to your conclusion and be made to think that they are the ones coming to it on their own – preferably by way of her imagined intuition.

    Dijo sin hablando – Told without speaking.

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    • Agree with you 100% on this. Well said.

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    • Thank you, sir.

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    • “Nothing is more self-satisfying for a woman than to think she’s figured a Man out based solely on her mythical feminine intuition (i.e. imagination).”

      But they find it must more *stimulating* to discover they cannot figure a man out at all. Always be undiscoverable.

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    • More briefly said by some wise women: never apologize; never explain.

      Perhaps much of what Roissy used to say and Heartiste still does is this: understand the way women think, and use their own games and shit-tests against them. This is the essence of game.

      Become that place where women dare not look. Become the Quisatz Hadarach Then you will transcend game.

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    • on August 21, 2011 at 1:12 am Betondo Fuchatuch

      Couldn’t have said it better.

      Not knowing all she desires to know is the literal magnetism between her and you. Not saying too much, not answering every entreaty and periodically being unpredictable and unreliable causes the female mind to produce physical fruits sweeter and more enduring than can be expressed. It needs to be experienced.

      This knowledge flies in the face of what’s commonly taught in our western feminized culture, but it’s an irrefutable truth. Test it. Don’t apologize when she gives you lip about not meeting her expectations. Don’t trip with her. Instead just maintain a “fine, moving right along”- type of indifference. Women crave that shit, but they show it by their actions (contiuned interest, calling you, allowing you to bend her over the kitchen sink, etc.) and not their mouths.

      Test it, guys. And thank me later.

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    • Gentlemen, print that out, put it in your wallet and read it every single day.

      Gold.

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    • I am guessing this is Roissy himself

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    • I don’t disagree with any of this being the way women prefer communication and it being practical advice that works. However, I can’t help feeling it still comes from the position that a man has to communicate how women want and not vice versa. Why shouldn’t it be that woman has to learn communicate the way the man prefers instead of the other way around? It seems to suggest that the woman still has to be catered too and is on th pedistal. Because if you fail to do so as a man then she can easily next you and lose attraction for you.

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      • Consider it interspecies communication.

        You can teach a chimp to use sign language, and you can teach a woman rationality, however if you want deep communication with the chimp, there are times when you have to communicate in the chimps natural innate language. A language of emotions and game playing.

        The chimp is never fully humanized. The female never becomes truly rational.

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  12. “Yet another reason to skip out on marriage in favor of LTRs or cohabitation”

    Not exactly. The elites and feminists are not so stupid. They are going to equate LTR and cohabitation to marriage.

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    • Funny you mention this but this is to be debated in the Canadian Supreme Court. Alimony might become obligatory with cohabitation… That will be a dark day indeed if it comes to pass.

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    • The day that happens, a huge number of smart and hugely productive guys will leave for greener pastures, so I am not so sure this will truly pass.

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      • Considering how bad some government policies are for men, I wouldn’t be surprised if this happens. I’m already thinking up defense strategies such as buying two smaller condos and smashing wall into one but keeping both addresses etc

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      • Huh? Ever heard of common-law marriage? It’s been on the books for decades in many states.

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      • Dont know about various state laws… Where I live, child support is mandatory (if there are kids…) but not Alimony. This is gonna royally mess stuff up if it does happen.

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      • Where I live, alimony is rarely awarded, and then only for a year or two at most. Even in the case of actual marriage.

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      • Child support tending to be excesive as it is and with no real cap, serves the purpose of being alimony.

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      • “Where I live, child support is mandatory (if there are kids…) but not Alimony”

        Same way in Texas.

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      • in the u.s., the man and woman have to present themselves as husband and wife. merely living together isn’t sufficient for establishing a common law marriage.

        http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Common-law_marriage_in_the_United_States

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      • Get a passport and a portable income.

        Who cares what demands the ath_rities make on you? The only power they have over you is the power that you cede.

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      • If it’s a US passport, you are screwed anyhow. And getting rid of that thing is not entirely trivial either.

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      • Does anyone know if you can renew your US passport if you have outstanding child support or alimony due?

        If so, you could expatriate away from the “authorities” on a US passport.

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      • Is not paying alimony or child support an extraditable offence? Will your passport not be renewed?

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      • xsplat:

        (1) Whether that’s extraditable or not, depends on the law of the country you are in. And to the best of my knowledge, no country has a law to extradite a violator of child support/alimony in another country.

        (2) As to whether you can renew your US passport, that kind-of depends. If you are in the dead beat dads database, the passport office will likely register a hit. If there is no criminal warrant outstanding, you are probably golden. OTOH, I believe the passport office will pass on, thru said database, the information on your passport application to the state which has registered the overdue monies. Expect a tough letter from such state in due course. But, they cannot collect overseas, absent a legal action in the country that you are in, and under the laws of the country you are in.

        Now, bear in mind that the above is not legal advice, you should consult competent counsel on this matter should you have a genuine issue to be worried about. However, the above is how legal reasoning would approach the matter.

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      • That’s along the lines of what I had thought, Samson.

        If a man has a passport and a portable income, he need not concern himself much about alimony or stealth alimony laws.

        And when a woman knows your attitude, her attitude shifts.

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      • on August 20, 2011 at 10:24 pm old guy, lower case

        Get another passport. Become a dual national, become a multi-national, buy ’em, sell ’em, trade ’em. The more the merrier.

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      • I have no such faith. I expect this trend towards “palimony” to gain speed.

        We are already taxing men to pay for other men’s uncared-for children. Prior generations would have found this outrageous. But even speaking against it is considered extreme heartlessness, as the subsidized class of single women and their kids grows more ravenous for tax revenue, year after year.

        The whole “family” law (ha ha) system and welfare rolls are set up to extract resources from men to women and their offspring. (Hell, even corporate America is largely men working and women attending, with the gals getting paid for administrative make-work, like HR and audit, while guys make shit and sell shit. I.e., bring home the money.) To the extent we can no longer make direct connections via marriage and/or DNA, simply random assignment via tax rolls will be the last resort, and already is being used.

        In that world–which is OUR world–why would we draw a line at cohabitation being insufficient reason to make you pay for a woman’s lifestyle? (“We” being the current legal regime, of course, not “we” literally.) I am surprised we have not completely crossed it already. My sense is that enough guys are still marrying that gals and their running dogs need not go that far quite yet. But it is coming.

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      • i read somewhere the obamacare will force everyone (through taxes) to pay for abortions, single mom life style etc…

        in summary, they’ll be paid twice; once by the state and for life by her husband. what a sad life/future *sigh*

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    • Scary shit. But if it happens, fuck LTRs and cohabitation too.

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    • Get a passport and a portable income.

      Who cares what the authorities demand from you? They only have the authority over you that you give them.

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  13. 6. He can focus on other things

    All of the outlined examples relate to using other women to raise value; it’s also possible to decrease your woman’s relative value by diverging your attention elsewhere. Attention is the main reinforcer for men, anytime you make a tradeoff between attention normally given to her and something else (“I have to cancel on tonight’s date, Russian mafia wants to meet over business plans”) you create a deficit in her eyes she will long to fix.

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  14. on August 19, 2011 at 1:31 pm Peregrine John

    This is a lot like the first post I was directed here to read, months ago. Rollo is absolutely correct: I, in my chumpdom, have an overwhelming urge to fix things by means of telling the truth. I am, as I’ve said for years, suicidally honest. So it’s not news to me. How to get around it, to dodge that horrifying urge and achieve its misinformed aims, has always been the trouble. Any details or specific suggestions (from which I can interpolate/extrapolate still more) on Rollo’s strategy would be gratefully received.

    I am a complete example of one trapped, or at least trapped-looking to her, which is arguably worse. The symptoms and consequences Heartiste described are everything he said and more. I’ve used suggestion 4 and occasionally 1 from the main post, but without a lot of success. Judging by her (mis)behavior, salvation is most likely to be found in qualifying. Are there any good ideas out there for specific qualifying instances? I need to put the screws to this thing, and quickly.

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    • “This shit you are doing. [Give examples] Yeah, I am not going to live like this. You need to change or move out. Now.”

      /baleful look

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      • on August 22, 2011 at 11:57 am Peregrine John

        Eh, I like the concept, but going nuclear right out of the gate is a bit much for every little infraction.

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      • You made it sound like your life was filled with serial “little infractions”.

        One shit test now and then is no biggie. But if you are at the point where every day is multiple shit tests, well, time to announce a new order of things.

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      • on August 22, 2011 at 5:10 pm Peregrine John

        Not quite full, but definitely more frequent than should be. I take your point, and agree in general. Still, ultimatums and direct statements like that are something I already know how to do (c.f. “suicidal honesty”). It’s the more subtle items I was looking for examples of, the indirect stuff that defines game. Qualifying her.

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    • Option 5 worked for me. Once you have been exposed to the long term – or even short term corrosive effect of a woman’s scorn and disdain. It is extraordinarily liberating to find that that one woman’s scorn is not shared by all womankind.

      Once YOU know you have options, that of itself dramatically changes your whole stance in the relationship. If you want to work on your relationship you can do so from the ‘high ground’ of knowing your worth is not just your contracted partners estimation of you.

      As to the urge to tell the truth, I recognize that too. Resist it, if you want to save your primary relationship. Otherwise, open up with both barrels as you walk out the door.

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  15. Peregrine John I’ll call you at home. 😉

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  16. Question: should a woman also flirt with other men in front of her man to demonstrate that she has other options? My gut feeling is no, that her SMV is determined solely based on looks, so as long as she’s objectively hot, there’s no need for her to flaunt her desirability by flirting with other men in front of her boyfriend. Would it potentially have the opposite effect of making her seem slutty/disloyal to be yukking it up with another man? Or do men like that sort of competition? I ran into this problem recently when approached by a few men at a concert I was attending with my bf–I cold-shouldered them mercilessly, but in hindsight I wonder if I should have been more “innocently” friendly.

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    • Female SMV = looks + good femmine traits.
      Everything else will have a negative effect or neutral.
      Flirting with other guys will definately have a negative effect, especialy as LTR or marriage material.

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    • Game is designed to work on women. Preselection, negs, qualifying, teasing… don’t work on men because we are only visually oriented. Girls who try to apply it have projection issues. Or they’ve been burned by assholes, and are out there for revenge.

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    • Men do not like this sort of thing. It is like a bitch slap directly to their egos and completely unnecessary. Don’t do it. Instead, make yourself look beautiful and take his arm.

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    • Is flirting with other men in front of her man a good option?

      Not unless she enjoys humiliation & long walks home.

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    • Should a man show his woman that if there was a crisis, he would prioritize the safety of other, more attractive women’s nearby ahead of hers?

      Because that’s a much better analogy.

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    • Flirting with other men in front of your BF is a huge shit test. If you like the guy, and chances are he is alpha if you do, do not do this.

      If the guy is alpha and knows how to handle this, you’re in for some serious emotional pain and hamstering in overdrive.

      This summer I’ve specifically been working on this scenario with my dates. After the sexual line has crossed and the chic does this when I have taken her out…she’s in for a surprise. Because so few men know how to handle this shit test, chances are great that the chic has never experienced the alpha response. Please note that the alpha response may not come right away, but it will come…and it won’t be fun, well for the girl. 😉

      Be a lady- stand by your man.

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      • What is the correct alpha response to this?

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      • Pimpslap. (Without “Bitch better have my money!” of course.)

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      • “Because so few men know how to handle this shit test, chances are great that the chic has never experienced the alpha response”

        You opened the cover of the book. Now share. LOL

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      • A girl who flirts in front of you is asking for a smack in the face.

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      • Men like their women to be attractive (as in look attractive to) other men, not for them to ACT attractive toward other men. (Men like to know they made the right choice and have a hot women, not for her to keep shopping around on them.)

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      • Long post, bear with it:

        If your girl is hot (8 or higher), she will be approached by other men and she will flirt/entertain the attention almost always initially in the relationship. You will have to train it out of her, which takes time.

        Let me preface this with the fact there is no one size fits all rehearsed maneuver to battle this, it is an overall inner-game mindset and strategic application of calibrated tactics that put you in the drivers seat. You can’t react at all to this shit test on the spot, you flank it and surprise attack it.

        Assuming you are at a moderate to advanced level

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      • Oops, hit the publish button on accident, above post (cont.)

        Tools (apply as needed calibrated to situation):
        1) open sets in front of her, quick attraction spikes, laughter, roll off
        2) befriend guy hitting on her with dominant frame, interupt, heavy kino her, roll off
        3) increase negging intensity, negging frequency, and do this in front of her friends
        4)game her friends and/or acquaintances with light playfull kino, seductive body language, hit attraction spikes, roll off
        5)use closed body language on her, back turns, roaming eyes,yawns when she talks,cut off her threads with random comments
        6)disapear in venue for short while (go open sets, duh)
        7)ask many questions about her hot friends, delicately compliment them
        8)never lose your cool
        9)when she starts feeling the pain, and she will (I’m assuming you have already had sex w her) most likely she will address the issue in some way. Don’t acknowledge it. Interupt thread, heavy kino her. If she persists look for signs of jealousy in her (frown, quick rigid movements, eyes at top of eyelid, arms crossed,slightly teary eyes,compliment fishing)…this is where you want her.

        The beauty here is nobody will really notice what you are doing except percieving you as a social fun guy. Your target will feel negative pings of emotion mixed with renewed attraction spikes. What is she used to? A beta tool sitting there watching in discontent as she let’s guys kino her and she laughs/flirts playfully and easily dismisses everything to “I’m just having fun.” Sorry babe, 2 can dance to this tune. Remember its grossly easy for good looking women to sop up attention from men. However for men to do the same takes skill, endurance and wit. This is unusual and rare for women to be gamed like this.

        Once you have her demoralized you can do what you’d like. I prefer bouncing her and giving it to her good and using the momentum to push my sexual agenda with her.

        Then when you are wiping her pussy juice off ur cock after you just ravished her, say “you know its really annoying when you flirt with other guys in front of me…” throw cum rag at her face, go make sandwhich in kitchen.

        If she objects to bouncing from the venue, grab her, give her strong hug, kiss on cheek, smirk…then leave! Yes, physically leave venue and walk to car and leave! She will go crazy.

        If she isn’t responding to your tactics and continues flirting, keep grinding the above tactics. Don’t lose your cool, and be ready to bounce solo. If she doesn’t hook and come after you. Then you have just saved yourself tons of money,time,pride and nexted a slurr that isn’t worth your energy. After all you have already fucked her. But in my experience if you have fucked her good, made her cum, she will run after you.

        I have some great field report examples of the above from the past 4 weeks.

        Good luck.

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      • Thanks troll Diem.

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  17. The marriage counseling industry seems like a joke compared to the truths of game. It’s mind boggling to see so many educated people believe that a marriage can be saved if the poor beta chump acknowledges his ‘mistakes’ and learns how to say “i’m sorry” in a more ‘convincing’ way.
    Never been married, hopefully never will, but this blog makes it a little bit less frightening for someone who wants to start a family.
    Nothing can save a marriage except game, except of course when the wife hits the wall and turns into a landwhale.Then, HER game is over.

    I’m not so sure about cheating. But if one does cheat and gets caught, the best bet is to act like a total dick. Can’t find the post but H mentioned something about telling her: “you’re beautiful when you’re angry… i will never love someone else the way i love you” and then walk out the door.
    The odds of her coming back beat the ‘i’m so sorry’ strategy.

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    • Exactly right. I don’t know why so many men attuned to game are worried about marriage, if it’s what you want. The odds of divorce are already pretty low (I assume you can make it past the first year just on game momentum), and with game at your side the chances are almost nonexistent unless she can’t help herself from becoming a land whale. You, the game-savvy man with options, of course, will inspire her not to whale up, and you will take the lead on that too.

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  18. Out last night with my new wife and her grown daughter, who is now a bartender. She was talking about “ginger-infused vodka”, and I said, “your mom’s ginger-infused”. Guess my hair color. Heh.

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    • very alpha

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      • …except for the first sentence.

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      • Chicken.

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      • And Schmoe, if you have intellectual stimulation needs, do you need to get them met by your mate?

        Are there other things – even other than sex – that you need from your mate that you can only get from your mate?

        I’ve learned that my intellectual stimulation needs exist, but they are not monogamous. I can get them met anywhere.

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      • HAHAHAHA I THOUGHT THE SAME THING!

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      • Dating is hugely easier in SE Asia. That’s a main reason I live here. But that doesn’t mean that you don’t need game, or that game doesn’t change what you can get, or your relationships out here.

        When I see western men with a woman here, it is either an outrageously past it white woman, or a remarkably ugly asian woman. I never see westerners who know what they can get, and get it. You don’t see older men with hotties who love them hanging on their arms.

        I don’t know why.

        I guess western men have been brainwashed back home.

        So “Out last night with my new wife and her grown daughter, who is now a bartender.” Ya, if I saw you in Indonesia, I’d tilt my head and wonder why you weren’t going for more.

        Apparently my priorities and desires mark me as an outlier?

        But one glance at any mag like Maxim disconfirms that theory.

        Must be men just don’t want to try.

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      • I imagine deep down you know you have a pretty absurd life. All you seem to care about is women. Funny thing is, in the UK men like you (who get their wives from Asia) are considered beta.

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      • Yeah, that’s my take too. I mean, I assume asian pussy is somewhat like the real thing, …

        Anyway, if you blokes don’t know how to tell your wife what’s what, I guess marriage isn’t for you. I ain’t afraid. For me it’s the most efficient way to get pussy every time I want it without a lot of work. And somebody to split the bills with and fix me dinner every night, and who will still be around and will still know me when I’m old and decrepit. It’s not all sex, you know. There’s more to life than that.

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      • And somebody to split the bills with and fix me dinner every night, and who will still be around and will still know me when I’m old and decrepit. It’s not all sex, you know. There’s more to life than that.

        I don’t need anyone to split the bills with, and my mate already carefully attends to me.

        Why would I prefer to be with someone old and ugly when I’m old and ugly? do old and ugly people attend with more loving care than do hotties?

        My hottie skipped work today and had her friend come over to help clean out the fridges, stock it with chopped vegetables, and cook me food. She holds me when I sleep. She kisses me throughout the day. And she has a smoking hot 22 year old body.

        Tell me how some old wife could do a better job. What, just because you know the person for a long time improves your happiness?

        I doubt it.

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      • Incidentally I’m truly, honestly, not interested in 20 year old bubbleheads. I mean, what do you do after the 20 minutes a day that you have sex? They don’t know anything, and they haven’t lived life, and they are probably insecure and stupid to boot, so what do you do, watch Jersey Shore? I mean really, I know you don’t work crosswords together or anything. Do you really get enough intellectual stimulation from wanking to Maxim on here? I sure don’t.

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      • Mike B, you seem to be trying to get my attention.

        If you prefer your lifestyle to mine, happy times, merry christmas, congratulations, and halleluya.

        Good for you.

        But it smells to me like you are bitterly jealous.

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      • I’ve seen your “hotties” and I’ll take my “old, ugly” wife any day.

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      • Shmoe – what do I do with my bubblehead? Just hang out. Bubbleheads can give affection. You know what that feels like, don’t you? Where your heart is warmed, and you share a space with someone who cares for, and who you care for?

        And what do you do with your matron?

        Not what could you do – what DO you do.

        Old couples don’t talk much.

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      • Bitterly jealous? Sorry mate, Afraid not. I’m one of those guys who doesn’t have to learn how to act alpha and I have options. I just read your posts and think you’re probably the Internet equivalent of Gary Glitter. A sixty year old man who has a thing for teenagers. You’re a sex tourist and nothing more. In the UK you’d be a social outcast and considered beta. Seriously, any man who keeps an airsoft gun in his house to impress teenage girls has to have something wrong with him.

        And I agree with schmoe – some people don’t place all their emphasis on looks – I tend to go for personality and how interesting the person is. You’ll probably say that’s because I’m beta & that’s fine. the reality is, I’m one of those guys who causes you to instinctively look down when you pass me in the street.

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      • Mike B, what’s your stinky problem?

        So full of hate.

        I’m not 60 and I don’t date teenagers, but so what if I did? Why the hate?

        If you prefer girls with personality, good on you mate.

        Go in peace, and fuck off.

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      • What do we actually do? Ok, you got me, we mostly have sex. But we do talk, and work crosswords, and travel together, and talk about math and ham radio and my theoretical computer science dissertation (she had a good idea about that I was able to incorporate) and other nerdy things together, and play Wii, and talk about personal integrity because it’s a sort of hobby, and go on cruises together and talk a lot, actually, and show affection for each other, and walk together, and swim, and do home improvement stuff, and visit with our respective kids, and talk about grandkids, and bitch about exes, and politics, and of course we have our own hobbies and work to do.

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      • Schmoe

        What do we actually do? Ok, you got me, we mostly have sex. But we do talk, and…

        That sounds ideal.

        Again, it wasn’t my intention to diss your relationship. I was just free associating off the jab someone made about being married not being alpha, and mentioning that it appears to me that some if not most married guys don’t have it as good as you do.

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      • No, the Western guys dating hot Asian chicks have other things in life they care about (like, a well paying job or business) and figured out that part is vastly easier to implement outside the boondocks.There’s only so much bad governance sane people will take before skipping to greener pastures.

        And in that regard, Indonesia is just about the worst place in SE Asia to live, anyway. Plus nobody in their sane mind wants to live in an Islamic country. And if I want to deal with Hinduism, there’s hotter chicks in India than Bali. They know better English, too.

        In the end, I agree with Mike B, you are an almost comical example of the Ugly Old White Guy.

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      • Et tu Nupi?

        Why the hate? Did I step on your toes too? What, are you married or something?

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      • I am not married and neither do I plan to (there is but one exception, if a girl I truly loved was in need of my passport) or have children for that matter.

        I also do not have a moral issue with sex tourism (although I maintain it strikes me as pretty omega) but what annoys me is that people like you give us Westerners a bad reputation in Asia (on the other hand, its always entertaining to discuss this with expats – male or female) and at also home, in many ways.

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      • Nupi, do you honestly think that I’m a sex tourist? If so, what does that mean to you?

        Are you aware that I’m in a loving monogamous relationship with a young woman right now?

        Does that qualify as sex tourism to you?

        Perhaps any westerner having sex with any asian is a sex tourist?

        I’m feeling your hate, Nupi. Hate means something. It would offend you if I tried to read your mind – so unless you want to just spew random incohate hate – help me out here.

        Why the hate?

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      • “Old” guy chasing young Asian girls using a huge wealth and power differential fits my definition of sex tourist pretty well.

        That’s a pretty stark difference to the Western professionals dating well-educated Asian girls in well-paid corporate jobs – IOW, they are not dating the guy for primarily economical consideration. Pretty similar than what would happen at home with potentially a small status boost for the Western guy because, according to the girls, the local guys are largely wimps.

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      • “Old” guy chasing young Asian girls using a huge wealth and power differential fits my definition of sex tourist pretty well.

        While I don’t agree with that definition, I’ll still inquire, what about an old guy chasing (and catching and having real love affairs with) young Asian girls, when he is flat busted broke? Still a sex tourist?

        That’s a pretty stark difference to the Western professionals dating well-educated Asian girls in well-paid corporate jobs

        My girlfriend recently graduated university with honors. Does that qualify as well educated? Or is her education not good enough, and therefore I’m a sex tourist?

        I’m a recently successful self employed entrepreneur. Does that qualify me as a professional? And if I don’t have your respected profession, does that make me a sex tourist?

        – IOW, they are not dating the guy for primarily economical consideration.

        What if I could give you a dozen or two examples of girls I dated who were not dating me for economical consideration? For instance if they routinely had offers from very rich guys that the refused. Or if I was flat broke while dating them? Would I still be a sex tourist?

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      • No reply yet from you Nupi.

        I’ll ask you to consider that perhaps your introspection is failing you, when you answer with reasons why you’re feeding me hate.

        It seems there is no reasonable explanation that you are aware of.

        There is a cause for the hate, of course.

        But again, if I tried to read your mind, it would likely offend you. You could accuse me psychobabble or something.

        So, I’ll ask you to continue to try to be reasonable and explain yourself sensibly.

        So far, it seems you can’t do that. The question is what you will do knowing that your instrospection is unreasonable. Will you question your gut feeling, or look for a new rationalization?

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      • on August 21, 2011 at 1:29 pm David Rockefeller

        “Funny thing is, in the UK men like you (who get their wives from Asia) are considered beta.”

        Not just in the UK, Mike B. Also true here in the USA.

        American men who have teenage brides imported from some Third World shithole might as well have “I’m a fucking loser” tattooed on their foreheads. If you want to fuck a hot teenage babe from the Third World, you rent. Only losers marry them.

        And if she’s from the former Soviet Union/Eastern Europe, she’ll be ambitious in addition to good-looking. Meaning as soon as her immigration status is secure and she’s acquired an American education and/or credentials, she’ll dump her loser husband.

        You see this everyday in Silicon Valley. If you’re a techie with an imported wife, your coworkers have all made bets as to how long before she dumps you.

        Textbook case: Rupert Murdoch’s present wife, Wendi. Google her past. She’s as cold-blooded as they come. If Rupert has to resign from News Corp, Wendi’s going to be looking around for her next husband.

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      • You are contradicting yourself. One post you don’t need to split bills, then in another post you are flat out broke (one wonders what you live on in this case) and in the same post also a successful entrepreneur.

        And the energy with which you try to disprove my claims would hint at them hitting closer to home than you like. If you actually were a successful alpha, you could not care less what some random guy on a blog thinks about you.

        As for graduating with honors, are you truly trying to tell me that is a sign of being well educated? Please.

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      • “You are contradicting yourself. One post you don’t need to split bills, then in another post you are flat out broke (one wonders what you live on in this case) and in the same post also a successful entrepreneur.”

        Notice that I said “recently successful”. I’ve been in SE Asia for about 12 years. Some of that I was broke.

        And the energy with which you try to disprove my claims would hint at them hitting closer to home than you like. If you actually were a successful alpha, you could not care less what some random guy on a blog thinks about you.

        So the fact that I’m asking you why you hate me proves that you have reason to hate me?

        As for graduating with honors, are you truly trying to tell me that is a sign of being well educated? Please.

        So since her education is not up to your standards, that means that I’m a sex tourist?

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    • Schmoe

      I’ve seen your “hotties” and I’ll take my “old, ugly” wife any day.

      So you think if my girls don’t appeal to you that my point is invalidated?

      Did you notice what my point was?

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      • Bitterly jealous? Sorry mate, Afraid not. I’m one of those guys who doesn’t have to learn how to act alpha and I have options. I just read your posts and think you’re probably the Internet equivalent of Gary Glitter. A sixty year old man who has a thing for teenagers. You’re a sex tourist and nothing more. In the UK you’d be a social outcast and considered beta. Seriously, any man who keeps an airsoft gun in his house to impress teenage girls has to have something wrong with him.

        And I agree with schmoe – some people don’t place all their emphasis on looks – I tend to go for personality and how interesting the person is. You’ll probably say that’s because I’m beta & that’s fine. the reality is, I’m one of those guys who causes you to instinctively look down when you pass me in the street.

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      • It’s not that I’m against looks. I just don’t go in for asians. Or 6’s. But yes, the brains thing matters to me. I like my women like I like my coffee – hot and stimulating the brain.

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      • Good for you that you are happy with your mate.

        But when I see men with same aged wives in Indonesia, my first thought is never “I bet those two must be very compatible to have stayed together for so long”.

        It’s always “Doesn’t that guy realize how easy it is to do better here? Why is he staying with that old woman – out of loyalty? Doesn’t he have his own life to live?”

        The concept of mating for life just doesn’t register as rational to me. It’s a silly compromise. I don’t know why people do it, unless its for OTHER people. Duty.

        No matter who you are with, at some point, you could do better. Women age out, but men don’t. Not at the same rate.

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      • I think your point was that, um, I’m supposed to be the same person as Mike B or something (I’m not), and that we can all be happy in our own way, unless we’re married and to someone over 30, not in an asian harem, or something. So yeah, I get your point. You said you thought I could do better, but you don’t know jack shit. If you saw me and my wife walking along, you would weep for me from pity, but you would be so wrong. If I was any more happy I’d have to cut my own dick off. I can barely stand it as it is. I guess in the end I assume the same is true for you, but then I was just minding my own business until some ugly old man came along and said I wasn’t trying hard enough to meet his standards.

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      • Ya, it wasn’t meant to be personal.

        The women I see westerners with sound like they are not as attractive or as interesting as your wife.

        Try to imagine the point I was trying to make.

        It wasn’t about your wife, or your relationship.

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      • I liked and agreed with everything Shmoe said. The only problem is that you play the Wii. I draw the line there. That’s beta. You should have manly consoles like the PS3 or an Xbox 360.

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      • Yah, xbox360, whatteva that is, saves the day.

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      • Yes xplat is creepy,but you’re a fucking BORE!! So FUCK OFF!! Go back to your fat old wife and discuss politics,asshole.

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  19. Lyla

    Ugh.. I hate to admit it, but its true. My husband’s old girlfriend got in touch with him on facebook…long story short…just her chatting with him there, stirred up all kinds of stuff.

    After all was said and done I realized
    that I just wanted him to “choose me”. Even tho we are married…I needed him to “show” me that he was choosing me, And, yeah I know logically he has already chosen me forever…..but it still affected me. The sex during all of that was some of the hottest of our marriage.

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  20. I demand 4 figures to spend a night with heidi klum.

    http://www.idontlikeyouinthatway.com/pictures/20110817/Heidi%20Klum%20Seal%20Sardinia/fnp_hay_000213_17.html

    what a reversal of fortune? Seal must be getting strange. Black man, aged wife? hmm…..

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  21. trepanation, eh? Maybe most guys need to revive a failing LTR like they need a hole in the head. 🙂

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    • Finally!

      WHY DO PEOPLE MATE FOR LIFE?!!!!

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      • Under the current circumstances there isn’t much point, but we are living in a ridiculous culture.

        Ideally you are supposed to be marrying her at a young age say between 13-16 with consent of both your and her families, she may or may not be one of two other sister wives, and she should be creating and raising children for you till she’s 40. By then she really will have given you a tremendous amount, in which case if you were a real man, youd feel a strong sense of honor in taking care of her for life.

        However in this “enlightened” and clearly morally superior generation we jail people who try to live like that.

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      • I agree that the social contract is busted. Guys who have been fucked over by girls who treat them as playthings eventually get wise, and no longer feel any sort of duty to maintain a woman in comfort for life.

        They don’t feel duty bound. Why should we?

        It’s now a situation of permanent dating. Dating as serial monogamy, or dating as monogamy, it’s just dating.

        There is no marriage anymore.

        That’s how a lot of guys feel. We feel we’d be stupid saps to play the game any differently.

        Take what you can get. If you find a mate for life, it’s a happy accident. It’s not a life goal.

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      • Yup.

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  22. Now that neecy is gone, the number of comments starts to decline. I don’t know if it’s a good or a bad thing.

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  23. Nice to see Roissy back regularly.

    Was the absence from the blog due to the LTR or due to the time-demand of writing a book?

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  24. Lotsa wives can do a better job…why does she hold you while you sleep? ewwww
    why does she need a friend to help her clean? and can’t she do her cleaning and chopping on the days she’s off?

    but if it works for you, thats what matters.

    Some men prefer a woman who has lived a bit more of life…especially if she has lived it with him–.and they have a shared history of more than 6 months. You have said your relationships last ony about a year–that would not be satisfying for many men.

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    • Are you kidding me with your nitpicking? Why does she get help to cook and clean? Why does she hold me when I sleep?

      A bit more life?

      What are you bitching on about?

      As for the only thing you said that has any sort of substance – that some men prefer longer term relationships – this just begs the question.

      WHY?

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      • You got me there. I’m as baffled as you are. I’ve had the works, a couple dozen women over my life, threesomes, crazy, brainy, sexy, whatever, but I greatly prefer sex with someone I love to anything else. The one one-night-stand I had with a leggy blond did nothing for me. The more I have sex with a girl the better it gets. When I can tell I’m turning her on, it turns me on, and so on in a positive-feedback loop. If I think she might be faking it does nothing for me. So there you have it. But yeah, girls, don’t think your man is going to be like that. I’m a freak.

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      • How many years so far?

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    • She holds him whilst he sleeps because he’s beta. Western women would know something’s up with it, so they would bin him pronto. Asian women don’t know anybetter & just think thats how western men operate.

      Xspalt, you sound like Mr Burns mate, except you have young Asian girls act as your Smithers.

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      • You sure are interested in me Mike. I have a new stalker, is that it? What is it that you want from me? I bet you want me to suck your little dick, don’t you? Don’t you Mike?

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      • Nice, you wrote an insult and inadvertently submitted to me.

        Although why the fuck would I want some crusty old, real life Mr Burns to suck my dick.

        You vile sex tourist.

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      • 1) Why are you so interested in me
        2) Why are you posting here on this forum?
        3) Why are you reading this forum?

        So far I have not seen you contribute anything here. And you seem very strangely interested in me. About if I’m beta or not, or fucking teenagers or not. Why the fanboy attention from you?

        Are you gay? Jealous? Angry at me for something I did to your mother? What?

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      • Still here, Monty?

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      • Ya, Mike, I didn’t expect you to answer any of those 3 questions.

        Allright – whatever you want from me, it’s not communication. I’ll just skip past your posts then.

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      • Some people need attention.

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      • What’s wrong with sex tourism?

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      • It’s omega. Like, you can’t afford the hoes at home.

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      • Not sure, but I’d like to hear from Mangina B about what’s wrong with it.

        On the second thought… I suppose it would be the same diatribe like from Mangina A, C, E, etc. So, I’d rather skip it.

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      • @Nupi
        “It’s omega. Like, you can’t afford the hoes at home”

        What if you are tired of the worthless cunts at home?

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      • That is only a valid reason if you go for high worth girls abroad, alas, most don’t

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      • on August 22, 2011 at 8:42 am Obstinance Works

        Nothing.

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      • I’m enjoying that people are calling you out mister xsplat. I have been reading this blog for a long while and you always seem to come across as conceited and arrogant for no good reason. I usually skip over your posts but I’ve absorbed enough by osmosis to appreciate the fact that you’re beeing tagged a low-life sex tourist. Come uppance is golden.

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      • Another maiden post to troll me.

        Riiiigggghhhhht.

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  25. I’ve probably said this before, because I’m impulsive like that, but I think I’m really done here. I’ve gotten the lessons I can get, and I know you fuckers don’t care anyway, and I’ll probably be back, but just the same, so long and thanks for all the fish.

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    • Just remember man:

      “you are not a salmon”.

      Good luck!

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    • Schmoe
      I’ve probably said this before, because I’m impulsive like that, but I think I’m really done here. I’ve gotten the lessons I can get, and I know you fuckers don’t care anyway, and I’ll probably be back, but just the same, so long and thanks for all the fish.

      ——————————————–

      Schmoe, until you mentioned ham radio I thought maybe you were my husband posting. Please stick around, I like what you have to say. And it proves there ARE guys like you out there.

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    • Remember to wash those socks when you’re done with them.

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  26. Xsplat,

    When a man goes on about all the Asian trim he’s getting, it’s not impressive. Any old round-eye beta with a well paying job can have his own harem in the Far East.

    It’s the PUA version of being Big In Japan. And it sure as hell doesn’t qualify you to be an expert on Game. You might be a super-alpha, but it’s a track record with Western girls that counts.

    But if it makes you happy, who cares?

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    • You can judge my writings about game on their face value. Is what I say true? Or not? Helpful? Or not?

      Being in Asia does not mean that I don’t have valuable life experience to share.

      If I did have some useful techniques, applying them in SE Asia would get me a better deal than applying them in the west. And I would get better girls and relationships for the two reasons – one from being a westerner in SE Asia, and the other for having some experience to bear to the situation.

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      • I take your writing at face value. And I have no doubt that Game helps you over there. Universal principles.

        But you aren’t content to give your advice. You believe that your experiences make you some kind of super-PUA. They don’t. Asian girls are easy for most westerners. It’s the equivalent of a canned-hunt guy lecturing on hunting tigers.

        You also like belittling a lot of the other commenters. No doubt your intentions are good. But it makes you look like the kind of man who spends his life seeking validation on a blog comment section. Why don’t you spend less time dispensing your none-too-valuable advice, and more time with your ladies?

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      • I’m in bed and my girl is beside me right now. Stroking my chest, atually.

        I’m not a super PUA, and have never claimed to be a PUA at all. I’ve outright stated several times that I don’t consider myself a PUA at all, and that my PUA skills aren’t that great.

        I do, however, believe that I do have some insights into the female mind that are not run of the mill. This has nothing to do with me being in Asia, or not, or how easy it is to date here or not. After all, a comment I sometimes get here from girls is that I’m more sexually successful than I should be, considering my looks, age, and (previous) lack of money. And relative to other westerners, especially of my age and looks, I play in a whole different league and accomplish an entirely different game.

        You may not value or need my advice, but if I were a younger me, I’d be grateful to receive it.

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      • “You may not value or need my advice, but if I were a younger me, I’d be grateful to receive it.”

        I’m getting the impression that most on here don’t WANT your advice let alone NEED it… Maybe I am reading the situation incorrectly but comments like “dispensing your none-too-valuable advice” suggest otherwise.

        Maybe time to pare back your posting and spend some more time on those SE Asian honeys of yours mister xsplat..? I expect the regular readership would appreciate a little less of you.

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    • And as for any westerner can have a harem in SE Asia – that was kinda my point.

      They could – but they don’t.

      The date one unattractive girl, and pump out kids with her, and push the stroller.

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  27. Schmoe,

    Stick around. Your point is a good one: The love of a good woman isn’t something to be discarded lightly.

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    • True.

      But what get me is the moral preening of the lifetime mating crowd, as if it’s oh soooooo much superior to mate for life.

      If you like it, cool. But there are huge advantages to trading up from time to time.

      Advantages the lifetime mating crowd loudly ignore.

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      • No one is preening here. Some folks just don’t think less of a man for being loyal to a loving and faithful wife and mother.

        You’ve got a setup you’re happy with, why don’t you in turn accept that some men are family men, and respect their decision in turn?

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      • I accept it, in that I believe that it happens.

        But I also believe that some men are not as happy in their relationships as Shmoe is, and just go through the motions out of habit and a misguided sense of loyalty.

        Don’t you believe that?

        When I see westerners here with their old, fat, ugly wives, I don’t see couples in love.

        I see boredom.

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      • Redemperor, some men posit that an old relationship is superior to a younger relationship.

        I fight that bias.

        It is the job of people like me to advocate for a lifestyle. We do a needed job.

        Without voices like mine, the only voice would be that of the female agenda and the family man agenda. And those people scream their bias and would uphold their social contract at the point of a gun, if need be.

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      • Burns, I think you have a very high opinion of yourself. People on here have pretty agreed that you’re a foolish old man.

        And sitting in bed posting on here whilst in bed with a women? You’re no better different to a World of Warcraft freak,

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      • Burns, he’s right… if there’s a bed with a woman involved in my world, computer and stuff thereon will go unchecked for a while. Just the way it is. Priorities. Natural ones.

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    • Or of a good man either, but you see bitches do it over ‘gina tingle all the time.

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  28. on August 19, 2011 at 8:13 pm | Reply xsplat
    Are you kidding me with your nitpicking? Why does she get help to cook and clean? Why does she hold me when I sleep?

    A bit more life?

    What are you bitching on about?

    ———————————————

    not bitching… you asked how a wife could be better….thats how…sheesh

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  29. Well in the absence of bickering females men will always step up. (sarcasm).

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    • No, kidding, right? Haha. Interesting, though.

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    • No. But in general, chances are far better that the do… than with bickering females around. You already know that, don’t you?

      Thus, your attempt for sarcasm is misplaced.

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      • On the last point… Like how and who?

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      • You can’t. It’s a straw man, made of circular “reasoning”. Only likes like aoefe eats it up. She’s after all a girl, a keen observer of fashions or fads that seem to have some form of social capital–3 or so people gung on xsplat, so it must be true what they are saying.

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      • Cadnerd, I’d love to met you in real life so I could kick your fucking teeth out.

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      • You’re such a whiny baby, Brian. Have you considered anger management therapy?

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      • Funny how you can tell who was bullied in school just by the way they post on the internet.

        How things, other than that, anyway Cadnerd?

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      • I think you got me, I thought this WAS the fashion site! What was I thinking? Personally I think it took a bit of courage to wade in with some thoughts on the matter. I think perhaps my own thoughts took a turn with the discussion of 11 year old bodies the other day. I confess it grossed me out – and maybe that’s why I identified with his detractors. I have NO idea if gaming women is easier here or there, I don’t game women. I was pointing out how he comes across may make it harder to be believable is all. Hardly jumping on the social band wagon. But I’m a mere girl and what do I know. 😉

        Frankly it’s none of my business, I’ll own that, but we’re here spewing all of our little anecdotes and it’s only right to expect opinions.

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      • Did not participate in 11yo bodies discussion, it puts things in a different light. If you directly addressed that aspect, then we may have been in an agreement.

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  30. Where’s Neecy — she always has something (or too much) to say.

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  31. Justify my love. babe… or I’ll find someone who will! (Hate the game, not the player!)

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  32. xplat says

    True.

    But what get me is the moral preening of the lifetime mating crowd, as if it’s oh soooooo much superior to mate for life.

    ———————————————————————

    Oh splatzy,
    Don’t let any of this get to you.

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  33. Xspalt, you sound like Mr Burns mate, except you have young Asian girls act as your Smithers.

    LMFAO!

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  34. on August 19, 2011 at 9:20 pm | Reply RedEmperor
    No one is preening here. Some folks just don’t think less of a man for being loyal to a loving and faithful wife and mother.

    ————————————————————————-

    and that there ARE women worth being loyal to.

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    • About one in 500. I am at ~250, and so far, haven’t hit that mythical snowflake. Maybe when I get close to 500, who knows?

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      • 250 is impressive. In how many years, and what is your MO?
        If i don’t include hookers, I must have bedded 40 chicks in the last 3-4 years. Before that, i was a worthless beta, and only had one girlfriend by accident.
        I’m not into pissing contests, but i like casanova stories.

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      • Good God this is so depressing. Have you really never met a “good” woman? And I don’t just mean a woman that you have dated, but I mean, ever? Another man’s wife? Your own mother? Not one truly good wife and mother?

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      • I’ve seen some good mate for life couplings. My grandparents had one. My father, on his second wife, has one.

        For some people, and with some people, this is what they want, and they thrive in it.

        I guess it pushes people buttons to not tread carefully when discussing the subject. But some of us men aren’t really built for lifetime monogamy – even with a so called good girl. We can trade up. And sooner or later, no matter how good the good girl you marry, there will be an opportunity to trade up.

        It’s an emotional subject – trading up.

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      • Ok, I can get that some men are not built for monogamy. What I find most depressing is that there seem to be so few women out there who love men enough to want to be “good”. That they are so self concerned (and ultimately, so unhappy). My thoughts are more of a reflection on women than men.

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      • I know it just begs a negative reaction to toot my own horn – it’s inviting a king of the hill turf war again – but I truly believe that men need to learn how to tame their women.

        It is a lost art.

        I can see how hearing my arrogant voice drone on and on could be irritating, however I really do feel a desire to do social good by helping men learn to tame their women.

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      • Women set the standards for all this. Men are happy with any women who’ll appreciate them. When all women want are shitbags who’ll just make them unhappy (like nowadays) men ain’t happy. So we’ve got a few shitbag men getting all the pump-and-dump action, unhappy women/babymammas and the rest of men not trusting or wanting to be cuckolded/divorce-robbed by women.

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      • Xsplat,

        I don’t disagree that taming a woman is necessary. But I do believe one needs to start with a good base and it seems there are so few out there these days.

        I can vouch for the taming. I was and to some extant still am and hope to continue to learn. But I always wanted to marry and care for a husband and family and started from there. I’d like to think I was a bit easier to tame ; ).

        BTW, I do believe, to a certain extant, that the taming does go both ways, leaning heavier on the women.

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      • I don’t disagree that taming a woman is necessary. But I do believe one needs to start with a good base and it seems there are so few out there these days.

        It’s hard to argue with that.

        I take the stand that there is more leeway with what you can begin with than most men do.

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      • Anonymous, Men are happy with any women who’ll appreciate them.

        Women–yes, whales–no. And make it entitled whales, to boot.

        Granted, I can’t complain. I’ve given recently a “divorce” notice to one of my squirrels as she reached 26, advising her to marry a.s.a.p. and pop out some kiddies. She was protesting, but as I put on thoroughly a fatherly mode, she reluctantly agreed when I said it would make me happy.

        Observation–young chicks (18-26) seem to have far less intake of feminist crapola than older ones. Young guys … I’ve to cringe, they seem so emasculated, especially in a big city environs. My squirrely ones tell me so, too.

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      • Sting, a couple of times I thought so, but it turned out to be a pipe dream. My mother was from the “ancient” times when women still knew what it is about. She was a good woman and no doubt my father would agree.

        Last 50 years look to me like an asylum.

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      • Cad,
        “My mother was from the “ancient” times when women still knew what it is about. She was a good woman and no doubt my father would agree”

        Agree. My parents were married for 49 years until my dad passed. I tried to pattern my 1st marriage after theirs. It was what I knew, and my ex’s parents were still married. (Still are) Didn’t work. Lasted 18 years. (Last 10 were a waste – dead & dying) Looking back, I know when I should have jumped ship. But I bought all of society’s BS. The females of today are not like those of yesteryear. Now? Never again.

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  35. LOL YAY GO BRUNHILDE!!!!!

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  36. ONLY WORKS IN LTR/GIRLS INTERESTED IN YOU

    A good tactic I found is to screw around with the way you save HER name in your phone and then bring it up randomly. It screws with chicks minds BIGTIME. For example if her name is Alana you can save her as “Alien” “bAnana” or “Random” etc… Then make her aware of that by calling her when you are with her, and pull out your phone or just showing something on your phone and then opening her texts by “mistake”. 99% she’ll peek over to your phone to see if its really you calling and when she sees this name you assigned to her just tell her that she has to earn a full-name status in your phone. After a couple times she asks, reluctantly change it to some other derogatory name version of her name or just first letter i.e. “A” and say its already a promotion and accuse her of being annoying like other girls, asking too much and being a drama queen. Key thing here is to remain playful and teasing.

    If she is doing something you highly disapprove of you can say “you are being like that *insert disqualifier description* chick I used to date – what’s her name *insert name* Gosh, she used to do *insert undesirable action* all the time. Now that I think of it you two have something in common. I should just save you under her name with x2. There *instead of Alana its Cathy x2

    No girl wants to be compared and especially, being named another girl.

    Most of the time she will be bothered indefinitely by this, making her hamster spin, nagging and begging you to change it.

    Similarly you can revive a rocky relationship by deleting her name and just leaving her digits out there. If she asks why her name isnt there just ignore it or say indifferently “should i?” followed by “i’ll add it later”

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    • HIGH SCHOOL GAME FTW!

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    • Agree. This works. I always name the girl after something in the environment when I # close. Then later change it to the city or type of car she drives or where she works…Like “amanda honda.” Get creative with it.

      Not highschool game, helpful tactic.

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  37. “Dating with Goofus and Gallant,” Yankee Pot Roast, 14 Jun 06
    http://www.yankeepotroast.org/archives/2006/06/dating_with_goo.html

    Goofus has Game, Gallant is ghey. No duh, right?

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    • That’s funny. I remember reading goofus and gallant at the dentist when I was a kid. I always thought gallant was a douch, even though I didn’t know the word douche back then. Thx for the memories.

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      • Read it at the chiropractor most recently, myself (Highlights for Children beat Good Housekeeping and, hey, the more things change… ). But, anyway, with the new color drawings in recent years, Goofus and Gallant are getting more equivalent and less distinct… Goofus is less selfish and antisocial (just ignorant) and there’s nothing Gallant does that isn’t politically correct (where’s doing the right thing even if it isn’t fun or popular?) nowadays. Neither one has an testosterone (even for pre-teens) today. Sad.

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  38. Great post.

    I tried an experiment this past week. The girl I’ve been seeing for 6 months is a drama queen constantly shit-testing.

    I’ve been keeping frame but occassionally I just lose it. It becomes too much work.

    But after our last blow out she went out of her way to book a nice restaurant for us, do some other nice things.

    So I tried something new…I was the “nice guy”.

    I called her and talked to her regularly for 3 days.

    I asked her “miss me”… her reply: “What do you think?” ie she started gaming me.

    She generally acted weird, less affection, less attention.

    In other words, I gave her exactly what she wanted and she didn’t want it.

    I called her out of the blue to “chat”…

    She was on edge…”Why are you calling me? Are you not happy?”

    I was like “What??? I’m calling to chat….”

    So…I’m not sure what kind of game this is…but it completely aligns with these very concepts.

    The minute a woman feels like she’s “won” even the biggest shit-testing drama queen will start to treat you like a beta shlub…

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    • Brilliant fail.

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      • Yup…be warned. Last week I was talking about breaking up so she was on her best behaviour.

        So I wanted to test this concept. It’s true. Even if they’re chasing you and you suddenly revert into attentive guy mode…it freaks them out.

        However in my case it’s a “why are you suddenly being so nice?” kind of game…but she’s still not as attentive.

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      • My experience is that you can be intensely nice, at times, if you are nice in proportion to your dominance and aloofness. Push and pull principle.

        It is when you try to apply a single principle constantly that there becomes trouble.

        Well, trouble is unavoidable, but it seems alternation of attention minimizes it.

        On a personal note, a year into my relationship, we seem to have hit a sweet spot that improves daily. Like any man, I like to revel in that lovey dovey feeling. But like any experienced man, I know not to wallow in only that. Still – I can afford to keep the tone pretty warm by now.

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      • Walawala,
        Good work for recognizing and adjusting. The point of this post is accepting that you have to game your woman even in an LTR. When referencing my past relationships; every time I went into beta nice guy mode for too long the relationship eventually went to shit.

        Xsplat,
        Agree. The overall push/pull strategy must be applied to present cycles of challenges & opportunities to the woman.

        Honestly I very much enjoy showering a woman with chivalry, sweetness, romance…etc. But have learned the hard way that these acts of kindness must be heavily counter-balanced with alpha dominance. And in some cases I’ve realized I can’t be nice guy at all if I am to achieve my goals.

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    • “But after our last blow out she went out of her way to book a nice restaurant for us, do some other nice things”

      You should have cancelled at the last minute.

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  39. Men like their women to be attractive (as in look attractive to) other men, not for them to ACT attractive toward other men. (Men like to know they made the right choice and have a hot women, not for her to keep shopping around on them.)

    —————————————
    Interesting, I think its different for women. Having a guy that was a bit (only a bit not overboard) flirty with other women, but goes home with you makes you look good

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  40. “It comes from an article titled “What Do Women Want” written by Daniel Bergner and is backed by research done at Queen’s University in Ontario Canada”

    Finally, the school where modern game started is finally beginning to do research on the subject (Tyler Durden went to Queen’s and Mystery most certainly had to deal with its entitled princesses in Toronto).

    Before people go beserk: I’m not really claiming that all of it happened there – just a noticeably disproportionate amount.

    /Queen’s Grad
    //it’s otherwise a really nice place

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  41. ——
    Men in lackluster LTRs are perfectly happy keeping the thing sputtering along if they are getting their sexual needs met on the sly with mistresses.
    ——

    This pretty much sums up the last 10 years of my life ;D

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  42. I just got this one from my ‘girlfriend’ of several years. Regarding matrimony and being each others partner, she says via text….
    “You never wanted me as a wife”, then, “Its ok, I figured it out, doesnt change my feelings for you” she says.

    My response was. “thanks, (for the slap/shit test)

    Then “Maybe its better if I dont bother you for awhile” I offer.

    “whats your issue?” she asked
    (Now recognizing a shit test,
    my response;)
    “This wont improve in text. I will speak to you in person about it.”

    Her response; “I’m not upset at all but it sounds like you are, sorry, geez”

    My only response “not upset”

    and she went on the silent ringer, dont talk to them for 30 days plan…

    How did I do gentlemen? Recovering beta of many years. Met this honey when we were both married and had crazy/evil spouses, and she knows I will never get married to anyone again…. but she keeps trying…

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    • Even though I’m merely in Asia, and not in a country with real people, I’ll offer what I can.

      I just got this one from my ‘girlfriend’ of several years. Regarding matrimony and being each others partner, she says via text….
      “You never wanted me as a wife”, then, “Its ok, I figured it out, doesnt change my feelings for you” she says.

      I’d advise generally avoiding talking about relationship status. It’s best if it’s the woman who is pushing to advance the relationship to the next step. If you are trying to do that, it sends a signal that winds up seeming clingy. You want to be the prize, not the suitor. But if its her pursuing you here, complaining that you aren’t pushing things forward, then your response of

      “thanks, (for the slap/shit test)

      could be interpreted over text, where you can’t use body language to convey attitude, as being sarcastic, and sarcasm can be intererpreted as an emotional refuge for the insecure.

      and then

      Then “Maybe its better if I dont bother you for awhile” I offer.

      was not helpful. You aren’t merely spinning the wheels of someone who is unsure of her attraction for you, but are pushing her away. If she was trying to push the two of you together faster than you wanted, you’d want to just avoid talking about relationship. If she was pulling away (and it didn’t really sound like she was), then you’d want to pull away also, but it’s quite tricky to do that on text – best avoided if you can instead setup a date.

      “whats your issue?” she asked
      (Now recognizing a shit test,
      my response;)

      She wasn’t exactly shit testing you, from what I can make out. And you pushed her away where she was seeking comfort. I interpret her as saying “I want you to be closer to me than you want, right now, but I’ll put up with that as I’m into you.” That’s not a shit test, thats a concession. A big concession that means you are in the position of power. It’s not a time to push her away – she needs either ignoring or comfort.

      “This wont improve in text. I will speak to you in person about it.”

      Her response; “I’m not upset at all but it sounds like you are, sorry, geez”

      My only response “not upset”

      It does sound like you are upset.

      and she went on the silent ringer, dont talk to them for 30 days plan…

      You mean she’s not talking to you now?

      How did I do gentlemen? Recovering beta of many years. Met this honey when we were both married and had crazy/evil spouses, and she knows I will never get married to anyone again…. but she keeps trying…

      She is persuing you. If you want to string her along without marrying her, I’d have played it quite differently. Been more comforting, and less prickly.

      Something like “You never wanted me as a wife”, then, “Its ok, I figured it out, doesnt change my feelings for you” she says.

      answer: “Thanks babe”.

      See? She gets her little emotional boost of you calling her babe, and you concede that she is conceding power to you. That’s a little intimacy. And now you agree that you have hand. That’s a good position, if still unstable, as she isn’t getting all she wants. But that’s what you seem to be looking for.

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  43. This is truly the Go-To-LTR-Roissy-Post. It virtually has everything a man needs to know to keep his relationship healthy and the pussy regularly flowing.

    Fantastic. Never stop writing, dude.

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  44. xsplat says

    Et tu Nupi?

    Why the hate? Did I step on your toes too? What, are you married or something?

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    I missed the beat down of ol splatzy while I was sleeping.

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  45. Xsplat

    This whole comment thread is about you being a weirdo/sex tourist/omega whatever. Personally i don’t give a fuck. But man, you are not a pua. You are clueless about many of the key concepts. You have just accumulated experience in a place where the pussy is flowing. I’ve been is SE asia, it’s too fucking easy if you have a dick and a job.
    I mean, at least you are not a keyboard jockey, but why the fuck are you commenting so much? It’s even hard to skip your comments because they’re all over the place. Maybe 1 out of 20 of your contributions are worth reading. You may feel that you have experience and you want to share it, that’s fine and thank you. But your advice weighs very little compared to what’s available on this blog. We are all excited because this blog is addictive, but most of us keep our mouths shut if we don’t have something intelligent or funny to say.
    So please, cut the crap and hit the keyboard only when you are sure that you will add value.

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    • Anonymous – if you want to hide behind a bush and throw rocks – go for it.

      If you want to use the comments section to engage, pick a name. I don’t know what your comment history is here. You may just be another random crank.

      Weirdo sex tourist omega?

      That’s not merely slander, it is not based in any reality.

      As for the value of my comments, I get some good feedback occasionally. What feedback do you get?

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      • I always comment anonymously. I don’ need any cred on this blog, i just share occasionally when i have something to share. This is not a beauty contest, it’s a place for people to learn.
        And you are not bringing much to the table, at least not enough to justify you ubiquity.

        “I get some good feedback occasionally.”

        Occasionally is the keyword here. Sometimes you make good points. Most of the time, it’s just random rambling about uninteresting stuff.
        Quality over quantity, man, that’s all i’m asking and apparently i’m not the only one.

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      • Having a beef against me for commenting too much is fair enough.

        But clearly the hate here is for another reason.

        It’s against my sexual strategy of serial monogamy with young women.

        Some men hate hate hate hate hate it.

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      • I don’t think they are against that specifically. I am actually for that. What I think they are saying is, white guys scoring with se asian babes is not alpha, but beta. It’s just not that difficult getting se asian poon. It isn’t a challenge, it’s…low hanging fruit. I’ve seen omegas go overseas and land asian poon. The women dig them because white guys are considered exotic in that part of the world. If it makes you happy, that’s all that counts. But it is a little on the beta side gaming asian women, because they are so easy.

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      • Nothing against you personally, x. I’m a believer in free will, free choice, so if you are happy in asia, that’s all that counts. You do sound a little on the pedo side, though. It must be something you are unconscious of, or oblivious to. I have an impression of you as one of those guys we hear of from time to time who has been arrested in Bangkok or Saigon by Interpol for having sex with an underage girl. I know that is false, but that is the impression you are rendering. You most likely are hooking up with girls older than that, obviously of legal age. But that isn’t the point. The point is you sound like a sex tourist, which is by definition someone who goes overseas and exchanges money or gifts for sex. Again, I am a libertarian, so if that’s what you like you should be able to do that. And sometimes it may not be money you give them, it may be housing or food. But ultimately it sounds like you are paying for sex. And this isn’t alpha. It’s not even beta. it’s omega. Sorry if that sounds harsh. You may actually be beta or upper beta, but possibly you are in a down season and unwittingly acting omega. Just giving you a heads up.

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      • Neil, you are unfairly characterizing my relationships, with no cause.

        In order to engage with you on this unfair characterization I would need to “qualify myself”, which tends to make a person look weak, as if he is trying to prove himself.

        However I believe that your slanderous groundless accusations are a sign of poor personal character. Based on nothing other that your bias and ill informed prejudices you would judge the strength of my personal bonds to my mates – mates you have never met, who live in a country you have never been to.

        That’s uncivil. And poor thinking.

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      • To answer that last question of yours. Yes, a westerner is more likely to date out of his league is SE Asia.

        I don’t think you understood my question.

        It is a given that you can pull a better looking girl in SE Asia than you can get in your own country.

        So that puts girls into your league who would not be in your league – in your own country.

        I mean, are there asians whose sexual market value is above that of the westerner, such that he would need dating skill in order to be able to get them?

        And it seems you don’t pay attention to what I write. Most of my advice doesn’t relate to picking girls up. I rarely talk about that.

        My advice is how to dominate your woman in an LTR. And yes, it’s quite cross culturually applicable, and in this day and age, a very important lesson.

        Make me a sandwich woman. That’s largely what I write about. And it’s not a simple subject, and it’s not only related to Asia.

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      • Oh, but you are not seeing the deeper issues and currents.

        The reason for the hate, where it is not a simple king of the hill battle and people getting pissed off at my apparent self congratulatory writing style, is a deep psychological war between sexual castes.

        It is a big favor to point this out. The very concept is relatively new, and a useful handle on human sexuality.

        I haven’t been reading Brian B’s comments, and don’t respond to them – that would just be noise to engage him.

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      • Now you’re just delusional. Who cares about sexual castes. Nobody gives a fuck.
        If you want asian poon, go for it. Just don’t brag about it on a pua blog. Don’t try to extract life teachings from it, it’s not an achievement. Anyone can do what you’re doing.
        Here we are dealing with women in developed countries, western fucking bitches with deep entitlement issues.
        Most of what you write is unapplicable here.
        Now I’m out. I tried to reason but i’m sure many commenters will make your virtual life on this blog very uncomfortable.

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      • Xsplat
        This is my last reply to you because i said everything i had to say.
        I’ve been in the philippines, thailand, malaysia and indonesia. I spent roughly one month in each country.
        I don’t complain with what i get here in europe. I’m young and fit, and I score with an 8 or 9 once or twice a year. The only 10 that i ever met was a hooker, so it doesn’t count.
        In Asia, I tasted some hookers but i don’t really like paying for pussy even if it has its bright sides.
        I mostly sarged there and yes, it is easier, a lot easier than in the UK, europe or the US.
        Most importantly, you are an old man. Nothing wrong with that, we’re all gonna get there. But you cannot, i repeat YOU CANNOT have the same success in developed countries except if you’re wealthy or powerful, or an immortal artist or some shit.
        If you had that kind of success with young women in your homeland without some outstanding attribute, I would gladly listen to what you have to say
        Meanwhile, you can’t pretend to have any credibility here. You are living your dream, good for you. But don’t talk about it in a pua blog. Most people here are not interested.
        To answer that last question of yours. Yes, a westerner is more likely to date out of his league is SE Asia.
        Good luck.

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      • I decided to simply ignore him but as a final thing had wanted to write a combination of your last two posts, exactly. Thanks for saving me the time.

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    • Xsplat

      God help me I’m wading in. I would advise a day or two to think about what’s been written and ask yourself why the hate is levelled against you. Where there’s smoke there’s fire. You may be deluding yourself into thinking these guys are jealous. Don’t reject out of hand what some are trying to tell you. I have wondered myself why you are on this site so much if you have so much access to ahem…young pussy. (feels weird writing it)

      Everyone has a purpose for being here and as you pointed out to me the other day, I have been respectful of the purpose. You’ve been successful in your part of the world, but most aren’t living there and the rules don’t apply the same way. Applying your alpha-cred to a Western world doesn’t work. If you were to come back and work your knowledge and achieve success you’d gain more points. I know that’s not your plan, nor do you want it to be right?

      I have not one hateful bone in my body for you, but I implore you to think about what’s been said and weigh it for truth.

      As FP says

      mout

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      • Hi Aeffe,

        If you can point to any piece of my relationship that is not cross-culturally applicable, please do so.

        I’ve given countless pieces of advice – so if your idea is correct, this should be an easy task.

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      • any piece of relationship advice.

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      • It’s not so much what you proffer its what you offer. You are living in a country where a major economic gap exists between Westerners and locals, not to mention the culture when it comes to male and female dynamics. You talk like you have the answers, however when you claim your own situation is relevant that becomes the issue. You know the theory of game, there isn’t any doubt – you live her on this site and have for a long time. What sticks in people’s craw is how you act like you are the epitome of successful game while fellows here don’t believe you’ve actually had to use it.

        Do you see what I’m trying to say?

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      • Aoeffe, as I said – be specific.

        Point out any piece of specific advice I’ve made that is not helpful cross culturally to any man.

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      • aoefe, it’s just a perception. The game params may be a tad diff–ask Gorby–but one needs it everywhere for getting a quality poon. It may be true that a lotta betas disenchanted with western wenches go look elsewhere for that “special” one to marry, but gun, xsplat or gorby don’t fit that paradigm.

        All I see in the attacks on xsplat is the standard feminazi tome. We’ve been there, here on CR, numerous times.

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      • on August 22, 2011 at 10:47 am Obstinance Works

        You are not the expert on where people live and what they do little girl. Nothing you are stating on this subject is important at all.

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      • You really are in denile, you senile old fuck.

        Be careful, be vert careful. Your Internet identity is very easy to link to your real identity. You don’t want people you’ve pissed off getting at you in the real world.

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      • Is there ANY Asian who a westerner would need game in order to be able to date?

        Or are ALL Asians ready to spread wide for ANY Western man?

        Are these dating skills that you would need in Asia cross culturally applicable?

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      • xsplat, how old are you?

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      • on August 22, 2011 at 10:51 am Obstinance Works

        Why? What the fuck are you going to do you little pussy?

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  46. response to a comment by xsplat:

    Dating is hugely easier in SE Asia. That’s a main reason I live here. But that doesn’t mean that you don’t need game, or that game doesn’t change what you can get, or your relationships out here. When I see western men with a woman here, it is either an outrageously past it white woman, […]

    “Old” guy chasing young Asian girls using a huge wealth and power differential fits my definition of sex tourist pretty well.

    While I don’t agree with that definition, I’ll still inquire, what about an old guy chasing (and catching and having real love affairs with) young Asian girls, when he is flat busted broke? Still a sex tourist?

    That’s a pretty stark difference to the Western professionals dating well-educated Asian girls in well-paid corporate jobs

    My girlfriend recently graduated university with honors. Does that qualify as well educated? Or is her education not good enough, and therefore I’m a sex tourist?

    I’m a recently successful self employed entrepreneur. Does that qualify me as a professional? And if I don’t have your respected profession, does that make me a sex tourist?

    – IOW, they are not dating the guy for primarily economical consideration.

    What if I could give you a dozen or two examples of girls I dated who were not dating me for economical consideration? For instance if they routinely had offers from very rich guys that the refused. Or if I was flat broke while dating them? Would I still be a sex tourist?

    —————————————————–
    Methinks tho doth protest too much

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  47. ugh “thou” not tho

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  48. You are contradicting yourself. One post you don’t need to split bills, then in another post you are flat out broke (one wonders what you live on in this case) and in the same post also a successful entrepreneur.

    And the energy with which you try to disprove my claims would hint at them hitting closer to home than you like. If you actually were a successful alpha, you could not care less what some random guy on a blog thinks about you.

    As for graduating with honors, are you truly trying to tell me that is a sign of being well educated? Please.

    ———————————-

    sigh, I think I am a little in love with Nupi

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    • Of course you rally to his argument – because he is arguing for the female imperative.

      I’m arguing against it.

      I get a lot of heat from females for ditching girls as they age and continually dating young, beautiful women.

      Women HATE that! Hate it with spit and venom.

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      • Those with SMV in decline, they do. I mean, did not we get the memo that for these exalted beings being a cougar tooling the young lads is an expression of their angelicness, while us villains hafta toe the line?

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      • Yes, those with SMV decline hate it. Well corrected.

        Those with SMV will gladly keep hope eternal that I’ll marry them. Or just let me use them at my whim. They don’t complain.

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      • If you actually read what I am saying you’d understand that trading up is not what I am attacking. I am attacking your approach and the implications it has on me.

        Trading up itself is a perfectly sensible thing to do – I would not buy a worse car or computer than the one I already have, after all.

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      • Each item of your slander against me, calling me a sex tourist, is factually inaccurate.

        But you obviously don’t care.

        You want to slander me.

        It’s personal to you. For some reason.

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      • I don’t remember pissing on your grandmothers shoes.

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  49. The dreams of a man in his old age are the deeds of the man in his prime…

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  50. There’s real cruelty in the posts attacking xsplat. It’s disgusting.

    It’s like they want to piss on a regular at their local bar just because he’s there.

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    • I have another theory about what underlies the cruelty.

      It has something to do with the fact that I date very young pretty girls, who dote on me and show all the signs of adoration.

      As I’m older, some men MUST assume that this uncommon situation is un-natural, and CANT be due to game – even when I detail and blog about in specifics and generalities and in principles exactly how I do this.

      I don’t have a complete theory of mind why this raises hate. I have a few vague ideas. One is that some men are socially conservative by nature, and their agenda is lifetime monogamy – an agenda I directly rebel against and teach other men how to rebel against.

      Another is jealousy.

      Another is that men externalize onto me what they internalize in themselves. Inadequacy.

      Regardless of what actually underlies the hate, it’s obvious that the reasons given are transparently ludicrous.

      I will continue to teach men who want to know how to gain the levels of devotion, care, and adoration from pretty young girls as I’ve been blessed in this life and this day to receive.

      And the haters are welcome commence auto-ass-to-mouth.

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    • Really. I’m surprised at the weirdly obsessive character assassination going on under this post. Do the critics really care that much? C’est la internet.

      I wouldn’t read too much into their motivations. Where it is easy and consequence-free to issue fighting words — such as in comboxes — soon all becomes fighting words. It is the law of the unmoderated internet.

      Anyway, xsplat, don’t think twice about the foolishness that has somehow randomly appended itself to your commentary. Just proceed as if they don’t exist, because in all the relevant ways, they really don’t. Ignoring them is the best solvent.

      Responding — any response whatsoever — is like feeding a mold spore just enough sugar water to thrive in a dank cellar. Give them attention and you are contributing the minuscule nutrient a fungus colony needs to take over your house in short order.

      As much as honor requires a reply, remember that we largely check our reputations at the door when we agree to participate in a pseudonymous forum. Instead, offer them cheer (that really gets under their skin), and stay ruthlessly on point.

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      • on August 22, 2011 at 5:34 pm old guy, lower case

        BINGO !!!

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      • on August 22, 2011 at 5:37 pm old guy, lower case

        Starve a troll, feed a reader.

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      • Ya.

        I wanted to dialogue with Nupi, as I was more curious about finding out about how he ticked than I was interested in avoiding a troll war and inviting a flame attack.

        And slanderous mischaracterizations of my intimate relations don’t sit well with me. It’s easy enough to say ignore the trolls, but let’s see someone insult your love for your mate, and yours for hers, and see it not be personal.

        When my last serious mate died there was a similar troll war about her. Disgusting.

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      • > When my last serious mate died there was a similar troll war about her.

        Oh man, pedo and wife killer! It’s not like she died of old age….

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      • And if Nupi’s introspection is correct, the reason for his slanderous mischaracterization of my relationships being primarily about money is that he is tired and pissed off at other people slanderously mischaracterizing his relationships being primarily about money.

        Now we know the mind of Nupi.

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      • And my current mate almost did die today in a traffic accident. If by almost you count being frightened of a close call.

        I bet if she died the haters would come out in full force with celebration.

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  51. Hmmm… I can’t be considered rich by any stretch of imagination, though I am on my own and work only to meet my ends, not much above that–only as long as making money doesn’t interfere with my other interests.
    One of my squirrels (endearment–wenches in my serail like to hop on my pole–hence squirrels) is teen age (19) and half’n’half (chinese/white–[hey, what, she’s a hoot!–best of both worlds]). I’m nearing 60–3 years to go.

    Wondering what that would make me? A half-pedophile?

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    • FYI–location–Vankong. i think that late stats regarding Asians (predominantly Chinese) make them aboot 30%.

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    • Cadnerd,

      whaaat? Are you talking about me? hehe! I’m not hopping on anyone’s pole. (looking confused, squinting my eyes ) lol!!! If you’re talking about me you only have one fact correct. I am mixed, but more asian( my mom is mixed half and half). What are you smoking? hehehe!!

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      • No, not about you, but confirming half’n’halfs are fun. She sort of reminds me of you, giggles et all.

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      • Cadnerd,

        You are fun too. : )

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      • What, you’re 21, right? If I ever get to your town, I’ll look you up. just a chat, hehe.

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      • She never replied because you stepped into the realms of being a creepy old man.

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      • Yah, right. My sorta promise I won’t try to game her is creepy. Izzat what you’re trying to say?

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      • I don’t want to insult anyone. That’s not why I am here. Is just that I have never been spoken to so directly. I’ve been called ice queen in real life. haha!! Little do they know I am just shy as hell and introverted. So, no one would attempt to come on strong with me. When you did ( Not that you are gaming me. That would sound like I am full of myself), yeah I got a little nervous. that’s all. It’s ok. No worries. : )

        BTW, i guess is that time of the month for some of you! hehe! I can’t contribute, cause my PMS won’t start until 2 weeks time! hee! hee!

        Be Nice. : )

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      • Little do they know I am just shy as hell and introverted.

        It’ in your CV here somewhere, as I recall.

        I wrote that with a wide grin, but how do you make it convert into electrons… I admit, I wanted to ruffle your feathers just a tiny bit. But it was not what may be called gaming.

        Scratch the surface and I am essentially a nice guy. Sometimes. Heh.

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  52. Classic Roissy post – the world is beautiful right now.

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  53. Xsplat

    God help me I’m wading in. I would advise a day or two to think about what’s been written and ask yourself why the hate is levelled against you. Where there’s smoke there’s fire. You may be deluding yourself into thinking these guys are jealous. Don’t reject out of hand what some are trying to tell you. I have wondered myself why you are on this site so much if you have so much access to ahem…young pussy. (feels weird writing it)

    Everyone has a purpose for being here and as you pointed out to me the other day, I have been respectful of the purpose. You’ve been successful in your part of the world, but most aren’t living there and the rules don’t apply the same way. Applying your alpha-cred to a Western world doesn’t work. If you

    were to come back and work your knowledge and achieve success you’d gain more points. I know that’s not your plan, nor do you want it to be right?
    ——————————————–

    splatzy, sometimes you do make some good points….but not this time

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  54. About one in 500. I am at ~250, and so far, haven’t hit that mythical snowflake. Maybe when I get close to 500, who knows?

    Good God this is so depressing. Have you really never met a “good” woman? And I don’t just mean a woman that you have dated, but I mean, ever? Another man’s wife? Your own mother? Not one truly good wife and mother?

    ——————————–
    Oh we exist. But we are not advertising like the common sluts you tend to see everywhere.

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    • “Good women” only exist in a given context where the conditions suit them, where they are within their comfort zone and are “happy” with what they are getting.

      Take them out of that context and they will either turn on you and/or run off to their nearest and dearest enablers.

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  55. Here is a rarity. A thoughfull, balanced article written by a woman.

    http://www.theage.com.au/opinion/society-and-culture/lust-for-life-20110820-1j3ed.html

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  56. This is all great if you live in a completely black and white world. Which most people (including women!) don’t.

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  57. I have to say, though the value of this comment thread was somewhat diluted by the petty bickering, I am nonetheless infinitely grateful for a Neecy-free thread. Is she just biding her time, waiting for a chance to come back when her reemergence will have the maximum (disheartening) effect? Or has she been banned? I’m out of the loop; someone please enlighten me 🙂

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  58. I don’t remember pissing on your grandmothers shoes.

    talk about crass

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  59. Another point to share….

    There are at least 3 other women who know I’m involved and in my social circle who I’m gaming and who have made clear they want to meet up..

    I’m always quite casual and cool with them….

    The degree of their pursuit intersetingly enough is based on age. The older ones are much more aggressive and open.

    The youngerst one who is late 20’s early 30’s is proving more work.

    When we meet up, I start gaming and she’s all giggling and major IOI’s.

    But if I drop her an email she is quite cool and wishy washy.

    I wrote her about taking a class:

    Me: Hey, I’m back next week, let’s take those salsa classes Thursday and Friday.

    Her: responding almost within an hour: “I’m taking the one on Friday. You’re out of town??”

    Me…didn’t reply for a week…in between she asked I could help some friends of hers. I didn’t reply for 4 days…

    Then replied:

    Me: You can help me. I have a special assignment for you.

    I actually want to qualify her to see if she’ll do some translation work for me for a project. So far, no response.

    It’s interesting. Keep the frame… in person maintain a cool indifference, online, be fun, but mysterious.

    Also, a kind of learning from all this.

    Girls love attention online…texts, notes etc. especially if they are requests for them to do something….buy something on your next trip, etc etc.

    It’s like a qualifying technique. If they respond in some way…you’re making your mark.

    The hardest thing is to maintain frame. In my case, to say “I have a special assisngment for you…” sounds mysterious and gets her hamster spinning. She doesn’t know how to reply or if she should reply…

    It’s like 3D chess….keeping all the pieces moving.

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  60. Mr. C commented on Another Game Concept Confirmed: The Allure Of Male Choice.

    “Good women” only exist in a given context where the conditions suit them, where they are within their comfort zone and are “happy” with what they are getting.

    Take them out of that context and they will either turn on you and/or run off to their nearest and dearest enablers.

    then if you understand that….you should be able to make it work

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  61. . The question is what you will do knowing that your instrospection is unreasonable. Will you question your gut feeling, or look for a new rationalization?

    ———————

    actually, the question is when will you stop your incessant babbling ( you’re kinda like a woman) and start listening?

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  62. Brian, I can’t say that I am sorry that you were bullied in school, as it is something removed from my experience and I can’t relate. The way you talk about it and little else suggests that the scars are still fresh. Well, get over it. It will do ya good.

    When I was in school, half a century ago an in a different country, there was not much of that. Things were settled in more direct way, like boys used to do, risk of bruising someone self-esteem was none, it was not invented yet. Broken nose, that was the usual recourse.

    Howz thigs? Purdy good.

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  63. I would argue that some of the hate directed at you has to do with comments you’ve made on this blog. You have a well-documented sexual preference for tiny, childlike women, as well as incest fantasies during sex. These two aren’t necessarily concerning on their own, but several days ago you stated a sexual attraction to 11-14 year old girls. You also mentioned the attractiveness of an 11-year-old Indonesian pop star, and waxed on about the “hotness” of this character:

    There’s nothing wrong with preferring younger partners (or Asian women for that matter) but there’s a line between young women and actual children, and you’ve blurred it with your own comments. Frankly you sound like a pedophile, and that may be where some of the “weird creepy old sex tourist” vitriol is coming from. But sure, if it makes you feel better to call it jealousy, go with that.

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    • It comes more from his steady refusal to acknowledge that getting Asian poon is much easier than Western but the 11 year old comment was bizarre to say the least. And that comes from a guy who has a thing for petite girls (but banged a 180cm girls for years).

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    • Spiralina, I hope you don’t mind but I quoted you in a recent blog post at my site. It summed up better what I was thinking. Great comment.

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  64. I would argue that some of the hate directed at you has to do with comments you’ve made on this blog. You have a well-documented sexual preference for tiny, childlike women, as well as incest fantasies during sex. These two aren’t necessarily concerning on their own, but several days ago you stated a sexual attraction to 11-14 year old girls. You also mentioned the attractiveness of an 11-year-old Indonesian pop star, and waxed on about the “hotness” of this character:

    There’s nothing wrong with preferring younger partners (or Asian women for that matter) but there’s a line between young women and actual children, and you’ve blurred it with your own comments. Frankly you sound like a pedophile, and that may be where some of the “weird creepy old sex tourist” vitriol is coming from. But sure, if it makes you feel better to call it jealousy, go with that.

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    • Post in parts to get through mod…

      Play rape is not rape. If you rape someone, that’s a bad thing to do. If you and your partner get off on the role play of rape, that is not related to rape.

      Incest role play is not incest. If you have sex with your own daughter, that’s a bad thing to do. If you and your partner get off on the role play of incest, that is not related to incest.

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      • For some reason many women get off on rape play. Women generally don’t like real rape. What was once a taboo subject is now mainstream – women will openly admit that rape play is normal and healthy sexual play.

        For some reason many women get off on incest play. This has been discussed a few times here and there, but remains largely a taboo subject.

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      • Xsplat, it’s not about rape or incest fantasy’s. It’s about your pedo tendencies.

        You sound like a pedo. It makes my skin crawl. Your comments are also bad for this blog.

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      • Does it matter if someone sounds like a pedo unless they are actually molesting and hurting children? No reason to hate people for their kinks. Even dressing her up in kid’s clothes and pretending you’re a pedo is not bad, it’s just a sexual kink.

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      • It’s a kink that is surprisingly prevalent in females too. I’d say about as prevalent as the play rape kink.

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      • Heh, can’t relate to the play rape kink, but I think pedophile roleplay is a cool original and hot idea.

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      • Hebophile roleplay, but ya. I have many examples of the many girls getting way into it.

        School girl outfits are a common sex-kink theme. Dialing up the kink is strong way to bond with a lover.

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      • People by definition cannot like rape. Because once they like it, it by definition cannot be rape anymore.

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      • I know, I was just asking xsplat to explain himself – seems that not only he is a pedophile he also believes that women (and children maybe?) can possibly like being raped for real. Maybe he’ll use this logic as an excuse when get arrested for raping a child, who knows.

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      • Why of course Maya, suggesting in an indirect way that perhaps some outliers among women are inclined to enjoy in real life a fantasy that up to 50% of them admit to having surely is an admission to being a kiddie raper. Surely!

        Pretty lies. Not telling them – making them perish.

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      • You are naïve. This feminist transference of 100% culpability to men has to stop. It is untenable to deny the attractive power of youth, and it is downright grotesque to attempt to lump it all under the rubric of pedophilia.

        If you want to reestablish the rule of shame, you can’t do it while celebrating (or even failing to condemn) this as “empowered” or normal or something less than revolutionarily provocative:

        You must save equal parts outrage for her as you do for men with eyes in their head.

        When someone like xsplat has the courage to speak out loud what is absolutely plain in the mind of every man who ever lived, and is condemned as sick for it, that is a commentary on the health of the culture more than the truthteller.

        Everyone wants the same; everyone is equal: he who has other sentiments goes voluntarily into the madhouse.

        “Formerly all the world was insane,” say the subtlest of them, and blink thereby. They are clever and know all that has happened: so there is no
        end to their ridicule. People still fall out, but are soon reconciled — otherwise it spoils their stomachs.

        They have their little pleasures for the day, and their little pleasures for the night, but they have a regard for health.

        “We have discovered happiness,” say the last men, and blink thereby.

        Xsplat doesn’t make me queasy. He obviously shares the impulses that every man who knows himself understands are an indelible part of his id. Now condemn me by association as a pedophile. You are the unthinking, blinking mob, comfortable with the entrenched, pretty lies that make a mockery of your judgment in the real world. We will proceed without your input.

        You have an invitation to our conversation so long as you find the fortitude to operate without the pretty lies as a safety net. We do not make observations to shock princesses and flatterers in the court of feminism. We make them because they are true, independent of their tendency to give you and your weak constitution the vapors.

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      • The reply function is not working. Intended that last comment for Maya.

        Did we use up the reply-tree quota nitpicking on xsplat?

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      • King A

        The reply function is not working.

        hey, I already told roisshy about 3x, but…he works for the government ya know…

        he’ll get around to it

        It’s a “DC time”
        paradigm

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      • Bravo King A,

        With that comment you just wiped out any problem I had with you.

        My only issue was with any male having a problem with age difference relationships and making that seem like it had something to do with morality or religion instead of what it really is: promoting the self interest of older women. A good old religious man who takes a young wife is fine with me.

        Brittany Spears look-alikes abound in the former Warsaw Pact and they dress like that, can be aggressive and-or want to be gamed hard. Spears herself would have been an 8 east of the old iron curtain even in her best days. I actually found the female teacher in that video to be more my type but, around here, she’d be married already.

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      • I think Spears was 16 when she made that video, which would make her perfectly legal in most of the world and I don’t see why Xsplat or any man here wouldn’t tap that unless they find her too skinny. Even the unconstitutional Protect Act which outrageously presumes the US government can enforce what Americans do outside the borders of the homeland, will say that sex with a 16 year old outside the USA is perfectly legal…unless you’ve paid her (an outrageous clause in the law that has never been enforced).

        Outside the USA, 16 is only illegal in Saudi Arabia, Iran and, because of the new Islamic government, Turkey since 2004. Northern Ireland had an AoC of 17 for awhile but recently lowered that to 16 to be square with the rest of the UK. American men have been a disgrace to mankind by allowing their old women (the likes of Palin and Bachmann and Pelosi – all the same to me) to follow the likes of Saudi Arabia and Iran in raising the age of consent laws in too many states. The Delaware AoC law is the most insane: it says that the entire football team can have sex with a 16 year old but, if the coach is 30+ years old, he would be a sex offender for watching the proceedings (age difference lawmaking). Florida is the same but it would make an assistant coach and all players older than 23 criminals if they just watched while the 21 and 22 year old players gang banged a 17 year old.

        Supporting such laws is like being happy with being a cuckold. You’re happy that other adult men get the action while it’s forbidden to you.

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      • Show me where Palin or Bachmann were instrumental in enacting laws that raise the consent age.

        Can’t? Then it’s just a reflection of your political axe grinding, not reality.

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      • @Cadnerd

        Bachmann just signed an oath to forever eliminate “all forms of pornography and prostitution” forever.

        I’ve posted a video of Palin praising feminism many times here. Don’t make me post it again (October 5, 2008 YouTube video of a speech in California).

        I’m a conservative and I am a Christian. I have no axe to grind obviously.

        I was strongly in favor of Palin in September 2008 and until I saw her make that speech.

        But I will not sit back and watch feminists take over the GOP nor watch as manginas pretend, on this forum of all places, that being Christian or Conservative means that men shouldn’t date with very large age differences.

        In the Bible men had tons of concubines and married women hundreds of years younger than them.

        If you’re about 60, there is no reason for you and I to get into arguments. Unless your prostate has stopped working and you have no interest in younger women yourself now. Even then, to each his own.

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      • Jerry,

        Here’s my take on King A. He’s no feminist, so, in that respect at least, he’s not the enemy. Unlike the cowards here who jumped at the chance to disgustingly slander the amiably ornery xsplat with the “pedo” smear, King A instead defended xsplat’s right to be a man with eyes in his head and a sack between his legs. So that’s all good.

        King A is addicted to a weird species of hortatory bombast which goes over well with those who prefer manner to matter. But beneath his almost endearingly extravagant style he’s a decent sort.

        King A is sort of like GBFM’s goofily earnest, jesuitical super-ego; maybe we should ask him what he thinks of Ben Bernanke. 😉

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      • Jerry, the US politics are somewhat peripheral to me, thus I apparently missed the Bachmann example you cite.

        The Palin speech in 2008 was a bit grating, but I considered it more of a pandering to female segment of population as the polling figures indicated they are enthralled by the snake oil peddler, currently the Resident. I did not hear her later venturing into that same crap, but it is possible she’s still using it and then I would be suspicious.

        Beside uncertainty about Palin’s actual views, in full agreement. Thanks for the data.

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      • But does the age of consent of 16 in most US states really mean anything to the men-hating courts and legal system? AOC I think just means they can’t charge a male for statutary rape if he has consensual sex with a female 16 years of age or older. But if the female is under 18, they still go after men for corrupting a minor and other violations in the anti-male “sex offense” laws.

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      • Congrats, finally a comment I agree with you!

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      • maya – you are ignorant and damaging ..in the play Oleanna a girl similar to you almost gets her ass kicked because she does similar to what you have done..disagreeing with a man’s style is a far thing from calling him a pedophile ..and a rapist

        you should apologize.. or I’d be for banning you.. you are the worst ..the lost expressing which direction to go in ..without any idea what you are talking about..

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      • I apologize for using the term pedophile. I didn’t know pedophiles are people (men, usually) attracted to children exclusively.

        Still, I think it’s a sin to believe it’s okay to have sex with a 11 year old girl.

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      • I have not behaved that way.

        There was a misunderstanding over the posts of Sylvia.

        I was trying to make a point about a hidden taboo reason why men find shaved pubes attractive.

        I never suggested underage sex. I don’t practice underage sex. I’ve very clearly stated my position to age.

        If anyone has a problem, have a problem with reality. Don’t have a problem with false gossip. False gossip is not reality.

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      • Definition schmefnition. A properly trained feminazi can magically merge and conjunct this contradiction without any discomfort in her melon.

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      • It is fashionable lately for women to shave their pubes. At one time this was considered a kink, and a highly taboo kink, as this mimics the vagina of a pre pube scent girl. Many men do prefer the shaved vagina, and find it arousing. There was a time when this would be considered sexually unhealthy, but now it is so common that it is expected.

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      • Its got more to do with not liking to have hair between one’s teeth but never mind.

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      • Or feel like you did a face plant on the living room carpet.
        “Carpet burn” kinda sucks.

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      • If you look at the comments of the youtube video for Stephanie, you see comment after comment, by hundreds and hundreds of men, saying that they find her disturbingly attractive. So this is a fact of life for those men. I brought that up as evidence that the shaved pussy phenomenon was not merely about rug burn.

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      • I date women aged 19 and up.

        I do rape play.

        I do other role playing, including incest, and including “oh -stop – I’m only 13!”.

        The girls all enjoy all of our role playing. The girls shave.

        I highly recommend such role play to other men. It will improve your relationships.

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      • I agree, girls should shave – as for guys, I am happy to adjust to girls preference, and yes, there’s both. The 13 years old part I wont comment on. but I will admit that I was once attracted to a 14 year old – but she had a body that most 20 year olds would kill for.

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      • It is brave of you to admit that attraction. When I broached the subject it was in full awareness that I was inviting a shit storm of negative attention.

        The taboo around age is very strong, and very strongly felt.

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      • So you’re just an attention whore. a troll not worth reading. Listen dude, if you want to fantasize about children, go for it. Nobody gives a fuck about your private life. Don’t talk about about feminazi conspirators, we don’t care. I hate feminists as much as most people here. As far as i’m concerned and giving the dating climate in the west, your decision to move to Asia was actually a wise one.
        But how can you expect aspiring or confirmed PUAs to respect you if you’re a borderline pedophile living in Asia. We are playing in different leagues, man. And most importantly, how do you justify your omnipresence on the comment boards? Your cred here is seriously damaged. Refine your comments and stop flooding. You’re ruining this blog.

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      • A 14yo with the body of a 20yo is still a far cry from an 11yo (I teach kids that age and they are without a doubt children, with children’s bodies). Look again at the picture I linked to of the “hot” Stephanie. I’ll admit I haven’t seen the video in question and maybe she’s older there, but the person in the photo is clearly a prepubescent child. Comments by hundreds of pedophiles do not legitimize your attraction.

        If you’re a pedophile, so be it. But don’t hypocritically whine about people hating you on blogs when you admit yourself your predilections are taboo and hated by society.

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      • Stephanie, she was 14.

        I never said anywhere that I was sexually attracted to 11 year olds.

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      • If you’re a pedophile, so be it.

        Do you realize what the term means? It means a man who is attracted to pre-pubescent girls.

        If you mean hebophile, say that.

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      • Dude, that Stephanie girl certainly did not look like very post-pubescent. And that’s coming from a guy who believes that there’s girls from 13 to 18 that fall on both sides of that line, so I personally think the age of consent is largely bullshit. But in the end, I guess you need to have SOME criterion so age is probably the least bad one. Be it 12, 14, 16, 18 or whatever. Empirically, 16 sounds about right.

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      • “Stephanie, she was 14.
        I never said anywhere that I was sexually attracted to 11 year olds.”

        Is that your defense? Seriously? She was not 11, just 3 years older.
        Is that another crosscultural relationship advice that you’re generously giving? Do you think that with your wisdom, people in the US can bang 14 yo because the attraction is natural?
        The more i read you, the more i think that your hardcore haters might be right. You don’t belong here. This blog is way out of your league.

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      • As for age of consent, I’ve never dated anyone younger than 19, and have never advocated to anyone doing so.

        I’d probably hit a 16 year old for fun, if I deemed her sexually mature.

        As for age of consent, I don’t have strong views about it, because girls mature sexually at different rates. Unfortunately laws can’t make a firm cut off line that follows what needs to be punished, on a case by case basis.

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      • But if anyone cares to know of reality, and are not just searching for any random piece of ammunition to gather and fling at me, I’ll talk about attraction to young girls.

        An 11 year old had a crush on me about 5 years ago. She was just recently menstrual. I did not want to fuck her, but I did get a crush on her too. I’m sure this kind of attraction happens often. It was harmless, and healthy, and normal. As years went by, she seemed to remain infatuated with me. Last I saw her she was 16, and still doe eyed. In the back of my mind was always the idea that at one point she’d mature and be ready for a fun fling.

        Last year my girlfriends friend was 17. Cute, but somehow not yet sexually mature. I don’t know why I judged that – not because of the age – just something about her. This year she’s 18 and has gone from cute to hot.

        Women ripen, and the ripening is part of the attraction.

        However unripe women, while not yet ready for sex, can be objects of affection. And there is a sexual element in it – even if you don’t want to actually penetrate her.

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      • “However unripe women, while not yet ready for sex, can be objects of affection. And there is a sexual element in it – even if you don’t want to actually penetrate her.”

        Wow, that’s beautiful…
        Wake up you delusional old fart! Talking about your attraction to prepubescent girls won’t help your case. Talk about something original or GTFO. Your presence here starts to become sickening.

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      • WTH does it even mean for a guy to have a crush on someone and not wanting to fuck her (that at the very least would imply VERY low T or VERY serious issues around his own sexuality)?

        I wont even bother to comment on the rest of that comment, for self-evident reasons.

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      • Quick note to Anonymous – I don’t read your comments.

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      • I know you read them, and many will read them too. You are a dead man walking in this blog. Keep rambling, i might smile once in a while.
        Delusional old ass punk.

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      • WTH does it even mean for a guy to have a crush on someone and not wanting to fuck her (that at the very least would imply VERY low T or VERY serious issues around his own sexuality)

        I don’t have a lot of experience with this. Three young girls that I can think of had a crush on me, before they were sexually mature. One of those may have actually been sexually mature at a shockingly young age. I don’t know.

        But from my little experience, is that a mans feeling to an unripe girl can hold attraction while not yet being fully sexual. There is a sympatico, but not an urgency. A playful affection, but not a lust.

        Just as you’d expect.

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      • Xsplat writes “However unripe women, while not yet ready for sex, can be objects of affection. And there is a sexual element in it – even if you don’t want to actually penetrate her.”

        WTF! If you don’t want penetration but you’re attracted sexually I can only surmise you mean you’d like to fondle? If this isn’t clear cut pedophilia what the hell is it? Being attracted to pre-pubesent girls is not the norm, just sayin’. I am going with pre-pubescent because you write “unripe”. Define if I’m getting the wrong picture.

        Shaving is also not about pre-pubsecent desires. It’s attractive, it hygienic and it feels good for both parties. Plus it’s a trend which will swing the other way as all trends are wont to do.

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      • Bill May3r very bravely did a stand up routing about post pube scent young teenagers being sexually attractive to men, and how this is a simple fact of life. A fact of bi0logy that can not be argued against. He bravely stood up to the matrons and manginas and told them to get off their high horse. I applaud and respect his bravery.

        I date women aged 19 and up.

        I do rape play.

        I do other role playing, including incest, and including “oh -stop – I’m only 13!”

        The girls all enjoy all of our role playing. The girls shave.

        I highly recommend such role play to other men. It will improve your relationships.

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      • Bill Mayer very bravely did a stand up routing about post pube scent young teen agers being sexually attractive to men, and how this is a simple fact of life. A fact of bi ology that can not be argued against. He bravely stood up to the matrons and manginas and told them to get off their high h orse. I applaud and respect his bravery.

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      • I date women aged 19 and up.

        I do rape play.

        I do other role playing, including incest, and including “oh -stop – I’m only 13!”

        The girls all enjoy all of our role playing. The girls shave.

        I highly recommend such role play to other men. It will improve your relationships.

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      • xsplat, do you think you could get teenagers in a Western Country?

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      • Brian, not sure about xsplat, but generally yes. It’s possible. May the game be with you.

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      • As long as they are consenting age, that is.

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      • Everything’s possible (yeah, even flying pigs). Likelihood is where it’s at.

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      • Nupi, you fudge the likelihood constraints with a tight game.

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      • Funny how xsplat didn’t answer this – he knows he couldn’t pull in the west like he does on Asia. Poor pedo fool doesn’t realise they’re only after his money.

        Well, looks like this thread should be called the demise of xsplat. Wasn’t even that hard to instigate it.

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      • Xsplat is like gaddafi, man. The bombs keep falling and he stands still. That’s the admirable thing about some old dudes, they don’t give a fuck about anything. But it’s also ridiculous, because he’s living in a fantasy world and thinks that he’s some kind of super dominant womanizer.
        He won’t go away just like that, It’s better to skip his posts, but that will be difficult because he’s shitting all over the place.

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      • After his money, even when he had none. Hmmm… That’s.. Odd.

        There are plenty of guys in SEA who need to know how to get laid all the time, money or no money. Xsplat is here to say something about that – which is wonderful.

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      • Love that: “May the game be with you”.

        And may the game be with all the gamers on this blog!

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      • How is that question relevant? He doesn’t need to. Can you fucker?

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      • You “date” 19 and up? What do you call what you do with the 12-18 year olds?

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      • I guess that’s between him & Interpol.

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      • Brian B is still into xsplat. now that’s an obsession!

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      • and for idiots who do not seem to understand something so simple, here is a much simpler explanation:

        if you are sexually attracted to a 5 year old then you are a pedophile. but a 30 year old guy attracted to a 16 year old Britney is just about as normal as the 14 year old boy blushing at the sight of her.

        now lets put every guy to here to a simple test:

        is she hot or not?

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      • It seems some girls are hyper sensitive about how old a girl must be before a man is allowed to consider her hot. These same girls love to blur the line between hebephile and pedophile.

        I’m not sure why this is, but I’ve seen it before. Women who see that my 21 year old girlfriend could pass for 14 or 16 would start calling me a pedo.

        What is that all about, anyway? Sexual competition?

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      • That was in reply to the is she hot or not.

        Which some men would think is a trick question, and would refuse to answer until they knew her age.

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      • I find her hot the very first time I saw that picture.

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      • And the punchline is that she is 12 years old.

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      • it does not matter. there are girls with bodies that mature faster gaining features that normally appear when they are 14 or 15 years old.

        its a whole different story if you find this:

        http://www.visualphotos.com/image/1×3294778/portrait_of_6-year-old_girl_with_brown_hair_in

        attractive

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      • I’d tap that.

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      • Neil,

        the 12 year old or the 6 year old?

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      • Brian B
        I guess that’s between him & Interpol.

        now THAT was funny

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      • I date women aged 19 and up.

        I do rape play.

        I do other role playing, including incest, and including “oh -stop – I’m only 13!”

        The girls all enjoy all of our role playing. The girls shave.

        I highly recommend such role play to other men. It will improve your relationships.
        .

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      • Again, none of those things are bad in the realm of fantasy. But admitting to finding 11-year-olds sexually attractive is suspect in terms of pedophilia, which is viscerally hated by nearly every segment of society. I’m not judging your lifestyle, only giving a possible explanation for the hate on this thread apart from your “sexual caste” paranoia.

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      • Where did I admit that I find 11 year old girls sexually attractive?

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      • Peeedooooooooooooo.

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      • on August 22, 2011 at 8:12 am Obstinance Works

        BTW, Xplat never claimed to be aroused by 11 year old girls or 13 year old girls even. He was speaking on role play which isn’t the same, so that accusation can be thrown out……..

        The typical 11 year old is not sexually developed, but that hasn’t stopped men from being aroused by early bloomers. Asian men have historically preferred younger women and even girls as young as 9 (disgusting as that is). I don’t hold these values as a conservative American, but wonder at what standard can a person use to judge human sexuality. If you don’t have an absolute set of moral laws, at what point is a girl too young? Can the sciences tell you this? How? I have never seen an absolute age set anywhere in Jewish religious books or in the Bible itself, at least not anything close to 18 as most Americans deem a safe age for sex.

        I was fucking with 12-16 year old girls when I was 14. Does that make me a pedophile?

        The irony here is that in America, it doesn’t matter how young you are, you can be gay. Look at how many pro-homo organizations are out there promoting this. But if an older man wants to have sex with a girl under 18, all the forces of hell are unleashed on him.

        Have been sexually active since the 5th grade, I can tell you, humans are interested in sex at a very young age. Some just take longer to realize it. I even found a couple of my friends fondling each other in an obvious sexual way when we were only 5 years old. I was having fantasies every day during nap time about tying up and raping my kindergarten teacher and would have some very vivid dreams. I could go on and on describing how I know humans can become sexual at a very early age.

        None of the kids I knew ever turned out to be sex perverts. Personally, I have always obeyed all the sex laws, but I do trip the light fantastically as close to the precipice as possible. I attended a strict conservative Christian school my entire childhood, btw.

        This does not justify pedophilia, but does bring into question hard age limits in particular situations. What is too young 13, 14, 15, 16, 17? Many times it’s more of a social question than a human sexuality question.

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      • on August 22, 2011 at 7:40 am Obstinance Works

        I wouldn’t worry about trying to educate these children xsplat. They are typical westernized jealous crybabies with obvious competition anxiety.

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      • Look out everyone, it’s Freud.Sigmund

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    • Did not know that. I just plugged in yesterday, being busy with my pursuits the last week. That changes the stratagem. I’s not creepy, it’s predatory.

      Why then people do not address that particular aspect directly, instead of harping on affinity to asian chicks, or the age of young ladies that despite being teenagers, are after all of a consenting age? That’s where I draw the line.

      There is nothing beta about gaming hot asian chicks. Nor it is pedophilic to game 18 yo women. And the question of creepines of the later, people are forgetting that there are always two to tango (or more, as it may be).. That they are unable to get laid is nor my fault nor the fault of a consenting female that enters in any type of relationship with me. Apparently, the young ladies get what they want, no one is forcing them to pick me instead of of Beta Joe.

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      • Are you a sock puppet of that other guy or just daft on your own?

        In any case, clearly you have never been to Asia. No game required there.

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      • Ask Gorby.

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      • Another pedo.

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      • I see, so fucking Asian chicks = pedophilia.. Okay got it.

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      • Yep, you got it.

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      • Oh my, Vancouver must be full of pedophiles then! They even have kids! The horror!

        /s

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      • @ Cadnerd.

        “I see, so fucking Asian chicks = pedophilia.. Okay got it.”

        @Brian B,

        “Yep, you got it.”

        This is comical! lol!!! I’ve got to tell my girlfriends. ha!

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      • What, it’s not that comical. The pedophilia shaming is just a ruse to cover up his racism.

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      • I don’t think Brians posts come across as being remotely racist. How did you extrapolate that.

        Btw am a first time reader of this blog, after a friend posted the link on facebook and said the site seems to be crawling with pedophiles. I wouldn’t go that far, but there certainly appears to be a lot of odd people on here.

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      • Lurker, when I mentioned Gorby, Brian’s response was “Another pedo.”. That is simply absurd. There is no hint of it in his posts, no matter how you slice it. No fantasies or role playing with prepub girls concepts at all.

        Then he replies to my sarcasm — “I see, so fucking Asian chicks = pedophilia.” with “Yep, you got it”.

        That means there is another agenda behind Brian’s trolling.

        He infantilizes Asian women, summarily, and feels the need to shame anyone who approaches them. The question is why?

        Occam’s razor says it’s likely a form of racism. I see the same type of reaction from Stormfront troopers. They are a bit more overt about their displeasure about possible miscegenation, but on the outside of their circle-jerk, they use the pedophilia canard because it has a good shaming potential and has such an emotional charge that people are readily swayed to bait it hook, line and sinker.

        BTW, it is also a favored tactic of feminists.

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      • This is an absurd notion that deconstructs itself on first glance.

        Are you saying that all asians open up their legs for any man?

        None of them require any game in order to seduce? And that once seduced the rarely practiced game of turning them into a devoted love slave can’t happen through dominance game?

        No matter how many times you repeat it, it just gets stupider.

        Not all asians are prostitutes – even those that are not your highly paid so called “prostitutes” are human beings with natural female inclinations, and respond to cross cultural cues.

        The west isn’t the only place where game helps, or is needed.

        You are willfully ignorant, and vile in your spite.

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      • highly paid so called “professionals”

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      • Feel free to post CVs and pics of your so called conquests for anyone to judge.

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      • I’ve already posted pics a few times.

        Your turn to post pics of your professional girl.

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      • Since I am not claiming any conquests here (if you feel I do, reread more closely) I dont see why I should expose myself to lawsuits here.

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    • Shit ,i didn’t know that. The only beef that i had against xsplat was that he flooded this blog with uninteresting comments, without having the real life cred (sorry but SE asian chicks don’t count) or the knowledge to make useful contributions.

      This thing with children is just sad. Fantasy or not, it’s not something worth talking about. It just nullifies the little respect that i had for him.

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    • There is everything wrong preferring sexually immature girls. It’s like wanting to eat an unbaked pastry tart.

      But one fresh and piping hot from the oven? Come on.

      Guess what? If you start piercing girls’ ears at 5, letting them use make-up at 8, and wearing bikinis with words on their ass — men will look and imagine involuntarily. Part of the feminist lie urges us to ignore prepubescent girls dressed like grown-up whores (seriously, compare Jodie Foster in Taxi Driver with junior high kids at the mall next Saturday). They preposterously insist we beholders take full responsibility for the age-sex mismatch when we can’t quite make the reality fit their fascist feminist fantasy.

      Girls are women when they bleed. This is nature’s blaring klaxon signaling fertility and womanhood. Now, it takes time for the young woman’s mind to catch up with this tremendous development, and hence we enforce the laws of minor status. We have become draconian about denying the eternal preference for youth in silent compensation for pimping out our children as if they were 25. We are absurdly unrealistic about asking men to pretend their preference for beauty be totally inert when the female creature, at the apex of her comeliness during teenage years, comes into view. No full-blooded man will can possibly consider a full-bodied teenager to be the equivalent of a small, asexual toddler. Laws and customs that insist otherwise will just drive the impulse underground where exploitation rules.

      Nature rebels in covert ways. Search “barely legal” or “teen” in porn (with all the necessary legal disclaimers about birth dates). Or plaid skirts, pigtails, bubble gum, and braces. Or daddy-daughter, teacher-student fantasies. We are driven by what we desire quite apart from our consent. The lies and the requests to play nice can only paper over the beast for so long. If there are no robust controls in place — controls we so smugly have determined we can do without — it is open season on ripe girls.

      The feminists want me to take full responsibility for this repulsive atmosphere — Dateline, Pedobear, dirty old man, etc. No. You can’t commodify your daughters and then condemn me for treating them like commodities. If you dress modestly, I will treat you modestly. If you dress like a woman signaling her availability, you will be treated as such, whether your ball-cutting femmecunt of a mother starts waving your birth certificate around like a shield, as if I give a fuck (or am even able to give a fuck) about such random, asserted, indefensible, and artificial ideological parameters.

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  65. Oh shit, neecy’s back.
    Everyone go hiding. She might think that no one’s around here.

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  66. I can understand not liking Xsplat, he posts way too much. Alpha loud talk in a bar has purpose; loud talk on the forums is just irritating. He isn’t the most concise, and his message is often lost in posts because of his mix of “evidence” for what he has to say and the point he was trying to make. Not liking Xsplat’s online presence however is far removed from what people are claiming. Pussy is pussy, female psychology is pretty much universal (lesbians / seriously mentally ill excluded) in all cultures.

    Xsplat posts VERY often about a wide variety of female reactions to game, and also points out the incongruous nature of other posters. Posters that claim to be alphas but continue to want to find “the one” or despise women for following the script nature gave them. He gets higher quality women with less effort and resources, or alternatively he gets more feminine women with less entitlement issues by having more resources than the locals who desire the same women. Game is about one thing, getting laid. Xsplat is getting laid, with women that make his dick work.

    So he’s an overseas expat omega that couldn’t hack it in his home country. He realized his raw deal and moved to greener pastures. So he’s an alpha that stays in a different market that requires less effort. That doesn’t make him a pussy omega. So he’s a delusional beta that thinks he’s an alpha because he can get high quality pussy. Don’t listen to him.

    Game is what you make of it. Keep your skills sharp so you can land incredible catches anywhere anytime, or become the sedate but masterful fly fisher. Don’t act like a bunch of martial art fags and flood the post with replies about ultimate techniques or philosophies.

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  67. wait a sec!!! Neecy is nowhere in sight and xsplat is EVERYWHERE…is anyone else thinking what I’m thinking??

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  68. Cadnerd, you’re 60…and you’re scoring with asian teenage girls in Vancouver?

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    • No yet 60 and it’s half-chinese, only one so far. So, that’s anecdotal. I don’t plan to do an in-depth research, but if some come along, I’ll report. The other 4 are whities, ranging from 22 to 25. 26 is a break up age. Not because they’d be too old, but because I want them to have normal life–family, kids, that kind of thing.

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      • Not because they’d be too old, but because I want them to have normal life–family, kids, that kind of thing.

        I had a hanger on for a few years that was extra-ordinarily difficult to kick out of the nest.

        I’d encourage her to hunt for other boys, but she couldn’t shake her infatuation. Once I even let her boyfriend rent one of my places, and while he was visiting, she’d call me up and tell me how much she missed me. I’d visit them and she’d be all over me with hugs and kisses.

        I had to recently kick her out of here and out of this city, but worry she’ll come back.

        I tell her all the time that her number one job in life right now is to get married, and to work hard on hunting.

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      • Why are you still here, posting about your freaky pedo tendencies?

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      • She’s been gone a few weeks. Just got this text from her:
        —–
        “I’ve been dating new guys; Jim, Gary, and now Richard, but I just still feel empty. I am not happy as I was. There is still excitement seeing the new guy but I don’t feel happy as I was with you at the first time. I am still stuck with those memories with you in this town. Every little thing here just makes remind of you..really..I knew I was bad to you and that’s the biggest mistake I ever did. I really have no idea how to start again with my life..
        —–

        There seems to be a danger in making a strong impression on a woman. It’s been three years since we were dating, one year living in a different city, and two years her hanging around me in this one. When I left the first time she cried herself to sleep for months, and was so broken hearted her health failed and she got bad face scarring acne. I paid for some treatments which helped, but she’s aging out fast.

        In her case I really did have her for the best years of her life – and it is sad to see even the remaining best years slip by as she still can’t take other men seriously.

        I can only think that I’ll have to be cruel to be kind this time, and just cut her off more completely this time.

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      • You do realize that is exceptional, don’t you? So you wouldn’t be at all surprised were I to query you. Are you a uni professor? Perhaps a Hells Angel biker? I don’t doubt what you say, but I must request details. It’s unusual for a young woman to give up the poon to a much older man in the developed nations. It’s expected in the Philippines, but not Canada. Are these girls hot, as in HB10 hot?

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      • It is exceptional, but I’ve heard of many similar examples.

        The concept that some men have an inability to hold in their minds is that an older man can attract younger women through game.

        Many refuse to believe it. Facts be damned. A lightning bolt couldn’t penetrate their eyes with the facts.

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      • Older men can attract women, no doubt about that. But when we get to a 35 – 40 yr spread, that’s exceptional. I can see 15 yrs…20 tops, but a 60 yr old hooking up with a 22 yr old is incredible.

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      • Neil, a few years back I would think so too. The main reason was that I thought it’s not possible to pull that off. My boundary was -15 years. But then I realized it’s my mind set. It came to focus by a chance, when a 25 yo lass started to IOI me like crazy. At first, I considered it a fluke. But being a curious fella, I went for what if, validating the discovery several times over.

        We act, most of the time, based on our conditioning.

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      • Additional factor–I don’t look 57 (let alone 60). You can shave off 10 physical years from my apparent age. That shrinks the age disparity somewhat.

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      • Neil, prolly not as exceptional as you think. I know several guys that do a similar trail.

        I’m not sure, do you live in GVA? I guess not. It would make some things clearer to you by default.

        I came here 27 years ago. Still a relatively short time after, I were sitting with a friend in a downtown cafe. I did not notice, my lingo skills were still not at par, so he informed me that the cute waitress were coming on to me. He explained that them women see rarely a man that is not either a fag, or pussy-whipped. That was then. Since then things got even more derailed. There is a plenty of metrosexual boys and by boys I mean their MO, they simply act like ones.

        Admittedly, I have some traits that are helpful. My voice has that timbre that melts girls’ hearts. It’s funny how I realized that. It was in my previous “life”, I was a teach on a junior hi, and took a phone for one of my coworkers, a 40yo female teacher. It was her daughter calling. She later told me that her daughter nearly fell in love with me just on hearing my voice. I got some hints before, but couldn’t nail them down, exactly.

        Otherwise, I am just an average dude. Trying to be cheerful, and that also helps to generate giggles from the opposite sex. It’s like a drug to them. I’m not an A personality type, but will use what works. For the most part, until I open my mouth, I’m just an average guy of older issue.

        Not an uni prof, not a biker, though I ride one (not harley, just suzuki). I code, as means to bread and butter, but also get sometimes to write a script or do a research for movie/tv industry. I also write music scores and can make a guitar gently weep. Also interested in many things, science, history, etc. so I keep the flashes between synapses in rapid firing, keeps Mr Altzheimer at bay.

        I’ve a glock. Had to register it in May, but don’t care–I use it as a pupil expander and vag wetter on new girls. Sometimes I do shoot a few rounds at a range and let her try a few too. Beside a hunting rifle.

        In general, younger chicks are easier to game. Seems contraintuitive, but that’s the deal. They do not have as much baggage to pound you with as the ones in 26-30 age group. I suppose that there may be a bit of looking for a father figure, too. I can pull that off , if required.

        As long as I don’t marry, my daughter (25) is fine with my exploits, I had to promise that she won’t have a step mom younger than she is.

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      • Thank you, sir. Born and raised in Lynn Valley, relocated to Victoria years ago. I used to take the sea bus across the inlet to raise hell when I was a kid. I do miss the big city, though. Victoria is a good size, but Vancouver is where the real action is at.

        Heartiste had a post a long time ago about a photographer, 50 yrs old, in a relationship with a 20 yr old girl. I forget what it was called and what date he posted it, but it was a gift nonetheless, Very inspiring for older men. This photographer had game; he wasn’t exceptional or outstanding, he just had game. The main thing was he tapped into female narcissism. Women want to be photographed, so he obliged, and scored.

        That’s the only angle I can think of to get young poon. I’m 42 and don’t have entertainment industry contacts, but I imagine if you are in the art scene – writer, editor, photographer – you can at the very least be in the vicinity of young babes.

        Vancouver sprawls. If you don’t mind me asking, which part of town do you live? Burnaby, Richmond, Surrey, New West…?

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      • Neil, Burnaby, a bit west of SFU. For a while I lived near Sechelt, maybe one day I’ll go back to more rural setting. It would disrupt my current setup, I’d have to scale it down, no doubt, and rural folks are a wee bit more conservative, including their offspring. So, not sure, it’s far less anonymous and given that the haters of the large age disparity are even here, you can imagine how it would be out there. I’d not like to be mistaken for a bear.
        If I find that special snowflake, then I’d likely move, that’s prolly the only workable scenario.

        Regarding the categories with a pull, spot on. It’s a component, to a degree, in my happy little family.

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      • Yah, right, re the special snowflake… that would mean I’m getting senile. Heh.

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      • Neil, reply in moderation. Not sure, I were not naughty, I swear.

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  69. Brian B commented on Another Game Concept Confirmed: The Allure Of Male Choice.

    in response to a comment by Cadnerd:

    Brian, not sure about xsplat, but generally yes. It’s possible. May the game be with you.

    Funny how xsplat didn’t answer this – he knows he couldn’t pull in the west like he does on Asia. Poor pedo fool doesn’t realise they’re only after his money.

    Well, looks like this thread should be called the demise of xsplat. Wasn’t even that hard to instigate it.

    —————–

    the worse kind of fool

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  70. Can someone post a link to one of R’s super old post? It’s the one that discusses what a woman’s job says about her.
    Thanks!

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  71. had to recently kick her out of here and out of this city, but worry she’ll come back

    How do you kick someone out of a city?…And, apparently she isn’t really kicked out if you worry she’ll return, so what one earth areyou tyring to say?

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    • Fuck off bitch.

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      • He’s deluded and just posting more of his fantasies.

        I really think he’s mentally ill. Seriously, check out the ramblings on his own blog.

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      • http://xsplat.wordpress.com/2011/07/02/pics-of-my-live-in-lover/

        seriously sick …

        [Heartiste: How is this sick? She looks like a fully developed woman.]

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      • Agree. I wasn’t accusing him of pedophilia this time. There’s something else that’s sick in my opinion:

        “The previously frigid virgin, who is maturing nicely into a warm, attentive, loving, and readily orgasmic mate.”

        This sentence is sick. If you don’t understand why, I’ll pray for you (even though am an atheist) that someday you’ll have your enlightenment, too.

        [heartiste: Skip the praying bitch, and just tell me what it is exactly about a virgin losing her virginity to a loving man that is so sick.]

        Heartiste, no woman wants to be used and described just as a sexual object – and that’s what xsplat is doing in this post. I’m sure this poor girl is not reading his blog.

        [Since when is a deflowering proof positive that she is treated like “an object” every minute she is with him?
        ps: sex is not filthy. not even the kind that tenderly rips hymens to shreds.]

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      • [heartiste: Skip the praying bitch, and just tell me what it is exactly about a virgin losing her virginity to a loving man that is so sick.]

        There’s nothing sick about losing virginity to a loving man.

        [Since when is a deflowering proof positive that she is treated like “an object” every minute she is with him?
        ps: sex is not filthy. not even the kind that tenderly rips hymens to shreds.]

        No, deflowering is not proof positive that she’s treated like an object and no, sex is not filthy – even the kind that tenderly rips hymen to shreds.

        See, you don’t understand me and I’m not able to tell you what’s wrong with your thinking. If I’ll ever find the right words, I’ll let you know.

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      • Sex is filthy if i’m not involved.

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  72. xsplat commented on Another Game Concept Confirmed: The Allure Of Male Choice.

    in response to a comment by Lyla:

    had to recently kick her out of here and out of this city, but worry she’ll come back How do you kick someone out of a city?…And, apparently she isn’t really kicked out if you worry she’ll return, so what one earth areyou tyring to say?

    Fuck off bitch.

    ha ha ha gotcha!…You sure get emotional when your nonsense is pointed out to you.

    but just take a moment to read it back and see how it sounds, maybe you will attain some understanding that way.

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  73. xsplat commented on Another Game Concept Confirmed: The Allure Of Male Choice.

    in response to a comment by Lyla:

    had to recently kick her out of here and out of this city, but worry she’ll come back How do you kick someone out of a city?…And, apparently she isn’t really kicked out if you worry she’ll return, so what one earth areyou tyring to say?

    Fuck off bitch.

    Or are you saying thats how you kicked her out of the city? THat’s even funnier!!!

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    • Strange how you arrived here on this blog just shortly after the other new arrival, Brian B, and how both of you post exclusively with troll posts to me.

      And Anonymous is full of similar new posts recently.

      Seems we have a multiple personality troll fan boy/girl.

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      • But they all have different pictures, hence different IPs.

        Although convince yourself this is the work of one person if that makes you feel better, you deluded old fucker.

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      • I think they might be all different people. People like to jump in when one person is being criticised, because it’s fun to collectively attack someone. But I might be wrong.

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      • You are partially right. We are not the same but we don’t do it for the fun, at least not me. I really think that X ruins this blog, and he has to back off.
        I just believe that he posts way too much. And his profile as an old white guy gaming asian chicks is not really appealing. Not that i have anything against his lifestyle. IMO, it’s a decent alternative giving the dating climate in the west. I might even consider it in my old days.
        But this is a pua blog for people living in developed countries. So his advice is not entirely applicable, and even if it was, i would rather hear from someone who faces a more difficult challenge than gaming SE asian chicks.
        It’s true that game is universal and the female hindbrain is not affected by cultural differences. But X, giving his background, is not entitled to dominate the comment threads like if he was a prophet. I would listen to him if his contributions were more rare. Flooding and jumping to respond to as many comments as possible is attention seeking behavior, and that only adds to his irrelevance.

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      • Ok, those are valid points. It sounds like gaming asians can be different and less impressive than gaming women in USA. I just thought that if you didn’t like someone’s comments, you could skip them. Or they could be banned by the blog owner, if it was necessary. How can a blog be ruined by those comments? I don’t mean to be negative when I ask that, just being genuinely curious.

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      • The fact is, most men in SEA get nothing because they don’t know the kinds of stuff Xsplat is trying to tell people. SEA is largely conservative – prostitution is common, but norms are stricter than in the West.

        No love for old whitey, huh? The fact that he’s old and not good looking means there’s a larger chance his stuff has merit. Fuck off you racist hater.

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      • “No love for old whitey, huh? The fact that he’s old and not good looking means there’s a larger chance his stuff has merit. Fuck off you racist hater.”

        Where the fuck did i sound racist? Or even agist?
        I condoned his lifestyle, i consider it even appealing for someone who has a challenging dating life in the west.
        His stuff would have more merit if he contributed with parcimony. And yes, it would have even more merit if he was able to be as successful in the West.
        I have no hate for him. He just dominates the threads too much, and he himself acknowledged that.

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      • I didn’t notice that you are a chick. Why are you standing up for him? And why am i talking to you if i’m not fucking you?…
        Forget about it.

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      • I wasn’t standing up for him, just noticing that he was being subjected to a mob hate attack.

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      • Right, he can stand up for himself. Still, it’s decent of you, not the noticing, but mentioning it.

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    • Brian B posted to my blog with different IP lately. First I spam banned him, then he returned under a new IP.

      It is considered antisocially poor etiquette to post using the name of another poster.

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  74. Strange how you arrived here on this blog just shortly after the other new arrival, Brian B, and how both of you post exclusively with troll posts to me.

    And Anonymous is full of similar new posts recently.

    not so strange that more than one person noticed and commented on your ridiculousness

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  75. a comment by xsplat:

    Strange how you arrived here on this blog just shortly after the other new arrival, Brian B, and how both of you post exclusively with troll posts to me. And Anonymous is full of similar new posts recently. Seems we have a multiple personality troll fan boy/girl.

    But they all have different pictures, hence different IPs.

    Although convince yourself this is the work of one person if that makes you feel better, you deluded old fucker.

    You sure are paranoid, xsplat.

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  76. Damn, what high school is this?

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  77. Anyway, Brian, Lyla, Anonymous, fake Xsplat – I’m not going to read your posts, so if you want to continue to troll me and to hope for a reply, you’ll have to come up with a new name.

    wait! There’s a fake xsplat???

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  78. xsplat’s dad commented on Another Game Concept Confirmed: The Allure Of Male Choice.

    in response to a comment by Lyla:

    Strange how you arrived here on this blog just shortly after the other new arrival, Brian B, and how both of you post exclusively with troll posts to me. And Anonymous is full of similar new posts recently. not so strange that more than one person noticed and commented on your ridiculousness

    I’m so ashamed.

    okay this one made me giggle

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  79. Rick Perry is protected by the Texas Rangers(as he campaigns). It is a matter of constitutional law in Texas that they protect him. By whatever means…
    Every single cop and/or dps agent in the whole American Southwest would cheerfully sacrifice his left nut or even his left kidney to be a Texas Ranger.
    There are only about a 140 of them. Indeed, it is easier to become a Navy Seal than a Texas Ranger.

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  80. Checked back and the accusations seem unwarranted. Xsplat may have a weird fetish, but that’s a far cry from actually porking minors.

    We all have impulses and urges, but often do not act upon them. Once I was thinking about killing a guy that pulled a fast one on me and screwed me up financially. Thinking I was, but it does not make me a murderer–he’s still alive.. Sometimes I think I would have done a favor to many people, but I’d only kill someone in self-defense. Money lost are not worth the trouble.

    And as I already noted, this pile on reminds me of some sort of a high school revisit. Pathetic.

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  81. on August 21, 2011 at 9:40 pm Disgruntled Honey

    I don’t know how relevant comments about the actual blog post are compared to advertisements for role playing services, but irregardless I have a few notes.

    The claim made in the original bergner article seems to advocate for the importance of a woman’s perception of her own activity. A sort of “being” in the world, something that makes you feel like you’re doing something, like you’re in the moment. Take, for example, someone’s habitual hand gestures or body movement, like a particular finger-wag or a certain way of slouching. The woman who remains happy in an LTR is one who still gets that feeling of acting on things (and people) in the world while she is with the guy. If he can “keep her on her toes,” so to speak, keep her striving for his affection, competing with other women, then he can continuously instill in her the emotional sensation of *having something to do, having a purpose.*

    Sounds downright noble when you think of it that way. You make it sound like feeling like you earned something is linked to servility. Well guess what? It is. Read Marx much? This is called class production as a result of capitalist ideology. Actually, that is not its official name, I don’t really know shit about Marx, except I do know a few trains of thought that are associated with his work in my head. This is one of them: when you work hard for a reward, you are seeking a light at the end of the tunnel (or in a womb-returning way, at the beginning), and this connects very strongly with our notion of the “real,” with what you can materially *hold in your hands,* like money, or skin. I.E. Commodities.

    The laborer (in this scenario, the woman laboring for the man’s interest) sees the man’s love as her goal, in a physical way, but since there is an exchange, she must also see herself as an item, as something to be thrown away to receive something else. Shall we observe how lovingly a woman takes her man into her arms when he shows weakness? How she desperately constitutes her self as a place in which the man can reside; an emotional haven? It would seem she is paranoid of her own loss of a place in the world. Of her loss of a purpose.

    And you ridicule her for being anxious about that? For not being able to help herself when she loves you? Sheesh man…

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  82. I’m no expert on this matter but in Australia. “cohabitation” , known as a de-facto relationship does not enable a man from escaping from most if not any of the obligations he would have to his partner if they had been married after they have been living together for a given time. (6 months, I think).

    The only chance one may have is if you live in your place and she lives in hers.

    The state does its very best to ensure that a man is fucked over no matter what he does.

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  83. Gentlemen,
    if Xsplat has the means and opportunity to regularly fuck young asian poon in whatever way he pleases then all power to him.

    His comments are more usefull and enlightening than most here, even if they are somewhat skewed to being from the perspective of a westerner in asia with the money and status etc to do as he pleases.

    If you find what he writes displeasing; then take into account that how you respond says as much about you and your mindset/attitudes as it says about his.

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  84. This is a golden post. A lot of guys have made the mistake of falling into beta admirer mode, because we’ve SEEN this work for guys who are significantly older than ourselves. Basically this beta admirer mode worked very well for guys who married women up to say, 1970. Afterwards not so much. Women say pre-1970 were much lower status, guys just assumed they had choices and acted like it without deliberate thought or method, and everyone was relatively happy.

    Now most guys are beta desperate, really do love their wives/girlfriends desperately, and must kill off their devotion/love in order to retain their wives/girlfriends. What a sad and pathetic world. Dept. of Irony and so on. But again, this post should be MEMORIZED by every guy contemplating marriage or a relationship.

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  85. on August 22, 2011 at 3:01 am brightstormyday

    I’m going to be honest…

    I’ve never liked xsplat. I don’t really need to go into long details why, because it’s mostly for the same reasons you guys don’t.

    BUT.
    Speaking in terms of fairness and decency (and maybe I’m a hypocrite, after all I partially just contributed to the hate parade), this isn’t right. On some level, yes, I’ve always wanted him to get called out. It is nice, on a visceral, sadistic level, to see someone with an obnoxious personality trait be shamed for it. But a hate parade? Is it really necessary for dozens and dozens of people to come out and attack him?

    And what changed? years ago no one hated xsplat, really. Even recently, a solid amount of hate was directed towards Neecy and Maya. And suddenly, xsplat is the pariah du jour?

    I understand if his comments his gradual increase in commenting frequency is an annoyance, but a lot of that could have been solved with someone stepping in occasionally and mentioning it to him. He seems like a reasonable, accommodating person (when not being attacked by many), and would probably make changes. If anyone did this, and he still posted incessantly, I apologize.

    I understand if on some level, people don’t feel as though he contributes as much. There’s a simple solution to that. Attacking him over and over and starting a flamewar on this blog doesn’t contribute to game very much either. It’s only a distraction.

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    • Umm, thanks?

      But dozens and dozens? I’m only counting a couple people. One crank who recently showed up, Brian B, who is also maskerading as a few other people who on their first and every post troll me. Nupi, who is being an irrational whackjob, and anonymous, who has a valid complaint about not liking my frequent and self satisfied tone. Maybe I missed someone, but it’s a few no name posters who’ve never contributed anything meaningful here.

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      • on August 22, 2011 at 3:31 am brightstormyday

        I found the flamewar because people have been talking about it on other blogs…

        It’s not really confined to a few people. But a few people are more vocal than others, yes.

        But you are right that I am exaggerating with dozens and dozens.

        Regardless, you do have a blog, so I suggest maybe you use it as a platform for discussion; maybe link to the heartiste posts and such. That way you can prune your commenting here a tad.

        Just a suggestion.

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      • I’d like to see the voting system re-instated on this blog.

        While I get it that I’ve been posting too much, even with all the recent hate, I’ve received many times more positive feedback. I can’t count how many times people have said “golden, brilliant, insightful”, etc. Some people have said they routinely scroll down to read my posts. I’ve received very positive feedback from dozens and dozens of people here, and on probably hundreds of posts.

        When there was a feedback system, my posts nearly all got noticeably high marks.

        A few cranky cranks are nothing but that.

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      • on August 22, 2011 at 4:03 am brightstormyday

        I believe the feedback system was removed in favor of faster page loads.

        “A few cranky cranks are nothing but that.”

        If there were any attribute of being older I would like to have now, it would be the ability to NGAF.

        Anyway, you have a nice day. I’m going to go back to lurking now.

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      • X ..there is no doubt you are insightful and educated ..and have made many excellent points..you seem to lack the ability for introspection without bias..

        I like the idea you have stated ..judge my comments on the merits.. and some of yours seem to be delusional… which is not bad per se..think Dali or Picasso ..but understand your point of view and way of life is built and only possible on the back of ideas of the norm .. a sheep like voting system..wont help..

        the idea with communication is to connect and enlighten ..not unneccesarily alienate..

        Dali and Picasso could not be magically outside the norm..without the norm

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      • So the downfall continues.

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  86. now that’s a Triple A posts!

    so the moral of the story is?

    if you are a guy be sure to have options. it will not only make you irresistible to women. it will also make you feel a whole lot better in life.

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  87. The choice concept is all true. Really discovered thru latest affair. Wife is curvy-er, had some surgery too even, all to keep my interest ramped up in the presence of what is in effect a LTR with mistress. Now I need some advise how to keep this juggling act in place. Been over 12 months and each hates the other and demanding me to choose. I keep obfuscating, nearly had divorce papers etc. But still going along. But finding the time is hard. Yet I need both. Mistress says “oh, you want one for the bed and the other for your head” True!

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  88. I have to agree about westerners getting it a lot easier with women here in the Philippines. But I do know that the foreigner can’t get all the hot ones and I capitalize on that. As for Japanese, Chinese and Koreans, it is a lot easier to compete with them than with Caucasians.

    But I do have to wonder about the preference of old westerners. Most old westerners prefer small and plain Filipinas though. Why is that?

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  89. I dont post cuz it is too time consuming but ….. Lol ……. the age thing is merely a catalyst for what many folks have been thinking about xsplat and it has been building up for sometime for sure. In this case it took a catalyst to bring about a shittorm of fire.

    Under the conditions prevailing in most places outside of the western world and esp in SE Asia, for a whole host of reasons, Xsplat is preselected by a country wide mile, without even considering any game into the equation.

    My beef is actually all the half assed historical / philosophical / social / political / semi scientific bs he says. I wonder how many naive newbs picked up some of that and found themselves on their way to a mostly insane/moronic worldview.

    Later

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  90. BTW I wanted to give a heartfelt thank you to the proprietor of this fine chateau. I have been following for about year and a half. I always keep you guys open in the background and read up from time to time during lulls at work. You are doing god’s work, keep it up. hell I will even pay if you guys start a charity drive.

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  91. Heartiste being cute:

    “Every marriage and LTR …”

    “your GF’s/wife’s …”

    Preparing himself for his new role of a husband and father?

    Mentioning ‘marriage’ and ‘wife’ in his post is a good sign 🙂

    ❤

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  92. understanding and using game..developing yourself to deal with women in a correct frame of mind/context that is to your advantage and ultimately hers is only a first step – owning admirable qualities, having class, morals and appropriate responses to life ..grows from this ..but developing the first does not guarantee you are on the road to the 2nd .. encourage a guy like King A to share more ..stop answering and try and understand ..

    and dont waste your time killing a dead guy..

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    • on August 22, 2011 at 11:28 am Obstinance Works

      That is what we are attempting to define here brasil. Do try and keep up.

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      • perfect breasts and areola spread.

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      • doesnt sound like it to me … there seems no interest in class, morals or admirable qualities ..a guy who writes like King A is in a different experiential league than those who write ..much to detailed pseudo-intellectual justifications..

        you can decide what should be respected and what is merely begging and or feasting on roadkill

        of course if you ask a buzzard he thinks it normal the way he earns his bread..

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      • on August 22, 2011 at 3:41 pm Obstinance Works

        With all respect due to you brasil, the cardinal sin here is not that a man may or may not be a pedophile (of which there is no positive evidence for) or even that a man may or may not be a “good person.”

        The cardinal sin here is the fact that some have tried to discredit him on the basis of his ability to game women based on the fact that he may be morally reprehensible. There is also some obvious jealousy toward his age in comparison to the young women he loves.

        So my questions are: What is the standard for moral castigation in the objective sense of age and biology? Where does this moral standard derive from? God? Society? Is this an absolute standard or a relative one?

        And at one point does a younger man realize he must cut ties with the Youth Movement and fast-forward his reality into realm of truth and objectivity in regards to dating women?

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      • It did turn into a dogpile unfortunately, but I like xplat. I thought the gist of the problem was who do you respect more: the guy who successfully games a modern, independent western woman or the guy who successfully games the rural, dependent, poor, se asian farm girl? Who is harder to game, and who is the bigger challenge? Obviously, the western woman is the ultimate challenge, because she has money and resources. Anyone can game a poor asian woman. In fact, you don’t even need game. Just book a flight to the Philippines and as long as you are breathing, you will get pussy.

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      • Neil, I suppose you mean a LTR pussy?

        If not, shelling out a fifty to a local western ho (albeit trashy, she’s western after all, no?) is far cheaper than buying a ticket to Philippines. You can even acquire some frill monocellular pets with it.

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      • Oh, sorry, yes I meant LTR trim. I’ve been to Thailand, and it is not hard to get into an LTR with absolutely no game. Zero. As long as you are white and employed, you will pull. They are measuring you against the local men, who are almost all alcoholic, abusive and living in grinding poverty.

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      • I know that Thailand is a self-esteem club med for hapless beta/omega schmucks, but thanks your favorite deity for that. Better than them going postal.

        [Heartiste: Denigration aside, if you’re an old man staring across the porch at your old wife with her wrinkly skin, sunken eye sockets, bony ass and desiccated cunt, would you rather have sex with her or with some cute 18 year old bubble-butted Thai chick?]

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      • Good point, Heartiste. The thought did not cross my mind, never had the actual experience, by a sheer luck of my marriages not crossing 12 years boundary.

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      • I don’t see a cardinal sin ..I see an ineffective communication style based on a guy with a unique situation projecting a superiority complex in his writings. Morals have nothing to do with it ..he grates on people he is smarter than and leaves them feeling the need to attack. The specific situation he is in ..is completely subjective and unknowable by us… but aspects of his thinking shown in his writings show weakness ..and he’s been attacked on these because of his attitude.

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      • Does not compute. Why the pedo shaming, if it’s his grating style?

        Is that a rationalization hamster running the show in your cerebral cavity?

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      • He also grates on people that are smarter than he.

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      • imo there are NO objective moral standards

        These are needed by a mind that is dull and unaware..each situation with different sets of specifics and needs requires a correct response..the moral response is the correct one

        Most human relations are based on some form of economics (truly economic) ..and subjective sets of morals and norms develop over time based on this. But these create problems ..like any attempt at law because there is nothing definitive when human perception is used as the measuring device.

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      • Really? If he grates you, who knows, you may be smarter than him, but none the wise.

        Either he is inconsequential, and you have all the power to skip, or he pushes some button, which is a reflection of one or another insecurity of yours, regardless what you scored on your IQ test.

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      • comments thing makes me break this into pcs

        In the famous play “Steetcar Named Desire” the author wrote the character for Blanche to be sympathetic but the way Brando played the part the audience over and over no matter what the director or playwright did..couldnt get behind her .. and what could they say to Brando ..be less good? (from Kazan) ..Stanley raped her ..yet she was looked as a meddling homewrecker by the 1950’s audience.

        This is an example of the highly subjective nature of human relations.

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      • brasil61: imo there are NO objective moral standards… [snippity snip]

        All of it a marxist tripe.

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      • I see an ineffective communication style based on a guy with a unique situation projecting a superiority complex in his writings.

        Ya, that’s insightful.

        Everyone has their personality weaknesses and quirks. Mine can be irksome. I’ve known that basically forever. While I sometimes try to reign it in, anyone who reads my writing can expect more of the same. I is what I is.

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  93. Long time reader, first time poster.

    Another reason to avoid marriage and to have options?
    “Marriage and divorce ‘up weight’, says study”
    http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-14592168

    From the marriage point, because she has her beta male and no longer needs to try?

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  94. King A,

    I agree with you that elementary school girls are hot as hell,

    [Heartiste: Hot as hell? Elementary school covers ages 5 – 14, give or take depending on jurisdiction. I think it’s a stretch to call a 10 year old hot as hell. Hot as hell women are generally in their late teens to mid 20s.]

    BUT they are not emotionally mature enough to have sex so please stop with your bullshit.

    [Define emotional maturity.]

    I was an attractive 11 year old girl myself and I know very well how it feels like when someone wants to have sex with you at this age.

    [If you were prepubescent at age 11 — that is, you showed no secondary sex characteristics — then whoever wanted to have sex with you at that age was a genuine pedophile.
    In the meantime, stop muddying the waters, or I shall be forced to pin the scarlet C upon your bosom.]

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    • Heartiste,

      OK, I was very angry and was typing too fast and I just wrote something … I wanted to say that I agree with King A that girls around puberty can be very sexy to a man watching them.

      [Define emotional maturity.]

      Look, I believe that in some very exceptional cases it’s possible for a 11 year old girl to have sex. The problem I wanted to mention was more that girls at that age are usually unable to defend themselves (they are physically weak and not self confident enough to say no), I even thought that it’s impolite to say no to a man whatever he wants from me.

      [If you were prepubescent at age 11 — that is, you showed no secondary sex characteristics — then whoever wanted to have sex with you at that age was a genuine pedophile.
      In the meantime, stop muddying the waters, or I shall be forced to pin the scarlet C upon your bosom.]

      I wasn’t prepubescent. I see that the term pedophile describes more a man who’s attracted to children and not someone who’s attracted to girls around puberty.

      What’s scarlet C?

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  96. As much as honor requires a reply, remember that we largely check our reputations at the door when we agree to participate in a pseudonymous forum. Instead, offer them cheer (that really gets under their skin), and stay ruthlessly on point.

    yeah he offered me cheer by telling me to “fu&k off”. So, clearly he doesn’t get how this works, and I am not sure telling him will help. Xsplat doesn’t seem to be able to hear anything anyone says UNLESS he thinks he’s being attacked–THAT he seems to love. I am beginning to think he has he own agenda here.

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  97. xsplat, “Women generally don’t like real rape.” GENERALLY So there are some women who like REAL rape? WTF is wrong with you?

    ummm, that’s a rhetorical question, right?

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  98. And my current mate almost did die today in a traffic accident. If by almost you count being frightened of a close call.

    I bet if she died the haters would come out in full force with celebration.

    does she know that when she ages out you will get rid of her?

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  99. (joking)

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  100. xsplat, ignore these fools – they are jealous of your lifestyle no matter what they might say.

    heartisite, could you name a good scotch?

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    • Lagavulin
      Balvenie 12 or 15 year

      on the less expensive side,

      McCallen
      Johnny Walker Black Label

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      • Lagavulin only if you like Iodine and Smoke

        Lighter ones I like are Oban, Dalwhinnie, Scapa (Banana flavor, yeah really)

        Black label is often almost as expensive as a low end single malt, so no reason to buy it.

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      • Taxes are so high where I am that it skews the prices. Thanks.

        “Lagavulin only if you like Iodine and Smoke”

        Wuss ; )

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      • In that case, even less reason to go for black label 😛

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  101. A couple of points to move this away from xsplat-bashing and into game…

    1) I also live in Asia, in Hong Kong a more developed international finance centre where you need to game quality women. There are tons of south-Asians working as maids, prostitutes and in the service industries. They’re easy to game…”hello” works, take it from there. The mistake guys make is that when they get involved with these Indonesian, Filipinas and Thai women is that they pay for them. Xsplat has sparred with me over this calling me a cheapskate because I refused to foot the entire hotel bill for a weekend I spent with the Chinese girl I’m seeing.

    Of course he pays. I don’t. I used to but smartened up and there’s no need. But for South Asians: Indo, Filipinas, Thais, it’s expected and becomes a self-fulfilling situation. The Filipinas I banged here never asked me for anything other than a bang. They could get paid by some older beta who felt that was “game”.

    2) As for Asian women, even as they age, many still have fine-boned bodies into their 30’s and 40’s so they put western women to shame. It’s why I suspect many western feminists denigrate Asian women as “submissive’ and the men who are attracted to them to have pedophilic tendencies. False on both counts.

    3) Chinese girls are excellent at game and so gaming them requires a lot of energy, patience and better technique. I’m great at getting them into bed, but the LTR game is like battling the Viet Cong…it’s a relentless barrage of shit-tests…then there’s the Shit Test Tet Offensive when all of a sudden they pull all sorts of crap. I need this blog to keep up.

    4) A Chinese girl who works in an upscale retail boutique i bang occasionally told me that a few weeks ago a HOT Filipina came in on her own, picked out a dress, then returned a day later with some beta shlub who bought it for her…using cash. A week later the same girl came in looking for a belt…then a day later came in with her “real boyfriend”….She made the “shhhhhhhhhhh” sign with her finger to my girl. This guy bought her the belt with a credit card.

    Are South Asian women out for money? YES…If you pay…you play. But if you have game…you don’t need to pay.

    Hope that helps to put this into perspective.

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  102. This girl suddenly started talking with me . She slapped me on the shoulder and stood next to me . I loked at her slowly and kept looking at her softly but intently at her lips and face for atleast 15 sec before I said “Hi” . Then we had a random talk for a few minutes and then her friends came . Still she was standing in front of me though I did give her occasional glances .

    While leaving in a few minutes , after being bored of their gibberish , I went up to her where she was standing with her friends closeby , lightly slapped on her back and said “see ya later “. I had the option of staying with her and her friends but I was damn bored of their stuff .

    I thought she was ignoring me after a VERY BRIEF flirting phase .Only once we had gone out , that to a college party and sometimes used to talk platnically just because we worked briefly on the same project . I never flirted with her after she ignored me the first time . These days I`m just busy with my life and actually accepted myself and improving .

    But should I bother to distract myslef to see where this leads ?was she just being friendly ? I made it clear the first time we flirted that I`m interested in her , not her friendship , so Im sure she doesn`t think of me as her friend.
    and she was the one who started all this actually a few months ago before ignoring .

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  103. @ n/a

    I agree with you, King A is not a bad fellow after all, even though he is fond of poetry, but nobody is perfect! 🙂

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  104. “Are you a man, or a boy?”

    “Welllll……what’s the difference?”

    “With a man, you feel like you are being taken, and you like it. And with a boy, you feel like they’re stealing something from you, and you don’t like it.”

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  105. You need to instill dread by creating a “post relationship scenario”

    if you dump me I will:

    “Lease an aston martin, get a place in miami beach and have several russian model GF’s.. olga, svetlana, anna and catherine.” I will tell them about my “trust fund” and talk often about marriage. When xmas, valentines or their birthday comes around I’ll just dump them so that I dont have to spend any money on them.”

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  106. Speaking of the Resident… latest figures from FL:

    Currently, the (P)resident’s image rating is upside down with 40% of respondents having a favorable opinion of him, and 55% having an unfavorable opinion. Looking at responses among key voter subgroups, 52% of women, 53% of independents, 67% of Hispanics, and 58% of seniors have an unfavorable opinion of the President. Among voters aged 18 to 29, a vital voter subgroup in Barack Obama’s 2008 victory, 39% have a favorable image of him and 49% have an unfavorable image of him.

    Among all respondents, only 37% approve of the job the (P)resident is doing and 57% disapprove of the job he is doing. Again looking at key voter subgroups, 53% of women, 56% of independents, 72% of Hispanics and 59% of seniors disapprove of the job Barack Obama is doing. The most alarming number for the (P)resident and his election team is that 26% of Democrats disapprove of the job he is doing. Among voters aged 18 to 29, 48% approve of the job he is doing and 52% disapprove of the job he is doing.

    Among all respondents, 37% think Barack Obama deserves re‐election and 57% think he does not deserve re‐election. Among women voters, 55% do not think the (P)resident deserves re‐election. Among other key voting subgroups, 55% of independents, 72% of Hispanics, 60% of seniors, and 27% of Democrats think the (P)resident does not deserve re‐election. Among voters aged 18 to 29, 38% think Barack Obama deserves re‐election and 50% think he does not deserve re‐election.

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